"No Box Gifts Please"

[sajid]

Whats the deal with all this "No Box Gifts Please" On Wedding Cards

Whats ur thought on this please?

[Quest]

they want gifts chucked at em init?

box = suspense

i rather a man chucks a gold necklace at me and i catch that way theres excitement as it comes. but when boxed up sheesh it could be cheap salt shakers like i ever use em.

am old skool in the kitchen its all abt measuring salt with the hand.:rolleyes:

[Al-Irhaab]

Whats the deal with all this "No Box Gifts Please" On Wedding Cards

Whats ur thought on this please?

best idea man u dont want a 101 toasters in ur house trust me,.. plus u get cash :D that way u get to pay for the wedding and the umrah :outta:

[Phoenix CG]

Well if they don't want the toaster boxed...take it out the box and give it to em...*taps nose, you just gotta be smart :rotfl: theres a way around everything :p

[Quest]

toasters as wedding gift is a kafir cliche must we copy them in any everything? :rolleyes:

[Phoenix CG]

Just cas you're greedy and want gold & Diamonds :p

[`asiya]

Whats the deal with all this "No Box Gifts Please" On Wedding Cards

Whats ur thought on this please?

i dunno ...do we do wedding gifts as muslims? Allahu alam, usually an islamic wedding is about inviting ur family and freinds and especially inviting the poor to the wallima and giving them a good feed insha Allah, and the poor cant afford wedding gifts.

[Fais]

toasters as wedding gift is a kafir cliche must we copy them in any everything? :rolleyes:

is it :0:, change the intention, maybe?

[Ebony]

Whats the deal with all this "No Box Gifts Please" On Wedding Cards

Whats ur thought on this please?

You get money/vouchers instead. So you can buy yourself whatever you want, plus put some it towards the cost of the wedding.

Beats getting 5 coffee machines and toaster. What if you dont drink coffee? "oh, but your husband might ;) "

He'll drink/eat what i drink/eat smart lady :torture:

[sajid]

so in essence its a business? :O

[ur_yusra]

Usually when they say no boxed gifts..

I put the gifts in a carrier bag.

[Ebony]

so in essence its a business? :O

Not really :rolleyes:

What would you want: 10 toasters or 10 X £40 (40£ in each envelope)? :p

[`asiya]

so in essence its a business? :O

i know a turkish couple who got married in a masjid and after the wedding people started coming up and pinning money on their clothes, said they made a small fortune that day....whats that all about then :0:

[Ebony]

i know a turkish couple who got married in a masjid and after the wedding people started coming up and pinning money on their clothes, said they made a small fortune that day....whats that all about then :0:

Pin the tail on the donkey? :p

[Al-Irhaab]

i know a turkish couple who got married in a masjid and after the wedding people started coming up and pinning money on their clothes, said they made a small fortune that day....whats that all about then :0:

wots wrong with it.... i hope people do that with me :D

[Quest]

Just cas you're greedy and want gold & Diamonds :p

take that back, u have 10 seconds

10, 9, 8, 7, 6, 5, 4, (boy dont test me) 3, 2 , 1 :torture:

is it :0:, change the intention, maybe?

gee, lets see, then we can just do that with everything init, it aint abt the intention its abt the bloddy cliche.

even if ur intention isnt the same the cliche is that u look like a kafir copy cat.

man i saw a couple at a wedding (muslim bride and groom) drinking apple juice out of wine cups, with arms locked he drank from hers and she from his

what the?

dont even get me started on the feeding each other cake part

:torture:

[Quest]

i know a turkish couple who got married in a masjid and after the wedding people started coming up and pinning money on their clothes, said they made a small fortune that day....whats that all about then :0:

turks are invited to my wedding :_) they should just watch where the pins go:up:

[MMS]

its a way of telling people u would prefer money over gifts :up:

[ibn suleman]

translates into cash only please :p



but yeh as ur yusra said give it in a bag :D

[seven]

"no boxed gifts please" is equivalent to "please bring a gift"

which completely defeats the purpose of a 'gift'

a gift is something given without the recipient expecting it.

writing "no boxed gifts" on a card is as if you expect people to bring gifts.

anyway... that's my opinion... sorry to be a party pooper sajid :p

[Le Croyant]

Well a friend of mine did that for 2 reasons

1) he had a bridal registry set up
2) He would not b able to take the gifts back home from (NJ to Boston) in sedan

[Al-Irhaab]

Well a friend of mine did that for 2 reasons

1) he had a bridal registry set up
2) He would not b able to take the gifts back home from (NJ to Boston) in sedan

a friend of mine did it aswell,... he jsut wanted money... no other reason :scratch:

[Zesty]

so in essence its a business? :O

:D yesshh! what people are trying to say in a veryyy polite way is: "Like hell you're getting a free meal at our wedding." no, what we mean is- you dont buy us kettles and toasters and tumblers (why do people give them man- damit how many tumblers does a person need)?!? instead you give us the moniesss and we spend it :D

[ibn suleman]

lol..actually its could be cos of the extravagent weeddings, they try and recover some of the costs by asking for money instead :p

[Lambo5688]

No Boxed Gifts means no Jack in the Box that'll give you a heart attack on your wedding night. I think.

No im joking.

[Quest]

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[Lambo5688]

lol..actually its could be cos of the extravagent weeddings, they try and recover some of the costs by asking for money instead :p

yea that is ssooo cheap!

I mean, you're having the extravagant wedding for your own happyness, why make people pay for it. Let them come without having to dish out 200 bucks just to eat and look at you. I hate that.

[Zesty]

yea that is ssooo cheap!

I mean, you're having the extravagant wedding for your own happyness, why make people pay for it. Let them come without having to dish out 200 bucks just to eat and look at you. I hate that.

BLUMMING HECK!! what kinda weddings do you go too?!?! *looks at you strange*

[Monica03]

I think its a really sensible idea :up:
I mean unless you have a gift list, then youre likely to end up with duplicate pressies :nono:

With this concept, youre avoiding this issue and at the same time receiving presents which will help a newly married couple, that is if they receive money or vouchers.
A lot of cost goes towards a wedding these days and its handy if the guests can bail them out of the misery afterwards!

[muslimah85]

I'm doing a gift list for those who would like to purchase a gift (opyional) instead of the billion pressies which are the same. No obligations plus its more for close friends and family.

[*18B.L.U.E18*]

i think its crap. someone i know had that on the card and ended up with no gifts- plain rude and greedy and most people were well of who attended the wedding- shows how greedy they really are!!!! -so don't put it down- just write make sure all present are labelled........heheheheh

[bint]

loool!..

boxed gifts..

when mo shoaibs sons n nephews became hafiz..he gave my dad a letter..on that was the invitation and a special request..

it said

'no gifts or money will be accepted/this event is solely for the purpose of finishing the quran and thats it,dont defeat the purpose of it'

but out of love for the molana..alot of people INSISTED on giving him money..he had to take it as ahadiya :D

[summer786]

loool!..

boxed gifts..

when mo shoaibs sons n nephews became hafiz..he gave my dad a letter..on that was the invitation and a special request..

it said

'no gifts or money will be accepted/this event is solely for the purpose of finishing the quran and thats it,dont defeat the purpose of it'

but out of love for the molana..alot of people INSISTED on giving him money..he had to take it as ahadiya :D

haha a mind trick ;)

no im sure it was sincere

[Lambo5688]

BLUMMING HECK!! what kinda weddings do you go too?!?! *looks at you strange*


I dont know...what kind am I supposed to go to...?:confused:

Iv only been to two weddings. My sisters and mom go.

[blue rose]

its upto each individual if they wanna giv u gifts... mind u they are being polite coz they do say 'no boxed gifts PLEASE' :D haha

if u get say 10 toasters for example then u cnt even return them coz they dnt pack the receipt in the gift do they? and its a way of sayin thats if ur gonna giv me summat then id hav the cash! not coz u want the cash but its easier if u get cash then u can get summat that ud actually need!

[ibn suleman]

lool

no, see what people do is recycle the gifts..

so u take 9 toasters and give them at the next 9 weddigns u go to :p

just remember that toasters u get...u werent the first to get it :D :p

[blue rose]

lool

no, see what people do is recycle the gifts..

so u take 9 toasters and give them at the next 9 weddigns u go to :p

just remember that toasters u get...u werent the first to get it :D :p

:rofl1: LOL :rotfl:

[Hafsah]

gifts is a cultural thing...arabs don't usually do wedding gifts..whereas asians do

theres nothing 'religious' about it...and giving a toaster is not copying the kufaar

thats like saying kufaar invented the toaster we shouldnt use it :rolleyes:

setting up a wedding gift service is a good idea..that way you get what you want/need

no boxed gifts=money=very useful when setting up a new home/life with ur new spouse :up: and if u are staying with ur family...do u really need 10black bags full of gifts taking up extra space? considering u'll have most of what u need anyway

[PiElle]

Great! Finally I can use the spare old wedding card that was in my drawer for the past 10 years!!! ;)

Asians prefer monetary pressies... kind of get a chance to 'make money' during dinner banquets!! :rolleyes:

[muslima_89]

they jus want money :D

[Noor]

Don't write anything about gifts on the card... In this day and age the reality is that most people give money.

I think people have come to realise that its better than giving a "toaster" cos that way the couple can buy what they need.

Essentials things the couple need can be decided between the families and if certain family members wanna give a gift out of the things the couple needs then that can be sorted.

So imo don't write nowt about gifts on the card.

[Redmist]

One thing people in our family do is ask the bride and groom what they want for their wedding present. That way they get what they want and no unwanted gifts!

[Guvna]

One thing people in our family do is ask the bride and groom what they want for their wedding present. That way they get what they want and no unwanted gifts!
kinda sameish here....

personally.. i wouldnt bother writing anyting...... i dnt wanna be tellling people what to bring me..! directly or indirectly...
i;d use anything i can given as a present, and what i can't i would pass onto people who could make use of it!" :up:

[insomniac]

take that back, u have 10 seconds

10, 9, 8, 7, 6, 5, 4, (boy dont test me) 3, 2 , 1 :torture:



gee, lets see, then we can just do that with everything init, it aint abt the intention its abt the bloddy cliche.

even if ur intention isnt the same the cliche is that u look like a kafir copy cat.

man i saw a couple at a wedding (muslim bride and groom) drinking apple juice out of wine cups, with arms locked he drank from hers and she from his

what the?

dont even get me started on the feeding each other cake part

:torture:


kafir cliche :scratch:

people might need 10x toasters,

[Ebony]

"No Boxed Gifts Please, Just Money, Envelope or Wedding Card Not Necessary, No Gift Vouchers Either."

Thank you

[ibn suleman]

Don't write anything about gifts on the card... In this day and age the reality is that most people give money.

I think people have come to realise that its better than giving a "toaster" cos that way the couple can buy what they need.

Essentials things the couple need can be decided between the families and if certain family members wanna give a gift out of the things the couple needs then that can be sorted.

So imo don't write nowt about gifts on the card.

:up:

cos as u can see from the thread it brings mixed opinions..best to leave it out..

the best gift is one from the heart not one that ur forced to give

[PiElle]

kind of makes sense cos it's boring to see square boxes laid out on the table... if you just wrap up the pressies in their own forms... you get interesting "tablescape"!!!!:)

[sajid]

its upto each individual if they wanna giv u gifts... mind u they are being polite coz they do say 'no boxed gifts PLEASE' :D haha

if u get say 10 toasters for example then u cnt even return them coz they dnt pack the receipt in the gift do they? and its a way of sayin thats if ur gonna giv me summat then id hav the cash! not coz u want the cash but its easier if u get cash then u can get summat that ud actually need!

Sell em on ebay :D

[summer786]

Sell em on ebay :D

so the first thing you do when you get married is spend all day on the net? and not even on ummah.com ! i'd rather put 'money or don't come' on my wedding invite.

seriously

[Chained_Water]

I dont think theres anything wrong with it.. it just means you don't want 10 toasters like someone said earlier.. non-muslims have wedding lists and so on so the gifts they get all end up being different and things they need for their new home etc.. so thats useful.. but otherwise you would end up with 10 of the same thing or things that are totally useless to you 'cuz you already have them.. and really thats a waste of money for the one giving and doesn't help the one recieving..

Of course the reciever should still appreciate the sentiment and the thought behind it.. but it may as well be something useful and not a waste?

At the same time I hate the Asian traditions of nandra or whatever.. and this idea of being obliged to give money, and even then an equal or better amount of money than you were given by the same person during a wedding in your family (even if it was a gazillion yrs ago.. you r are meant to write all the nandra down in a book so you have a record and return the same back).. and the nandra is not for the bride or groom, its for their families.. My family didn't do this Alhamdulillah and find it silly how so many pakis are obsessive about it.. I've seen families arguing like crazy the night before the wedding and talking about calling it off because os nandra disputes :rolleyes:

[ibn suleman]

I dont think theres anything wrong with it.. it just means you don't want 10 toasters like someone said earlier.. non-muslims have wedding lists and so on so the gifts they get all end up being different and things they need for their new home etc.. so thats useful.. but otherwise you would end up with 10 of the same thing or things that are totally useless to you 'cuz you already have them.. and really thats a waste of money for the one giving and doesn't help the one recieving..

Of course the reciever should still appreciate the sentiment and the thought behind it.. but it may as well be something useful and not a waste?

At the same time I hate the Asian traditions of nandra or whatever.. and this idea of being obliged to give money, and even then an equal or better amount of money than you were given by the same person during a wedding in your family (even if it was a gazillion yrs ago.. you r are meant to write all the nandra down in a book so you have a record and return the same back).. and the nandra is not for the bride or groom, its for their families.. My family didn't do this Alhamdulillah and find it silly how so many pakis are obsessive about it.. I've seen families arguing like crazy the night before the wedding and talking about calling it off because os nandra disputes :rolleyes:

yeh its silly that book...and what they give has to be £1 more than what they gave :smack:

and people shud think abt what gifts they bring..if they're thoughtful abt it, its much better :up:

[Ebony]

Oh yeah...whats with all that £1 more malarky? I've never understood that. Whenever I've asked they say the £1 is given as sadaqah or in the name of Allah

:scratch:

CW: That nandra thing is so bugging. They actually REMEMBER how much so and so gave aeons ago and "re-pay" the "debt". Well thats how they view it anyway. Bizarre practise.

[seven]

maybe i should put up a paypal donation button for sajids wedding :D

[Ebony]

and people shud think abt what gifts they bring..if they're thoughtful abt it, its much better :up:

Its so hard to buy wedding gifts :( Thres nothing useful out there to buy. Just junk :smack:

[ibn suleman]

Oh yeah...whats with all that £1 more malarky? I've never understood that. Whenever I've asked they say the £1 is given as sadaqah or in the name of Allah

:scratch:

CW: That nandra thing is so bugging. They actually REMEMBER how much so and so gave aeons ago and "re-pay" the "debt". Well thats how they view it anyway. Bizarre practise.

i dunno..i always thought its cos its to make it look more than what it is.

Its so hard to buy wedding gifts :( Thres nothing useful out there to buy. Just junk :smack:

nah...not true..u just gotta think harder :p

[Ebony]

No..Its because the extra £ is meant to be more "auspicious". Its a common thing at Hindu and Sikh weddings also :nerdsis:

[ibn suleman]

No..Its because the extra £ is meant to be more "auspicious". Its a common thing at Hindu and Sikh weddings also :nerdsis:

lool...whatever the reason ..it's silly :p

[`asiya]

seriously though where does this giving wedding gift thing come from ? is it islamic or is it yet another immitaion of the kufar wedding traditions ? yes in Islam of course we are encouraged towards giving gifts to one another as it softens our hearts towards each other, but im talking about specifically giving wedding gifts. I can recall many hadiths where people married but none in which they were laden with gifts or even offered a gift upon the event of their wedding, not even by the prophet salallahu alleyhi wa salam when he salallahu alleyhi wa salam asked a companion did he marry and he replied yes, he said "what did u give her for her dowry" not oh let me present u with a wedding gift... The only gift is the one given to the bride, her dowry from her husband, and the whole point of the wallima is to ennounce the wedding and invite the poor and needy to eat, a wedding is a time to give in charity to those in need....so does anyone have any hadith an Islamic tradition of giving wedding gifts insha Allah, or are we just following them down the lizard holes yet again...

[Redmist]

Oh yeah...whats with all that £1 more malarky? I've never understood that. Whenever I've asked they say the £1 is given as sadaqah or in the name of Allah

:scratch:

CW: That nandra thing is so bugging. They actually REMEMBER how much so and so gave aeons ago and "re-pay" the "debt". Well thats how they view it anyway. Bizarre practise.

Its not bizarre....my family did that.

Its about being equal and showing gratitude. If someone gives you X amount of pounds at your wedding you give the same or better back.

[Chained_Water]

Giving a gift or money is a nice thing to do.. mashaAllah.. we should give gifts, but with the right intentions.. I hate that culture creates this compulsion so that it becomes a debt or a burden.. a gift should be given because you genuinely want to give the person something nice to wish them well or thank them for inviting you.

[Ebony]

Well I always have this habit of turning up to peoples homes with a gift (be it food, flowers or something else), even if I go there everyday since I feel horrible turning up empty handed.

So perhaps that concept is applied with weddings also.

But its that compulsion as CW said to give a gift when you shouldn't be made to feel like you are re-paying them.

[blue rose]

Sell em on ebay :D

any excuse to go on the computer :P

[blue rose]

maybe i should put up a paypal donation button for sajids wedding :D

:rotfl:

[ze leetle elper]

Its not bizarre....my family did that.

Its about being equal and showing gratitude. If someone gives you X amount of pounds at your wedding you give the same or better back.

What if you are extremely poor and your wealthy friend gave you loads of cash as a gift. Returning the same or more would be a hardship upon you and also be like an obligation hanging over you to 'live up' to expectations because of a particular cultural way of doing things.

[blue rose]

What if you are extremely poor and your wealthy friend gave you loads of cash as a gift. Returning the same or more would be a hardship upon you and also be like an obligation hanging over you to 'live up' to expectations because of a particular cultural way of doing things.

isnt it the thought that counts???????

[ze leetle elper]

My opinion is that you should not write 'no boxed gifts' because like seven said it implies that you are requesting a gift...but specifying it to be cash.

I don't think the 10 toaster theory is really realistic because most people nowadays always give money at weddings anyway for convienience of the couple to buy what they wish.

If someone did choose to give a set of tumblers etc, then you should still accept it even if it is tumbler set #15 you have recieved. Maybe that person could not afford anything else. Maybe the tumbler set cost them £7.56 and they do not really feel comfortable putting that amount in cash in a card or something. Maybe they really liked the tumbler set and bought it because it would be something they would have liked to recieve themselves.

If someone wishes to give a gift so be it, but at the end of the day you are inviting them to share in your happiness and for their du'a which is the best gift ever! :)

A recent wedding invite from a Hindu neighbour read something like the recipients prayers were sufficient as a gift and that they were not to bring any gifts.

I wait for the day that is written in a Pakistani wedding card! :D

[summer786]

If someone wishes to give a gift so be it, but at the end of the day you are inviting them to share in your happiness and for their du'a which is the best gift ever! :)

A recent wedding invite from a Hindu neighbour read something like the recipients prayers were sufficient as a gift and that they were not to bring any gifts.

I wait for the day that is written in a Pakistani wedding card! :D

Sadly, it won't be in our llifetimes *shakes head*

[MG]

Whats the deal with all this "No Box Gifts Please" On Wedding Cards

Whats ur thought on this please?

i dont see problem with it, even tho it means "No Boxes, cos we want the moolah"

[ze leetle elper]

i dont see problem with it, even tho it means "No Boxes, cos we want the moolah"

How about writing:

'Moolah in a box please :D'

[MG]

How about writing:

'Moolah in a box please :D'


lol, or jsu not bring anything and if someone asks why u havent say:

"my gift was going to be a boxed one, they said they dont want boxed gifts, hence why i havent bought them anything"

*grin*

[MG]

Well I always have this habit of turning up to peoples homes with a gift (be it food, flowers or something else), even if I go there everyday since I feel horrible turning up empty handed.

So perhaps that concept is applied with weddings also.

But its that compulsion as CW said to give a gift when you shouldn't be made to feel like you are re-paying them.

i always do that when i go peoples home,s dont feel right if u dont take nothing plus i think its a nice personal touch

[ze leetle elper]

lol, or jsu not bring anything and if someone asks why u havent say:

"my gift was going to be a boxed one, they said they dont want boxed gifts, hence why i havent bought them anything"

*grin*

I think we are about to start a revolution in modern wedding gift culture and will get those aunties tongues wagging at us! :D

[seven]

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=no+boxed+gifts

[Redmist]

What if you are extremely poor and your wealthy friend gave you loads of cash as a gift. Returning the same or more would be a hardship upon you and also be like an obligation hanging over you to 'live up' to expectations because of a particular cultural way of doing things.


Yeh i agree its a wrong way of doing things. You should give gifts from the heart whatever you can afford. You should'nt have to feel compelled to give equal to or more than what your friend gave you. After all its whats in the heart that counts no matter how big or small the gift is.

Maybe us the new generation can do away with these cultural traditons :D

[MG]

I think we are about to start a revolution in modern wedding gift culture and will get those aunties tongues wagging at us! :D


we will be known as "the stingy ones" and soon al teh wedding invites will stop *sadface*

[`asiya]

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=no+boxed+gifts lol :up:

no boxed gifts desi faux pas

1. no boxed gifts 4 up, 2 down

Seen on wedding invitations, the couple are frankly demanding cash gifts. This has become a trend in desi culture, mostly among Pakistanis. It is considered bad etiquette and a faux pas by most people, since it is rude to mention gifts in wedding invitations at all.

guy: what should we get them as a gift?
girl: well, the invitation says 'no boxed gifts'
guy: are you serious?! that is so cheap. it's like they're asking for money. let's just give them a card and have it done with.

[Khuzamah]

I agree what zee and seven have said, writing "no boxed gifts" comes over as u have 2 give cash instead. normally we give cash instead of box gift neway but it seems a bit pushy 2 write it on the card. Personally i wdnt b comfy 2 write ne thing like this or abt gift on the cards, i also dont like the idea of registry lists that ppl make for wedding and baby shower. if ppl want 2 do its up 2 them, but for me its too pushy i wd feel embarrassed 2 make a list of presents and show 2 ppl like "buy me these things" :$
to me its best u just dnt write nething, if ppl want 2 bring a present or cash then its nice but if they dont its up 2 them. they dnt owe it.

[neelu]

I wish we'd written "no boxed gifts" on my brother's wedding card. We wrote it on my sisters and it was better that way (except for the fact that she received over £1000 of vouchers and they were all stolen a year ago:( ). Anyway, my brother didn't write it on his card cos' of the whole "thought that counts" mentality and liking the idea of some people wanting to personalise gifts etc. What ended up happening was that he received quite a few tacky items which he didn't want but then what could he do? He didn't want to be rude by saying to people he didn't like the stuff either.

[Khuzamah]

I wish we'd written "no boxed gifts" on my brother's wedding card. We wrote it on my sisters and it was better that way (except for the fact that she received over £1000 of vouchers and they were all stolen a year ago:( ). Anyway, my brother didn't write it on his card cos' of the whole "thought that counts" mentality and liking the idea of some people wanting to personalise gifts etc. What ended up happening was that he received quite a few tacky items which he didn't want but then what could he do? He didn't want to be rude by saying to people he didn't like the stuff either.

well obviously u dont tell them u dnt like it, just accept it anyway and say jazakallah khayr bc they wont have purposely got one u wouldnt like, they put their time and money in chosing it even if its not ur taste. u can give it to someone else insha allah without the ppl knowing

[Nazias]

I think it's kinda rude to say that but on the other hand if you're not going to use it anyway :scratch:

[`asiya]

stolen goods for a gift :eek: thats terrible sis neelu!

...i dunno though shouldnt people just be thankful for anything they get, and not expect anything from anyone its just rude to me Allahu alam.

( no muslims bought us any wedding gifts, and neither did my kuffar family memebers, they all figured seeing as we dont do birthdays, christmas, easter etc. they figured we dont do wedding gifts either i think theyre probably right too Allahu alam ;) )

[Khuzamah]

i thought she meant that the vouchers got stolen not that someone gave them stolen goods, that would b really :eek:

[muslimah85]

I wait for the day that is written in a Pakistani wedding card! :D
My uncle wrote only dua's to be given to the couple in his card Alhamdu'lillah :D

[Chained_Water]

well obviously u dont tell them u dnt like it, just accept it anyway and say jazakallah khayr bc they wont have purposely got one u wouldnt like, they put their time and money in chosing it even if its not ur taste. u can give it to someone else insha allah without the ppl knowing
No sis trust me.. sometimes people just offload things they dont like.. like clothes that are about a gazillion yrs old and they havent sewn and have kept to just give away.

You see this is what happens with unwanted gifts and the 10 toasters.. they get fobbed off to someone else at the next wedding..

So on the other hand there is the why give 'em a tenner when we can offload all the stuff we got that we dont need :p

Asian ppl :rolleyes:

[`asiya]

i thought she meant that the vouchers got stolen not that someone gave them stolen goods, that would b really :eek:

oh lol u could be right sis, can read it either way

[Khuzamah]

No sis trust me.. sometimes people just offload things they dont like.. like clothes that are about a gazillion yrs old and they havent sewn and have kept to just give away.

You see this is what happens with unwanted gifts and the 10 toasters.. they get fobbed off to someone else at the next wedding..

So on the other hand there is the why give 'em a tenner when we can offload all the stuff we got that we dont need :p

Asian ppl :rolleyes:

hmm well still i guess just tell them jazaakallah khayr.
yeh i know alot of ppl do like that... maybe u can give it to the charity shop if u dnt want it? i feel embarrassed 2 give something on as a wedding present if someone i didnt want myself :S so if they give these things can u just give em 2 charity, its not like they can be offended if they found u gave it away... as it was an unwanted gift 2 them they gave it away aswell.

[neelu]

i thought she meant that the vouchers got stolen not that someone gave them stolen goods, that would b really :eek:

You're right Khuzamah. She was given over £1000 worth of high street vouchers but they were all stolen about a year after the wedding:(

[GuCcI]

salaam

no boxed gift MEANS...

'give us MONEY, whether its cash or a cheque' or watever... could be a gift card too :rolleyes:

[Reema]

That definitely wont be happening at my wedding, no way! Id rather they bring nothing at all, than to put that. All gifts, whatever, they are will be accepted and I see no reason to complain about it.

[GuCcI]

salaam

theres also another new trend.

its called 'gift registry'.... :inlove:

[summer786]

whats that then? an event where you just get gifts? girl, ur putting ideas in my head ....... ;)

[Al-Irhaab]

That definitely wont be happening at my wedding, no way! Id rather they bring nothing at all, than to put that. All gifts, whatever, they are will be accepted and I see no reason to complain about it.

i thought ur wedding was already done :rubeyes:

yeah ull be complaining when every paki brings u a toaster :rolleyes:

[me.sawda]

Hadia ( gift) is good when one is not expecting it. When one is expecting it only then it's not permissible in Islam cause that's greed.
Sajid bro when are you tying your knots? :up: Nice thread!

[GuCcI]

whats that then? an event where you just get gifts? girl, ur putting ideas in my head ....... ;)


salaam

gift registry is wen u go to a department store and talk to the people who work in gift registry and wat u do basically if its for a wedding u go around the store and basically EVERYTHING U NEED AFTER UR WEDDING from china to pots and pans watever, u have to SCAN with a hand held scnning device. everything u scan is stored in memory and the people who work there print out a copy of everything u scanned, the price and all otherdetails of it. then a big number of copies are made and given to the guests and basically they walk around with the list and buy wats on it and then watever is on the list and is purchased is taken off using some kinda computer thingy so if another person wants to buy something that has already been bought if they check the updated list they will know.
so ya theres my lengthy explanation :hidban:

[summer786]

salaam

gift registry is wen u go to a department store and talk to the people who work in gift registry and wat u do basically if its for a wedding u go around the store and basically EVERYTHING U NEED AFTER UR WEDDING from china to pots and pans watever, u have to SCAN with a hand held scnning device. everything u scan is stored in memory and the people who work there print out a copy of everything u scanned, the price and all otherdetails of it. then a big number of copies are made and given to the guests and basically they walk around with the list and buy wats on it and then watever is on the list and is purchased is taken off using some kinda computer thingy so if another person wants to buy something that has already been bought if they check the updated list they will know.
so ya theres my lengthy explanation :hidban:

isnt that a bit cheeky? 'get me this specific thing'. it kinda defies the whole purpose of getting gifts. i wudnt do it....if u dont like my gift, thats ur problem mate .

[muslimah85]

My family and friends have said they want to get me something and would like me to tell them. Hence if anyone asks and is persistant of knowing what you want a gift list is excellent. They choose and its entirely up to them and they get something useful to you.

its about time people were logical and not getting stuff for the sake of it.

[MMS]

My family and friends have said they want to get me something and would like me to tell them. Hence if anyone asks and is persistant of knowing what you want a gift list is excellent. They choose and its entirely up to them and they get something useful to you.

its about time people were logical and not getting stuff for the sake of it.

oh so ur getting married too :eek::evilb:

[muslimah85]

oh so ur getting married too :eek::evilb:
NO lol, we talk about its sooo much in my family you think I am :smack:

Im the eldest sibling/grandchild etc so everyone wants to fob me off and thats all they think about :p

[MMS]

NO lol, we talk about its sooo much in my family you think I am :smack:

Im the eldest sibling/grandchild etc so everyone wants to fob me off and thats all they think about :p

ahan, keep chattin it :blobblue:

[muslimah85]

:buttkick: :p

[Niqaabi]

I think its quite rude when people write stuff like that on their cards or tell their friends "iv written a list of what to get me incase you get something i dont like" or when friends ask "so what do you want as a gift?".
I mean if the friend really didnt have a clue what to get and that person had nearly everything i can understand but giving prezzies should be from the heart not a burden.
Personally i love getting gifts :D and i dont mind what it is, the thought really does count and the fact someone actually thought about giving you something it shows they care :love:
I love it when i got to see someone and they say "oh i popped round the shops and saw this and i remembered you liked it so i got it for you" its so sweet that they'd do that :D
Money, toasters, china i dont mind, the amount of time plates and toasters get broken in my house i would need all of that.

[summer786]

I think its quite rude when people write stuff like that on their cards or tell their friends "iv written a list of what to get me incase you get something i dont like" or when friends ask "so what do you want as a gift?".
I mean if the friend really didnt have a clue what to get and that person had nearly everything i can understand but giving prezzies should be from the heart not a burden.
Personally i love getting gifts :D and i dont mind what it is, the thought really does count and the fact someone actually thought about giving you something it shows they care :love:
I love it when i got to see someone and they say "oh i popped round the shops and saw this and i remembered you liked it so i got it for you" its so sweet that they'd do that :D
Money, toasters, china i dont mind, the amount of time plates and toasters get broken in my house i would need all of that.

is that like a massive hint ?! ;)

[Niqaabi]

is that like a massive hint ?! ;)
not at all ;).... unless i invite you to my wedding then ill remember to bump this thread a few times :p