Do You Believe in 'the One' ?

[summer786]

Personally, I think its a load of .-.-

If it was true, then they have to happen to be alive in the same time period, have to happen to (usually) be in the same geographical area, the right age, single, etc etc.

Basically it's just not true :p

I don't know the Islamic viewpoint on this, but I think people either get on or don't, or change over time and drift apart. You can't think 'oh, my partner's behaving like this, they can't be the one' or vice versa.

No offense to people who believe in it. Just wait 'til the 'love' feeling wears off :p

[Al-Irhaab]

Personally, I think its a load of .-.-

If it was true, then they have to happen to be alive in the same time period, have to happen to (usually) be in the same geographical area, the right age, single, etc etc.

Basically it's just not true :p

I don't know the Islamic viewpoint on this, but I think people either get on or don't, or change over time and drift apart. You can't think 'oh, my partner's behaving like this, they can't be the one' or vice versa.

No offense to people who believe in it. Just wait 'til the 'love' feeling wears off :p

the one wot? :scratch:

[muslima_89]

well....the one is written for you in ur taqdeer....so yes i do believe in the one....coz he/she is out there somewhere...and its planned by allah that you will marry him...

but....not until i marry him will i say he's the one :P who knows....:rolleyes:

[perfectpearl]

well....the one is written for you in ur taqdeer....so yes i do believe in the one....coz he/she is out there somewhere...and its planned by allah that you will marry him...

but....not until i marry him will i say he's the one :P who knows....:rolleyes:

:up:

Allah aready planned it! There has to be thee One

[RaNdOm]

:salams

:inlove::love: :inlove::love: :inlove: the one :inlove::love: :inlove::love: :inlove:

al-irhaab stop pretendin :torture:

He created you from one person, then created from him his mate. [39:6]

"He it is Who created you from a single soul, and of the same did He make his spouse, that he might find comfort in her."(7:189).

"And among His Signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dwell in tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts)..." (30:21)

[Niqaabi]

Yeh i believe in the one, but for some people's cases there is the two/three/four so really depends on what your Qadr.
I dont think the one has to be within the same country or same age etc, you could go on holiday to japan and end up meeting someone from the same ethinic background as you who is only a few years older and you may end up marrying that person (if wali is there).

[Al-Irhaab]

:salams

:inlove::love: :inlove::love: :inlove: the one :inlove::love: :inlove::love: :inlove:

al-irhaab stop pretendin :torture:

He created you from one person, then created from him his mate. [39:6]

"He it is Who created you from a single soul, and of the same did He make his spouse, that he might find comfort in her."(7:189).

"And among His Signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dwell in tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts)..." (30:21)

stop pretending wot :scratch:

i thought u didnt believe in people full stop what happened :outta:

[RaNdOm]

No offense to people who believe in it. Just wait 'til the 'love' feeling wears off :p

:salams

oh and i dont think it'll wear off inshaAllah, cos u'll just remember that Allah chose for u to be with em and then u'll get all lame and mushed up :rolleyes:

[RaNdOm]

stop pretending wot :scratch:

i thought u didnt believe in people full stop what happened :outta:

:salams

stop pretendn u dont believe in the 1 :torture:

loool n i dont... well everyone cept ma future husband to be wherever he may be inshaAllah... cos like thats one thing i do have hope in... cept he aint here yet so he wasnt included... anyway theres like so many verses in the Quran highlightin the true nature of mankind so i dont get how im menta be ppl :inlove: ppl :inlove:

everyone else... :torture: :torture: :torture: ... i hope he'll just be able to put up with ma anti ppl-ness

[`asiya]

i dont know i mean he could be "the one" to you and then maybe something happens say... he passes away then u get another "one" insha Allah like umm salama :up:

hmmm Allahu alam i dont know, but i like this saying of umar ibn al khattab, he was approached by a man who told him that he wanted to divorce his wife simply because " he did not like her..."

so Umar said to him "Are families built only on love? Where could you then place loyalty and mutual care?"

[RaNdOm]

i dont know i mean he could be "the one" to you and then maybe something happens say... he passes away then u get another "one" insha Allah like umm salama :up:

hmmm Allahu alam i dont know, but i like this saying of umar ibn al khattab, he was approached by a man who told him that he wanted to divorce his wife simply because " he did not like her..."

so Umar said to him "Are families built only on love? Where could you then place loyalty and mutual care?"

:salams

thats so sad and so scary and sad... and scary :(

[Nawar]

Puh lease. :rolleyes: :outta:

[RaNdOm]

Puh lease. :rolleyes: :outta:

:salams

*sings* heyyyyyyy big pretenderrrrrr :rolleyes: :p

[`asiya]

:salams

thats so sad and so scary and sad... and scary :(

wa alaikum salam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh dont be scared ukthi Allah knows best for us Alahmdulillah, umm salama loved her husband so so much, and she didnt know where she would ever find such a man again...then she recived a marriage proposal from the prophet salAllahu alleyhi wa salam, so she had "the one" then she got an even better "one" though she never dreamed that possible with her age and all her children yet she married the best of mankind, subhanAllah :up:

[Medievalist]

No I dont believe in the one - I believe in the four :D :D :D :D

[`asiya]

No I dont believe in the one - I believe in the four :D :D :D :D

masha Allah that should be there as an option cos its a really just ladies poll now ..:)

[Abu Mus'ab]

the one wot? :scratch:
Ditto.

I don't get this whole one business.

[RaNdOm]

wa alaikum salam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh dont be scared ukthi Allah knows best for us Alahmdulillah, umm salama loved her husband so so much, and she didnt know where she would ever find such a man again...then she recived a marriage proposal from the prophet salAllahu alleyhi wa salam, so she had "the one" then she got an even better "one" though she never dreamed that possible with her age and all her children yet she married the best of mankind, subhanAllah :up:

:salams

but sometimes its just scary what Allah has planned for u to go through... and even if u can go through it... u probably wont like it... even tho u should be happy with the qadr of Allah... but i think id so react according to whether i was higher or lower in emaan :(

No I dont believe in the one - I believe in the four :D :D :D :D

:salams

theyre all still individually the one, so u have 4 1's not just 4 so shurrup :torture:

[RaNdOm]

Ditto.

I don't get this whole one business.

:salams

*shakes head* u all pretend so much its unbelievable :torture:

[Medievalist]

theyre all still individually the one, so u have 4 1's not just 4 so shurrup :torture:

4 1s equal 4 - maths aint yr strong point is it random?

[Kubs]

Maybe :up:

[RaNdOm]

4 1s equal 4 - maths aint yr strong point is it random?

:salams

no cos the way u sayin it its like

i believe in 4

:nerdbro: = :hidban: :hidban: :hidban: :hidban:

when u should be like

.......= :hidban:
.......= :hidban:
:nerdbro:
.......=:hidban:
.......=:hidban:

[Medievalist]

But seriously - there is just the One imho. Thats not denying there are others - but theres always the One and no1 can replace or supercede her. :o

[Medievalist]

:salams

no cos the way u sayin it its like

i believe in 4

:nerdbro: = :hidban: :hidban: :hidban: :hidban:

when u should be like

.......= :hidban:
.......= :hidban:
:nerdbro:
.......=:hidban:
.......=:hidban:

tomaaato -tomayto :rolleyes: :rolleyes:

[ur_yusra]

No such thing as 'the one'..

They're all incompetent losers.

[RaNdOm]

tomaaato -tomayto :rolleyes: :rolleyes:

:salams

yeh shurrup - shut up :rolleyes:

[Medievalist]

No such thing as 'the one'..

They're all incompetent losers.

doesnt ur yusra say the sweetest things :rolleyes:

[RaNdOm]

doesnt ur yusra say the sweetest things :rolleyes:

:salams

i think she likes talkin in opposites :p

[Medievalist]

:salams

i think she likes talkin in opposites :p

yeh - i agree.

[RaNdOm]

yeh - i agree.

:salams

i know :D

[Nawar]

Alrite guys, Random, enoughs enough. Pack up, threads over. Please take 'the one' with you an' all. :rolleyes: :smack:

[RaNdOm]

Alrite guys, Random, enoughs enough. Pack up, threads over. Please take 'the one' with you an' all. :rolleyes: :smack:

:salams

looool aw man... this thread was gonna give hope to those that dint believe :(.... how could u be so cold hearted :spunch:

[bint]

i dont think theres such a thing as the one. :p

[MMS]

i got chilzzz they're multiplyin
and im loooozin controll
its the power ur supplyin
its electrifying
u better wake up ooo oo
coz i need a man
and my heart is set on uuu
u are the one i want, u r the one i want oo oo oo
:outta:

[bint]

i got chilzzz they're multiplyin
and im loooozin controll
its the power ur supplyin
its electrifying
u better wake up ooo oo
coz i need a man
and my heart is set on uuu
u are the one i want, u r the one i want oo oo oo
:outta:


:rotfl:

our one n only DJ MMS..*round of applause*

[Abu Mus'ab]

4 1s equal 4 - maths aint yr strong point is it random?
Let me put it this way,

1+1+1+1 = 4

or,

1+1+1+1 = 1. which is 1/4 + 1/4 + 1/4 + 1/4 = 1

it's like people say "marrying once completes half my deen, so if i marry a second time does that mean i complete my whole deen?" if you regarded all 4 as 4 complete different parts then you'd complete your whole deen twice if you married four wives, which we all know is wrong, because all 4 of them only completes half your deen, if that made any sense *Roll Eyes*

[Medievalist]

**sisters chuck cold water on that woman**

and if that aint effective then lumps of ice should do the trick

[Eemaan]

No such thing as 'the one'..

They're all incompetent losers.

:(

[bint]

:(


*switches on waterworks*

*crys with eemaan*

:crying: :there:

[insomniac]

dudes I thought this was about Allah swt.... I take my response back

my answer is HELL NOO :D

[TenaciousSis]

Nope! But I am bitter and jaded when it comes to men. :D

[Niqaabi]

No such thing as 'the one'..

They're all incompetent losers.
:rotfl::rofl1:
sis remind me to rep you for that 2mrw!
lol my eyes are watering up!!!

[peace2u]

next time be a little more specific please. I thought you were talking about the movie "the One" with Jet Li :S in which case, no I don't believe there are multiple parallel universes of our own. but if you are talking about marriage, then yes, I do believe that we are destined to marry whom Allah (swt) chooses for us.


Peace

[Fais]

Ditto.

I don't get this whole one business.

I know this bro is pretending for sure :D ...

[Fais]

:(

:smack: .. :crying:

[Cashew]

I think this is probably an unfair question to young people who haven't yet had children and who don't yet know what their hearts are capable of.

Let me explain what I mean.

When you have children, you don't have The One child whom you magically and mysteriously love above all the others.

You love each more than you ever thought it was possible to love another human being.

And yet each is an individual encounter. Each kid is his or her person in their own right and you love him or her for the person that he or she is.

You don't love more or less depending on the individual child. You love each child individually.

I think this is also true for spouses. Fortunately and unfortunately.

The truth of the world is that people lose spouses. Either through illness, divorce, fatal accident, or war.

The One is, I believe, the person whom God sets before you.

This isn't a test for God to find the right person for you.

[Quest]

I do believe in the 'one' there i said it.
but i aslo believe there could be many 'the ones'

asiya gave a good example of umm salama and abu talha then umm salama and the prophet s/a/w

another example is rasoululaah s/a/w and the lady khadija, and then rasoululaah s/a/w and ayeesha after khadijas death. and even then in rasoululaah s/a/w heart of hearts khadija was still number one. hence ayeeshas saying something akin to i have never been jealous of anyone the way i am of khadija.
so there truelly is the one and on very rare occasions do the one re-appear after the first one left for what ever the reason maybe.

i think people who say they dont believe in this, are fronting in my honest opinion, deep down they to believe, they just may think its uncool to admit it. but hey lol the cyber world is not the real world everyone is just mere text on your screen, one touch of a button and ala kazam they are gone. so why front?

seeking some kinda rep on cyber? now thats bizzare.

No I dont believe in the one - I believe in the four :D :D :D :D

lol what is the matter with this guy?

med even if u have the four, only one of them would truely be the one sheesh.

ayeesha was the one for the prophet s/a/w tho he had more then even the four.

the human heart can not be split into two, in that u can not love four equally. u may love them differently but usually one has more love then the other, so long as he is just between them all in treatment and show of outward affection it doesnt matter. for Allah would judge him on the latter.

[me.sawda]

Let it happen to feel ' the one '
How can we be sure even before it happened(marriage)? People tend to fall for some one thinking him/ her the one but later on if doesn't get to marry would he/ she stay alone all their life thinking ahhh my 'the one' is not mine lso, et me stay alone.....?

[Reptile]

Yes I do, he is going to ride on a donkey, and take me to my house built of smelly cheese to cook and clean, oh the joy of the one, can't wait :D

[Nazias]

Yes I do, he is going to ride on a donkey, and take me to my house built of smelly cheese to cook and clean, oh the joy of the one, can't wait :D

:wacko: :outta:

[Reptile]

Just my dose of realism

[Quest]

Just my dose of realism

lol and what a dose.

i know for a fact my 'one' aint no farax gurl, i have nightmares abt the typical khat chewing, abnoxious, loud mouthed faraxs:D

[Reptile]

lol dont forget shah drinking and ofcoure their daily amount of barees n hillib (this is all spelt phonectically), In all my life I dont think ive met one, where i didnt end up having an argument with them

[bint]

i just pray that those guys that intend on marrying FOUR WOMEN..treat them with the same equal love.

[Quest]

lol dont forget shah drinking and ofcoure their daily amount of barees n hillib (this is all spelt phonectically), In all my life I dont think ive met one, where i didnt end up having an argument with them

lool sweetheart the above i can deal with (i love shah and baris and hilib mmm with liin and muuse like double mmm)

i just cant stand the classical faraxs that be like na heedheh and the rest of all the yadi yadi ya they say. you know the typical dead beat non working man, yet wants u to treat him like a man tho he refuses to work, and do family stuff. and on top of all that they have the cheek to compare u to women from back home and call u the westernised ruined one. simply because u dont take some of their cultural crap. sheesh

[Reptile]

lool sweetheart the above i can deal with (i love shah and baris and hilib mmm with liin and muuse like double mmm)

i just cant stand the classical faraxs that be like na heedheh and the rest of all the yadi yadi ya they say. you know the typical dead beat non working man, yet wants u to treat him like a man tho he refuses to work, and do family stuff. and on top of all that they have the cheek to compare u to women from back home and call u the westernised ruined one. simply because u dont take some of their cultural crap. sheesh


lol yea, my uncles and brother was like that they think that cooking an cleaning is in my DNA, even somali women are like this, bloody hell how far has the indoctrination gone, But alhamdulilah there is success after years of arguing, I have got my brother to clean n cook and get his own food!
When i go somalia this year insha'allah, they are soo going to hate me, once im done talking to the women :D

[Medievalist]

I do believe in the 'one' there i said it.
but i aslo believe there could be many 'the ones'

asiya gave a good example of umm salama and abu talha then umm salama and the prophet s/a/w

another example is rasoululaah s/a/w and the lady khadija, and then rasoululaah s/a/w and ayeesha after khadijas death. and even then in rasoululaah s/a/w heart of hearts khadija was still number one. hence ayeeshas saying something akin to i have never been jealous of anyone the way i am of khadija.
so there truelly is the one and on very rare occasions do the one re-appear after the first one left for what ever the reason maybe.

i think people who say they dont believe in this, are fronting in my honest opinion, deep down they to believe, they just may think its uncool to admit it. but hey lol the cyber world is not the real world everyone is just mere text on your screen, one touch of a button and ala kazam they are gone. so why front?

seeking some kinda rep on cyber? now thats bizzare.



lol what is the matter with this guy?

med even if u have the four, only one of them would truely be the one sheesh.

ayeesha was the one for the prophet s/a/w tho he had more then even the four.

the human heart can not be split into two, in that u can not love four equally. u may love them differently but usually one has more love then the other, so long as he is just between them all in treatment and show of outward affection it doesnt matter. for Allah would judge him on the latter.

mashaALLAH. Gud post.

Quest you didnt read my OTHER post - abt what I really believe, **roll eyes**

[Abu Mus'ab]

I know this bro is pretending for sure :D ...
vot vot?

You tryna say summat? *Roll Eyes*

[Quest]

mashaALLAH. Gud post.

Quest you didnt read my OTHER post - abt what I really believe, **roll eyes**

oh i must have missed it let me go find it *rolls eyes*

[Fais]

vot vot?

You tryna say summat? *Roll Eyes*

Yes :D ...

[Quest]

lol yea, my uncles and brother was like that they think that cooking an cleaning is in my DNA, even somali women are like this, bloody hell how far has the indoctrination gone, But alhamdulilah there is success after years of arguing, I have got my brother to clean n cook and get his own food!
When i go somalia this year insha'allah, they are soo going to hate me, once im done talking to the women :D

lol back home we have maids if ur from landan you get waited on :D so just make sure u have plenty of chedda when u go ma.

But seriously - there is just the One imho. Thats not denying there are others - but theres always the One and no1 can replace or supercede her. :o

found it well what do u know, med the realist can y'all digg it?

yes we can!

[Abu Mus'ab]

Yes :D ...
well then out with it before i call your baaji to fetch you *Roll Eyes*

[Medievalist]

found it well what do u know, med the realist can y'all digg it?

yes we can!

if u paid attentino you'd know what my stance on this actually is :rolleyes:

[Omar]

I didnt really like tht film :S was too much like the matrix

[Quest]

if u paid attentino you'd know what my stance on this actually is :rolleyes:

paid attention to what? your posts? man i ususally read em with 1 eye open, just to make sure ur not on abt the usual gibberish again i tend to agree with u 20% of the time tho.

so excuse me if i dont have the full 411 on meds stance.

[Al-Irhaab]

lol yea, my uncles and brother was like that they think that cooking an cleaning is in my DNA, even somali women are like this, bloody hell how far has the indoctrination gone, But alhamdulilah there is success after years of arguing, I have got my brother to clean n cook and get his own food!
When i go somalia this year insha'allah, they are soo going to hate me, once im done talking to the women :D

it is in ur dna to cook and clean man :smack:

unless ur a man :outta: if u are then what u doing on the sisters team :rubeyes:

[Quest]

it is in ur dna to cook and clean man :smack:

unless ur a man :outta: if u are then what u doing on the sisters team :rubeyes:

joka, if thats the case then shariah wouldnt exempt some wives who came from certain backgrounds (born with silver spoon in mouth) from cooking and cleaning as they are not accustomed to doing these things.

cooking and cleaning is subject to conditioning whilst growing up, not DNA

sue ur minister of mis information ight papi?

[Al-Irhaab]

joka, if thats the case then shariah wouldnt exempt some wives who came from certain backgrounds (born with silver spoon in mouth) from cooking and cleaning as they are not accustomed to doing these things.

cooking and cleaning is subject to conditioning whilst growing up, not DNA

sue ur minister of mis information ight papi?

its not about conditioning its abt dna.... even those wives who are from silver spoons cook and clean mostly... its just some obstinate ones who marry rich husbands that dont :smack:

its like how can i give an analogy... ok well a monkey is genetically inclined to climb trees jump around and scream... but if u raise a monkey from birth being civilised then hes civilised but still in his genes is the inclination to do monkey about so once hes put into a situation where hes in natural habitat monkey will be flying up trees... same with women.... they genetically disposed to cooking and cleaning looking after kids etc etc... but parents sometimes are too kind dont teach them.... but soon as they get married hey presto they back to cooking and cleaning :D

[Quest]

its not about conditioning its abt dna.... even those wives who are from silver spoons cook and clean mostly... its just some obstinate ones who marry rich husbands that dont :smack:

its like how can i give an analogy... ok well a monkey is genetically inclined to climb trees jump around and scream... but if u raise a monkey from birth being civilised then hes civilised but still in his genes is the inclination to do monkey about so once hes put into a situation where hes in natural habitat monkey will be flying up trees... same with women.... they genetically disposed to cooking and cleaning looking after kids etc etc... but parents sometimes are too kind dont teach them.... but soon as they get married hey presto they back to cooking and cleaning :D

lol so my natural habitat is the kitchen?

man u will never get married at this rate.

am gonna let this one slide, :rolleyes:

[Ebony]

Can one be genetically predisposed to NOT cook and clean and yet not be male? :outta:

Or would that be considered a genetic mutation? :rolleyes:

[Al-Irhaab]

Can one be genetically predisposed to NOT cook and clean and yet not be male? :outta:

Or would that be considered a genetic mutation? :rolleyes:

yes perhaps maybe a cancer :outta:

[Al-Irhaab]

lol so my natural habitat is the kitchen?

man u will never get married at this rate.

am gonna let this one slide, :rolleyes:

thats wot u think :outta:

[Ebony]

yes perhaps maybe a cancer :outta:

Star Plus induced carcinoma? :eek:

[ur_yusra]

yes perhaps maybe a cancer

^^ Very sad comment to make despite knowing that the Prophet (SAW) helped with the domestics.

Sad really.

[Al-Irhaab]

Star Plus induced carcinoma? :eek:

i was thinking zee tv induced kyu kai saas bhi kabhi bahu ti genetic mutation.... :torture:

[Eemaan]

:eek: OMG OMG

[Quest]

thats wot u think :outta:

when am right am right, and when am wrong i could have been right.......;)

[Reptile]

it is in ur dna to cook and clean man :smack:

unless ur a man :outta: if u are then what u doing on the sisters team :rubeyes:


If i didnt know any better i would have continued to oppose that view, but i know i believe this the correct term your a run mureed :D

[Medievalist]

i was thinking zee tv induced kyu kai saas bhi kabhi bahu ti genetic mutation.... :torture:

that drama is on star plus innit - not see zee tv.

mashaALLAH gud monkey analogy - so basically women are like monkeys? :outta:

[Medievalist]

paid attention to what? your posts? man i ususally read em with 1 eye open, just to make sure ur not on abt the usual gibberish again i tend to agree with u 20% of the time tho.

so excuse me if i dont have the full 411 on meds stance.

maybe you should open your eyes a bit more - then you'd understand what I rote :up:

[bint]

i was thinking zee tv induced kyu kai saas bhi kabhi bahu ti genetic mutation.... :torture:

whats the big deal with that anyways? i mean..'people are always talking about that:D


freshy *indian serial*

[MMS]

ek tu na milaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa
sari duniya mile bhi to kya haiii :crying: :crying:
mera dil na khilaaaaa :(

[Medievalist]

ek tu na milaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa
sari duniya mile bhi to kya haiii :crying: :crying:
mera dil na khilaaaaa :(

sara baagh khilaa to kya hai

[Eemaan]

kiss ko pathaaaa hai
kis ko samaj hai
taerea pehlaoo kyaa hai
mehni waalae haaaath

lalalalala

[Al-Irhaab]

that drama is on star plus innit - not see zee tv.

mashaALLAH gud monkey analogy - so basically women are like monkeys? :outta:

i dont know i dont watch it... so thats what u be busy doing when we ask u to help with the questions :outta:

[Medievalist]

kiss ko pathaaaa hai
kis ko samaj hai
taerea pehlaoo kyaa hai
mehni waalae haaaath

lalalalala

mehdni waale haath?

tere pehlo mein, tere pehlo mein

[Medievalist]

i dont know i dont watch it... so thats what u be busy doing when we ask u to help with the questions :outta:

I aint part of this bro vs sister comp. we are all one family, Im not a competitive person. Im innocent.

[Eemaan]

mehdni waale haath?

tere pehlo mein, tere pehlo mein

you freshies man :smack:

[MMS]

kiss ko pathaaaa hai
kis ko samaj hai
taerea pehlaoo kyaa hai
mehni waalae haaaath

lalalalala

sara baagh khilaa to kya hai

mehdni waale haath?

tere pehlo mein, tere pehlo mein

u 2 need to get a life :embar:

[Medievalist]

u 2 need to get a life :embar:

I just finished off your poem for you - ungrateful :torture:

[Abu Mus'ab]

that drama is on star plus innit - not see zee tv.

mashaALLAH gud monkey analogy - so basically women are like monkeys? :outta:
Bruv i was thinking the same thing when i read his analogy.

[Quest]

maybe you should open your eyes a bit more - then you'd understand what I rote :up:

wait a second are u saying i didnt understand what u wrote on this thread or in general?

because i understood what u wrote on this thread perfectly

*rolls eyes*

[Quest]

Bruv i was thinking the same thing when i read his analogy.

His analogy is flawed.
*rolls eyes*

opps i said i would let it slide

[sisterKhadija]

:salams

oh and i dont think it'll wear off inshaAllah, cos u'll just remember that Allah chose for u to be with em and then u'll get all lame and mushed up :rolleyes:

EXACTLY! We have been married almost 6 years ALHUMDULLIAH :hidban:

[Medievalist]

you freshies man :smack:

says the ultimate freshmeistro :rolleyes:

[Medievalist]

Bruv i was thinking the same thing when i read his analogy.


great minds and all that ;)


wait a second are u saying i didnt understand what u wrote on this thread or in general?

because i understood what u wrote on this thread perfectly

*rolls eyes*

generally.

read the thread - definition of love and see what I contributed **roll eyes**

[Abu Mus'ab]

Just dont check the ''on the nature of love" thread *Roll Eyes*

[Quest]

great minds and all that ;)




generally.

read the thread - definition of love and see what I contributed **roll eyes**

i read it, u talking about the sitting in the rain feeling warm around (the one) bolly wood stuff romeo?

or the 1st part which i agreed with:D

anywho this convo passed its sell by date, i thought u meant i didnt understand ur post in this thread.

and my ur a realist comment was just a tease. *rolls eyes*

[Ebony]

Ach they all pretend to be hard and un-romantic, all macho like "Im a man - thump chest- a real man"

but really once they get married they turn into soft mush and all dopey do-eyed like > :o > :rolleyes:

[Medievalist]

Ach they all pretend to be hard and un-romantic, all macho like "Im a man - thump chest- a real man"

but really once they get married they turn into soft mush and all dopey do-eyed like > :o > :rolleyes:

if your talking abt me then the way I was b4 is the way I am now - by ALLAH I havent changed in that regard.

[bint]

Ach they all pretend to be hard and un-romantic, all macho like "Im a man - thump chest- a real man"

but really once they get married they turn into soft mush and all dopey do-eyed like > :o > :rolleyes:
ebonz ma scrooge..ure right as usual..

oh bwoy..look at ya rep:D

[Ebony]

Im talking generally.

And why do people perceive soft, mushy, romantic guys to be effeminate males? :scratch:

[ibn suleman]

Im talking generally.

And why do people perceive soft, mushy, romantic guys to be effeminate males? :scratch:

western sterotypes

[Ebony]

western sterotypes

You sure? Because I see it on here too :rolleyes:

[Quest]

if your talking abt me then the way I was b4 is the way I am now - by ALLAH I havent changed in that regard.

hehe justification is a sign that one touched a nerve:D

[Abu Mus'ab]

Im talking generally.

And why do people perceive soft, mushy, romantic guys to be effeminate males? :scratch:
Depends on what your definition of soft and mushy is.

[Ebony]

Depends on what your definition of soft and mushy is.

I dont mean "under the thumb"/ "wrapped around finger" soft and mushy :rolleyes:

[Medievalist]

I dont mean "under the thumb"/ "wrapped around finger" soft and mushy :rolleyes:

gud gud

[ibn suleman]

You sure? Because I see it on here too :rolleyes:

yeh..its just been adopted by others.

[Abu Mus'ab]

I dont mean "under the thumb"/ "wrapped around finger" soft and mushy :rolleyes:
gud gud.

I thought you meant it like that metrosexual types.

[Eemaan]

You're the one that I want (you are the one I want), ooh ooh ooh,
The one that I want (you are the one I want), ooh ooh ooh,
The one that I want (you are the one I want), ooh ooh ooh,
The one I need (the one I need),
oh yes indeed
(yes indeed)

[GuCcI]

salaam

u know wat i think....

i think only some people have "the ONE"... and others dont. too bad :rolleyes:

[ur_yusra]

If there was such thing as 'the one'..

People wouldn't get divorced.

[RaNdOm]

If there was such thing as 'the one'..

People wouldn't get divorced.

:salams

*POP* *bubble bursts*

thats what i dont understanddddddd :(

[Medievalist]

If there was such thing as 'the one'..

People wouldn't get divorced.

but yr working on the assumption that every1 gets their The One - not every1 does. :(

[Ruprecht]

I often get the feeling that my one was the one that got away...

[RaNdOm]

I often get the feeling that my one was the one that got away...

:salams

if they got away... that means the WERENT the one :torture:

[Medievalist]

I often get the feeling that my one was the one that got away...

ditto :rotfl: :rotfl:

[Medievalist]

:salams

if they got away... that means the WERENT the one :torture:

now thats just CRAZEE ( :wacko: ) talk

:badguy:

[RaNdOm]

now thats just CRAZEE ( :wacko: ) talk

:badguy:

:salams

no it isnt... it means that Allah chose someone else for u, and theres wisdom behind why u dint end up with em... ...And Allah knows while you do not know. (Surah al-Bakarah 2:216)

ppl that think otherwise are deluded and live in some fake loved up world :D

[Medievalist]

:salams

no it isnt... it means that Allah chose someone else for u, and theres wisdom behind why u dint end up with em... ...And Allah knows while you do not know. (Surah al-Bakarah 2:216)

ppl that think otherwise are deluded and live in some fake loved up world :D


Obviously - no1 is questioning ALLAH Ta'ala's wisdom. But thats doesnt mean she aint the one :rolleyes:

Taking one quote and applying it hither-thither doesnt make ones point any stronger.

and fake loved up world? AY HAI - yeh zalim zamana humein aashiqon ko kya samajh sakhe ga?

:inlove:


:rotfl:

ALSO - no1 knws what the future holds ;).

Fasbir li hukmi Rabbil 'alameen.

Du'as are accepted - even though they take some time to come into effect :D:D

[RAJMIN]

well....the one is written for you in ur taqdeer....so yes i do believe in the one....coz he/she is out there somewhere...and its planned by allah that you will marry him...

but....not until i marry him will i say he's the one :P who knows....:rolleyes:

but then what if u get divorced and then marry another? is that in your taqdeer?

does taqdeer mean fate?

[RaNdOm]

Obviously - no1 is questioning ALLAH Ta'ala's wisdom. But thats doesnt mean she aint the one :rolleyes:

Taking one quote and applying it hither-thither doesnt make ones point any stronger.

and fake loved up world? AY HAI - yeh zalim zamana humein aashiqon ko kya samajh sakhe ga?

:inlove:


:rotfl:

ALSO - no1 knws what the future holds ;).

Fasbir li hukmi Rabbil 'alameen.

Du'as are accepted - even though they take some time to come into effect :D:D

:salams

:rolleyes: u cant know if anyones the one until uve married them... anythin before :2hammers:

but u right about no1 knowin what the future holds... so maybe in the future u'll find out, until then :zzz:

[Ruprecht]

:salams

:rolleyes: u cant know if anyones the one until uve married them... anythin before :2hammers:

but u right about no1 knowin what the future holds... so maybe in the future u'll find out, until then :zzz:

So... what if you think you met "the one" but they married someone else?

Should you wait for him to die, or for them to get divorced or something?

:D

[RaNdOm]

So... what if you think you met "the one" but they married someone else?

Should you wait for him to die, or for them to get divorced or something?

:D

:salams

well that aint an impossibility... but how could u think they were the one when in the end they went and married someone else... Allah must have sumt better planned for u, and instead of holdin onto the past how come people dont put their trust in Allah and hope the future will bring em sumt better...


And indeed We have created man, and We know what his ownself whispers to him. And We are nearer to him than his jugular vein (by Our Knowledge). [50:16]

Allah knows u better than u know ur ownself... so is it not better to be pleased with someone that Allah has chosen rather than what ur own heart inclines towards?

[Medievalist]

:salams

well that aint an impossibility... but how could u think they were the one when in the end they went and married someone else... Allah must have sumt better planned for u, and instead of holdin onto the past how come people dont put their trust in Allah and hope the future will bring em sumt better...


And indeed We have created man, and We know what his ownself whispers to him. And We are nearer to him than his jugular vein (by Our Knowledge). [50:16]

Allah knows u better than u know ur ownself... so is it not better to be pleased with someone that Allah has chosen rather than what ur own heart inclines towards?


no arguing with any of that HOWEVER good things come to those who wait ;)

[Abu Mus'ab]

So... what if you think you met "the one" but they married someone else?

Should you wait for him to die, or for them to get divorced or something?

:D
I think you're supposed to kill him or summat, it'd take too long for him to die normally *Roll Eyes*

Note: I do not condone any voilent phychotic behaviour against other peoples spouses - Signed: Abu Mus'ab

[Ruprecht]

:salams

well that aint an impossibility... but how could u think they were the one when in the end they went and married someone else... Allah must have sumt better planned for u, and instead of holdin onto the past how come people dont put their trust in Allah and hope the future will bring em sumt better...


And indeed We have created man, and We know what his ownself whispers to him. And We are nearer to him than his jugular vein (by Our Knowledge). [50:16]

Allah knows u better than u know ur ownself... so is it not better to be pleased with someone that Allah has chosen rather than what ur own heart inclines towards?

ahh... speaking hypothetically of course *cough*, but what I meant was...
If you can marry someone and get divorced because they weren't really "the one" and then find "the one" later...
How do you know that you have really found "the one"?
...say you are married and you meet someone else and you think that they might be "the one".
Does that mean that you were wrong, or that "the one" is actually "the two"?
What if you aren't sure that someone is "The One", does that mean you just keep waiting?

Is "The One" in any way a useful, grounded, concept?
...or is it just mushy emotional trash which has leaked into our culture from thousands of years of bad love songs and tacky romantic poetry? :D ;)

[Abu Mus'ab]

Obviously - no1 is questioning ALLAH Ta'ala's wisdom. But thats doesnt mean she aint the one :rolleyes:

Taking one quote and applying it hither-thither doesnt make ones point any stronger.

and fake loved up world? AY HAI - yeh zalim zamana humein aashiqon ko kya samajh sakhe ga?

:inlove:


:rotfl:

ALSO - no1 knws what the future holds ;).

Fasbir li hukmi Rabbil 'alameen.

Du'as are accepted - even though they take some time to come into effect :D:D
Maybe, maybe not.

She might have seemed to be 'the one' for you, that doesn't mean you were 'the one' for her.

[Abu Mus'ab]

ahh... speaking hypothetically of course *cough*, but what I meant was...
If you can marry someone and get divorced because they weren't really "the one" and then find "the one" later...
How do you know that you have really found "the one"?
...say you are married and you meet someone else and you think that they might be "the one".
Does that mean that you were wrong, or that "the one" is actually "the two"?
What if you aren't sure that someone is "The One", does that mean you just keep waiting?

Is "The One" in any way a useful, grounded, concept?
...or is it just mushy emotional trash which has leaked into out culture from thousands of years of bad love songs and tacky romantic poetry? :D ;)
Perhaps it'd be best to learn the definition of "the one"

And while you're at it give me the definition too *Roll Eyes*

[Medievalist]

I think you're supposed to kill him or summat, it'd take too long for him to die normally *Roll Eyes*

Note: I do not condone any voilent phychotic behaviour against other peoples spouses - Signed: Abu Mus'ab

Bro - you're thinking is freakily like someone else I knw

Maybe, maybe not.

She might have seemed to be 'the one' for you, that doesn't mean you were 'the one' for her.

:rotfl:

That last line has to be a joke. Brother - :rotfl:

[RaNdOm]

ahh... speaking hypothetically of course *cough*, but what I meant was...
If you can marry someone and get divorced because they weren't really "the one" and then find "the one" later...
How do you know that you have really found "the one"?
...say you are married and you meet someone else and you think that they might be "the one".
Does that mean that you were wrong, or that "the one" is actually "the two"?
What if you aren't sure that someone is "The One", does that mean you just keep waiting?

Is "The One" in any way a useful, grounded, concept?
...or is it just mushy emotional trash which has leaked into out culture from thousands of years of bad love songs and tacky romantic poetry? :D ;)

:salams

rupert u need a slap :torture:

the divorce thing confuses me too so i cant say anythin about that, i just think its really scary and that Allah protects me from that cos i dno id just go weird...

how can u meet someone thats the one after u married since u aint lookin...? serious... shouldnt ur wifes love be enough... sometimes its sad like it seems like husbands get bored and wanna look for another wife to liven their lives up a bit or sumt...

and grass always looks greener on the other side, instead of wondering if theyre the one, if ur married to em why cant u just believe they ARE the one no matter what, and whatever u face with em is part of what Allah wanted u to go through..

n i think there is the one... but that doesnt mean its gotta be some romeo type loser

[Medievalist]

n i think there is the one... but that doesnt mean its gotta be some romeo type loser

ladies PRETEND they dont like that stuff but we all knw the truth. :rolleyes:

[Abu Mus'ab]

Bro - you're thinking is freakily like someone else I knw



:rotfl:

That last line has to be a joke. Brother - :rotfl:
What can i say, i am a psycho, and psychos think alike *Roll Eyes*

wot you laughing at eh? *Roll Eyes*

[Abu Mus'ab]

ladies PRETEND they dont like that stuff but we all knw the truth. :rolleyes:
Bruv i don't know this whole romeo business, but from what i heard romeo was a panzy *Roll Eyes*

[RaNdOm]

ladies PRETEND they dont like that stuff but we all knw the truth. :rolleyes:

:salams

i love you juliette so let me go kill myself... yeh really makes me go weak at the knees :rolleyes:

[ibn suleman]

yes "the one" does exist and u'll be together in Jannah :)

[Ebony]

This is all too soppy ~hoses everyone down~

[Eemaan]

^^do ibn suls first please

girlfriend...just cut it out :buttkick:

[`asiya]

yes "the one" does exist and u'll be together in Jannah :)

yep and seriously I think thats ultimately where "the one" will be found :insha: we make it there , u just never know whats going to happen from one minute to the next in this world its so transitory

[ibn suleman]

This is all too soppy ~hoses everyone down~

lool :D

^^do ibn suls first please

girlfriend...just cut it out :buttkick:

:rubeyes:

yep and seriously I think thats ultimately where "the one" will be found :insha: we make it there , u just never know whats going to happen from one minute to the next in this world

:up: insha'Allah

[Eemaan]

your the one that i want...ooh ooh ooh
oh yesssssssss indeed
please have a beeeeeeeeeeeard
ooh ooh ooh

[Al-Irhaab]

your the one that i want...ooh ooh ooh
oh yesssssssss indeed
please have a beeeeeeeeeeeard
ooh ooh ooh

did u smoke something before coming online today :scratch:

[Eemaan]

did u smoke something before coming online today :scratch:

only smoked one of my old hijaabs, does that count?? :(

[Al-Irhaab]

only smoked one of my old hijaabs, does that count?? :(

did it have any of the good stuff in it :D

[Eemaan]

did it have any of the good stuff in it :D

bit of left over ghobi curry and ketchup, nawt to write home about :(

ooh oooh oooooh

[summer786]

:nono:

unless its sheesha ;)

[Medievalist]

What can i say, i am a psycho, and psychos think alike *Roll Eyes*

wot you laughing at eh? *Roll Eyes*

laffin at the line innit. Me not be someONE ONE? :rotfl: too funnay
yes "the one" does exist and u'll be together in Jannah :)

inshaALLAH


on another note - someone talked maybe that she was the one for you doesnt mean you were the one for her.


Having thought abt it it's possible - could be that he wasnt gud enough for her. maybe.:D:D

[Kal-El]

It's all dependant on the person. I choose to believe there is such a thing as the 'One'. ;)

[Nawar]

Anyone who votes the 3rd option, let me know, you deserve reps. :up:

[ur_yusra]

Anyone who votes the 3rd option, let me know, you deserve reps. :up:

Dish em out love, dish em out.

[summer786]

Anyone who votes the 3rd option, let me know, you deserve reps. :up:

read my starting post girlie ;)

[Kal-El]

I hope that sceptism feels good!

[Nawar]

Dish em out love, dish em out.


Did you say dishes? Neg rep. :rolleyes:



(joking) :p

[ur_yusra]

Did you say dishes? Neg rep. :rolleyes:



(joking) :p

I meant dishwasher!

[Khuzamah]

Yeh i believe in the one, but for some people's cases there is the two/three/four so really depends on what your Qadr.
I dont think the one has to be within the same country or same age etc, you could go on holiday to japan and end up meeting someone from the same ethinic background as you who is only a few years older and you may end up marrying that person (if wali is there).


yeah same, its written in ur qadr already but for some ppl it is one, some ppl it is more than one...

[bint_ummi]

i wouldn't say 'the One' like that... you got me confused...

i believe that it is already writtten for me, but allahu alim who it is... i can't change whatever will happen(i'm not saying actions don't have consequences, i'm saying that i don't know what actions and consequences i will do/they will have... allahu alim... and i shouldn't have to explain this here...)

[Na'eemah]

Personally, I think its a load of .-.-

If it was true, then they have to happen to be alive in the same time period, have to happen to (usually) be in the same geographical area, the right age, single, etc etc.

Basically it's just not true :p

I don't know the Islamic viewpoint on this, but I think people either get on or don't, or change over time and drift apart. You can't think 'oh, my partner's behaving like this, they can't be the one' or vice versa.

No offense to people who believe in it. Just wait 'til the 'love' feeling wears off :p

Why don't he hurry up *roll eyes* :torture: :vomit:

[Abu Baraa]

i wouldn't say 'the One' like that... you got me confused...

i believe that it is already writtten for me, but allahu alim who it is... i can't change whatever will happen(i'm not saying actions don't have consequences, i'm saying that i don't know what actions and consequences i will do/they will have... allahu alim... and i shouldn't have to explain this here...)

'Know that what has passed by you was not going to befall you,

and that which has befallen you was not going to pass by you.

and know that

VICTORY comes with PATIENCE,

RELIEF comes with AFFLICTION,

and EASE comes with HARDSHIP..'

[bukhari]

[Ignatius F. Peace]

When I saw her ... I knew ...

I still know it 27 years later ...

[Songbird]

It's a good thing Iggy can still *see* her :D

Hang on...where is that emoticon?

Oh, here y'go :inlove:

[bint_ummi]

'Know that what has passed by you was not going to befall you,

and that which has befallen you was not going to pass by you.

and know that

VICTORY comes with PATIENCE,

RELIEF comes with AFFLICTION,

and EASE comes with HARDSHIP..'

[bukhari]


wow bro... can you believe i didn't understand a word of the first two lines... like... whats your point?

[peace2u]

He was agreeing with you sis :D Whomever Allah (swt) has written to be our spouce, is the one because Allah (swt) has written that person into our destiny.


Peace

[JayC]

whoever you marry is 'the one' because it was destiny.

[Honey87]

I believe in 'the one'

"the pen has been lifted and the ink has dried"

[Abu Mus'ab]

wow bro... can you believe i didn't understand a word of the first two lines... like... whats your point?
It's a hadith.

if it was written that you will get married to the one then you will definately get married to him, and if it wan't written then you will never get married to him.

[MMS]

'the one' might make u miserable for the rest of ur days http://www.wtfdetroit.com/forums/images/smilies/shrug%20smiley-013.gif

[RaNdOm]

'the one' might make u miserable for the rest of ur days http://www.wtfdetroit.com/forums/images/smilies/shrug%20smiley-013.gif


:salams

yeh we all feel for ur husb :(

[Abu Mus'ab]

'the one' might make u miserable for the rest of ur days http://www.wtfdetroit.com/forums/images/smilies/shrug%20smiley-013.gif
In that way there's no such thing as 'the one'

meh i can't be bothered to think about whether there is or isn't a one *Roll Eyes*

[urban_rose]

I thought this thread was about the One God at first....

[MMS]

In that way there's no such thing as 'the one'

meh i can't be bothered to think about whether there is or isn't a one *Roll Eyes*

i mean everybody on the thread is being like 'i believe in the one :inlove:'
and it may very well be that they only marry that oneperson, but that oneperson might not make them very happy :nuts:

i dunno sumtimes it seems like marriage is more of a test for some people http://www.wtfdetroit.com/forums/images/smilies/shrug%20smiley-013.gif

[Kal-El]

I don't understand the question. The only people who can consider to answer it are those who have been in previous marriages which were unsuccessful, so they are now looking for that particular person in which they can have a happy marriage life with.

Non Muslims, however, use this term of "the one" often because they go through several relationships before they marry, and even then it's rarely because of whether or not they think they have found "the one", but because they're getting old or want a secure long-term relationship.

For the Muslims here, especially the sisters, to be talking about this means they expect some sort of perfect man to propose to them and live a perfect marriage.

That is not the case. What will happen is that you will choose to marry a man, and the only time where you will get to know him is during that marriage. If your marriage is happy inshallah, then you can claim "I have a great husband" but you can't say "I found my one" because it implies you've had previous relationships with other men, which have failed.

[Abu Mus'ab]

I thought this thread was about the One God at first....
Ditto, but it turned out to be just another marriage thread *Roll Eyes*

[RaNdOm]

:salams

i think we should all stop thinking about it :D

[Medievalist]

9 pages later . . .



:salams

i think we should all stop thinking about it :D

:rotfl:

[RaNdOm]

9 pages later . . .
:rotfl:

:salams

lol well better late than never :D plus i hate it when discussions starting goin yes no yes no yes no... maybe... :scratch: i dno... its like shurrup and sit down :torture:

[Medievalist]

:salams

lol well better late than never :D plus i hate it when discussions starting goin yes no yes no yes no... maybe... :scratch: i dno... its like shurrup and sit down :torture:

we call gyals like u militant :rubeyes:

:rotfl:

[RaNdOm]

we call gyals like u militant :rubeyes:

:rotfl:

:salams

and u aint the 1st :D :D :D

[Medievalist]

:salams

and u aint the 1st :D :D :D

:rubeyes: :rubeyes:

[Abu Mus'ab]

:rubeyes: :rubeyes:
Meaning you're not the first to say that *Roll Eyes*

[Medievalist]

Meaning you're not the first to say that *Roll Eyes*

thank you einstein **roll eyes**

[Abu Mus'ab]

thank you einstein **roll eyes**
Anytime brav :cool:

[urban_rose]

Anytime brav :cool:

check out Abu Mus'ab's cockney dialect :rotfl:

[Tic~Tac-Toe]

Do you believe in 'the One'?

No such thing, if you are one in a million in china, then there are thousands just like you and thats only in china lol

[afsalim]

Of course, unless you believe in polygamy, then there will be many! :D

[PiElle2]

Men and women are meant to be a pair, not 'the one' pair. The one you married IS 'the one' and thank Allah and be grateful you have a marriage! It's when you start thinking the one you marry may not be 'the one'... then you are inviting problems to your own marriage, least to say, keeping shaytaan very entertained.

[ze leetle elper]

I think this is probably an unfair question to young people who haven't yet had children and who don't yet know what their hearts are capable of.

Let me explain what I mean.

When you have children, you don't have The One child whom you magically and mysteriously love above all the others.

You love each more than you ever thought it was possible to love another human being.

And yet each is an individual encounter. Each kid is his or her person in their own right and you love him or her for the person that he or she is.

You don't love more or less depending on the individual child. You love each child individually.

I think this is also true for spouses. Fortunately and unfortunately.

The truth of the world is that people lose spouses. Either through illness, divorce, fatal accident, or war.

The One is, I believe, the person whom God sets before you.

This isn't a test for God to find the right person for you.

A brilliant point and I think this sums up the whole thread. Your question has been asnwered.