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`asiya
31-03-07, 01:15 PM
Conditions of wali (guardian)

Question:
What exactly constitutes a guardian, as is needed in the nikkah ceremony. I am a female Muslim, and I want to know if my older brother is acceptable for this role.

Answer:

Praise be to Allaah.

There are three pillars or conditions for the marriage contract in Islam:

Both parties should be free of any obstacles that might prevent the marriage from being valid, such as their being mahrams of one another (i.e., close relatives who are permanently forbidden to marry), whether this relationship is through blood ties or through breastfeeding (radaa’) etc., or where the man is a kaafir (non-Muslim) and the woman is a Muslim, and so on.

There should be an offer or proposal (eejaab) from the walee or the person who is acting in his place, who should say to the groom “I marry so-and-so to you” or similar words.

There should be an expression of acceptance (qabool) on the part of the groom or whoever is acting in his place, who should say, “I accept,” or similar words.

The conditions of a proper nikaah (marriage contract) are as follows:

Both the bride and groom should be clearly identified, whether by stating their names or describing them, etc.

Both the bride and groom should be pleased with one another, because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “No previously-married woman (widow or divorcee) may be married until she has been asked about her wishes (i.e., she should state clearly her wishes), and no virgin should be married until her permission has been asked (i.e., until she has agreed either in words or by remaining silent).” They asked, “O Messenger of Allaah, how is her permission given (because she will feel very shy)?” He said: “By her silence.” (Reported by al-Bukhaari, 4741)

The one who does the contract on the woman’s behalf should be her walee, as Allaah addressed the walees with regard to marriage (interpretation of the meaning): “And marry those among you who are single…” [al-Noor 24:32] and because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Any woman who marries without the permission of her walee, her marriage is invalid, her marriage is invalid, her marriage is invalid.” (Reported by al-Tirmidhi, 1021 and others; it is a saheeh hadeeth)

The marriage contract must be witnessed, as the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “There is no marriage contract except with a walee and two witnesses.” (Reported by al-Tabaraani; see also Saheeh al-Jaami’, 7558)

It is also important that the marriage be announced, as the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Announce marriages.” (Reported by Imaam Ahmad; classed as hasan in Saheeh al-Jaami’, 1027)

The conditions of the walee are as follows:

He should be of sound mind

He should be an adult

He should be free (not a slave)

He should be of the same religion as the bride. A kaafir cannot be the walee of a Muslim, male or female, and a Muslim cannot be the walee of a kaafir, male or female, but a kaafir can be the walee of a kaafir woman for marriage purposes, even if they are of different religions. An apostate (one who has left Islam) cannot be a walee for anybody.

He should be of good character (‘adaalah – includes piety, attitude, conduct, etc.), as opposed to being corrupt. This is a condition laid down by some scholars, although some of them regard the outward appearance of good character as being sufficient, and some say that it is enough if he is judged as being able to pay proper attention to the interests of the woman for whom he is acting as walee in the matter of her marriage.

He should be male, as the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “No woman may conduct the marriage contract of another woman, and no woman can conduct the marriage contract on behalf of her own self, because the zaaniyah (fornicatress, adulteress) is the one who arranges things on her own behalf.” (Reported by Ibn Maajah, 1782; see also Saheeh al-Jaami’, 7298)

He should be wise and mature (rushd), which means being able to understand matters of compatibility and the interests of marriage.

The fuqahaa’ put possible walees in a certain order, and a walee who is more closely-related should not be ignored unless there is no such person or the relatives do not meet the specified conditions.

A woman’s walee is her father, then whoever her father may have appointed before his death, then her paternal grandfather or great-grandfather, then her son, then her grandfathers sons or grandsons, then her brother through both parents (full brother), then her brother through her father, then the sons of her brother through both parents, then the sons of her brother through her father, then her uncle (her father’s brother through both parents), then her father’s brother through the father, then the sons of her father’s brother though both parents, then the sons of her father’s brother through the father, then whoever is more closely related, and so on – as is the case with inheritance.

The Muslim leader (or his deputy, such as a qaadi or judge) is the walee for any woman who does not have a walee of her own.

And Allaah knows best.

Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid

`asiya
29-09-07, 05:52 AM
bump

Pro_Candy
29-09-07, 06:00 AM
Thanks Sis :) Still have questions, but will save them for tomorrow.

ammarcool
29-09-07, 11:09 AM
:jkk:

dunya_or_akhira
29-09-07, 01:58 PM
Conditions of wali (guardian)

The fuqahaa’ put possible walees in a certain order, and a walee who is more closely-related should not be ignored unless there is no such person or the relatives do not meet the specified conditions.

A woman’s walee is her father, then whoever her father may have appointed before his death, And Allaah knows best.

Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid

a brother who lives not far from me in london recently acted as a wali for his sisters wedding, the father did no appoint him. the sister married without her fathers consent as he most likely would not of approved, so how do you place that wedding in relation to the above ruling by the respectable shaykh

`asiya
29-09-07, 02:11 PM
a brother who lives not far from me in london recently acted as a wali for his sisters wedding, the father did no appoint him. the sister married without her fathers consent as he most likely would not of approved, so how do you place that wedding in relation to the above ruling by the respectable shaykh

well Allah knows best, i cant say and for sure im not giving a ruling about their marriage, but only what i have understood from a scolar about this is that firstly the father should have a valid reason for refusing the brother, because the prophet salAllahu alleyhi wa salam said " if a pious muslim comes to ask for your daughter in marriage then marry her to him, or there will be great fitnah in the land" ( and how very true that is today subhanAllah with nationalisim,racisim and tribalism rampant ) but otherwise her father is her rightful walli and should be the one to marry her Allahu alam, but u need to ask a scolar about this.

dunya_or_akhira
29-09-07, 03:47 PM
JzkAllah Khair

umm shuyookh
29-09-07, 06:32 PM
a brother who lives not far from me in london recently acted as a wali for his sisters wedding, the father did no appoint him. the sister married without her fathers consent as he most likely would not of approved, so how do you place that wedding in relation to the above ruling by the respectable shaykh

I Know a brother in a similar situation; the sister took up the niqaab and her parents were enraged and persecuted her till she decided to run away from home. She was a student at a uni and she went to school, hiding whenever she hears that her parents are around to force her home with them. She got married to one of the brothers in the school and a local sheikh acted as her wali. Some time after that, the situation was taken to sheikh munajid in saudi and he opined that the marriage was wrong because the father has to be consulted first, it is only if he refuses that the 'waliship' become transferable to another person. It is not sufficient to assume he will refuse even though the brother is almost certain he will. Allah knows best.

Abandoned-Mind
29-09-07, 06:35 PM
I Know a brother in a similar situation; the sister took up the niqaab and her parents were enraged and persecuted her till she decided to run away from home. She was a student at a uni and she went to school, hiding whenever she hears that her parents are around to force her home with them. She got married to one of the brothers in the school and a local sheikh acted as her wali. Some time after that, the situation was taken to sheikh munajid in saudi and he opined that the marriage was wrong because the father has to be consulted first, it is only if he refuses that the 'waliship' become transferable to another person. It is not sufficient to assume he will refuse even though the brother is almost certain he will. Allah knows best.

:up:

dunya_or_akhira
30-09-07, 12:09 PM
Shaykh Munajid:up: JazakAllah Khair , may Allah swt reward him and may we re-unite in Jannah and inshaAllah in this lifetime

`asiya
21-09-08, 07:39 AM
a brother who lives not far from me in london recently acted as a wali for his sisters wedding, the father did no appoint him. the sister married without her fathers consent as he most likely would not of approved, so how do you place that wedding in relation to the above ruling by the respectable shaykh


is it permissible for the wife to move to another wali at whim?

Question:


My country is full of agglomerations of evils,this is worse on university campuses, for this reason students want to get married before graduation, the parents are the biggest problem.As for the male we hear that they do not need the permission of their waliy, as for female we escape this by making a proposal, if the father gives an unislamic reason(e.g i don't want you to marry now,I don't like his tribe,I am not please with his jumping trouser or beard keeping or his religion when the brother is an upright sunni and the sister's waliy is not) then we abandon him for the grandfather or the brother.If they also refuse then we go ahead with the marraige with the amir of our society (MSS;muslims student society) Please is this correct, how is it done. Please explain everything about this act because it is the only way out, and already very common around us , if it is wrong what should those that have done it now do .(some of them now have kids).

Answer:

Praise be to Allaah.

Firstly:

It is not permissible for a Muslim woman to get married without the permission of her wali (guardian), rather it is essential for her to have a wali who will get her married, because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “There is no marriage without a wali.”

Narrated by Abu Dawood, 2085; classed as saheeh by Shaykh al-Albaani. And he (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Any woman who gets married without the permission of her wali, her marriage is invalid, her marriage is invalid, her marriage is invalid.” Narrated and classed as hasan by al-Tirmidhi, 1102; Abu Dawood, 2083; Ibn Maajah, 1879 – from the hadeeth of ‘Aa'ishah. Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Irwa' al-Ghaleel, 1840.

Al-Tirmidhi said, commenting on that:

This is the principle that was followed by the companions of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), including ‘Umar ibn al-Khattaab, ‘Ali ibn Abi Taalib, ‘Abd-Allaah ibn ‘Abbaas, Abu Hurayrah and others. Thus it was narrated that some of the fuqaha' of the Taabi'een such as Sa'eed ibn al-Musayyib, al-Hasan al-Basri, Shurayh, Ibraaheem al-Nakha'i, ‘Umar ibn ‘Abd al-‘Azeez and others said: There is no marriage except with a wali. This is also the view of Sufyaan al-Thawri, ‘Abd-Allaah ibn al-Mubaarak, Maalik, al-Shaafa'i, Ahmad and Ishaaq. End quote.

In the answer to question no. 2127 you will find an important summary of the conditions and essentials of marriage, and the conditions to be met by the wali.

In the answer to question no. 7989 there are further important details concerning the importance of having a wali in order for the marriage to be valid.

Secondly:

Allaah has commanded walis to marry off the women who are under their care, and not to mistreat them by preventing them from getting married for no legitimate reason. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“And marry those among you who are single (i.e. a man who has no wife and the woman who has no husband) and (also marry) the Saalihoon (pious, fit and capable ones) of your (male) slaves and maid‑servants (female slaves). If they be poor, Allaah will enrich them out of His Bounty. And Allaah is All‑Sufficient for His creatures' needs, All‑Knowing (about the state of the people)”

[al-Noor 24:32]

Similarly, the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) commanded walis not to prevent the marriage of the woman whom Allaah has placed under their care if a suitor whose religious commitment and character are good comes to propose marriage. He said: “If there comes to you one with whose religious commitment and character you are pleased, then marry (your daughter or female relative under your care) to him, for if you do not do that there will be fitnah and widespread mischief in the land.”

Narrated and classed as hasan by al-Tirmidhi, 1084. Classed as hasan by al-Albaani in Irwa' al-Ghaleel, 1868).

Both the verse and the hadeeth quoted point clearly to two things:

1 – The command to arrange the marriage is addressed to the wali, which indicates that the matter has to do with him and the nikaah cannot be done unless he is involved in giving his female relative or ward in marriage to the one who has proposed marriage. The ahaadeeth that we have quoted clearly indicate this and support it.

2 – It is not permissible for a wali to mistreat his ward and deny her her right to marriage; that is a kind of mistreatment that leads to great fitnah that affects both religious commitment and worldly interests.

If both the woman and her wali act in accordance with this, the security of the family will be achieved and a great deal of evil will be removed from matters of religion and morals.

But if the wali refuses to give her her rights to marriage with no legitimate reason, it is permissible for her to move to another, more distantly-related, wali, such as her older brother, paternal uncle or grandfather, so long as that is done on the orders of the shar'i qaadi, and not by her or by her walis. If there is no wali from her family, it is permissible for the qaadi or someone who is in a similar position to act as her wali and arrange her marriage, because it is narrated that ‘Aa'ishah (may Allaah be pleased with her) said: The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Any woman who gets married without the permission of her wali, her marriage is invalid, her marriage is invalid, her marriage is invalid, and if there is a dispute then the person in authority is the wali of the one who has no wali.”

Based on this, there is no sin on a woman whose wali denies her her right to marriage if she refers the matter to the Muslim qaadi and he appoints her grandfather, paternal uncle or older brother as her wali.

Shaykh Saalih al-Fawzaan was asked about a similar issue and he replied:

It is not permissible for a woman to arrange her own marriage. If she arranges her own marriage, then her marriage is invalid according to the majority of scholars, both ancient and contemporary. That is because Allaah, may He be exalted and glorified, addresses walis with regard to the issue of marriage and He says (interpretation of the meaning):

“and (also marry) the Saalihoon (pious, fit and capable ones) of your (male) slaves”

[al-Noor 24:32]

And the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “If there comes to you one with whose religious commitment and character you are pleased, then marry (your daughter or female relative under your care) to him…” And he (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “There is no marriage without a wali and two witnesses of good character.”

With regard to what the questioner mentions about having read in some books of fiqh that a woman may arrange her own marriage, this is the weaker view, and the correct view is that which is supported by evidence that indicates the opposite.

With regard to what she says about her situation and that her opinion goes against her father's, because her father wants her to marry a man who is of good lineage and status and is compatible with her, whereas she does not think that is important, and rather she is inclined towards marrying a man who she thinks is religiously committed, even if he is not of good lineage and status or compatible with her, her father is in the right in this case, and her father is more far-sighted. She may imagine that this person is good for her when in fact he is not good for her, and she has no right to go against her father's wishes so long as he is looking out for her best interests. If it happens that another person is good for her and is compatible with her in status, lineage and religious commitment, but her father refuses to give her to him in marriage, then in that case he is being unjust in preventing the marriage, and the role of wali then passes to the next closest guardian among her relatives. But in this case it is essential to refer the matter to the qaadi so that the guardianship may be passed from the unjust father to another wali. Neither she nor any of her other walis has the right to conduct her marriage without the approval of her father. It is essential to refer the matter to a Muslim qaadi who will examine the matter and assess the situation. If he thinks that the guardianship should pass to someone else, he will transfer it, according to what is best. It is essential for things to be done properly with regard to marriage. End quote.

Al-Muntaqa min Fataawa al-Shaykh al-Fawzaan, 5/242, 243

Thirdly:

Whoever gets married in a manner that is not Islamically acceptable, such as a woman who gets married without a wali, her marriage is invalid and the couple must be separated immediately. The children are to be attributed to the man who married the woman, if they thought that what they did was permissible, but if they knew that their marriage was invalid, then the children must be attributed only to their mother.

This invalid marriage leads to many negative consequences, such as: loss of the woman's rights, because there is no proof of this marriage, so her entitlement to the mahr is not proven, nor is she entitled to maintenance. It also leads to the spread of immorality and corruption in society, especially among students, since it is possible, by means of these false contracts, for every pregnant woman or every man and woman who are found in a dubious situation, to claim that they are married by means of customary marriage. It also means that it is not possible to prove the children's lineage in such a marriage, which means that they and their lineage will be lost.

The way to set this matter straight is to go to the wali and tell him frankly what has happened, then to do the marriage contract again, with his agreement. If he does not agree, then they should be separated.

And Allaah knows best.



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