don't know what to do

[chaste]

assalamualaikum,
can someone please help me. i am currently separated from my husband i have two daughters, one is 17 months and the other is 2 months. i recently received a 2 bed council property by going homeless. i have had ongoing problems with him and his family for a very long time over petty issues.

i asked him over a month ago to move out of his parents home because i could not handle any arguments any longer, he said no, he doesn't trust me he doesn't want to be with me. he told me to go to my parents house and think it through, i told him i don't want to go to my parents i want a life with him but yet he made me go. i pestered over the phone with him to find a place, to rent to buy he said no.
he found out i applied to the council and then he calls me saying he will go renty but now i don't know what to do as he is still blaming me for a disagreement i had with his mum.

he told me to go to my parents twice once when i was 7 months pregnant and second time for me to sort my head out. my family have tried to reason with him and his family but no one is helping. we are getting the blame. they believe the groom is always right and that the wifes family will always be below the grooms family.

can you please tell me what to do with this homeless situation as the council has given me a property but my husband does not want to come as he says its a lie.

[Phoenix CG]

A council house is not a lie, he'll start to miss you and will finally come around.

[Raggy Doll]

Assalamu alaikum sis

Your situation sounds terrible. the argument with your in laws must have been some what severe for you to now be living in council accomdation with two extremely young infant daughters.

where does your husband think you are living if not in that accomodation? he'll come and visit and see from himself will he not inshallah?

[chaste]

walaikum assalam raggy doll or sister? sorry,
thank you for replying, my husband knows i have received this accomodation as i have told him. but the matter is after so much heartache and running around i finally get somewhere to live but he does not want to live me because i stated to the council i am separated and we honestly are and if he lives with me then it will be a lie as he has got a flat under his name and his parents. if the council know he is living with me they will take it away, and i will not have that chance again to get a council property if something similar like this happens again. he wants me to let go of the council property and go live with him renting after he said so much. he says because i am saying no to him now i will be liable to Allah but what do i do? i'm confused and depressed. will it be that bad for me if he lives in the council property?

[Peacenik]

I can't believe this happened when you've got a 2 month old baby !

May ALLAH (SWT) Ease your pain.

Ameen.

[bint]

why does he not trust u?

[umm_huraiyrah]

Awww I am so sorry. I pray Allah heals the rifts netween you and inlaws and hubby quickly and make your marriage stronger then ever, and you hubby trusts you again ameen.

Habiba

[chaste]

why does he not trust u?

you might be thinking i've done something really wrong, the only thing which i have done wrong is probably talking about my family problems to him as i thought he would ease my troubles but instead he criticised constantly and then i finally cracked and told my family.

[stephenoskie]

Sister you dont derserve this situation
and i really feel for you,

i cant really give you advice but im here if you need to tlak to me
or im sure any of the other sisters will be great to help,

but ill ake dua for you :D

Inshallah
Please Tek Care
Amira

and to be honest i think your husband should stop being so selfish
and he should listen to what you want, because you dont want it out of jealouisty or any think Haraam, you want it for a better family life and better home for your children, so he should listen, Inshallah :D

[stephenoskie]

you might be thinking i've done something really wrong, the only thing which i have done wrong is probably talking about my family problems to him as i thought he would ease my troubles but instead he criticised constantly and then i finally cracked and told my family.

he is probally in secure but my ma once said to me that when they suspect you it some times means that they are doing it to you,
but you know you can never tell but he could just be a moomys boy ( no offense to males outh there close to their mom) and he doesnt wana leave his mommy,
im not sure, as i dont wana say sming to upset you but if i have offended you or any one here im really really sorry