View Full Version : How do you know when a meeting with a p.spouse is going well.....
Asalama alaykum
Hmm i know how i know, but wanted to see your views, so like how do u know when a meeting with a potential spouse is going well/went well. looking at this only from a personality angle by the way, we all know diin is a must, usually its the incompatible personas that makes things go wrong. well for me anyways...
please base views on whats happened during the meeting.
Medievalist
09-04-07, 01:53 PM
u start winking at each other :rotfl:
Al-Irhaab
09-04-07, 01:55 PM
Asalama alaykum
Hmm i know how i know, but wanted to see your views, so like how do u know when a meeting with a potential spouse is going well/went well. looking at this only from a personality angle by the way, we all know diin is a must, usually its the incompatible personas that makes things go wrong. well for me anyways...
please base views on whats happened during the meeting.
walaikum assalam wa rahmatullahi wa barkatuhu
when the girl is asking you lots of questions but not taking notes :rolleyes: and shes asking you about your deen and personality and shes laughing at your jokes and you like the questions shes asking and they sound mature... also if she stops and thinks about what your saying and then asks more questions.... hmm if u feel confident enough to throw a few teasing questions or jokes ... if they tell u to stay for food...
a big no no is if the girl just walks in the room and starts giggling and just has her hand over her face because shes not used to not wearing nikaab :smack:
u start winking at each other :rotfl:
:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:
a big no no is if the girl just walks in the room and starts giggling and just has her hand over her face because shes not used to not wearing nikaab :smack:
:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:
brothers!!!
next..........
lenghy discussions going on and asked for food and even provided a place just adjescent to main door to sleep . even going out together with family ....
lenghy discussions going on and asked for food and even provided a place just adjescent to main door to sleep . even going out together with family ....
dont get what u mean by sleep, its a meeting not a slumber party:D
heres my list
*u are in comfort zone
*lengthy discussions
*conversation just flowing
*feeling intrigued
*and able to touch ur sense of humor.
*smiling
Medievalist
09-04-07, 02:05 PM
But do girls actually have convos with the prospective when he comes (Im talking religious girls).
I find that kinda strange.
dont get what u mean by sleep, its a meeting not a slumber party:D
heres my list
*u are in comfort zone
*lengthy discussions
*conversation just flowing
*feeling intrigued
*and able to touch ur sense of humor.
*smiling
all pionts ok :)
sleep in a corner in case the boy goes to see the girl in a distant place nd requires over night stay .
heaven2002
09-04-07, 02:18 PM
when my sister met my brother in law they hardly said a word to each other
ma'shallah they been married 9 years now
But do girls actually have convos with the prospective when he comes (Im talking religious girls).
I find that kinda strange.
some choose not 2 due to the excess baggage of eaves dropping wali and co...go figure. i always stay upstairs, but last week i did something different, i had a meeting and i did speak to the bro face to face (1st time for everything), altho brief as i was shy, he did most of the talking...i chose to see him, as i didnt want history repeating itself, looking back at what happened with my ex fiance.
islamically it is allowed for them to talk face to face and to look at each other properly b4 they agree to marry. culturally especialy with somalis, the bro sees the men and maybe the head of the women (like mother and right hand aunt)
whilst the girl stays in a separate room.
Medievalist
09-04-07, 02:21 PM
I see - just that if I met a lady like that and she was chatting away I'd be like :nono:
and another thing - why do u somalis still refer to potentials as brother - our people find that VERY strange.
Songbird
09-04-07, 02:22 PM
Hmm i know how i know, but wanted to see your views, so like how do u know when a meeting with a potential spouse is going well/went well.
Well for me it would be when we're in Tiffanys and he says "Sweety, only one carat?"
:inlove:
and another thing - why do u somalis still refer to potentials as brother - our people find that VERY strange.
It's not just a Somali thing, I know plenty of sisters who say that and I find it kinda :vomit:.. though I suppose it's just a respect thing!
mashallah heaven may allah bless their marriage....
all pionts ok :)
sleep in a corner in case the boy goes to see the girl in a distant place nd requires over night stay .
lol oh ok, bless him in a corner? he could have a room.
wa alaikum salam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh ukhti
i have no idea how to tell if i am compatible with someone, i would leave that to my walli to judge for me, cos i get along easilly with most people and can appreciate most peoples sense of humour etc. talk easily with them adjust to their customs, ways etc. and hmmmm looking back i dont think in my whole life i have ever known someone who was completely on my wave length and for me thats what its all about ..but then again maybe no two people are truely alike maybe its just a little bit alike here and there, ultimately i dont think u can really tell what a person is like until till after ur married.... well i cant anyway :scratch: hmm goes away to think about this some more...
*will be using this thread to take notes *
Medievalist
09-04-07, 02:25 PM
It's not just a Somali thing, I know plenty of sisters who say that and I find it kinda :vomit:.. though I suppose it's just a respect thing!
nah -seriously I find it well funnay.
All our cousins and mates from mosque take the mick when someone says that - in our MP culture its extremely dodgy to call someone brother or sister when you considering them for marriage.
We remember once - a wedding back home and at rukhsati time the groom says in MP that if the sister doesnt want to go then dont make her :rotfl:
The villagers called the Mawlana back to read the nikah cos they feard whatsitcalled - zihaar
then again maybe no two people are truely alike maybe its just a little bit alike here and there
Alhumdulilah! Me and my husband are so alike, it's :nervous:
nah -seriously I find it well funnay.
Nah, it's just :vomit:
and another thing - why do u somalis still refer to potentials as brother - our people find that VERY strange.
huh? who does that? if u mean me in my post, i just didnt wanna right the whole potential spouse thing down when bro is more simple.
i cant remember what my family call p/s as my somali sucks.
ask beebee and co
It's not just a Somali thing, I know plenty of sisters who say that and I find it kinda :vomit:.. though I suppose it's just a respect thing!
i feel like that when husbands and wife call each other bro and sis,
but hey thats a whole nother topic.
wa alaikum salam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh ukhti
i have no idea how to tell if i am compatible with someone, i would leave that to my walli to judge for me, cos i get along easilly with most people and can appreciate most peoples sense of humour etc. talk easily with them adjust to their customs, ways etc. and hmmmm looking back i dont think in my whole life i have ever known someone who was completely on my wave length and for me thats what its all about ..but then again maybe no two people are truely alike maybe its just a little bit alike here and there, ultimately i dont think u can really tell what a person is like until till after ur married.... well i cant anyway :scratch: hmm goes away to think about this some more...
*will be using this thread to take notes *
lol let us know what u come up with...
i kinda agree with u sis.
I see - just that if I met a lady like that and she was chatting away I'd be like :nono:
and another thing - why do u somalis still refer to potentials as brother - our people find that VERY strange.
well they are their brothers and sisters in Islam until they are married they are not anything else ....anyway thats not as strange as saying "my cousin brother" and "my sister cousin" when people try and say that they are that close with their cousins they are almost brothers and sisters therefore "mahrams" for each other and sit and chat and dont cover in front of their cousins :smack:
heaven2002
09-04-07, 02:35 PM
i think a girl should do more listening then talking
ask a few relevant questions
if the guy talks about himself and doesnt take any interest in asking u questions then that might mean he is self centred
his questions will be a big clue for what kind of person he is
if he asks u things like 'do you cook well?' rather than 'do ou pray 5 times?' then that should tell you what hes like
i think if he can make u feel comfortable and agrees with anything u say then thats a good start:up:
heaven2002
09-04-07, 02:38 PM
well they are their brothers and sisters in Islam until they are married they are not anything else ....anyway thats not as strange as saying "my cousin brother" and "my sister cousin" when people try and say that they are that close with their cousins they are almost brothers and sisters therefore "mahrams" for each other and sit and chat and dont cover in front of their cousins :smack:
i agree with u
many asian people say cousin sister , cousin brother and then do not cover in front of these people or if the girl does cover then the cousin brother or his family objects to it
if a muslim and muslimah are not married then they are fellow muslims so u culd say 'muslim brother' or 'muslim sister', i dont find that strange
heaven2002
09-04-07, 02:54 PM
one girl i know who wears nikab, the guy who came to see her said 'im looking for someone who wears nikab to marry, but i dont want them to wear it in front of my brothers as that would cause difficulties in our house'
Medievalist
09-04-07, 03:01 PM
well they are their brothers and sisters in Islam until they are married they are not anything else ....anyway thats not as strange as saying "my cousin brother" and "my sister cousin" when people try and say that they are that close with their cousins they are almost brothers and sisters therefore "mahrams" for each other and sit and chat and dont cover in front of their cousins :smack:
not really - My wife is my cousin-sister. Its an explanation of how we related - nothing more.
Al-Irhaab
09-04-07, 03:05 PM
actually cw can answer this one.... :outta:
umm_yusuf
09-04-07, 04:35 PM
Well for me it would be when we're in Tiffanys and he says "Sweety, only one carat?"
:inlove:
:rotfl:
when he doesnt run out of the house screaming. ..its going well
:(
Redmist
09-04-07, 04:57 PM
When u spend more than 5 mins talking!
me.sawda
09-04-07, 04:59 PM
You'll just know by feeling tranquility while you are talking to him/ her.
Now please don't fell asleep and start to snore in immense tranquil.:rolleyes:
lol sawda
i agree with u and redmist
when he doesnt run out of the house screaming. ..its going well
:(
lool!!!
erm, as far as i know, a couple of my siblings have had arrange the rest have found their own..and as far as the story goes, theyve 'seen' each other by having half hr to themselves..no one else ,lurkin about.:D i mean, what the hell dyu talk about? which is why i say present a cv:D :D all done in one shot..forget the talking:rolleyes:
If he doesn't yawn things are probably going well.
ur_yusra
09-04-07, 05:50 PM
I wouldn't know.
bint lol cv's are wack, enough with the cv already...
i say they are wack because, am a lot different in writing to how i am in real life. even this sentence they way i would say it in real life is more effective then in cv.
its not what u say its how u say it one should observe if any of that makes sense
QUOTE=Asmara;1782395]If he doesn't yawn things are probably going well.[/QUOTE]
lol
bint lol cv's are wack, enough with the cv already...
i say they are wack because, am a lot different in writing to how i am in real life. even this sentence they way i would say it in real life is more effective then in cv.
its not what u say its how u say it one should observe if any of that makes sense
QUOTE=Asmara;1782395]If he doesn't yawn things are probably going well.
lol[/quote]
lol u dont think im bring serious now dyu? :eek:
but i may just give it a shot :rotfl: see how it goess..u knoooww tessst it out lykkk @)
lol partly
yes try it out, i did the other day, he was the 1st bro i did the face to face talk with, and cut out the begining when i was nervous, and the times when i got silent, it went well, i felt comfortable with him, which is a 1st...speaking to him in person is nothing like over the phone..hmm watch this space...........:up: ;)
i do find the cv corny..
id rather annoy him :D
i do find the cv corny..
id rather annoy him :D
lol
heres a good tip on how, ask him the same questions in different ways:D
(i got some good tips on how to turf a p/spouse mummy and daddy want for more info send me a rep):D
(i got some good tips on how to turf a p/spouse mummy and daddy want for more info send me a rep):D
Bribing with reps, smart, I like it! :D
lol
heres a good tip on how, ask him the same questions in different ways:D
(i got some good tips on how to turf a p/spouse mummy and daddy want for more info send me a rep):D
lol - ive already repped ya girl!
now, i need alllottt of advice..on how to delay it :1popcorn:
lol naz thats how we do init ?
bint delay it? ok for how long? and would u eventually be on it? or u just wanna delay till the poor dude seeks another alternative? like ur hotter sister:D
lol holla
Bint Yusuf
09-04-07, 06:38 PM
lol
heres a good tip on how, ask him the same questions in different ways:D
(i got some good tips on how to turf a p/spouse mummy and daddy want for more info send me a rep):D
Lol, would come in handy for the future, spill spill:D
Lol, would come in handy for the future, spill spill:D
erm i dont see a rep hehe tryna out hustle me ey bint yusuf, u sly one :D
when he starts singing
tu mujhe kabool
mein tujhe kabool
is baat ka gawah khuda
khuda gawaaaaaa
and then breaks out into a rehearsed dance sequence :inlove::inlove:
ok bint this may seem drastic but it works believe me it really really works.
suppose your rents want you to marry some dude, believe me no ammount of heart to hearts would change their minds they would keep going on till u give in.
so heres where u shave ur head:D ur hair should take maximum 2 years to grow back to back length, thats enuff time to delay to init.
Bint yusuf-what i do is make myself look irresponsible. that would put any right minded bro off. also ur somali like me, girl its real easy, just act like ur culturally lost. speak broken somali.its another put of, the bro would think what the?
when he starts singing
tu mujhe kabool
mein tujhe kabool
is baat ka gawah khuda
khuda gawaaaaaa
and then breaks out into a rehearsed dance sequence :inlove::inlove:
the way some people discuss marriage some of us may end up in 7 feraas
85 pujans 86 demands and 99 lafdas
Bint Yusuf
09-04-07, 06:48 PM
erm i dont see a rep hehe tryna out hustle me ey bint yusuf, u sly one :D
rofl....i was hoping my goofy smiley (:D )would distract yuh:hidban:
back to tha question..although i haven't been in that situation i would probably say flowing question after question after answer after answer way before the time you arranged to start to leave.
However wouldn't it be akward and maybe start beef if lets say hyperthetically i was to ask tha guy do you intend on having more than one wife, ma pupz would flip. Infact my pupz would probs try tell me what questions to ask beforehand:rolleyes: . Infactttttttttt he would probably settle with some khat!:rolleyes: daughter=khat win win situation!
Niqaabi
09-04-07, 06:54 PM
"well this was really fun, ill call you soon, we should do this again some time" :D
^ thats how you know it went well, and an even bigger clue is when you get special delivery of gifts to your door :p
Bint Yusuf
09-04-07, 06:59 PM
ok bint this may seem drastic but it works believe me it really really works.
suppose your rents want you to marry some dude, believe me no ammount of heart to hearts would change their minds they would keep going on till u give in.
so heres where u shave ur head:D ur hair should take maximum 2 years to grow back to back length, thats enuff time to delay to init.
Bint yusuf-what i do is make myself look irresponsible. that would put any right minded bro off. also ur somali like me, girl its real easy, just act like ur culturally lost. speak broken somali.its another put of, the bro would think what the?
i wouldnt have a problem with speaking broken somali and add in a bit of an indian accent. I think id get clocked cause am laughing or smirking but thats when the niqqab comes in handy:D
but with a non-somali now that wud b tough hmmm
ur_yusra
09-04-07, 07:04 PM
I assume you know it went well if after you've asked him..
..if he does any housework, if he can cook, how much money he owns, does he prefer a merc benz over a limo, how many maids can he afford, whether he would consider investing in a private jet, how many properties he owns throughout the Bahamas, how many shares he owns with the House of Fraiser..
..and he hasn't eyed up the exit door the whole time or ran out.
lol bint yusuf sold for one minjin of khaat now thats cold ma...
p.s seems like i've only been doing non-somalis, my family wanna see me atleast try a somali for once. its not that i plan to marry out the race, i just find its my qadr that most p/spouses that come my way are non somali. the somalis that show interest are not practising and i dont know many practising ones. true hard tho, u just gotta be frank
niqabi true :) you also can tell by his facial reaction b4 he has to leave. if he looks at u and his eyes sparkle plus he has a cute shy smile his tryna hold back it means his almost sprung, all together now aww:o
ur yusra come back to the real world ma lool u are looking for mr perfect..sheesh i can give u mr semi perfect and is willing to be polished up going once...going twice??
can i say sold?
lol now i aint saying you iz a gold digga but u aint messing with no broke......
Niqaabi
09-04-07, 07:11 PM
If i went to have a meeting wid a p.brother i would defo not have my mum in the room!!!! If me and her looked at her we'd start brusting into laughter and probs run out of the room and look really rude when really we do it cos we're both nervous! :meow:
ur_yusra
09-04-07, 07:13 PM
If i went to have a meeting wid a p.brother i would defo not have my mum in the room!!!! If me and her looked at her we'd start brusting into laughter and probs run out of the room and look really rude when really we do it cos we're both nervous! :meow:
I've had my mum sit next to me and we've burst into laughter on several occasions :o
Niqaabi
09-04-07, 07:13 PM
":zzz: well its getting late we better get going, it was really nice, jazakAllahu khair, ma'salaama"
Not a very good sign if he says that and he only came round for sunday lunch.
Niqaabi
09-04-07, 07:14 PM
I've had my mum sit next to me and we've burst into laughter on several occasions :o
aww lol thats cute! what did he say? did he clock on or did he make some irrelevant sexist comment afterwards? :rolleyes:
":zzz: well its getting late we better get going, it was really nice, jazakAllahu khair, ma'salaama"
Not a very good sign if he says that and he only came round for sunday lunch.
yup very very true...
a big no no is if the girl just walks in the room and starts giggling and just has her hand over her face because shes not used to not wearing nikaab :smack:
no pagal pan peer saab plonk
she had her hand over her face cos of your BO :(
no pagal pan peer saab plonk
she had her hand over her face cos of your BO :(
lol thats uncomfortably funny
lost between the chuckle and the eww:rubeyes:
lol naz thats how we do init ?
bint delay it? ok for how long? and would u eventually be on it? or u just wanna delay till the poor dude seeks another alternative? like ur hotter sister:D
lol holla
okay ivealready called yeah im being serius (at ure rep) :smack:
ok bint this may seem drastic but it works believe me it really really works.
suppose your rents want you to marry some dude, believe me no ammount of heart to hearts would change their minds they would keep going on till u give in.
so heres where u shave ur head:D ur hair should take maximum 2 years to grow back to back length, thats enuff time to delay to init.
?
omg..ive thought of that!!
but hey, my hair will grow long enuf to look like a zulfay but what about the long hair im tryna grow :torture:
Whats the next suggestion :1popcorn:
okay ivealready called yeah im being serius (at ure rep) :smack:
omg..ive thought of that!!
but hey, my hair will grow long enuf to look like a zulfay but what about the long hair im tryna grow :torture:
Whats the next suggestion :1popcorn:
u could try to act westernised, mums p/spouseis probably culturalised and am sure his a birds of a feather flock 2gether type of fella...
bint haha i didnt!
yeh this is the public forum, dont think you should be mentioning you've been shaving your heads off when brothers can read this thread.
lol and ur post would just bring more spot light to it when chances are it could have been missed. (check rep)
good looking out all the same sis.
SISTERS no shaving head talk up in here.:nono:
ahem ahem..so quest how dyu PUT OFF potential spouses? :nuts:
*edited
not this one u joka :rotfl: :rotfl:
not this one u joka :rotfl: :rotfl:
loool :embar: i done it now man :smack:
Niqaabi
09-04-07, 08:16 PM
bint haha i didnt!
lol and ur post would just bring more spot light to it when chances are it could have been missed. (check rep)
good looking out all the same sis.
SISTERS no shaving head talk up in here.:nono:
Yes sister chances not facts. Im sure the fact of me bothering to read through the posts would also mean other members would even brothers.
Be more careful about what you post and where, even if it is a joking matter as there are etiquettes of joking even between sisters.
Abu Baraa
09-04-07, 08:19 PM
My honest perspective is as long as u treat your feelings with caution and remain firm and wise when studying a potential spouse. Never let emotional attachment get to u cuz you'll lose it. I also think when conversing with a potential spouse its not all about current affairs and stuff but feeling quite comfortable with ur p/spouse,even when u remain quiet, u know u feel good like the atmosphere is right (and off course a third party is around), but u can still put yourself in check while chatting. My advise is when going to see your p/spouse remember death a lot and then make sincere duas, i believe you'll be true to each other insha'Allaah. May Allaah guide to what is best for us.Allahumma amin.
loool :embar: i done it now man :smack:
lol u sure did
My honest perspective is as long as u treat your feelings with caution and remain firm and wise when studying a potential spouse. Never let emotional attachment get to u cuz you'll lose it. I also think when conversing with a potential spouse its not all about current affairs and stuff but feeling quite comfortable with ur p/spouse,even when u remain quiet, u know u feel good like the atmosphere is right (and off course a third party is around), but u can still put yourself in check while chatting. My advise is when going to see your p/spouse remember death a lot and then make sincere duas, i believe you'll be true to each other insha'Allaah. May Allaah guide to what is best for us.Allahumma amin.
nice perspective
and amin bro
Abu Baraa
09-04-07, 09:01 PM
I adise all of us to take the time to contemplate and remember the story of Umar(radialahu anhu), when he wanted to marry off his daughter Hafsa...and cant remember the story word for word, so i dont want to relate it all incase i am wrong, but the point im tryin to make is, the Prophet(sallal lahu alaihi wa sallam) said to Umar(radiallahu anhu) that there is someone better out there for Hafsa(radiallahu anha) than Uthman(i think so anyway), and there is someone better for Uthman(radiallahu anhu) than Hafsa...and in the end...Uthman married the daughter of the Prophet(salal lahu alaihi wa salam) and Hafsa married the Prophet(saw)!!!...So Allah has something better planned for all of us..One door closes...another opens.
And ive seen many brothers who marry sisters who are not even on the same Manhaj as them, with the reason that, we will change them, and alhamdulilah that is a great thing, and many times it works.he should marry a sister who has same love and zeal for Allaah,Rasulilah (salal lahu alaihi wa salam) as him, and is willing to sacrifice....Question her and find out about her before u even start thinking of wantng to marry her,same goes for sisters,before one starts thinkin..he would be a good bro to marry..or he would make a good husband...make sure u know everything about him Insha'Allah...
I adise all of us to take the time to contemplate and remember the story of Umar(radialahu anhu), when he wanted to marry off his daughter Hafsa...and cant remember the story word for word, so i dont want to relate it all incase i am wrong, but the point im tryin to make is, the Prophet(sallal lahu alaihi wa sallam) said to Umar(radiallahu anhu) that there is someone better out there for Hafsa(radiallahu anha) than Uthman(i think so anyway), and there is someone better for Uthman(radiallahu anhu) than Hafsa...and in the end...Uthman married the daughter of the Prophet(salal lahu alaihi wa salam) and Hafsa married the Prophet(saw)!!!...So Allah has something better planned for all of us..One door closes...another opens.
And ive seen many brothers who marry sisters who are not even on the same Manhaj as them, with the reason that, we will change them, and alhamdulilah that is a great thing, and many times it works.he should marry a sister who has same love and zeal for Allaah,Rasulilah (salal lahu alaihi wa salam) as him, and is willing to sacrifice....Question her and find out about her before u even start thinking of wantng to marry her,same goes for sisters,before one starts thinkin..he would be a good bro to marry..or he would make a good husband...make sure u know everything about him Insha'Allah...
good advice and interesting one to
barakallahu feek.
Abu Baraa
09-04-07, 09:14 PM
good advice and interesting one to
barakallahu feek.
Wa iyaaki uktii Quest(hafidikillah). I pray we bring to life all these naseeya and good lessons we learn from the Salaf.Allahumma amin.
likewise akii likewise
may Allah bless u.
ibn suleman
09-04-07, 10:36 PM
ignore :o
I pray we bring to life all these naseeya and good lessons we learn from the Salaf.Allahumma amin.
Ameen! :up:
me.sawda
11-04-07, 02:26 PM
I adise all of us to take the time to contemplate and remember the story of Umar(radialahu anhu), when he wanted to marry off his daughter Hafsa...and cant remember the story word for word, so i dont want to relate it all incase i am wrong, but the point im tryin to make is, the Prophet(sallal lahu alaihi wa sallam) said to Umar(radiallahu anhu) that there is someone better out there for Hafsa(radiallahu anha) than Uthman(i think so anyway), and there is someone better for Uthman(radiallahu anhu) than Hafsa...and in the end...Uthman married the daughter of the Prophet(salal lahu alaihi wa salam) and Hafsa married the Prophet(saw)!!!...So Allah has something better planned for all of us..One door closes...another opens.
And ive seen many brothers who marry sisters who are not even on the same Manhaj as them, with the reason that, we will change them, and alhamdulilah that is a great thing, and many times it works.he should marry a sister who has same love and zeal for Allaah,Rasulilah (salal lahu alaihi wa salam) as him, and is willing to sacrifice....Question her and find out about her before u even start thinking of wantng to marry her,same goes for sisters,before one starts thinkin..he would be a good bro to marry..or he would make a good husband...make sure u know everything about him Insha'Allah...
:up: Thats a splendid idea!
I would've thought when they dont run out the house screaming "no, never!"
:scratch:
greenwater
11-04-07, 10:41 PM
Its quite hard to really know if a meeting with a spouse is going well, if you mean in that they both are very interested in each other, and would like to meet again or say yes.
Some people are likely to judge you straight away after seeing you without even having spoken a word to you, if she/he is a person who looks are very important to, then you may have suceeded or failed, if failed then even if your both talking well with each other etc, she/he is gonna say no.
Some people get along with everyone, and are good at small talk, getting conversations going, and you may find yourself talking about lots of topics, and it may seem its going very well, but to judge whether the person is interested in you further, is impossible to tell.
lol, trying to get into the mind of the prospective rishta. Don't try it, you'll only go around in circles, or end up convincing yourself the other person likes you or doesn't. Some people are just very polite, good listeners, which may give you the impression that they are interested in you further, while others who may like you and wish to progress, may look disinterested etc. Add a spoonful of nervousness, and the whole judging the other person becomes quite an equation.
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