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summer786
17-03-07, 07:37 PM
Is anyone in the process of wearing hijaab? How are you finding it and what made you decide to do it?
I've made small changes...looser+longer clothing....stopped wearing half sleeves (looking back I can't believe I used to wear T-shirts :eek:) but I'm not at the stage where I can put a scarf around my head (I will soon IA). I used to think when I was younger that I'd do it after uni for some reason :scratch: ...but I've been thinking about it for ages and I thought it's a 'now or never' kind of thing
And for sisters who do wear hijaab, how was your experience of going through the journey towards it?
On a different note, do you think loose jeans are acceptable?
scribble
17-03-07, 07:40 PM
I wear hijaab all the time Mashallah, well when I go out. At home I'm okay since no one ever comes over anyway. :up:
I started wearing hijaab since year 4. :p lol. And there's been times (since I was a kid) that I'd take it off now and again, but soon as I hit high school in fact before that also, the hijaab was permenant. :up:
mashallah.. welll done sis.. keep at it inshallah and keep trying your hardest.. ignore pewney comments and looks you may get form peeps.. or just get ya brothers to ruff em up!! :D
as for jeans... depends which way you look at it... it covers you awrah.. but who you imitating... end of the day.. i personally think its a personall judgement each person has to make for themselves! :up:
hey sis well done..:love:
uve given up the half sleevs etc..mashaALlah..
keep it up..ure doing well..
as for jeans..i think its acceptable to wear so long as ure covered with a ajilbab..but that wil come soon..if u have an intention of wearing one..inshaAllah :)
urban_rose
17-03-07, 07:52 PM
wah wah, Guava talks sense at last :D
No, really, it is up to you at the end of the day, i started wearing the hijaab since i were like 10,and only recently the jilbab, i feel that is right for me, but if you feel comfortable wearing loose jeans with suitable top then go for it. Just make sure its not too revealing, thats about it.
As for the hijaab, id say go for it, the earliar the better. You'll never have to worry about a bad hair day ever again :p
looking back I can't believe I used to wear T-shirts
looooll can completely relate to that! I think about it now and think to myself "were you off it girl." Alhamdullilah ive been wearing my hijab for nearly 2 years now (will be 2 years in June inshaAllah).
I think i contemplated on wearing it about a year or so before i actually started wearing it- it was a gradual process of falling in love with the hijab (lol- i used to go to the namaaz room on campus to pray cos i actually became more practising with regards to adhering to salaah during my second year at uni and i used to put the hijab on to pray and didnt want to take it off! it was really strange, like a part of me was being seperated from me. I felt protected with it on).
Anyway i had a reaallyyy arrogant attitude towards the hijab :rolleyes: Astagfirullah i really did! My family isnt particularly practising- most of them are "friday muslims" as i jokingly call them if that! So the concept of hijab was never understood and never explained to me. Unfortunately i used to feel proud of the fact that my parents never told me to wear hijab, the fact that i didnt have to cover up and woohoo look i was soo liberated! :D It isnt that i didnt have morals or principles or that there wasnt boundaries set by my parents but basically like i mentioned we didnt practise that much! (and yes it was quite a challenge to get family members to understand why you chose to wear it- lol, on topof it my sister started wearing it a year later too Alhamdullilah)!
Anyway i used to go around telling people "yeh i dont have to wear it, and im NEVER gona wear it blah blah blah." and what happened? looll 2 weeks literally before my graduation i just shoved it on my head and walked out into town! Alhamdullilah theres been no turning back since then ;)
I think it was the influences around me at the time, i was praying more, iw as spending more time reading Islamic literature, i was spending time with my ISOC, i got involved in FOSIS briefly- so a number of things were bringing me closer to the deen and Allah.
The hijab i truly believe was hidayah from Allah. Nothing else at all. The number of excuses i made- my god i could probably write a book :o (no dodgy comments about the length of this post thankyou :p ) you know the usual- im not ready, i pray thats the main thing, i was always modest and had haya even when i didnt wear it (which by the way was all true), etc etc.. but i do know that by that point- my heart was really really set on it! I was even pass caring of what others would think of it (not that that ever really bothered me). Alhamdullilah one morning i woke up, decided id had enough of the excuses i was making and just put it on. It was as simple as that and i truly thank Allah for instilling the love of the hijaab and the deen into my heart. It makes me feel complete- its true when a sister says she feels naked without it- only someone who wears it will understand that :)
Dont get me wrong- im not perfect, i still wear jeans (aaaarrghy its a weakness, theyre too damn comfortable) but most times i make sure that i am dressed appropriately and that i am covered! Changes come about slowly inshaAllah, do them for the right reasons, for the Love of Allah (swt) and He will never foresake you! He is always there to guide you and to listen to you.
wah wah, Guava talks sense at last :D
sorry... quota exceeded!!! balle balle!! :coolbro:
oh btw i wore it because i know WHY im wearing it. Its a command from Allah (swt) its fard on me and no excuse i make justifys it. Thats the bottom line. I wear it because i believe Allah loves me and this is a law He has prescribed for my benefit.
zesty mashaAllah thats such a beautiful post man.bought tears to my eyes..
u werent told to wear it yet u wore it out of love..now thats what i call sincerity..:S :love:
mashaALlah..im speechless..
umm_huraiyrah
17-03-07, 08:09 PM
I started wearing a hijabi within a month or two of becoming muslim. At first I'd wear it when I left town to go to OKC mosques. Now I wear one all the time.:inlove: It did take some time to work up the encouragement. But Allah gave me the courage to wear it. It was hard cause i live in a large redneck community and me and hubby were only known muslims that lived in this town that I knew of at the time. Now theres me and hubby and another couple and mashallah a muslim doctor at the hospital. Now I am past the stares and looks. It gets easier and most of the time i hardly notice anymore. Though me and hubby was eating dinner in an itallian restraunt and this girl and her friends were paying and getting ready to leave as they was walking out one was pointing at me and hubby started laughing she was so distracted by me that she walked right into her car!!! :rotfl: Then we have a gas station/ convience store with a drive thru window to buy cokes and candy whatnots. I drive up to window one day and this woman looked at me and asked me where I was from. I said here. The look on her face was like she was expecting me to say I was from somewhere in middle east :rotfl: whats funny is I am as white as white can be!!!! :rotfl: then she was like why do you wear that? I said because I'm muslim. She was like oh i thought it was for religious reasons. but as I pulled away i could see her scratching her head. :scratch: The wheels spinning so much in her head, smoke was coming out of her ears. :rotfl: But I wear my hijab with pride now.
Habiba
summer786
17-03-07, 08:11 PM
Though me and hubby was eating dinner in an itallian restraunt and this girl and her friends were paying and getting ready to leave as they was walking out one was pointing at me and hubby started laughing she was so distracted by me that she walked right into her car!!! :rotfl:
Habiba
ROTFL.....what goes around coms around eh? :D
ummbilal
17-03-07, 08:14 PM
Is anyone in the process of wearing hijaab? How are you finding it and what made you decide to do it?
I've made small changes...looser+longer clothing....stopped wearing half sleeves (looking back I can't believe I used to wear T-shirts :eek:) but I'm not at the stage where I can put a scarf around my head (I will soon IA). I used to think when I was younger that I'd do it after uni for some reason :scratch: ...but I've been thinking about it for ages and I thought it's a 'now or never' kind of thing
And for sisters who do wear hijaab, how was your experience of going through the journey towards it?
On a different note, do you think loose jeans are acceptable?
salaam alakum sister,
i made the same tranistion as you about 6 yrs ago and Allhumdulilah wear hijaab all the time now, its something u will do inshaallah as u know its what u need to do, small steps is a good way to do it, wearing loose jeans with a long tunic top to the knees is ok i think, look at this site inshaallah
http://www.shukr.co.uk/Merchant2/merchant.mvc?Screen=CTGY&Store_Code=uk&Category_Code=women
inshaallah you'll find when u wear hijaab things change, u feel powerful as a muslimah and u get lots more salaams well i do anyway as i am white and its not obvious i'm muslim unless i am in hijaab.:hidban:
LOL! sister habiba- funny things happen huh! I remember once i was going into the petrol station to pay for some stuff and this little chav goes "Excuse me," i looked at him and then he did a bit of a double take as if he wasnt sure what to say and he goes to me, "Do you speak english." I gave him the most haughtiest look i could muster and in the most patronising voice said , "uuhh YEHHH probably better than you." :rofl1: :rofl1:
I also had this lady once come up to me at Waterloo station and ask me "why do you wear that." wass soo random! She just walked up to me and started talking to me! I explained the whole thing to her and she left thanking me. Random encounters-lol. Alhamdullilah.
Binty :o yes. My hijab experience is very very dear to me. Even as a muslim (you taker it for granted that a mslim should just know- well the reality of it is, alot of us dont and still dont). It was a big decision and one that i took wisely and one i never imagined i'd take -lol. But thats why i believe we should never have pride and we should be humble. Because Allah can give hidayah to whomever He pleases and take it away from whom he pleases too :)
We should always try to keep a reality check on things inshaAllah.
Its not nice to be judged on wearing or not wearing a hijab- just make dua that Allah protects and guides all our muslim sisters! :D Ameen!
uhkt_al'muminun
17-03-07, 08:34 PM
Jazk'Allahukhair sis 4 this thread insh'Allah this is a boost and a form of encouragment to those sisters not wearing Hijab :)
Alahamdullilah ive been wearing hijab for 3 years (roughly) and walahi ukhti i have no regrets at all...there were hard time and there will continue 2 be hard times (insh'Allah) as it's result reasures why exactly it is i am wearing the hijab which is insh'Allah for the sake of our creator and you know this if you continue wearing it with honour regardless what may come your way.
Those 'hard times' that us muslimah's go through are worth it and i would be happy to go through them again and again as it only encourages me to better myself and to be complete opposite to those whom attack us!
verily with hardship there is ease!
my experience in wearing the hijab has only made me become fund of it day by day Allahuakbar wal'hamdullailh!
May Allah give you the ability to be able to wear the clothing which Allah has bestowed upon us as muslim women with honour!
May Allah make your journey towards the hijab an experience which beautifies you emaan!
And may Allah Azwajal reward us all for our efforts :)
sis my opinon is best to leave the baggy trouser out for many reasons.
but Mash'Allah you are still trying to better yourself and will continue to do so which is a very good thing alahmdullailh...take it step by step and whilst doing so increase ur knowledge of the full hijab so that you'll value it when your time comes for you to put it on insh'Allah.
Allahu'mustaan
Is anyone in the process of wearing hijaab? How are you finding it and what made you decide to do it?
I've made small changes...looser+longer clothing....stopped wearing half sleeves (looking back I can't believe I used to wear T-shirts :eek:) but I'm not at the stage where I can put a scarf around my head (I will soon IA). I used to think when I was younger that I'd do it after uni for some reason :scratch: ...but I've been thinking about it for ages and I thought it's a 'now or never' kind of thing
And for sisters who do wear hijaab, how was your experience of going through the journey towards it?
On a different note, do you think loose jeans are acceptable?
It was a gradual process - loose clothing, then wearing skirts more often, a bandana and then finally a scarf. I think when a girl jumps into the whole scarf thing they don’t really find out the reasons why women have to put it on. What is the purpose for the hijab? It is simply a woman's assertion that judgement of her physical person is to play no role whatsoever in social interaction.
The main reason why I put it on is because Allah commands us; and the second reason is that I believe it is a myth that women in today’s society are liberated. What kind of freedom can there be when a woman cannot walk down the street, without every aspect of her physical self being, ‘checked out’. When I wear the hijab I feel safe from all of this. There is a barrier between me and those who would exploit me. When I cover myself, I make it virtually impossible for people to judge me according to the way I look. The only thing that makes one person better than another is her or his character.
Other girls have a tendency to say, ‘I’ll put it on when I’m ready.’ WHEN are you ready? Now? 2 years? 45 years later? How do you know you’ll live that long? That is the biggest and most stupid excuse most girls in this time have a propensity to use.
After 2 years of wearing the hijab I could never, EVER imagine taking it off. It’s become a part of me. I love it. I’m sure you’ll feel the same way, InshAllah
Edit: I'd say baggy trousers are okay as long as you have a long top over it.
:)
umm_huraiyrah
17-03-07, 08:57 PM
oh btw i wore it because i know WHY im wearing it. Its a command from Allah (swt) its fard on me and no excuse i make justifys it. Thats the bottom line. I wear it because i believe Allah loves me and this is a law He has prescribed for my benefit.
Yeah thats why I started wearing one part time at first,(was a closet muslim at first :o ) because a sister from the mosque stressed how important it is to wear a hijab. And thats was for the sake of Allah. I'll be going into my first year of wearing one in June Inshallah.
Habiba
ummbilal
17-03-07, 08:57 PM
I met a sister at a train station once who told me it was her second day of wearing hijaab and then with tears in her eyes recounted all the mean looks and unreturned salaams she had in those two days, as her hijab was thin and see through and not pinned properly sisters where mistreating her.
mashallah i was so ashamed of my fellow sisters, i told the sister i am a revert and had people treated me that way when i began wearing it i dont know if i still would be, i showed her a good way to pin it and gave her a few web sites that sell hijaabs and jilbabs,
we swopped numbers and send texts every now and then,
sisters i believe Allah put me there to help my sister who was almost ready to remove her hijaab, inshaallah i did help a little.
please remember we r not born knowing and it is Allah that guides us and with that in mind dont be haughty to fellow sisters who may be struggling with hijaab.,
Yeah thats why I started wearing one part time at first,(was a closet muslim at first :o ) because a sister from the mosque stressed how important it is to wear a hijab. And thats was for the sake of Allah. I'll be going into my first year of wearing one in June Inshallah.
Habiba
LOL- looks like june is the month for hijab wearing ;) mashAllah sis, thats wonderful!
I was on a high when i started wearing mine-looll, seriously i used to love it, it was just hard getting people to understand that i was still me! The person inside was still the same, i hadnt changed and i was still going to be me.
It was so hard coz I was so shallow and my family are far from interested and my friends were pretty ignorant so it was especially hard but I thought to myslef it was for the sake of Allah(swt).
Subhanallah, through that alone, my friends stopped talking to me and I had many problems at home and Alhumdulillah I just thought this is part of the test from Allah(swt) and Insha'allah I will not give into the waswasah of shaytaan and Alhumdulillah as much as everyone turned on me, I stuck with it.
I wore jilbab about three months later and niqab about three months after that! and my family totally accept me! as do my new friends! and I have never felt more comfortable, happy or content! Alhumdulillah! :D
... Sorry about the long reply, I get all happy when I think about it and was having a 'moment' :o
umm_huraiyrah
17-03-07, 09:03 PM
LOL! sister habiba- funny things happen huh! I remember once i was going into the petrol station to pay for some stuff and this little chav goes "Excuse me," i looked at him and then he did a bit of a double take as if he wasnt sure what to say and he goes to me, "Do you speak english." I gave him the most haughtiest look i could muster and in the most patronising voice said , "uuhh YEHHH probably better than you." :rofl1: :rofl1:
I also had this lady once come up to me at Waterloo station and ask me "why do you wear that." wass soo random! She just walked up to me and started talking to me! I explained the whole thing to her and she left thanking me. Random encounters-lol. Alhamdullilah.
Binty :o yes. My hijab experience is very very dear to me. Even as a muslim (you taker it for granted that a mslim should just know- well the reality of it is, alot of us dont and still dont). It was a big decision and one that i took wisely and one i never imagined i'd take -lol. But thats why i believe we should never have pride and we should be humble. Because Allah can give hidayah to whomever He pleases and take it away from whom he pleases too :)
We should always try to keep a reality check on things inshaAllah.
Its not nice to be judged on wearing or not wearing a hijab- just make dua that Allah protects and guides all our muslim sisters! :D Ameen!
Yeah Dale loves the double takes!!! :D I have people randomly coming up and asking y I wear it too and I explain. At least they ask you directly, then assume we are forced to wear these. And they leave with much more appreciation in understanding more that it's for god and for protection. Some women ask me where I get my clothes at. :p They like it. But to me clothes are not so much a fashion statement simply a way to dress modestly. Alhumduillah.
Habiba
ummbilal
17-03-07, 09:05 PM
i would love people to come and ask why i dress this way but this is england and people tend to be less forright more reserved and afraid of offending u, but i'd much rather be asked.
.: Anna :.
17-03-07, 09:07 PM
awww sis umm bilal thats really sad that the other sisters treated her in that way :( alhamdulillah its a blessing for her and for u that u came and helped her @ that time :love:
as for me i wore hijab now for about 5 years. i think b4 u make the commitment 2 start wearing it, it seems a bigger deal than it really is. like i felt a bit worried wat will ppl say 2 me and will i have problems from ppl making trouble with me etc (my home town is not a very high muslim population place, and we have some trouble maker type people) but wen i finally went for it i realised it was so easy, i didnt know why i felt worried at all :) i think its whisper from shaytan which makes ppl feel uneasy, he will whisper little small doubts into ur mind but trust me they are not substantial. if u begin 2 wear it u wont regret that at all and u will become really attached to it that u wont b able 2 imagine going out without ur hijab. the same way u feel "how cd i wear t shirt??" u will feel it about not wearing ur hijab, im really sure :)
as for ur jeans maybe u can try gradually with this, because sometimes doing all at once becomes difficult, but then other ppl doing all at once they thrive with that so it depends how u r... but if u could start wearing ur hijab, and long skirts and loose tops etc its better for u i think, and then u might think abt jilbab but i think get urself firm with ur scarf and ur lose clothes first if u think it wd b too much for u
i would love people to come and ask why i dress this way but this is england and people tend to be less forright more reserved and afraid of offending u, but i'd much rather be asked.
Really? People ask me questions all the time! Where i purchased my niqab is often though one time I kinda told them I made it at home with a piece a left over cloth and left an eye slot and I know I shouldn't have :o but they were drunk and so amazed and I just wanted them away from me! and I get asked how I can see all the time and no matter how many times I explain there is a slot for my eyes which they are often looking into intensley, they still don't get it :smack:
umm_huraiyrah
17-03-07, 09:13 PM
LOL- looks like june is the month for hijab wearing ;) mashAllah sis, thats wonderful!
I was on a high when i started wearing mine-looll, seriously i used to love it, it was just hard getting people to understand that i was still me! The person inside was still the same, i hadnt changed and i was still going to be me.
Yeah they expect you to change too :rotfl: SO much is judge by the cover lol. :D Yeah june is the month But also beginning of summer. I stryggled hard with wearing a hijab in this humid hot oklahoma weather. Needless to say i didn't leave house much. But this year i want to cause we got nice lakes and streams and waterfalls (Mostly small ones) around here but don't have a modest swimsuit and can't afford to buy anything right now. :( It's hard in the summer. Lucky me my truck has a nice cool air conditioner. :D Most people last year asked how i wore that in summer i said I get in truck cranck a/c on high and chill :coolsis: Not far walk between truck and store. Alhumduillah, And really when i go from extreme heat like summer and into ice cold grocery store it hurts me with my fibromyalgia so it actually helps me in the cold stores. I wear the shaylas. I lke those.
Habiba
uhkt_al'muminun
17-03-07, 09:14 PM
i would love people to come and ask why i dress this way but this is england and people tend to be less forright more reserved and afraid of offending u, but i'd much rather be asked.
hmm...reminds me :rolleyes:
the other day me and sis 'jihadiya' were in west end minding our own business and a young lady came and approached us regarding some photo shoots or what ever but anywhoo i couldnt help but ask her why she stopped us and there are like hundreds of unconvered girls around :rolleyes: and basically her answer was (well i wont say here :D) anywhoo hours down the line me and sis 'jihadiya' are still in the exact same position talking away for ageeesss with her about islam and the status that it gives us and how honourable we feel with the hijab on etc..
ALAHMDULLAILH she asked 4 our details which added the cherry on the top
mash'Allah that day i went home with a BIG smile on my face alahmdullailh :D
subahn'Allah just when i thought it was all over she told me shes very intrested in islam (still keep in contact with her)
and she loves the whole idea of why muslim women cover which draws her closer to islam mash'Allah. and hearing this from someone who is so into fashion and name brands and every other thing that befalls people today is just amazing mash'Allah
May Allah Guide her to islam
umm_huraiyrah
17-03-07, 09:15 PM
awww sis umm bilal thats really sad that the other sisters treated her in that way :( alhamdulillah its a blessing for her and for u that u came and helped her @ that time :love:
as for me i wore hijab now for about 5 years. i think b4 u make the commitment 2 start wearing it, it seems a bigger deal than it really is. like i felt a bit worried wat will ppl say 2 me and will i have problems from ppl making trouble with me etc (my home town is not a very high muslim population place, and we have some trouble maker type people) but wen i finally went for it i realised it was so easy, i didnt know why i felt worried at all :) i think its whisper from shaytan which makes ppl feel uneasy, he will whisper little small doubts into ur mind but trust me they are not substantial. if u begin 2 wear it u wont regret that at all and u will become really attached to it that u wont b able 2 imagine going out without ur hijab. the same way u feel "how cd i wear t shirt??" u will feel it about not wearing ur hijab, im really sure :)
as for ur jeans maybe u can try gradually with this, because sometimes doing all at once becomes difficult, but then other ppl doing all at once they thrive with that so it depends how u r... but if u could start wearing ur hijab, and long skirts and loose tops etc its better for u i think, and then u might think abt jilbab but i think get urself firm with ur scarf and ur lose clothes first if u think it wd b too much for u
Yeah Anna your right. I went out once without my hijab (thought I broke some toes so was rushing to e/r) Was in truck and was like dale go get my hijab for me. Hurry!! LOL I feel naked without mine. :D Thank god for dark tinted wondows in my truck :D
Habiba
Yeah they expect you to change too :rotfl: SO much is judge by the cover lol. :D Yeah june is the month But also beginning of summer. I stryggled hard with wearing a hijab in this humid hot oklahoma weather. Needless to say i didn't leave house much. But this year i want to cause we got nice lakes and streams and waterfalls (Mostly small ones) around here but don't have a modest swimsuit and can't afford to buy anything right now. :( It's hard in the summer. Lucky me my truck has a nice cool air conditioner. :D Most people last year asked how i wore that in summer i said I get in truck cranck a/c on high and chill :coolsis: Not far walk between truck and store. Alhumduillah, And really when i go from extreme heat like summer and into ice cold grocery store it hurts me with my fibromyalgia so it actually helps me in the cold stores. I wear the shaylas. I lke those.
Habiba
:rofl1: hahahaha ya classic sis! :) Yeh i started wearing it in summer and my cousins goes tro me, "you could have atleast waited till winter, that way your ears would feel warm, wearing hijab now in summer- youre gona find it soo hard." YOu know what? Alhamdullilah i didnt feel it at all! LOL! im not joking- i handled it and i also handled the following year!
They do expect you to change- my best friend thought i felt uncomfortable and i reposnded to that by saying- well obviously im not used to it, its all new to me too! I will admit one thing though- i have beeen sssooo incredibely lucky Alhamdullilah! My friends have all remained my friends, none of them went against me, or didnt try to understand (including all my non muslim friends) and that was great!
Holidays have been interesting with the hijab too- you find that things you would have done easily before without giving it much thought, you would no longer do! (Again because you understand why its forbidden and you dont feel comfortable yourself).
Sister Nazia- mashaAllah you also wear the jilbaab and niqaab! :up:
Sister Anna- youre right, its whispers from ****aan and nothing else.
ummbilal
17-03-07, 09:23 PM
Really? People ask me questions all the time! Where i purchased my niqab is often though one time I kinda told them I made it at home with a piece a left over cloth and left an eye slot and I know I shouldn't have :o but they were drunk and so amazed and I just wanted them away from me! and I get asked how I can see all the time and no matter how many times I explain there is a slot for my eyes which they are often looking into intensley, they still don't get it :smack:
lol mashallah!!!
i get people shouting at me like coz my ears r covered i cant hear lol!
and many people think i cant speak english...lol!!
I am English!!
but just goes to show the sterio types people have in their heads, i am at the moment battling with myself over jilbab, i wear long skirts and long tops and sometimes jilbab, but would like to wear jilbab full time, though i know sometimes it can seem intimidating to some people,
i still havent wore my niqaab outside:(
i wonna go out like:hidban: :hidban: :hidban:
i have my mahrem...my lovely hubby who supports me in almost every way Allhumdulilah he simply asks that i avoid wearing black.. as it scares people, and i respect that.:hidban:
so inshaallah my iman will grow and i'll become a jilbabi/niqaabi instaed of a long skirty/jilbabi!
i want a khamir that the somalian siters wear over funky long skirts and they always have cool shoes like with it too...i was gonna ask a sis where she buys her khamir but realised they make them..i cannot sew to save my life..my husband even offers to sew buttons on for me as he knows i am sooo awful at it:embar: :embar:
hes so :coolbro: Allhumdulilah!!!
when i visited my mum recently in a small town in scotland i was a tad nervous as i'd be like the only hijaabi but i felt fine, my none muslim mum wore a scarf too she said to make me feel comftable her fringe was sticking out and it kinda looked funny but i gotta love her for it, inshaallah she will return to Islam with a beautiful returning,
i went to edinburgh masjid and felt:D and realised i am a hijaabi, no matter if i was the only muslimah on earth i would stick to my hijaab forever inshaallah.:hidban: :hidban: :hidban: :hidban:
aawwww ummbilal sis! thats sssuuchh a sweet post mashaAllah! :o and i can relate to the wanting to wear jilbaab, Im in the same boat- wana wear it but im not sure i can just yet (yes yes again its just an excuse lol- but then like the hijab, inshaAllah there will be a time for that too).
lol mashallah!!!
i get people shouting at me like coz my ears r covered i cant hear lol!
and many people think i cant speak english...lol!!
I am English!!
but just goes to show the sterio types people have in their heads, i am at the moment battling with myself over jilbab, i wear long skirts and long tops and sometimes jilbab, but would like to wear jilbab full time, though i know sometimes it can seem intimidating to some people,
i still havent wore my niqaab outside:(
i wonna go out like:hidban: :hidban: :hidban:
i have my mahrem...my lovely hubby who supports me in almost every way Allhumdulilah he simply asks that i avoid wearing black.. as it scares people, and i respect that.:hidban:
It's so much easier! When I used to wear just the khimar, it was such an effort! You have to find tops with long sleeves, that aren't see-through etc... it was so hard and I used to get sooooo hot in summer coz of all the layers! Alhumdulillah, life is so much easier in a jilbab! and in regards to niqab, take one step at a time and Insha'allah make dua to Allah(swt) that you have the courage to do and feel comfortable etc. Alhumdulillah, that was what I did for months in build up and Alhumdulillah, Allah(swt) answered my dua! :D
summer786
17-03-07, 11:00 PM
lol mashallah!!!
i get people shouting at me like coz my ears r covered i cant hear lol!
and many people think i cant speak english...lol!!
I am English!!
but just goes to show the sterio types people have in their heads, i am at the moment battling with myself over jilbab, i wear long skirts and long tops and sometimes jilbab, but would like to wear jilbab full time, though i know sometimes it can seem intimidating to some people,
i still havent wore my niqaab outside:(
i wonna go out like:hidban: :hidban: :hidban:
i have my mahrem...my lovely hubby who supports me in almost every way Allhumdulilah he simply asks that i avoid wearing black.. as it scares people, and i respect that.:hidban:
so inshaallah my iman will grow and i'll become a jilbabi/niqaabi instaed of a long skirty/jilbabi!
i want a khamir that the somalian siters wear over funky long skirts and they always have cool shoes like with it too...i was gonna ask a sis where she buys her khamir but realised they make them..i cannot sew to save my life..my husband even offers to sew buttons on for me as he knows i am sooo awful at it:embar: :embar:
hes so :coolbro: Allhumdulilah!!!
when i visited my mum recently in a small town in scotland i was a tad nervous as i'd be like the only hijaabi but i felt fine, my none muslim mum wore a scarf too she said to make me feel comftable her fringe was sticking out and it kinda looked funny but i gotta love her for it, inshaallah she will return to Islam with a beautiful returning,
i went to edinburgh masjid and felt:D and realised i am a hijaabi, no matter if i was the only muslimah on earth i would stick to my hijaab forever inshaallah.:hidban: :hidban: :hidban: :hidban:
Alhumdulillah sis...your onthe way to the jilbab, you know you'll get there IA...that's all that matters. Mash'Allah you're on the right path, you've got your hijaab on...Keep it up :)
.: Anna :.
18-03-07, 12:15 AM
awww thats so nice of ur mum she wore a scarf too so u wont b the only one, thats kinda funny masha allah
umm_huraiyrah
18-03-07, 02:38 AM
awww thats so nice of ur mum she wore a scarf too so u wont b the only one, thats kinda funny masha allah
I bet if my mother was still alive she would have done that for me too. That is very sweet mashallah
Habiba
ammarcool
19-03-07, 06:33 AM
May Allah give you the ability to be able to wear the clothing which Allah has bestowed upon us as muslim women with honour!
May Allah make your journey towards the hijab an experience which beautifies you emaan!
:aku_aameen:
:up:
umm_huraiyrah
19-03-07, 02:24 PM
i would love people to come and ask why i dress this way but this is england and people tend to be less forright more reserved and afraid of offending u, but i'd much rather be asked.
Now this is my opinion and my opinion only. But for the sisters thats afraid to wear the hijab. Here is my advice.
Do it gradully. Like I said I was a closet muslimah at first cause i live in a small redneck community that actually in secret there are still Ku Klux Klan still running very strong here. I hardly wore mine out at first. I'd wait till i got to insterstae 35 then I'd start putting mine on. In the city it's a lot easier cause it's more diverse there. As time went on I prayed Allah to give me the courage to start wearing mine around my town. And alhumduillah. Allah gave me not only the courage but also the strength to wear mine. The look's, the stares, and the double takes, can run a bunch of different emotions through you from being mad to embarassed to actually thinking some of the looks were funny. Some can be downright hilarious like the woman that was so distracted by me that she walked right into her car. :rotfl: I still laugh thinking about that one or the lady at drive thru. Sometimes I feel like going to one of those spray on tanning booths and say make my skin brown like middle easterner :D :rotfl:
For me at first, I was not really embarrassed but I was shy. Then I'd get flustered when the stares started happening. Then I'd laugh at the double takes. You can't help but laugh at that :rotfl: then I eventually got to where I ignored most of the looks. I was called a rag head once that made me madder then you know what But I learned to turn around and say God Bless you. Then they don't know what to say to that :D It does get easier as time goes by. And it's very humbling. Allah will give you the courage and strength and the more you wear it the easier it will be and the closer you will be with allah. Now I can't imagine being without my hijabs or shaylas. Inshallah Allah makes it easier for all that decide to wear them. Ameen Now I could careless what the KKK or any redneck or chritian thinks. I wear my hijab to bring me closer to Allah and islam and to protect myself. :D I'm very proud to wear mine cause I know no guy's gonna be saying oh check out that sister I'd like a piece of that. Now thats it's been a year people are coming around to me. I really appreciate the ones that asks why i wear the veil. Because that shows me they are willing to learn why and are not afraid to ask and inshallah they walk away more educated.
Habiba
Bint Yusuf
19-03-07, 03:44 PM
Salaam
Masha'Allah Sister Summer786 well done mabrook sister, don't ever think your alone and when you feel in an akward situation just focus on the reason why you are wearing hijaab, inshAllah i pray that Allah subhana wa ta'ala makes it easier for you ameen.:up:
Soo...I started wearing hijaab when i was 14 and my pupz kinda said wear hijaab tomorrow and you know I was scared of my pupz when he was serious so i did:D I wore a lil badana looking scarf and i went to a white dominated schoool I was like first person to wear a hijaab and got told I had no hair lol, got price stickers stuck on my hijaab got told muslims are only for asians*confused* a lot more too I would found it easier if there were muslimahs in my school however there was no one...
...I actually hated it and wore it to keep my pupz happy but now i'm older 18 I can't believe I use to let these people get to me and now i LOVE wearing hijaab and abaya( i look like a blacked out ninjah ha ha without a niqqab) and far from afraid of letting people know that im a proud muslimah! It makes you feel more spiritual and increases your eeman.
I think loose jeans are okay aslong as you cover your 'behind' lol you know with a long shirt dress maybe? Then casually start wrapping a pashmina around your chest so its like the only thing not cover wil be your neck then you can gradually use a pin to attach your pashmina to your bandana, then phwalaaaa:D
Let us know how your doing after a while inshAllah:)
Bint Yusuf
19-03-07, 04:00 PM
[QUOTE=ummbilal;1724231]lol mashallah!!!
i want a khamir that the somalian siters wear over funky long skirts and they always have cool shoes like with it too...i was gonna ask a sis where she buys her khamir but realised they make them..i cannot sew to save my life..my husband even offers to sew buttons on for me as he knows i am sooo awful at it:embar: :embar:
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sister, what khamir are you talking about? Do you mean them baggy dresses in different styles, colours, patterns almost look like giant fish nets lol:D If you are talking about them they called diracs :) But yet basically you can get shop selling them in Shepherds Bush near the market or they usually get bought from back home or sent here, or all you can do is buy the fabric and get it sewed on the edges for you as it doesn't need to be measured to size :up:
Also just wanted to know like don't mean to go off topic but would you in all honesty:
make assumptions that a sister with a abaya and full hijaab is practicing the deen more than compared to a sister with baggy loose clothes?
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