View Full Version : Poll: Getting a lift with a work colleague?
Tranquillity
20-04-07, 07:27 PM
More specifically, a colleague of the opposite sex? Yes, you shouldn't but it does put you in an awkward position...
It's totally wrong and I don't want shaytaan as the third passenger thanks :nervous:!
You should/could just explain and I am sure they would understand and if not, never mind as you are doing so Fisabililah! :D
A lift home with a colleague of the opposite sex? Nope.
perfectpearl
20-04-07, 07:43 PM
:nono: :outta:
No offence, but I wouldnt want any of my work colleagues to know where I live, at all :outta:
Tranquillity
20-04-07, 08:00 PM
Oh, I always get out of it myself- just couldn't bring myself to do it!
But I think it's generally more of an issue for sisters, even just in terms of reputation
salaam
i wouldnt take a ride from anyone .. haha :D
if its late from work i dont even take the bus i get my brother or my dad or my uncle to pick me up :up:
But I think it's generally more of an issue for sisters, even just in terms of reputation
It's the same regardless of gender due to the the fact that two non-mahram should not be alone together! :up:
Obviously....................... not!
.: Anna :.
20-04-07, 08:38 PM
No of course not :S
unless my main work boss, he is a family friend so if my husband was there aswell then yeh, if we needed to :p
salaam
back in febraury a pakistani brother i worked with offered me a ride home after closing.. 9:30 pm-ish.
i said no thanx and ended up laughing in his face cuz i dont know wat he expected me to say :rotfl:
Sulaiman Harun
20-04-07, 08:58 PM
I'm a brother. I wouldn't.
summer786
20-04-07, 09:02 PM
If it feels awkward, theres a hundred excuses you could use
be creative! Deen can be fun :hidban: (as long as its not lying, just stretching the truth a little)
My mum's expecting me home (dont specify time)
hmmm....cant think of nemore :scratch:
?
If it feels awkward, theres a hundred excuses you could use
be creative! Deen can be fun :hidban: (as long as its not lying, just stretching the truth a little)
It's not about exscuses :smack: Quran/sunnah is haq regarless of the situation! :up:
summer786
20-04-07, 09:07 PM
It's not about exscuses :smack: Quran/sunnah is haq regarless of the situation! :up:
Yeh but if someone feels shy as the sister said and is likely to accept the offer, it is better for them to make an excuse than to go along with it
but yeh the best thing is to be strong minded and make no compromises
hey im just tryin to help :o
sis_sarah
20-04-07, 09:09 PM
If it feels awkward, theres a hundred excuses you could use
be creative! Deen can be fun :hidban: (as long as its not lying, just stretching the truth a little)
My mum's expecting me home (dont specify time)
hmmm....cant think of nemore :scratch:
?
lol
u cn say somethiing like 'its a nice weather so i think i'll take a walk' coz u really dont mind
well u cant obviously if its pouring rain outside
Yeh but if someone feels shy as the sister said and is likely to accept the offer, it is better for them to make an excuse than to go along with it
but yeh the best thing is to be strong minded and make no compromises
hey im just tryin to help :o
I just think why should we hide the reason behind our actions and day to day lives especially when it is due to the Quran and Sunnah and about pleasing and obeying Allah(swt)! :up:
heaven2002
20-04-07, 09:21 PM
More specifically, a colleague of the opposite sex? Yes, you shouldn't but it does put you in an awkward position...
why would it be awkward?
you just say 'no thankyou' and if they say 'why not?' then say 'id rather not' and then change the subjectand i think it doesnt matter whether ur a girl or guy it shud be same for both
Isn't that hard to say no :scratch: thank you is optional :nerdsis:
*IslamicGirl*
20-04-07, 10:16 PM
:start:
:salams
Nope and I wouldn't expect them to drop me off two mins from work to train station- just a simple 'no thanks' should suffice- mind you i wouldn't even get in the car with the girls either, especially when they've had a bit to drink
Just Allah, me and my Ipod :nerdsis:
~hums~
:wswrwb:
Lambo5688
20-04-07, 10:29 PM
Just use your own car :smack:
Mine would be my Automobili Lamborghini Murcielago
$HugoBoss$
21-04-07, 04:50 AM
Depends on the situation but i never have because i've always had my own car.
perfectpearl
21-04-07, 06:05 AM
How about if ur in desperate need?
Would sisters just sit in the back and like not talk! :rubeyes: Kinda scary if u ask me!
peace2u
21-04-07, 06:14 AM
More specifically, a colleague of the opposite sex? Yes, you shouldn't but it does put you in an awkward position...
It would depend on a lot of things. However generally, no I would not take a ride from a male colleague. Although, I do take cabs which is a necessity.
Peace
Bint Yusuf
21-04-07, 09:39 AM
simple no thnak you;)
sis_sarah
21-04-07, 10:11 AM
Just use your own car :smack:
Mine would be my Automobili Lamborghini Murcielago
obviously no surprises there ;)
Redmist
21-04-07, 02:40 PM
This reminds me of sumt......once me and this other girl had to go to a different store to work.......so the boss goes (my name :p) you can jump in with so and so. This girl was a pakistani and anyway we were driving thru the town centre and she made me crouch down in the front seat all the way to the store cuz she did'nt want to be seen with me by her cousin taxi drivers lol.
That was jokes :rolleyes:
This reminds me of sumt......once me and this other girl had to go to a different store to work.......so the boss goes (my name :p) you can jump in with so and so. This girl was a pakistani and anyway we were driving thru the town centre and she made me crouch down in the front seat all the way to the store cuz she did'nt want to be seen with me by her cousin taxi drivers lol.
That was jokes :rolleyes:
salaam
well i dont blame her... can u imagine wat kinda rumours would have spread if someone did see? :rubeyes:
Redmist
21-04-07, 04:50 PM
salaam
well i dont blame her... can u imagine wat kinda rumours would have spread if someone did see? :rubeyes:
Yeh....i know what kind of rumours would have spread! Even if it was innocent.
urban_rose
21-04-07, 04:52 PM
Yeh....i know what kind of rumours would have spread! Even if it was innocent.
you might not be sat here if she had been seen :rolleyes:
Redmist
21-04-07, 04:53 PM
you might not be sat here if she had been seen :rolleyes:
Yeh yeh i doubt it :rolleyes: Probably would have been battered but id still be here :p
aisha2007
01-09-07, 04:08 PM
More specifically, a colleague of the opposite sex? Yes, you shouldn't but it does put you in an awkward position...
Asalaam Alaikum
Why does it put you in an awkward position. The truth is all you need to say.
Thanks but I'm not allowed to be alone with a man/woman. But thanks for the offer.
If they ask why then tell them why. If you do it non aggresively there is no one upset.
Nothing awkward about it.
how about being alone in a car with a man who was your driving instructor would that be different? would you agree/disagree to this?
although saying that there are many female instructors so it may not be an issue.
aisha2007
01-09-07, 07:01 PM
how about being alone in a car with a man who was your driving instructor would that be different? would you agree/disagree to this?
although saying that there are many female instructors so it may not be an issue.
Asalaam Alaikum
You are still alone with a man right?
Personally i got a female instructor...why take needless chances?
Sister-Ameena*
01-09-07, 07:07 PM
:salams I would not, it's just creepy being alone in a car with a man that's not your relative. Even if you do know for him a long time, I still find it creepy. People are not that trustworthy, who knows, when you're alone in the car he might try and make a move on you. :S
:salams I would not, it's just creepy being alone in a car with a man that's not your relative. Even if you do know for him a long time, I still find it creepy. People are not that trustworthy, who knows, when you're alone in the car he might try and make a move on you. :S
it could turn out to be quite a disturbing experience.
Why not just be on the safe side and not put yourself in that situation?
Niqaabi
01-09-07, 07:59 PM
I wouldnt get into a car with a man who is not mahram to me by myself. Even if it was my driving instructor. A man and woman shouldnt be alone because shaytaan is the third person. And those that say "oh he's really nice im sure he wouldnt do such a thing" think again. So many stories of girls that thought like this and then BANG one day something did happen and it was "I trusted him, why would he do this to me?".
You cant trust people, and you cant completely trust yourself when shaytaan is in the picture.
As for driving instructors, if it is such a necessity to learn to drive and you dont have a female instructor, your hubby will just have to learn and teach you. Unless your hubby is present with you at all times in your lessons.
afsalim
02-09-07, 08:42 AM
It's just ride to home, not 'riding home'. People will a little sense of self-preservation would have no problem with it.
.: Anna :.
02-09-07, 01:47 PM
its not allowed to get male driving teacher who isnt ur mahram... these days there are soo many female available and if not u could learn from older brother, father, uncle, husband, father in law etc etc im sure u could persuade someone in ur family 2 do it if there was no female instructor whatsoever... or jst wait til u get the opertunity 2 do it, dnt get with a male instructor insha allah its a bad deed u will b doing continuosly over quite a period of time from starting to learn til u pass ur test, so shouldnt take it lightly
Nope i wuldnt and its not hard 2 say no either, iv been offered lifts before from uni to home by ppl that live close by male and female, but why get a lift when u there r so many other means of transport?
Islam-Inside
03-09-07, 07:59 PM
i would, im sure its just a friendly gesture *rolleyes*
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