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blue rose
13-04-07, 08:22 AM
i was on msn yesterday... and one of my friends only jus found out that ill b gettin married soon insha'allah
she sed congratulations... so i sed thanx :)
then she asked me how old he was and i sed 25... so she goes to me OMG HE'S LIKE 5 YEARS OLDER THAN U!
me: so?
her: no i dint mean it like that
me: like wot? i jus sed so?
her: its jus i wudnt marry a guy 5 years older than me thats all...
me: how old wud u want him to b then?
her: 2/3 years... ur moving to ****** and u dnt even know anyone there!! wot u gonna do? ur gonna b all alone... (she sed that a couple of times thruout the convo...
my point is... 5 years isnt that big an age gap is it?
5years is not a big age gap at all, so wat if sajid has a few wrinkles , not his fault - joke!
my friend's hubbie is 10 years older and they are happy as larry
blue rose
13-04-07, 08:29 AM
5years is not a big age gap at all, so wat if sajid has a few wrinkles , not his fault - joke!
my friend's hubbie is 10 years older and they are happy as larry
lol... im happy for ur friend masha'allah...
age has never been a problem for me... the thing that was important for me was character and whether i felt that i cud trust him and if i cud see myself spendin the rest of my life with him... isnt that more imporrtant than age?
lol... im happy for ur friend masha'allah...
age has never been a problem for me... the thing that was important for me was character and whether i felt safe with him...
dont let people put silly thoughts like this in your head, next time she or someone else says something like this to u, remind them of the age difference between Prophet SAW and his first wife Khadija RA :D
blue rose
13-04-07, 08:33 AM
dont let people put silly thoughts like this in your head, next time she or someone else says something like this to u, remind them of the age difference between Prophet SAW and his first wife Khadija RA :D
:) jazakallah...
my wife is older then I am :embar: ...24 years later, I still don't let her forget it :p
Age is only a big deal if you let it be. One of the happiest couples that I know, the husband is 41 and the wife is 20. If the two of you are happy then that is all that matters.
ibn suleman
13-04-07, 08:47 AM
yup age is just a number....doesnt matter one bit :p
and usually the husband is older cos of the difference in maturity :p
RashidD
13-04-07, 08:50 AM
5 years is not a big age gap at all... :)
:up: to all the above! and five years is nothing! Five years between me and my husband but we have the mental age of 10 years younger! :o but Insha'allah, it won't make a difference! Insha'alah, you'll both be happy together!
Asma_Here
13-04-07, 09:06 AM
Age is just a number! Like come on. your friend needs to remove her tainted glasses and put on new ones ^_^ It's about time she realised tht!
There are people who have larger age gaps, some not at all, sometimes it's the other way round too =O ut hey it's okay, so as long as you both are happy and everything is all right!!
Actually it's just about right, because girls mature earlier than guys..
well, your friend's the one who won't marry a guy 5 years older than her. But you did, and it's your marriage, not hers... so dun let other people's comment or preference spoil your fun! She probably marry someone 10 years older...:D
Abu Mus'ab
13-04-07, 09:11 AM
5 years is not a big age gap at all... :)
ditto
Asma_Here
13-04-07, 09:16 AM
She probably marry someone 10 years older...:D
Yaww, you never know loll
blue rose
13-04-07, 09:33 AM
Age is just a number! Like come on. your friend needs to remove her tainted glasses and put on new ones ^_^ It's about time she realised tht!
There are people who have larger age gaps, some not at all, sometimes it's the other way round too =O ut hey it's okay, so as long as you both are happy and everything is all right!!
Actually it's just about right, because girls mature earlier than guys..
yeh we do mature earlier :p
well, your friend's the one who won't marry a guy 5 years older than her. But you did, and it's your marriage, not hers... so dun let other people's comment or preference spoil your fun! She probably marry someone 10 years older...:D
lol... ill hav to wait n c
Abdulah
13-04-07, 09:33 AM
That's just your friends personal opinion, i think they way she just exagerated it through the bold letters worried you a bit. The age thing just comes down to her own personal opinion and experiance with it. Though five years is not a huge gap. If you ask most women how much older can man be than you to marry him they will usually say up to five years or more.
my wife is older then I am :embar: ...24 years later, I still don't let her forget it :p
Age is only a big deal if you let it be. One of the happiest couples that I know, the husband is 41 and the wife is 20. If the two of you are happy then that is all that matters.
the Prophet :saw: married someone 15year older than him :up:
Muhammad2
13-04-07, 09:38 AM
And later married someone more than 15 years younger than him (though how many more is a contentious issue, and I don't wish to discuss it here).
Leena_Cnd
13-04-07, 09:38 AM
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Age only matters, to a piece of cheese
eg. Limburger Cheese
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http://www.bringthemhomenow.org/index.html
Age is just a number just like 20, 256 and 512
sajid... age would be an issue if you got a proposal from someone who is 512 :p
Abu Mus'ab
13-04-07, 09:54 AM
Age is just a number just like 20, 256 and 512
Except no one would marry you if you were 512 *Roll Eyes*
Well hardly anyone that is *Roll Eyes*
blue rose
13-04-07, 09:55 AM
sajid... age would be an issue if you got a proposal from someone who is 512 :p
haha!!! wot if i was actually 35 but i look like im 20?? :p
wud u still wanna marry me sajid?
haha!!! wot if i was actually 35 but i look like im 20?? :p
:rubeyes:
is something we dont know :O
blue rose
13-04-07, 09:59 AM
:rubeyes:
is something we dont know :O
hypothetically!!! i am 20... ill show u my birth certificate... u can check if its genuine as well if u want :p
hypothetically!!! i am 20... ill show u my birth certificate... u can check if its genuine as well if u want :p
i tot you already married??? :rubeyes:
blue rose
13-04-07, 10:02 AM
i tot you already married??? :rubeyes:
no not yet... in 5 weeks insha'allah...
age is nothing its just a concept and i think too many muslims seem to buy into "concepts" and not think about the person they are marrying
u know how it goes .... oh well hes 22 and from a good practising familily, and hes rich and hes a dctor, and blah blah de blah blah blah .... what are u marrying a human being with a personality and a character or a number of age and a list of crudentials... the prophet SalAllahu alleyhi wa salam said " if two people love each other then let them marry" and thats all u need age is nothing at all.
and Muhammad salAllahu alleyhi wa salam prooved that to us time and time again, khadiaja 15 years older than him, and aisha 45 + years younger, but people still dont seem to believe him that age does not matter one jot ;)
no not yet... in 5 weeks insha'allah...
wow! congratulations! :inlove:
gosh i dont want my husband to be 2-3 yrs older than me..hes gotta be wayyy older..cos man hes gotta be a MAAANN not a boy :smack: most lads at age 21-22-23./etc etc...theyre too young for me :D
so blue rose i think u got the correct agegoing for u there :p i think for me..hes gotta be mature. and for that hes gotta be proll -5-6-7-8-9-10 years older than me :D
blue rose
13-04-07, 10:08 AM
wow! congratulations! :inlove:
jazakallah :)
gosh i dont want my husband to be 2-3 yrs older than me..hes gotta be wayyy older..cos man hes gotta be a MAAANN not a boy :smack: most lads at age 21-22-23./etc etc...theyre too young for me :D
so blue rose i think u got the correct agegoing for u there :p i think for me..hes gotta be mature. and for that hes gotta be proll -5-6-7-8-9-10 years older than me :D
:D
sunrise
13-04-07, 10:43 AM
i was on msn yesterday... and one of my friends only jus found out that ill b gettin married soon insha'allah
she sed congratulations... so i sed thanx :)
then she asked me how old he was and i sed 25... so she goes to me OMG HE'S LIKE 5 YEARS OLDER THAN U!
me: so?
her: no i dint mean it like that
me: like wot? i jus sed so?
her: its jus i wudnt marry a guy 5 years older than me thats all...
me: how old wud u want him to b then?
her: 2/3 years... ur moving to ****** and u dnt even know anyone there!! wot u gonna do? ur gonna b all alone... (she sed that a couple of times thruout the convo...
my point is... 5 years isnt that big an age gap is it?
As salam ou lakoum
Mabrook on your engagement and may Allah (swt) bless you and your husband in marriage togther inshAllah..ameen
5years is nothing, actually to be honest it's one of the smallest age gaps i have seen....speaking from experience there is about 15 years between my own parents, and from other family members and people i have seen have plus 5 years difference and there isn't a problem at all.
Just because someone is your gae doesn't mean your going to be happier or more contented, it may be that you don't get along possibly for maturity levels or different interested etc...it's only an issue if you make it.
Good people are hard to come by, so why make an issue of age especially when it's not even that much of a gap anyway...
~*~Minni000~*~
13-04-07, 11:05 AM
Age SHOULDN'T really be a problem, especially if the husband is older than the wife. That's really common and hardly ever a problem.
BUT
SOMETIMES if the wife is older than the husband, there can be a serious problem coz the guy tends not to be as mature as the girl. (ma sis's husband is 2 years younger than her and they have a lot of fights and problems coz he's less mature and doesn't have that kind of adult understanding yet.) I have other friends who made the same mistake and are now divorced. :(
HOWEVER, this is only for most cases, sometimes people do end up happy. :inlove:
blue rose
13-04-07, 01:05 PM
As salam ou lakoum
Mabrook on your engagement and may Allah (swt) bless you and your husband in marriage togther inshAllah..ameen
5years is nothing, actually to be honest it's one of the smallest age gaps i have seen....speaking from experience there is about 15 years between my own parents, and from other family members and people i have seen have plus 5 years difference and there isn't a problem at all.
Just because someone is your gae doesn't mean your going to be happier or more contented, it may be that you don't get along possibly for maturity levels or different interested etc...it's only an issue if you make it.
Good people are hard to come by, so why make an issue of age especially when it's not even that much of a gap anyway...
age isnt an issue for me... im jus curious as to wot other people think...
ibnKathir27
13-04-07, 01:54 PM
I Think 5 years is a near perfect age gap. Big enough for the man to be mature enough for the woman (in general) but small enough so they can still relate to each other easily and share similar 'popular culture' referances
Blue rose don't be put off by what your friend said or think anything of it... she obviously has a different prefential and that's her choice. There's nowt wrong with a five year age gap and like its already been said... girls mature quicker than guys ;)
As for moving to a different place, well every girl has to move sometime, Insh'Allah you'll find some nice sisters in your new community to become friends with :)
muslimah85
13-04-07, 02:59 PM
I know couples with a few days age difference I know others with about 22 years difference! :D, the happiest couples are those whose personalities are like a jiqsaw, they fit together :love:
salaam
5 years is not a lot. dont listen to people who say that.
my cousin (16) just got married to someone twice her age... even though half my family was strongly opposed cuz shes just a kid i guess it was in her fate but looks like her hubby really loves her a lot so its all good as long as shes being treated well :)
-Espérer-
13-04-07, 03:31 PM
As Salamu Alaikum sis,
How you doing?
firstly, congratulations on your wedding/engagment. May Allah SWT bless your marriage and keep you both happy. Aameen. :):)
Secondly, what the hell? 5 years is too big a gap? You have to be kidding. On a personal level, I don't want to marry anyone who is less than 5 years older than me. I feel more sense of comfort with someone who is older. A brother I was supposed to marry was what... 7 or 8 years older than me. I used to think, "Err.. How do I tell people this?" but when I did, the more I said it, the better it felt and I realised, if I can get pver a number then it shouldn't be a problem if others think it's wierd. At the end of the day, it's not your friend marrying him, it's you.
I'm with someone at the moment and he's 26 years old. I'm 18. It doesn't bother me. He's a hell load more mature than a 19 year old. You know what I'm saying? It's not abut age, it's about how you feel. And if you love this guy enough to marry him, then nothing should stop it from happening. Not age, not salary, not family reputation, not wealth, not his past, NOTHING.
May Allah SWT bless your marriage and make it a success. Aameen.
I'm with someone at the moment and he's 26 years old. I'm 18. It doesn't bother me. He's a hell load more mature than a 19 year old. You know what I'm saying? It's not abut age, it's about how you feel. And if you love this guy enough to marry him, then nothing should stop it from happening. Not age, not salary, not family reputation, not wealth, not his past, NOTHING.
May Allah SWT bless your marriage and make it a success. Aameen.
salaam
salary ehhh..... hmmm..... :inlove:
still, AMEEN :up:
-Espérer-
13-04-07, 03:43 PM
I wouldn't care if he was bringing in donuts :p
My dad told me a story once, when he used to live in SA. His work place was in some mountainy area and there used to be a family who lived in a tent, literally. Dad used to take food and money for them and he'd always pray to Allah saying "Give me a family with love like that family." because even though the family was really poor and ill, they all loved eachother so much. As long as there is love and Iman, then you can't really ask for more, can you? :)
blue rose
13-04-07, 03:46 PM
As Salamu Alaikum sis,
How you doing?
firstly, congratulations on your wedding/engagment. May Allah SWT bless your marriage and keep you both happy. Aameen. :):)
Secondly, what the hell? 5 years is too big a gap? You have to be kidding. On a personal level, I don't want to marry anyone who is less than 5 years older than me. I feel more sense of comfort with someone who is older. A brother I was supposed to marry was what... 7 or 8 years older than me. I used to think, "Err.. How do I tell people this?" but when I did, the more I said it, the better it felt and I realised, if I can get pver a number then it shouldn't be a problem if others think it's wierd. At the end of the day, it's not your friend marrying him, it's you.
I'm with someone at the moment and he's 26 years old. I'm 18. It doesn't bother me. He's a hell load more mature than a 19 year old. You know what I'm saying? It's not abut age, it's about how you feel. And if you love this guy enough to marry him, then nothing should stop it from happening. Not age, not salary, not family reputation, not wealth, not his past, NOTHING.
May Allah SWT bless your marriage and make it a success. Aameen.
salaam
salary ehhh..... hmmm..... :inlove:
still, AMEEN :up:
ameen
I wouldn't care if he was bringing in donuts :p
My dad told me a story once, when he used to live in SA. His work place was in some mountainy area and there used to be a family who lived in a tent, literally. Dad used to take food and money for them and he'd always pray to Allah saying "Give me a family with love like that family." because even though the family was really poor and ill, they all loved eachother so much. As long as there is love and Iman, then you can't really ask for more, can you? :)
nope
muslima_89
13-04-07, 03:46 PM
its not the age that matters ...its more the person ur marrying :D ur not gono marry his age are you :D
blue rose
13-04-07, 03:47 PM
its not the age that matters ...its more the person ur marrying :D ur not gono marry his age are you :D
haha!!!
ur_yusra
13-04-07, 04:10 PM
Five years is NOTHING!
Five years is NOTHING!
I second that
its good for the husband to be around 5 years older, even if it was a 10 year gap, men usually start maturing 20years after women their own age :)
Muhammad2
13-04-07, 05:06 PM
Wait...
So it's okay for me to dream about having a 20 year old wife then? :p :D
muslimah85
13-04-07, 05:10 PM
Wait...
So it's okay for me to dream about having a 20 year old wife then? :p :D
LOL :D
Of course! :p.
Age is but a number indeed
-Espérer-
13-04-07, 05:57 PM
Wait...
So it's okay for me to dream about having a 20 year old wife then? :p :D
My 45 year old uncle got himself a nice 20 year old Kashmiri wife :inlove: And they're so happy together, Alhumdulillah :D
My 45 year old uncle got himself a nice 20 year old Kashmiri wife :inlove: And they're so happy together, Alhumdulillah :D
I don't know if it can work other way :rubeyes:
-Espérer-
13-04-07, 06:04 PM
It worked for the Prophet Muhammad SAW and Hadhrat Khadija RA :)
aurorascopic
13-04-07, 06:06 PM
It worked for the Prophet Muhammad SAW and Hadhrat Khadija RA :)
i believe he was referring to your post?am i wrong?
-Espérer-
13-04-07, 06:07 PM
Yes, and he said he doesn't know if t would work the other way round, woman older than man, that kind of thing...? I don't know if I've been mistaken! Ooops :embar:
I don't know if it can work other way :rubeyes:
that english woman from the carry on films is married to a guy who is in his late 30's and she is going on 80!
It worked for the Prophet Muhammad SAW and Hadhrat Khadija RA :)
exactly ukhti masha Allah Muhammad salAllahu alleyhi wa salam was 25 and his wife was 40 when they married, perhaps the problem with this today is that some men take a very long time to grow up, sometimes theyre still grasping the concept of total responsability well into their 30`s
-Espérer-
13-04-07, 06:20 PM
exactly ukhti masha Allah Muhammad salAllahu alleyhi wa salam was 25 and his wife was 40 when they married, perhaps the problem with this today is that some men take a very long time to grow up, sometimes theyre still grasping the concept of total responsability well into their 30`s
Exactly. Also, most men do not want to get married if they don't have anything to provide a family with, for e.g., I know alot of brothers who wish to get married, but they don't want to, not until they have got a degree and a job and are on their own feet.
I guess everything changes as time goes on... Maybe it wouldn't work so perfectly nowadays. It certainly did back then :)
It worked for the Prophet Muhammad SAW and Hadhrat Khadija RA :)
i believe he was referring to your post?am i wrong?
JazakAllah khayr .
I was referring in general and not specifically to sis Esperer post .
-Espérer-
13-04-07, 06:21 PM
JazakAllah khayr .
I was referring in general and not specifically to sis Esperer post .
It's ok akhi ;)
aurorascopic
13-04-07, 06:22 PM
i was wrong, im sorry.
so what did you mean then, what way?
you said 'i dont know if it would work the other way'
so what way?
that english woman from the carry on films is married to a guy who is in his late 30's and she is going on 80!
I believed it could work with few persons
-Espérer-
13-04-07, 06:24 PM
i was wrong, im sorry.
so what did you mean then, what way?
you said 'i dont know if it would work the other way'
so what way?
He meant a much older woman married to a very much younger guy.. Like a 45 year old woman married to a 20 year old male. ;)
i was wrong, im sorry.
so what did you mean then, what way?
you said 'i dont know if it would work the other way'
so what way?
it's ok . not discussing individuals but norms :)
.: Anna :.
13-04-07, 11:44 PM
as everyone said, it doesnt matter at all :D
Supernova Nebula
14-04-07, 06:01 AM
DOESNT MATTER AT ALL! Blue Rose, from what I've seen since, I've been on ummah all this while, Sajid is a really good, nice, cool bro, marry him! youre a fortunate girl!:D
blue rose
14-04-07, 08:34 AM
DOESNT MATTER AT ALL! Blue Rose, from what I've seen since, I've been on ummah all this while, Sajid is a really good, nice, cool bro, marry him! youre a fortunate girl!:D
i hav no doubts in my mind!!! i was jus curious as to wot u guys thought... jazakallah
Doesn't matter at all! most of my sister in law's are younger than my bro's and some even have a gap of 10 years! but they are as happy as anyone can be! infact when there's a big gap between husband and wife I find that the husband is more understanding towards his wife's faults and looks over them and they are more prtotective towards them, they'll always look after you and won't just leave you with big responsibilities for you to deal with on ur own like some men do when ur more their age they think you can always or should always be able to cope under pressure just as them!
So age does not matter at all, people say if your husband or wife is more your age u get on well but i find that they argue more, like kids always argue on the playfield lol! It all depends on individuals and how compatible you find the other its not about age its about trusting and finding a nice man, and after that if somebody thinks they are too old who gives a damn!
Congratulations to both of you by the way! May Allah bless your marriage with pious children :inlove:
Wassalam
Age is whatever you think it is. You are as old as you think you are.
Muhammad Ali
Old age is just a record of one's whole life.
Muhammad Ali
i was on msn yesterday... and one of my friends only jus found out that ill b gettin married soon insha'allah
she sed congratulations... so i sed thanx :)
then she asked me how old he was and i sed 25... so she goes to me OMG HE'S LIKE 5 YEARS OLDER THAN U!
me: so?
her: no i dint mean it like that
me: like wot? i jus sed so?
her: its jus i wudnt marry a guy 5 years older than me thats all...
me: how old wud u want him to b then?
her: 2/3 years... ur moving to ****** and u dnt even know anyone there!! wot u gonna do? ur gonna b all alone... (she sed that a couple of times thruout the convo...
my point is... 5 years isnt that big an age gap is it?
I know this sounds harsh but I'd put some distance between myself and her if she was my friend. If she had some valid concerns like if your fiance said rude things then she'd have a right to warn you- but to bring up an age gap of 5 years and moving town like it's such a BIG deal that you should "think carefully" as if it's some sort of deal breaker... that's not the sort of friend I'd want to spend much time with.
And your fiance is SAJID :eek: Mashallah ignore your so called friend ukhti, he's a catch;)
A few months back an asian uncle came in with his wife. Uncle jee was 92 and his wife was 49 years old. Uncle had daughters older than his second wife
But they were such a lovely pair mashallah http://forum.mpacuk.org/images/smilies/smile.gif and it was obvious they loved each other loads http://forum.mpacuk.org/images/smilies/biggrin.gif It was sooo lovely to see :D
stephenoskie
16-04-07, 09:41 AM
i dont see any problems, i would like to marry a guy older than me because he is more likely to be able to provide for you and have a house, if you get my drift, but yeah age is just a number and if you happy then sis im happy, because happiness over ides a lot of things dusnt it :D
Muhammad2
16-04-07, 09:46 AM
Well, you certainly couldn't marry a guy younger than you.
At least not in the UK,
stephenoskie
16-04-07, 09:51 AM
Well, you certainly couldn't marry a guy younger than you.
At least not in the UK,
nah i know some one that has married younger but i mean thats why i prefer older guys suitable for husbands
Well, you certainly couldn't marry a guy younger than you.
At least not in the UK,
:0: why not, its quite common in the uk as far as i know, i know many people with more than 10-18 years between a husband and his wife, and their not even muslims, and we have the example of many sahabba, and the best of mankind Muhammad salAllahu alleyhi wa salam, to show us its not even an issue Alhamdulillah. The prophet`s , salallahu alleyhi wa salam, longest marriage was to a woman his senior, by 15 years masha Allah.
ahem... am i missing something here...
:inlove: blue rose + sajid...? :inlove:
ahem... am i missing something here...
:inlove: blue rose + sajid...? :inlove:
They're getting married yeah :p
They're getting married yeah :p
sorry if i a bit slow....
:inlove: wow that's double happiness :inlove:
Muhammad2
16-04-07, 11:05 AM
Aren't you 16 going on 17, Sister Amira? :confused:
*18B.L.U.E18*
16-04-07, 11:57 AM
i prefer to marry someone older than me (8 years or more maybe.......) but i wouldn't like to see a man marrying older than him - but astagfirulla our nabi married khadija radiallahhuanha, so it doesn't matter.....
stephenoskie
16-04-07, 11:57 AM
Aren't you 16 going on 17, Sister Amira? :confused:
Yep
and i not considering marriage but
when people ask these questions you just think
but i might get married soon
i dont really wana discuss
stephenoskie
16-04-07, 11:58 AM
i prefer to marry someone older than me (8 years or more maybe.......) but i wouldn't like to see a man marrying older than him - but astagfirulla our nabi married khadija radiallahhuanha, so it doesn't matter.....
Allah knows best !!
junaidb
16-04-07, 12:37 PM
its actually the age of the mentality.....maturity....
otherwise age aint nothing but a number....
i feel as though im 21 everyday of my life....
its all in ur mind.......
as far as deen is considered......Islam considers you a youth until you round abt 50.......:D
so yeah im still in my youth:up: :up: :up:
:coolbro:
blue rose
16-04-07, 01:34 PM
I know this sounds harsh but I'd put some distance between myself and her if she was my friend. If she had some valid concerns like if your fiance said rude things then she'd have a right to warn you- but to bring up an age gap of 5 years and moving town like it's such a BIG deal that you should "think carefully" as if it's some sort of deal breaker... that's not the sort of friend I'd want to spend much time with.
And your fiance is SAJID :eek: Mashallah ignore your so called friend ukhti, he's a catch;)
:) i have kept my distance from her... alhamdulillah since i hav joined this forum i feel like ive been welcomed into this wonderful family... all of u hav been so lovely and kind... :) jazakaalh for ur support... and all of this is thanx to sajid :)
Niqaabi
16-04-07, 01:49 PM
i was on msn yesterday... and one of my friends only jus found out that ill b gettin married soon insha'allah
she sed congratulations... so i sed thanx :)
then she asked me how old he was and i sed 25... so she goes to me OMG HE'S LIKE 5 YEARS OLDER THAN U!
me: so?
her: no i dint mean it like that
me: like wot? i jus sed so?
her: its jus i wudnt marry a guy 5 years older than me thats all...
me: how old wud u want him to b then?
her: 2/3 years... ur moving to ****** and u dnt even know anyone there!! wot u gonna do? ur gonna b all alone... (she sed that a couple of times thruout the convo...
my point is... 5 years isnt that big an age gap is it?
5 years isnt a big gap its better because guys are normally immature for their age this way he will be in the same maturity level as you.
marrying a guy who is the same age as you or even 1/2 years older isnt such a good idea cos he might not be mature and you will get angry. (speaking of guys that are 19-23 they arent that mature)
blue rose
16-04-07, 02:42 PM
its actually the age of the mentality.....maturity....
otherwise age aint nothing but a number....
i feel as though im 21 everyday of my life....
its all in ur mind.......
as far as deen is considered......Islam considers you a youth until you round abt 50.......:D
so yeah im still in my youth:up: :up: :up:
:coolbro:
sooo... u 49 then :p
Khubaib
16-04-07, 03:13 PM
Age does not matter. The Prophet Muhammad (SAW) received wahi at the age of 40, and then made jihad, and married sisters of all ages, and ran the affairs of the ummah, and did housework, and he was the best of men.
Abdul-Curim
16-04-07, 03:52 PM
My 45 year old uncle got himself a nice 20 year old Kashmiri wife :inlove: And they're so happy together, Alhumdulillah :D
a close relative of mine got himself a wife who was almost 45 years younger to him and they seem to be doing fine .
:) :D ;)
blue rose
16-04-07, 03:57 PM
a close relative of mine got himself a wife who was almost 45 years younger to him and they seem to be doing fine .
:) :D ;)
wow...
Abdul-Curim
16-04-07, 04:01 PM
lol wow 45 yrs yunger?
aye .
he was a widower and she was divorcee .
blue rose
16-04-07, 04:03 PM
aye .
he was a widower and she was divorcee .
as long as they happy :)
Tranquillity
16-04-07, 04:29 PM
Ain't five years the Indian/ Pakistani/ Bengali ideal?
blue rose
16-04-07, 04:31 PM
Ain't five years the Indian/ Pakistani/ Bengali ideal?
is it? i dint knw that
Unique Muslimah
16-04-07, 04:35 PM
5 years isnt a big gap its better because guys are normally immature for their age this way he will be in the same maturity level as you.
marrying a guy who is the same age as you or even 1/2 years older isnt such a good idea cos he might not be mature and you will get angry. (speaking of guys that are 19-23 they arent that mature)
Agree with you 101million% :p although masha'Allah there are some dudes who are,(be them hard to find)..but alot are not.
2/3 years age gap is very little,well I guess it also depends on how old you are at time of marriage..
Ain't five years the Indian/ Pakistani/ Bengali ideal?
where did you get that idea from? :eek:
I dunno about the wider society in general, but certainly my relatives in the sub continent prefer that a girl is about 5-8 years younger than the guy she marries. I think it's cos' in many families, they want a girl to get married as soon as she's completed her studies, maybe even straight after graduation whereas they'd want a guy to get married a few years later, once he's "established" himself in his line of work. This attitude is quite common.
Ain't five years the Indian/ Pakistani/ Bengali ideal?
:rolleyes: Nah, more like 10 years! :smack:
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