Restraing orders

[Reptile]

As salamu alaikum

are they easy to get? anyone know?

Jazakallah khair

[Reptile]

anyone know :scratch: ?

[Hafsah]

i think u have to go to court? and it costs money i think?

[`asiya]

Allahu alam if the person is at serious risk of harming u and it can be proven that they have physically harmed u in the past with police records etc. u would have to have a really strong case for it though, then theres all that dealing with the police, and form filling, and lawyers bills, and courts etc unless its a very serious issue more trouble than its worth, because nothing to stop them breaking it anyway, just means once they break it they can get in trouble with the law ( and thats if the police can be bothered to do anything about the crime of course)

[Reptile]

i think u have to go to court? and it costs money i think?

:eek: oh ok

Barakallah feek

[Reptile]

Not physical harm, more like pervert, that occasionally follows you, and when they see you purposely make it soo they are in close proximity to you when your sitting on the bus, and has done some gruesome things next to you when they choose to sit next to you

[Hafsah]

Not physical harm, more like pervert, that occasionally follows you, and when they see you purposely make it soo they are in close proximity to you when your sitting on the bus, and has done some gruesome things next to you when they choose to sit next to you


hmm....well if they're doing gross things...sometimes just callin the police (or threatening to) can make them stop

and dnt let them sit next 2u :rubeyes:

[`asiya]

Not physical harm, more like pervert, that occasionally follows you, and when they see you purposely make it soo they are in close proximity to you when your sitting on the bus, and has done some gruesome things next to you when they choose to sit next to you

get up and move when they sit near u, pick up the phone call someone, and where is your mahram sister have u told him about all this, he is responsible before Allah for making sure u get from A-B accompanied when u leave the house and u shouldnt be walking the streets alone without complete necessity anyway, and most especially in this case if u have someone following u etc :( please get some assistance from ur brother/father/grandfather/uncle/ may Allah protect u and make this person away from u amin.

[Reptile]

Well I have moved an everything, i can tell he is not the dangerous type, but when ever i see him i freeze up and im just too scared to say anything, and this always happens on the way or back from school, and if i tell my mum and brother i know how they will react they will never let me out of the house on my own

[`asiya]

Well I have moved an everything, i can tell he is not the dangerous type, but when ever i see him i freeze up and im just too scared to say anything, and this always happens on the way or back from school, and if i tell my mum and brother i know how they will react they will never let me out of the house on my own

ya ukhti theyre right subhanAllah thats serious, some weirdo hanging round , how do u know what a dangerous type looks like .... they dont all look mean and ugly and shifty or whatever, its for your own protection to have someone with u, i think u should tell ur elders ukhti please do it insha Allah Allah gave us mahrams to be our protectors they will be responsible before Allah if anything happens to us :( stay safe insha Allah:love:

[Reptile]

sis its impossible if i tell my mum or bro, they cant do anything coz they both work, but he has no idea where i live so its ok alhamdulilah, he looks more like middle aged creepy man thats alone than psycho

[Redmist]

Inform the police, its best to so they can have a word with him and tell him to lay off.

[Reptile]

Inform the police, its best to so they can have a word with him and tell him to lay off.

i dont know who he is, and when i see him, its by chance

[Redmist]

i dont know who he is, and when i see him, its by chance

Right......just stay in public places than. Where people are around.

[Reptile]

ok

Barakallah feeki for all the advice

[Reptile]

quick advice, mum is here how do i tell her about this, without making her go all frantic and over-reacting? :o

[bint]

hmm..i dunno cos i wudnt tell her..if i was in ure position..my mum worries too much...

but erm..maybe sit her down..be confident?

[Reptile]

hmm..i dunno cos i wudnt tell her..if i was in ure position..my mum worries too much...

but erm..maybe sit her down..be confident?


yea my mum is like that too, but god forbid if something does happen it might be better that i do say something but i can see this as restricting me from going out at all and she will drag me to the police

[bint]

hmm..

for ure safety..tell ure mother..and by all means inform the police. he coudl be doin this pervertedness on someone else..

[Reptile]

hmm..

for ure safety..tell ure mother..and by all means inform the police. he coudl be doin this pervertedness on someone else..

yea true

Barakallah feeki for advice sis! :)

[sunrise]

i know women who have had restraining orders put on their abusive husbands, they are not easy to get and a lot! of evidence has to be bought forward against them.

A mate of mines mum had to have her car smashed up and him beta her before getting one...

Just keep safe an alert anyone if u need any help

[bint]

np..stay safe :)

[Reptile]

i know women who have had restraining orders put on their abusive husbands, they are not easy to get and a lot! of evidence has to be bought forward against them.

A mate of mines mum had to have her car smashed up and him beta her before getting one...

Just keep safe an alert anyone if u need any help

true, lol somewhat naive thought they were really easy to get :smack:

[ibn suleman]

off topic...but hey :p


this has good tips :up:

24 safety tips for Muslim Women
http://www.crescentlife.com/heal%20the%20world/safety_tips_for_muslim_women.htm

[`asiya]

^ jazakAllahu khair for the tips masha Allah :up:

i dont know who he is, and when i see him, its by chance

u got a camera phone ukhti.. could u take a quick snap if u saw him again... i dunno it might help if u need to take it further with the police or anything, audu billah, may Allah ta ala keep u safe amin

[Lambo5688]

Sis. Contact your nearest Ummah.com Bro. Im sure he will mess him up for you. Nothing a little knee breakage cant fix.

[Reptile]

lol lambo

Jazakallah khair again! mashallah advice means alot :)

edit yea i was thinking of doing that today but left me phone at home :smack:

[sis_sarah]

Not physical harm, more like pervert, that occasionally follows you, and when they see you purposely make it soo they are in close proximity to you when your sitting on the bus, and has done some gruesome things next to you when they choose to sit next to you

really? dam
do u want me to sort him out for you... coz hell i dnt mind... not at all
thats really bad... maybe u could file a complaint or somethiing?
srry cant help much because i hardly know much about restraining orders

[MWarrior]

he is most probably a paedophile.

some are dangerous .....i think u should take this very seriously and inform your family especially any brothers/cousins.


honestly get them to confront him and if your 100 percent sure his stalking u get them to beat the cr@p out of him.

its difficult to get a restraining order,its not easy. but i think you definately need to inform your parents about this.

tell them u have noticed some guy followin you etc .....

and if u can dont walk alone.

but when u say his done some "gruesome things when sitting next to you" .....the only solution is to bust him up.

[Reptile]

he is most probably a paedophile.

some are dangerous .....i think u should take this very seriously and inform your family especially any brothers/cousins.


honestly get them to confront him and if your 100 percent sure his stalking u get them to beat the cr@p out of him.

its difficult to get a restraining order,its not easy. but i think you definately need to inform your parents about this.

tell them u have noticed some guy followin you etc .....

and if u can dont walk alone.

but when u say his done some "gruesome things when sitting next to you" .....the only solution is to bust him up.

Jazakallah khair for advice but i doubt that could happen @ the busting up

[Te'oma]

If you don't know who he is, carry a camera with you and get a pic of him that the police can use to identify him with. Then lodge a complaint with the police. Chances are that if he is doing this to you, he is doing it to someone else. They might already have a file on him.
Finally, I'll give you the same advice that I gave my daughters, if someone exposes themselves, point and laugh and make a humiliating loud comment like, "Ohmigawd...that's so tiny that it shouldn't be let outside" or "is that all that you have?" and walk away. Make it loud so people notice. There may be a good samaritan around that will hold the guy until the cops get there.
If it ever gets physical, as a last resort, grab him by the cherries, pull up, twist and squeeze. Guaranteed to take the fight out of him(and put him in the hospital for an extended stay) In an attack, there are no winners or losers, only survivours