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i know its halal to marry three women but i just think its ludacris. i dont understand the purpose of marrying so many women. i think from a sister point of view that i wouldnt want to share my husband to other women. if i get married, i would want to be his number one and i would him to myself. i dont understand how sisters allow this to happen. wouldnt make a sister feel bad??? im sorry but i dont view this subject in any postive way. of course it would make a brother happy...but what about the sisters??? please tell me what you think brothers and sisters...
Sulaiman Harun
31-03-07, 12:21 AM
It doesn't seem bad.
umm_yusuf
31-03-07, 12:23 AM
Subhanallah akhi, I think first and foremost, please fear Allah in your speech. Making such remarks about something that Allah has not only legislated but according to some scholars given a preference to is something that might take a person outside of the folds of Islam.
Al Aqsa
31-03-07, 12:48 AM
Assalaamu alaykum Yanal,
It is only natural to feel jealousy when we think about our husbands with someone else. It is a very personal and intense relationship. However, Allah has allowed a man to marry up to 4 wives if he can treat them all fairly and I'm sure you are aware of this already alhamdulillah. I think women who are part of a polygamous relationship have a very high level of piety mashaAllah because those women push aside their natural feelings of jealousy to help their husbands in fulfilling a Sunnah and by helping another Muslimah. Imagine if there was a Muslim sister whose husband passed away and she had 3 young children, for example. Her family had also passed away so she had no one, nowhere to live, no money - what would you do as another Muslimah? Would you be able to cast your feelings aside to help your sister? What if that was you in that position? I know that if that was me I would not want to be alone and I would not want my children growing up on the street.
Sometimes things are not clear cut, there are many reasons that people enter such marriages and there is no shame in it. If a man can marry more than one woman, inshaAllah he can have more children,- adding to the Ummah is a truly rewarding deed.
I think if we as women, can 'forget' about the 'intimate' side of it, increase our piety, be comfortable with ourselves and not have insecurities then alhamdulillah we can do it inshaAllah.
May Allah reward all the sisters who are a part of it for the sake of Allah - Ameen.
Wasalaam,
Mujaheedah
31-03-07, 12:50 AM
Of course Allah (swt) made this permissible but I would be more worried about the guy then the wives, he would have to be very careful not to make them angry... cuz three angry women could be a dangerous thing. I think that any guy who does that would need alot of money and psych on standby. But if a person could handle it he is allowed to and it's not up to us to say whether he's allowed to or not.
abdusamad
31-03-07, 12:53 AM
Subhanallah akhi, I think first and foremost, please fear Allah in your speech. Making such remarks about something that Allah has not only legislated but according to some scholars given a preference to is something that might take a person outside of the folds of Islam.
He is a young brother :)
umm_yusuf
31-03-07, 01:12 AM
He is a young brother :)
My words were careless...I apologise Yanal.
Al-Muhaajiroun
31-03-07, 03:01 AM
i know its halal to marry three women but i just think its ludacris. i dont understand the purpose of marrying so many women. i think from a sister point of view that i wouldnt want to share my husband to other women. if i get married, i would want to be his number one and i would him to myself. i dont understand how sisters allow this to happen. wouldnt make a sister feel bad??? im sorry but i dont view this subject in any postive way. of course it would make a brother happy...but what about the sisters??? please tell me what you think brothers and sisters...
Salaam, I'm confused here, you say it's halal then after you say it's ludacris, you should becareful of the things you say. :confused: I'm sorry to say this but the women that i have noticed that will allow poligamy are religous women I have noticed. Subhan ALLAH my wife is 100% in support in me marrying a 2nd wife. Even before we got married she asked me "how many wives do you wan't "well i said Subhan ALLAH, because it was really unexpected coming out of her, and even before marriage i never thought of a 2nd wife because I haven't got married to the 1st one let alone the 2nd one. Alhumdulillah now I'm married she is still in support of it, so now i have to decide which nationality should i get married next. :D :Thinks Hard:
Al-Muhaajiroun
31-03-07, 03:04 AM
deleted: mmm i can see your 11 yrs old Masha ALLAH.
i know its halal to marry three women but i just think its ludacris. i dont understand the purpose of marrying so many women. i think from a sister point of view that i wouldnt want to share my husband to other women. if i get married, i would want to be his number one and i would him to myself. i dont understand how sisters allow this to happen. wouldnt make a sister feel bad??? im sorry but i dont view this subject in any postive way. of course it would make a brother happy...but what about the sisters??? please tell me what you think brothers and sisters...
are u sure your 11 years old?
i know its halal to marry three women but i just think its ludacris. i dont understand the purpose of marrying so many women. i think from a sister point of view that i wouldnt want to share my husband to other women. if i get married, i would want to be his number one and i would him to myself. i dont understand how sisters allow this to happen. wouldnt make a sister feel bad??? im sorry but i dont view this subject in any postive way. of course it would make a brother happy...but what about the sisters??? please tell me what you think brothers and sisters...
Sis Yanal! I agree with you'r statement..No women want to share there husband with other womens.. but according to Islam it's allow a Men to do marriage more then one women..if he able take care them properly...:up:
umm_huraiyrah
31-03-07, 07:43 AM
Assalamu Alaikum!
At first i was like no way would I share my husband with another woman. But I love my husband and if he wanted a co-wife, I would be ok with it and would love her as a sister. I know my husband wants children. So that would be reason number one. Reason two, I'm not the jealous type. Reason number 3 I'd have help with dale. reason 4.I see it benefitting all three or four of us. I see it as something logical. If Dale came and said I want a co wife. I'd be like ok but I'd want to meet her and all that to make sure I lilked her to inshallah. And my top number one reason is because dale supports any decision I make. I would do same for him in return.
Habiba
mashallah sis dana! it's seem you have good undustanding with dale :up:
Supernova Nebula
31-03-07, 08:48 AM
i know its halal to marry three women but i just think its ludacris. i dont understand the purpose of marrying so many women. i think from a sister point of view that i wouldnt want to share my husband to other women. if i get married, i would want to be his number one and i would him to myself. i dont understand how sisters allow this to happen. wouldnt make a sister feel bad??? im sorry but i dont view this subject in any postive way. of course it would make a brother happy...but what about the sisters??? please tell me what you think brothers and sisters...
then let them be, their lives and if that makes them happy
Honestly at this rate we need an entire section dedicated to Polygamy.
Abu Mus'ab
31-03-07, 09:23 AM
are u sure your 11 years old?
ditto, i was going to ask the very same thing.
Arsalan
31-03-07, 09:38 AM
Deal with it yanal.
Peacenik
31-03-07, 12:16 PM
Lucky guy is all I can say...
What is there to think? :scratch:
SO long as he's a Muslim who's going to be Just between them, he can marry 3 women...
:jkk:
urban_rose
31-03-07, 01:56 PM
are u sure your 11 years old?
hmm, thinking that myself....
Three? Why not four?
:D Why not One? Two?
:jkk:
Abu Mus'ab
31-03-07, 02:32 PM
hmm, thinking that myself....
Yeah, that really isn't an 11 year old writing that.
Subhanallah akhi, I think first and foremost, please fear Allah in your speech. Making such remarks about something that Allah has not only legislated but according to some scholars given a preference to is something that might take a person outside of the folds of Islam.
sorry i didn't say this i am just posting a another forum to another forum to make more people understand sorry once again
Yeah, that really isn't an 11 year old writing that.
and why don't you think that isn't a 11year old writing!
are u sure your 11 years old?
yep i am 11
Abu Mus'ab
02-04-07, 09:02 AM
and why don't you think that isn't a 11year old writing!
11 year olds are still asking things like "where do babies come from" *Roll Eyes*
If you said you were 15 i might have believed you.
Refugee
03-04-07, 01:39 PM
thats pretty cool :up:
sadia n
04-04-07, 02:47 PM
Salaam, I'm confused here, you say it's halal then after you say it's ludacris, you should becareful of the things you say. :confused: I'm sorry to say this but the women that i have noticed that will allow poligamy are religous women I have noticed. Subhan ALLAH my wife is 100% in support in me marrying a 2nd wife. Even before we got married she asked me "how many wives do you wan't "well i said Subhan ALLAH, because it was really unexpected coming out of her, and even before marriage i never thought of a 2nd wife because I haven't got married to the 1st one let alone the 2nd one. Alhumdulillah now I'm married she is still in support of it, so now i have to decide which nationality should i get married next. :D :Thinks Hard:
seriously i must say dat men have a hard heart , ur wife loves u and support u , and u r thinking 4 another marriage. i think its not farz ,only a sunnat ,so i think there is alot of other things to make happy to u r allah and u r wife ok..just think alot of other things which allah said 4 us..i.e offer da prayer,go 4 umrah ,go 4 hajj,,,,,,,,,ok u men r always try to find tha thing which will only make u happy.there is alot of other sunnats tooooooo.:rolleyes:
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