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how long wud u want to prepare for wedding?
INPUT PLEASE :spamsign: :bangbang:
muslimah85
29-03-07, 10:14 AM
wudu or would you? ;) :p
sorry i corrected it
talkign bout date from when tis official
ibn suleman
29-03-07, 10:16 AM
:scratch:
isnt this the same as the engagement to wedding thing?
muslimah85
29-03-07, 10:17 AM
Preferablly for me? 6 months :)
:scratch:
isnt this the same as the engagement to wedding thing?
nah its not its to do with preparing for stuff like when uknow for certain how long wud u want
ibn suleman
29-03-07, 10:20 AM
nah its not its to do with preparing for stuff like when uknow for certain how long wud u want
well it depnds on the booking dates available for halls :p
ammarcool
29-03-07, 10:21 AM
well it depnds on the booking dates available for halls :p
:up: Yes! First we have to allocate the slot!
Forget the hall go for a resturant instead :p
Quicker the better. Less stress. :up:
ammarcool
29-03-07, 10:26 AM
Forget the hall go for a resturant instead :p
Yes :up:, Mosque+Residence is enough!
ibn suleman
29-03-07, 10:27 AM
Forget the hall go for a resturant instead :p
not if ur gujji :p
not gonna find a restaurant big enuf :p
mosque is good though :up:
lol..erm..ure gonna need a year...
:p oh hel i forgot ure not a guy he he. :D
Bint Yusuf
29-03-07, 11:23 AM
one week...im a muslimah of simplicity
ibn suleman
29-03-07, 11:35 AM
it all depends on what number sibling u are :p
4 people need 6 MONTHS to PREPARE for the wedding????
explain
sunrise
29-03-07, 12:00 PM
4 people need 6 MONTHS to PREPARE for the wedding????
explain
exactly, if u found the person u want and it's agreed, just got 2 the mosque quick thing:D simpler the better
muslimah85
29-03-07, 12:03 PM
not as easy as you think, study, preperation, change takes time. For some easier better for others its not. 6 months is not that long , it goes very quick. Adjusting to another kind of life is not about being quick and fast.
Prepeartion is importnant, for me anyway. Mashallah we shouldnt judge why others want more times. Each unto their own :)
4 people need 6 MONTHS to PREPARE for the wedding????
explain
loool
yeah like muslima85 says :p we need to study prepare..mentally..spiritually..blah blah :D
and then shopping wedding preps..wth..*shrugs*
muslimah85
29-03-07, 12:10 PM
6 months is not a lot. I remeber my mate got engaged in Nov and getting married in june, aside with uni she's got a lot to prepare for and its nearly June! It was like she got engaged yesterday. we have to take into consideration family/venue etc whether we like it or not
yeah id need 9 months. :outta:
Al-ghurabah
29-03-07, 12:12 PM
1st thing it depends on booking and fidning a hall free ...
then sorting out catering.. cloths etc..
$HugoBoss$
29-03-07, 12:12 PM
4 people need 6 MONTHS to PREPARE for the wedding????
explain
Well i got 2 years to prepare sis and i've already thought about who i'm going to invite, what food is going to be served at which hall or maybe i might have it on a cruise ship who knows lol, also what i'm going to wear etc. This stuff takes time because you want everything to go well :up:
It's just ONE day. Not even that..a FEW hours.
Do people really need months to prepare for a few hours? Are you going to be planning instructions on how to eat and drink for your guests?
its not jus preparin bout the weddin man
its self preparartion :smack:
muslimah85
29-03-07, 12:15 PM
its not jus preparin bout the weddin man
its self preparartion :smack:
exactly.
Jesus some people need a day so they think everyone does!
Were all diffferent? :)
exactly.
Jesus some people need a day so they think everyone does!
Were all diffferent? :)
yup lol.
i dunno its always been like that in my family theres always be been 6 months or more..like a year advanced prep..
done a few wedding i know how ruff it can get, so id rather do it with full organisation.
and the mental preparation is the naggin husband..how to deal with it :D
What do you mean by self-preparation? How long do you spend in the shower? :rubeyes: Weeks?
If you mean mental preparation - you do that when your considering the marriage proposal :rolleyes: And no amount of preparation will prepare you for marriage life - it's a journey of a lifetime.
Do you honestly believe someone who sits around thinking for a few months will be more happy in they're marriage than someone who has already decided and got their planning done in a few weeks?
What do you mean by self-preparation? How long do you spend in the shower? :rubeyes: Weeks?
If you mean mental preparation - you do that when your considering the marriage proposal :rolleyes: And no amount of preparation will prepare you for marriage life - it's a journey of a lifetime.
Do you honestly believe someone who sits around thinking for a few months will be more happy in they're marriage than someone who has already decided and got their planning done in a few weeks?
i wont go into detail :D
leave it to the girls :D
im so sorry but i dontthink i cud jump into gettin married the next day. its too much..gotta let the info absorb man.
I thought the first post, was in regards to the actual wedding day or whatever :confused: I dont think you can ever really mentally prepare yourself for marriage, the change and adjusting and what to expect until you are there, even 6 months is no where near enough for that. lol
Al-ghurabah
29-03-07, 12:21 PM
not talking about how long it takes to get ready on wedding day!
rather the whole wedding itself hiring place, catering, deco.. invites, cards etc..
cnt do it all in 1 day or day before..
I thought the first post, was in regards to the actual wedding day or whatever :confused: I dont think you can ever really mentally prepare yourself for marriage, the change and adjusting and what to expect until you are there, even 6 months is no where near enough for that. lol
lol nawar..
personally i dont think i cud give it 3 months..id miss my mum too much..:(
ibn suleman
29-03-07, 12:29 PM
if we generalise... theres a difference here as to how long men think they need compared to women...the latter needing a lot more time........to do shopping :p :outta:
.: Anna :.
29-03-07, 12:33 PM
less than a month :p
we did three dif functions in that kinda timescale 4 planning n it all went fine.
i dnt like dragging it out for ages bc wedding preparation can get too annoying, if it goes for so long u get sick of it
ammarcool
29-03-07, 12:40 PM
4 people need 6 MONTHS to PREPARE for the wedding???? explain
have to purchase some some some stuffs....KURTAs, CLOTHES...
have to put a FACE LIFT for our home. anyhow for me it needs greater than 6months
ur_yusra
29-03-07, 01:16 PM
I'd prefer not to prepare personally :D
I'd prefer not to prepare personally :D
Oh yeah. Im with you on that. Knew you would come round to my way of thinking. That should be an option in the poll. :up:
ze leetle elper
29-03-07, 01:36 PM
I think it depends on how quick you can get a hall/ restaurant booking, and then choosing a date when you know your loved ones will be able to attend :)
For us, we had 3 months from the 'hann' to the wedding date. But actually only 2 months to prepare everything since the last month before the wedding was Ramadhan :)
Well i got 2 years to prepare sis and i've already thought about who i'm going to invite, what food is going to be served at which hall or maybe i might have it on a cruise ship who knows lol, also what i'm going to wear etc. This stuff takes time because you want everything to go well :up:
cruise ship? now u would HAVE to invite me there
sunrise
29-03-07, 01:43 PM
Well i got 2 years to prepare sis and i've already thought about who i'm going to invite, what food is going to be served at which hall or maybe i might have it on a cruise ship who knows lol, also what i'm going to wear etc. This stuff takes time because you want everything to go well :up:
personally from my experience in getting married, the more time u spend on preparation the more chance there is for disaster and mock ups trust me i know lol!
49 days
Exactly the number of days till my last exam InshAllah :1popcorn:
Exactly the number of days till my last exam InshAllah :1popcorn:
Fantastic :D
muslima_89
29-03-07, 02:16 PM
i'd need a long long long time :O
i'd need a long long long time :O
Same here :up:
ur_yusra
29-03-07, 03:36 PM
Exactly the number of days till my last exam InshAllah :1popcorn:
Cool.. That means you can make it to his wedding :up:
perfectpearl
29-03-07, 04:59 PM
for my bros wedding it took like about 2 months
He just had to find a good place. find a deal.
The bride of course the dress and shoes. (u know how picky girls get..so it takes a long time to get the PERFECT things)
we pretty much did everything last minute though. My bro bought the center pieces on the day of his wedding.
We were really rushed I think 2 months is good but you need to organize the time rather than just leaving everything at the last minute.
Like they say,
"If it weren't for the last minute, nothing would get done around here" :D
Niqaabi
29-03-07, 07:12 PM
ASAP! In the masjid no need for halls and flowers etc etc, that ill leave up to hubby to sort out for the walima.
akhi , trying making a short wudu :D
evryone still decidin what to do? shall i help u decide/? :nuts:
Abu Baraa
29-03-07, 07:55 PM
I tthink one can prepare for his/her wedding within 2 months or less depends on how things turn out. I don't think it's right to delay marriage as soon as u find the right person as long as u are mentally and financially capable to take of your wife. I know a good sister that got married within a week and she has a beautiful marriage with her husband and another story a friend of mine once attented a nikkah, only to find out that the couple met that morning and the masaagid where the nikkah took place both the couple and the girl's mum and dad attend the study circle. Preparations is no big deal unless you wanna live like richie rich, fancy cars,party and bull crap,building mansions etc,etc and before u know it u become nutts like wacko jacko. Make dua,purify your intentions,place ur trust in Allah and stay patient and insha'Allah it would turn all good for you insha'Allah.:coolbro:
heaven2002
29-03-07, 07:55 PM
if ur getting married the sunnah way then u just need a day :up:
enough time to arrange nikah service at ur local mosque and time to go out and get some dates to hand out after nikah:up:
i dont like all this fuss over weddings, especially big ones
lol wow..met that ,morning? :eek:
Maalikah
29-03-07, 09:30 PM
I thought you meant wudhu! :rubeyes:
Certainly would have been an interesting question then! :o
Surely the answer is as long you need within reason. And the answer will vary for each individual given their circumstances.
Al Qadr
29-03-07, 10:12 PM
November 11th :outta:
November 11th :outta:
are u gettin married? :eek:
Al Qadr
29-03-07, 10:15 PM
.......................
edit - :eek:
om,g u are...u didnt tell me..im hurt :crying:
Al Qadr
29-03-07, 10:23 PM
om,g u are...u didnt tell me..im hurt :crying:
:there: :evilb:
Al-Irhaab
30-03-07, 01:43 AM
the time it takes for the girl to say yes infront of her wali an imam and two witnesses and for me to take out the mehr from my account :rolleyes:
u talking like u is preparing for ur exam... no one remembers their wedding .... no need to have a hoo haa... just tell everyone yo am getting married... then tell them yo i got married lets go have a celebration.... and yard all yall pakis that i dont even like... simple done and dusted... spend the money on umrah and as sadaqat that u saved.... :D
look at ali (ra) proposed in the morning got married the same day mashallah what better example does one need
perfectpearl
30-03-07, 02:44 AM
the time it takes for the girl to say yes infront of her wali an imam and two witnesses and for me to take out the mehr from my account :rolleyes:
u talking like u is preparing for ur exam... no one remembers their wedding .... no need to have a hoo haa... just tell everyone yo am getting married... then tell them yo i got married lets go have a celebration.... and yard all yall pakis that i dont even like... simple done and dusted... spend the money on umrah and as sadaqat that u saved.... :D
look at ali (ra) proposed in the morning got married the same day mashallah what better example does one need
LOL...yea i bet it does take a long time for some girl to say yes in front of her father. You know thats why i think he should ask her father (then if the father agrees or so) they should like leave them alone for only 1 minute for the man to propose. The girl will defiantly feel comfortable to say yes or get the hell out of my face. It will be in her hands. I think she will be more comfortable to make the desicon too. It is kinda embarrassing when the father or brother is sitting there. I guess the brother is a lot more comforting but still its like a werid man sitting there proposing. Kinda scary huh :torture:
Supernova Nebula
30-03-07, 05:38 AM
me, personally not a wedding show person, so a week should also be good lol. it's the barakah from the marriage that's more important than the whole showbisness of wedding and all those cultural stuff:D. simple nikah, simple waleemah.:D the life after the wedding day is more important to me. have simple waleemah, then u can concentrate on building your life as a husband and wife, rent/buy a house, and some important stuff needed for the house. if you spend too much for the waleemah, then there'll be problem later. but of course, this is individual's preference, if you can afford, garden wedding, with all the poshy poshy stuff, then go for it.:D
Abu Mus'ab
30-03-07, 07:12 AM
I thought you meant wudhu! :rubeyes:
Certainly would have been an interesting question then! :o
Surely the answer is as long you need within reason. And the answer will vary for each individual given their circumstances.
"how long wudhu to prepare for a wedding" *Roll Eyes*
Abu Mus'ab
30-03-07, 07:15 AM
*cough* i voted before i read the thread, pay no heed to my vote *Roll Eyes*
"how long wudhu to prepare for a wedding" *Roll Eyes*
a WUDU is wudu ...what's long or short about this ?
Al Qadr
30-03-07, 09:18 AM
om,g u are...u didnt tell me..im hurt :crying:
I am not, jus wanted to clear that up :o
Masumah
30-03-07, 04:17 PM
how long wud u want to prepare for wedding?
INPUT PLEASE :spamsign: :bangbang:
3 months max....shudnt wait too long but get everything sorted:)
peace2u
30-03-07, 04:19 PM
As long as it takes to make it perfect :inlove:
Peace
no idea, women deal with that kind of thing traditionally.
cl@rity
30-03-07, 05:19 PM
well my wedding preps started five months before the actual date and we have alhamdullilah got almost everything sorted and its only been two months ..3 months left to go inshala!!! ..so i vote 3-6 months.
the time it takes for the girl to say yes infront of her wali an imam and two witnesses and for me to take out the mehr from my account :rolleyes:
u talking like u is preparing for ur exam... no one remembers their wedding .... no need to have a hoo haa... just tell everyone yo am getting married... then tell them yo i got married lets go have a celebration.... and yard all yall pakis that i dont even like... simple done and dusted... spend the money on umrah and as sadaqat that u saved.... :D
look at ali (ra) proposed in the morning got married the same day mashallah what better example does one need exactly masha Allah :up: marriage is all about being married, its not about the two minutes it takes u to get married.
ur_yusra
31-03-07, 10:44 AM
yes
Someones on cloud nine.
bint_ummi
31-03-07, 11:06 AM
i figure, invites, hall(our masjid is soooo small), food would take around a month... i don't want nothing fancy though...not like those crazy everyone-is-coming-including-people-that-you've-never-met-before-or-are-just-trying-to-impress-them wedding... quick, simple, and painless... :) wouldn't want to go over a month though... and if you couldn't get a hall within a month, then oh well... no hall, whatever, i wouldn't really care... other people might though(some aunties and uncles are so judgemental-and i'm not even desi...)
Abu Mus'ab
31-03-07, 11:23 AM
Someones on cloud nine.
That place doesn't exist, it's just a mirage people see when they're high on love *Roll Eyes*
cl@rity
31-03-07, 05:37 PM
^^ seems lyk sum1 has first hand experience :p
he responded to the cloud nine of desires and said that its non existant and a mirage .
urban_rose
31-03-07, 06:03 PM
That place doesn't exist, it's just a mirage people see when they're high on love *Roll Eyes*
:rubeyes:
^^ seems lyk sum1 has first hand experience :p
:D
CAn i retract my Vote please :embar:
CAn i retract my Vote please :embar:
lmmaoaooooo.. i take it you dont get that much time to prepre for yours then??!?! :coolbro:
lmmaoaooooo.. i take it you dont get that much time to prepre for yours then??!?! :coolbro:
haha!
Only problem is u cant edit Votes on Multiple choices :blobblue::crying2::crying2::crying2:
haha!
Only problem is u cant edit Votes on Multiple choices :blobblue::crying2::crying2::crying2:
so lak.. are you gna tell us when your gettin married?!?!?!??! :rolleyes: you keep makkin random threads on ummah!!!
obviously i cant say what you told me the other day! :p
so lak.. are you gna tell us when your gettin married?!?!?!??! :rolleyes: you keep makkin random threads on ummah!!!
obviously i cant say what you told me the other day! :p
u like Masala Dosa and Chicken? :up:
u like Masala Dosa and Chicken? :up:
is that what your serving at ya weddin!?!??! yu know.. i went for a meal oncce.. n had that.... but lak.. i left a piece of chicken to "take Home".. and all of a sudden.. it vanished!!!!! :rubeyes:
Abu Mus'ab
01-04-07, 09:15 AM
^^ seems lyk sum1 has first hand experience :p
*ahem* i'm innocent, don't get me mixed up in this whole love business *Roll Eyes*
*ahem* i'm innocent, don't get me mixed up in this whole love business *Roll Eyes*
lmaaooo!!!! musabster feeelin a lil haawwt!! :inlove:
Abu Mus'ab
01-04-07, 09:36 AM
lmaaooo!!!! musabster feeelin a lil haawwt!! :inlove:
:asta: it aint hot today *Roll Eyes*
is that what your serving at ya weddin!?!??! yu know.. i went for a meal oncce.. n had that.... but lak.. i left a piece of chicken to "take Home".. and all of a sudden.. it vanished!!!!! :rubeyes:
Dont tell me you take goody bags home from weddings? :eek3:
ur_yusra
01-04-07, 01:21 PM
I wanna retract my vote to two years..
Darn Pakistani culture :rolleyes:
urban_rose
01-04-07, 01:23 PM
lmaaooo!!!! musabster feeelin a lil haawwt!! :inlove:
:rotfl:
Dont tell me you take goody bags home from weddings? :eek3:
:D he probably does, all the leftovers ......
Refugee
03-04-07, 01:41 PM
a day before you get married
I wanna retract my vote to two years..
Darn Pakistani culture :rolleyes:
Thats a long time :(
Salaams, it's common knowledge that you are able to know if a person is marriage material at about 1 year. As 1 year is too much and with dating haram in Islam, then I would say that half the time of talking and enacting (of course with a Wali or family rep), then you should be able to know if this person is right for you or not.
My question is why do people prolong marriage?
Tic~Tac-Toe
02-09-07, 07:02 PM
how long wud u want to prepare for wedding?
6 months plus, you cant rush perfection ;)
Safeera89
02-09-07, 07:04 PM
I want a mini wedding with just close family and friends :up:
sunrise
08-09-07, 02:07 PM
if it depends on what sibling you are...who gets let off easy:confused:
afsalim
08-09-07, 07:45 PM
Just enough time to book for the wedding venue and do the shopping.
Phoenix CG
09-09-07, 04:24 PM
5 hours lool
1 years plus espicially seeing as i will be getting married back home and not in london.
Ermm, somewhere between 2 and 4 months. :hidban: Big family and all that...
just long enuf for all the peparations 2 be done and thats about it ! :up:
If I find the right person, I wouldnt mind getting married the same day! :up:
shaquille20
10-09-07, 02:29 AM
I met this dodgy sister in the train and said Salam to her... she refused to reply... my goodness... but generally I havent proposed to anyone whom I have said Salams to cos that would make me dodgy...
but anyways, I am a new member and find this forum informative, interesting, funny and some of the posts even make me laugh all the time...
Abu Mus'ab
10-09-07, 08:24 AM
If she doesn't reply to yor greeting then there's nothing "dodgy" about her.
If she doesn't reply to yor greeting then there's nothing "dodgy" about her.
jackly what i was about 2 say...........:up:
MusLim_4Lyf
10-09-07, 01:40 PM
how long wud u want to prepare for wedding?
INPUT PLEASE :spamsign: :bangbang:
around 6months..:)
Because i would want everything at my wedding..and would like it to be memorable..for me and all attending it...because...marriage is only done once..well, sorry...said it wrong..i should say...FIRST marriage can not be forgotton..so why not make it MEMORABLE...
and + girls always take long in shopping..liking something..then buying more..thinking this is not enough..he might not like this..umm..what should i do..these shoes are ugly..this house thing looks widdy...soo yeah..
if you are a girl..you'd know it all..;)
dunya_or_akhira
11-09-07, 01:38 AM
dont delay the wedding....thats the advice in Islam unless its for a really really important reason...so for me..soon as we agree its like counting down the dayyzz
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