I. Am. Sad

[Abu Muslim]

In the name of Allah, The Loving One, the Afflicter

Despite all my *smiles* and all that...I've hit a rock bottom, and I'm like *sniff sniff*, sad *very sad face*

Its a very personal thing to me, very.., and those who know me in real life [quite a lot of people here] know that Im not one to get upset, in fact I probably can count the amount of times I've been upset my whole life on one hand...but something has happened and its one more finger to add..

I know I'm going through a test from Allah SWT right now, and other problem is, its a problem in the UK, and Im not even in the country, so when you are at a distance, you feel so helpless..and I dont know why Im writing this..

I would be greatful if you, O Muslims, could remind me of the verses of Allah and if possible, give me some quotes from the ulema for times of distress, no copy and paste stuff please and no long tings, I've read it all before..Just need to turn back to my lord to make me happy again..*tries to smile*

Allah swt says in Surah Dhariyat, verse 55: And remind, verily, the reminding profits the believers.

[Joss]

im new here so i don't know you, or what a happy person you are usually, but I pray that inshallah you reach that happy status once again inshallah ameen :(

[souljaa]

:salams:

I won't be much of a help akhi but I felt i had to post...Hmm only thing I can say is Allah tests those that He loves. Keep your head high and remember your Lord and inshAllah this hardship will surely be replaced with ease inshAllah.

[Hafsah]

inshaAllaah the problem will be resolved soon, it must be very difficult as you are away from home, but try your best to be patient and not to despair, try and be in contact with people from home often as they can bring you some familiarity and comfort

try and take some comfort in the recitation of the quraan and rememberance of Allaah SWT

O ye who believe! seek help with patient perseverance and prayer; for Allah is with those who patiently persevere. (2:153) (http://www.smileycentral.com/?partner=ZSzeb001_ZSYYYYYYAXGB)



[/URL] Say: Shall I give you glad tidings of things Far better than those? For the righteous are Gardens in nearness to their Lord, with rivers flowing beneath; therein is their eternal home; with companions pure (and holy); and the good pleasure of Allah. For in Allah's sight are (all) His servants,(Namely), those who say: "Our Lord! we have indeed believed: forgive us, then, our sins, and save us from the agony of the Fire;"- Those who show patience, Firmness and self-control; who are true (in word and deed); who worship devoutly; who spend (in the way of Allah); and who pray for forgiveness in the early hours of the morning. (3:15-17) (http://www.smileycentral.com/?partner=ZSzeb001_ZSYYYYYYAXGB)


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'...And whosoever fears Allâh and keeps his duty to Him, He will make a way for him to get out (from every difficulty). And He will provide him from (sources) he never could imagine. And whosoever puts his trust in Allâh, then He will suffice him. Verily, Allâh will accomplish his purpose. Indeed Allâh has set a measure for all things.’ (65:2-3) [URL="http://www.smileycentral.com/?partner=ZSzeb001_ZSYYYYYYAXGB"] (http://www.smileycentral.com/?partner=ZSzeb001_ZSYYYYYYAXGB)

[Umm 'Umarah]

I'll keep it short but this helps me alot

Hadhrat 'Umar(RA) became Ill after reciting the words

"Verily, the Doom of thy Lord will indeed come to pass,There is none can avert"
(Qur'an, At-Tur (52):7-8)

and

His sobs could be heard from the back of the congregation when he recited a verse from the Qur'an about Ya'Qub(AS)

"He said: I only complain of my grief and sorrow to Allah.." (Qur'an Surah Yusuf (12):86)

[Abu Muslim]

:salams:

I won't be much of a help akhi but I felt i had to post...Hmm only thing I can say is Allah tests those that He loves. Keep your head high and remember your Lord and inshAllah this hardship will surely be replaced with ease inshAllah.

Walykum Salam,
Jazak'Alla hu khairan for your kind words.

inshaAllaah the problem will be resolved soon, it must be very difficult as you are away from home, but try your best to be patient and not to despair, try and be in contact with people from home often as they can bring you some familiarity and comfort

try and take some comfort in the recitation of the quraan and rememberance of Allaah SWT

O ye who believe! seek help with patient perseverance and prayer; for Allah is with those who patiently persevere. (2:153)

'...And whosoever fears Allâh and keeps his duty to Him, He will make a way for him to get out (from every difficulty). And He will provide him from (sources) he never could imagine. And whosoever puts his trust in Allâh, then He will suffice him. Verily, Allâh will accomplish his purpose. Indeed Allâh has set a measure for all things.’ (65:2-3)


Its a bit difficult to be in contact which is part of the problem, love the last ayah from Talaq, that helped, jazak'Allah.

I'll keep it short but this helps me alot

His sobs could be heard from the back of the congregation when he recited a verse from the Qur'an about Ya'Qub(AS)

"He said: I only complain of my grief and sorrow to Allah.." (Qur'an Surah Yusuf (12):86)

Jazak'Allah hu khair, was looking for thaaat, subhan'Allah I forgot about that ayah in Suruh Yusuf. Oh yea, this isnt complaining to people is it? I do only want to complain to my Lord, I was just asking if people could remind me the verses/mercy of Allah..

[Umm 'Umarah]

Jazak'Allah hu khair, was looking for thaaat, subhan'Allah I forgot about that ayah in Suruh Yusuf. Oh yea, this isnt complaining to people is it? I do only want to complain to my Lord, I was just asking if people could remind me the verses/mercy of Allah..

we know you're not bro... It's just an example of strong his faith was in Allah.

[Abu Muslim]

we know you're not bro... It's just an example of strong his faith was in Allah.

Thanks, I was just checking if it came across as if I did, because [li'ana] its not something I intented to do..

Does time really heal all wounds? *sigh*

[ADZ w3]

:salams

i hope so aki! i hope so!

[Umm 'Umarah]

Thanks, I was just checking if it came across as if I did, because [li'ana] its not something I intented to do..

Does time really heal all wounds? *sigh*

yup, try not to think about it, if it's a matter that is has been resolved/done with....... you should forget about it soon enough. Insha'Allah.

[souljaa]

Thanks, I was just checking if it came across as if I did, because [li'ana] its not something I intented to do..

Does time really heal all wounds? *sigh*

^^^ I think I agree with that statement cos patience is a beautiful thing as mentioned in Surah Yusuf...With patience comes ease which in turn heals the wounds but those wounds should be a reminder to you that Allah surely loves those who loves Him.

[Abu Muslim]

What I find amazing is how in Jannah insha'Allah ta'ala while we are all jamming there, all our feelings and negative stuff from this dunya dissappears...like I could have this all my life and finally in Jannah it will go..I guess thats what true patience is, waiting till then, all your life, fasabran jameel..

[ADZ w3]

:salams

i hpe this section from yasir qahdi's book will help ya in copin wid ur problem or casue for u being sad brv:up:

...the outcome of anything is dependent on the performance of the efforts that are necessary to procure it. In other words, it has already been decreed, for example, that a seed will give fruit if planted, but this will not occur unless the farmer takes the appropriate efforts in irrigating the crop, maintaining it, protecting the seedling as it grows, and ensuring as much as he can that the factors are amenable for the plant to give fruit.

So even though a person believes in the Divine Decree, he must at the same time strive all he can to ensure that the desired goal occurs. So du’a is the means that one uses to achieve the desired goal that one has, and this means in no way contradicts the destiny that has been written for that person.

This stance is clarified by the Prophet’s (SAWS) hadith reported by Thawban, that he (SAWS) said:
“Nothing increases one’s life-span except good deeds, and nothing repels Divine Decree except dua. And verily, a person may be deprived of sustenance due to a sin that he does!”[1]


In other words, the performance of good deeds is a cause of increasing one’s life span, so if a person puts in the necessary effort, the results will be achieved, and this is also destined. So both the means to achieve a goal, and the fulfilment of the goal itself, are already decreed.

If someone were to ask: “How can du’a repel Divine Decree?” we would respond, “The fact that you may be ill has already been decreed by Allah for you, as has the fact that you will ask Allah to cure you of this illness (i.e. both the illness and your asking to cure the illness has been decreed). In a similar manner, a person maybe deprived of his sustenance that was decreed for him, since Allah’s eternal knowledge encompassed the fact that this person would perform a sinful deed that would cause the deprivation of his sustenance. All of this, then, is from the decree of Allah, all Glory and Praise be to Him”. There are a number of ahadith that clarify this point. For example, Mu'adh ibn Jabal reported that the Prophet (SAWS) said:

“Caution will be of no benefit against Divine Decree, but du’ a benefits all things, whether they come down or not. I therefore advise you to make du'a, O servants of Allah!” [2]


So no matter how cautious a person is, he cannot escape what is written for him, simply because Allah controls everything, and nothing escapes His Knowledge or Power. However, by turning to Allah through du’a, it is possible to avert something that might have been decreed. Salman al-Farsi narrated that the Prophet (SAWS) said:

“Nothing repels Divine Decree except du'a, and nothing increases one’s life-span except good deeds” [3]


This hadith informs us in no uncertain terms that the only way that we can repel some Divine Decree is through the means of du'a. So it is possible that some unpleasant matter has been preordained for us, but only if we do not make du’a to avert it from us. So if du’a is made, then this matter will not occur or be fulfilled, whereas if du’a is left, the misfortune will occur.

Another narration in al-Tirmidhi also supports this. The Prophet (SAWS) said:

“There is no Muslim on the face of the earth that asks Allah for anything except that Allah gives it to him, or averts from him a similar evil, as long as he does not ask for something evil or for breaking the ties of kinship”. [4]


From this narration, the benefits of du’a are made clear, and its value is understood. For not only is a person rewarded for making a du’a, but it is also a cause of repelling an evil that was destined for him, and in obtaining the good that he was expecting.

Ibn Hajr, commenting on the benefits of du’a, said:

“And the benefit of performing du’a is the attainment of reward by obeying the command (of Allah to make du’a), and also by the attainment of what is asked for, for there is a possibility that the request is dependent on the du’a, since Allah is the Creator of both the effort and result of the effort!” [5]


Therefore, the proper response to the question posed at the beginning of the chapter is, in the words of Ibn al-Qayyim, as follows:

“The logical consequences of such a reasoning leads to a rejection of all efforts. It can, therefore, be said to a person who holds this view, ‘If the satisfaction of your hunger and thirst has already been destined for you, then it will be fulfilled, whether you eat or not. On the other hand, if it has not been destined for you, it will never occur, whether you eat or not. And, if a son has been destined for you, then you will be granted one, whether you have intercourse with your wife or not. On the other hand, if a son has not been destined for you, then you will never be granted one. In this case, there is no point in you getting married...!’

“Now, will any sane person agree with all of these conclusions ?” [6]


To summarise, then, Divine Decree ( qadr) cannot be used as an excuse not to make du’a. For, just as one strives to ensure that one attains worldly needs, of food, drink and family, so too must one strive in ones religious deeds to attain the desired goal. Du’a is intrinsically related to qadr; in fact, it is a part of one’s qadr. Allah has already decreed that a certain matter will be granted to a servant, or an evil averted from him, if he makes du’a, so if he were to leave du’a, then the desired goal would not be reached.

Hence why it was the Sunnah of the Prophet (SAWS) to make the following du’a during the witr prayer:

“...Bless me in what You have given me. And avert and turn away from me the evil that has been decreed for me, for verily You Decree (all things), and none can decree against You..." [7]


So the Muslim turns to Allah and prays to Him so that any and all evil can be averted from him.

Additionally, it should be remembered that the concept of Divine Decree is one that a human can never fully understand, due to his limited intellect and finite capabilities. The true Muslim does not delve too deeply into the philosophical ramifications of Divine Decree. Rather, he accepts all that has occurred to him in the past as having been destined for him, and he strives to obtain what he desires in the future (as long as it is permissible for him). Since he does not know what has been written for him in the future, he expects the best from Allah, and does everything in his power to ensure that what he wants is granted him. Just like going to work every day will ensure, if Allah wills, that he gets his pay-cheque at the end of the month, so too does making du’a ensure, if Allah wills, that he achieves his desired goal.

[Abu Muslim]

:salams

Additionally, it should be remembered that the concept of Divine Decree is one that a human can never fully understand, due to his limited intellect and finite capabilities. The true Muslim does not delve too deeply into the philosophical ramifications of Divine Decree. Rather, he accepts all that has occurred to him in the past as having been destined for him, and he strives to obtain what he desires in the future (as long as it is permissible for him). Since he does not know what has been written for him in the future, he expects the best from Allah, and does everything in his power to ensure that what he wants is granted him. Just like going to work every day will ensure, if Allah wills, that he gets his pay-cheque at the end of the month, so too does making du’a ensure, if Allah wills, that he achieves his desired goal.

Walykum Salam,
Jazak'Alla hu khair for that man, Im not going to lie to you, I didnt read it all, I scan read it, cos I'll just get a headache trying to take it all in now..but I did read that last bit and subhan'Allah, I should just continue making lots of dua, nothing is impossible when dua is available.

I thikn it all completely comes down to patience, and what better story of patience than that of Yusuf AS [actually ayyub AS has a better story of patience but he aint got his own nasheed]. *plays nasheed in mind*

Oh the Beautiful Story of Yusuf,
Has so much to fill our lives,
sometihng something
the power of patience and the fire of hope,
Must burn in the heart of the wise..

[Raul-7]

I know how you feel. Just put your full faith in Allah that He will remove the sadness from your heart, Allah loves those who put their faith in Him.

And be steadfast. Allah is with the steadfast. (Surat al-Anfal, 46)

Also remember, even the Prophet :saw: faced severe difficulties-

Or did you suppose that you would enter Paradise without facing the same as those who came before you? Poverty and illness afflicted them, and they were shaken to the point that the Messenger and those who believed with him said: "When is Allah's help coming?" Be assured that Allah's help is very near. (Surat al-Baqara, 214)

Also, listening to Qur'an consciously really helps me forget and puts my heart at ease. It helps.

"We send down in the Qur'an that which is a healing and a mercy to the believers" (Surat al-Isra', 82)

[RaNdOm]

:salams

"When My servants asks you concerning Me, I am indeed close (to them): I listen to the calls (da'wah) of every supplicant when he calls on Me: Let them also, with a will, listen to My call, and believe in Me, that they may walk in the right path." [al-Qur'an 2:186]

Allah says: “Verily with hardship comes ease; verily with hardship comes ease.” [Sūrah al-Sharh: 5-6]

You know not, it may be that Allah will afterward bring some new thing to pass. [65:1]

Surely, Allah's Mercy is [ever] near unto the good-doers [7:56]

And never give up hope of Allah's Mercy. Certainly no one despairs of Allah's Mercy, except the people who disbelieve. [12:87]

It may be that you dislike a thing which is good for you and that you like a thing which is bad for you. Allah knows but you do not know. [2:216]

"Race one with another for forgiveness from your Lord and for Paradise, whose width is as the width of the heavens and the earth, which has been prepared for those who believe in God and His messengers.... (Qur'an 57:21)

"Is the morning not near?" [11:81]

[ibn suleman]

maybe something in this post might help ..:)
http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?t=115325

[Abu Muslim]

Also, listening to Qur'an consciously really helps me forget and puts my heart at ease. It helps.

Na'am indeed, listeing to the words of Allah does bring sakinah [tranquility] to ones heart, especially when one understands the meaning, hence I asked for the ayaats so I could be reminded, jazak'Allah.

:salams

Allah says: “Verily with hardship comes ease; verily with hardship comes ease.” [Sūrah al-Sharh: 5-6]

You know not, it may be that Allah will afterward bring some new thing to pass. [65:1]

Surely, Allah's Mercy is [ever] near unto the good-doers [7:56]

And never give up hope of Allah's Mercy. Certainly no one despairs of Allah's Mercy, except the people who disbelieve. [12:87]

It may be that you dislike a thing which is good for you and that you like a thing which is bad for you. Allah knows but you do not know. [2:216]

"Is the morning not near?" [11:81]

Jazak'Allah for them ukthee RanDom, love the one in Surah Sharh, verily with hardship comes ease..

Not sure what the one Suruh Hud about the morning is about..havnt studied it yet..have you got a tafseer on it?

3 days, still not gone..

[Abu_Mohammad_21]

Bro, you mustn't be sad.

Allah - Most High, tests those that he loves. No matter what happens you must always remember that. If I could share you're sadness and lighten your load, believe me I wouldn't hesitate, Muslims watch out for one another. But remember something my brother, our trials and tribulations make you who we are. They shape our personalities, they redefine our character, they clean us of our bad qualities, just imagine Gold in a furnace, the fire in the furnace removes all the impurities leaving only the purest of Gold. Imagine a rough diamond, then imagine all the work that goes into it, leaving it shining and pleasing to the eyes. If we have the right mind-set, we can use our trials to turn us into better human beings, into fearless lions, they turn our hearts into steel, with a soft centre!

We all have problems, we will have more problems, they will keep on coming, our Lord is testing us and we will please our Lord, no other way about it, we can’t fail. We are Muslims man! we don't mess about, you give us problems and we deal with them, we are from the Nation of Muhammad! trials and tribulations only strengthen our resolve. We love Allah and His Prophet, we are Muslims and victory belongs to us here and in the hereafter.

Lets the trials come.

[Reptile]

Tried to compile some of the stuff from La tahzan

And whosoever fears Allah and keeps his duty to Him, He will make a way for him to get out (from every difficulty).
And He will provide him from (sources) he never could imagine. And whosoever puts his trust in Allah, and then He will suffice him. Verily, Allah will accomplish his purpose. Indeed Allah has set a measure for all things. (65:2-3)

…Allah puts no burden on any person beyond what He has given him. Allah will grant after hardship, ease. (65:7)

The prophet blessing and peace be upon him said:

And know that victory comes with patience, and hardship there is a way out, and with difficulty comes ease.

Do not be sad, for you have with you the Qur’an, supplication, remembrance and prayer. You can lighten the load of your anxiety by giving others, doing well and being productive.

….and never give up hope of Allah's Mercy. Certainly no one despairs of Allah's Mercy, except the people who disbelieve.

So We answered his call, and delivered him from the distress. And thus We do deliver the believers (who believe in the Oneness of Allah, abstain from evil and work righteousness). (21:88)

If you help him (Muhammad) not (it does not matter), for Allah did indeed help him when the disbelievers drove him out, the second of two, when they (Muhammad and Abu Bakr) were in the cave, and he said to his companion (Abu Bakr): "Be not sad (or afraid), surely Allah is with us." Then Allah sent down His Sakeenah (calmness, tranquility, peace, etc.) upon him, and strengthened him with forces (angels) which you saw not, and made the word of those who disbelieved the lowermost, while it was the Word of Allah that became the uppermost, and Allah is All-Mighty, All-Wise. (9:40)

Do not be Sad: Remember that you believe in Allah

…Nay, but Allah has conferred a favor upon you, that He has guided you to the Faith, if you indeed are true (49:17)

[Lu'Lu]

Remember the moving story of RasulAllah (SAW) when he was kicked out of Taif and had his sandals soaked with blood after all the stones that the children, subhanAllah the children had chased him out with. Then he sat under the tree, so sad. Here he had come to spread the message of Islam, they had mocked him for being a Messenger, and they had got their own children to humiliate him and pelt him with stones. His most beloved wife Khadijah and his beloved uncle had passed away. The two people who had been his pillars of support, his wife who had stood by him and his uncle who had brought him up. Now he had no one. He was feeling so low, low enough to make this dua.

"Oh Allah! To You alone I make complaint of my helplessness, the limitation in my things and my insignificance before mankind. You are the most Merciful of the mercifuls. You are the Lord of the helpless and the weak, ya Rabbi! Into whose hands do you abandon me? Do you entrust me into the hands of an unsympathetic distant relative who would frown upon me, or to the enemy who has been given control over my affairs. But As long as you are not angry with me, then I do not care..."

Thats it at the end of the day. What do we have to worry about if Allah (SWT) is pleased with us? The people in this dunya, the life of this dunya is all insignificant before our relationship with our Rabb. If he is pleased with us, then alhamdulillah, what more can we want...what more can we need

Laa tahzan..InnaAllaha ma'ana :)

[Umm 'Umarah]

For the heart

In the intricate paths of life,

when difficulties and hardships confront a man,

and the darkness of difficulty and suffering becomes long,

it is patience only that acts like a light for a Muslim,

that keeps him safe from wandering here and there,

and saves him from the muddy marsh of disappointment, desperation and frustration.

- abu Hamid al-Ghazali

[Abu Muslim]

maybe something in this post might help ..:)
http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?t=115325

Jazak'Allah akhee, indeed it did serve as reminder, but I dunno man, I've read all about during times of trials and punishment and so forth before, and similiar stuff has happened before [although maybe not as major] and I know I shouldnt be like this but its so much harder when your in the position..

Bro, you mustn't be sad.

Allah - Most High, tests those that he loves. No matter what happens you must always remember that. If I could share you're sadness and lighten your load, believe me I wouldn't hesitate, Muslims watch out for one another. But remember something my brother, our trials and tribulations make you who we are. They shape our personalities, they redefine our character, they clean us of our bad qualities, just imagine Gold in a furnace, the fire in the furnace removes all the impurities leaving only the purest of Gold. Imagine a rough diamond, then imagine all the work that goes into it, leaving it shining and pleasing to the eyes. If we have the right mind-set, we can use our trials to turn us into better human beings, into fearless lions, they turn our hearts into steel, with a soft centre

Jazak'Allah hu khair akhee, nice parable. And jazak'Allah for the offer, I would so the same also, oohibu fillah. And I do know that Allah wouldnt have given me this trial if I couldnt handle it as he swt says in Surah Baqarah in the last 10 ayahs and elsewhere in the Quran : No soul is burdened with more than it can handle but I think Im dissapointed because I think its a consequence of my sins..

Tried to compile some of the stuff from La tahzan

Jazak'Allah hu khair ukhtee reptile, that book is so class masha'Allah, its a shame I didnt bring it with me so I can read it, didnt think I'd need it subhna'Allah but we plan and Allah plans and Allah is the best of planners.

[Reptile]

Theres a whole thread dedicated to this, I know its difficult, its so much harder to implement in your life, when affliction strikes, the best comfort for me is to know that this test only draws me closer to Allah and any hardship is worth that, and most of all tahajjud in the last third of the night, surely Allah will alleviate your pain

And when My servants ask you concerning Me, (tell them) I am indeed near. I respond to the invocation of the supplicant when he calls” (Qur’an 21:187).

Only those who are patient shall recieve their rewards in full, without reckoning. [39:10]

Insha’allah I will make dua that Allah gives you the strength to remain steadfast in patience, and rewards you abundantly for it, and draws you closer to him, and removes this feeling of helplessness, and replace It with tranquility and contentment, and insha’allah I pray that the situation at home is resolved. (ameen)

[ur_yusra]

To Allah (swt) this world is not even worth the wing of a mosquito! SubhanAllah..

[Al-Irhaab]

akhi....

come to the brothers forum inshallah... there is manner and strength of a man and a sorrow of a man and it is more fitting that it is discussed amongst brothers....

may allah (Swt) ease your sorrow and give you the best in this life and the akhira....and for me aswell (ameen)

but brother you should know that, despite all the suffering you see nothing is greater then the suffering on the day of qiyamah, and despite the ease that you feel in this life nothing is greater then the ease of success on the day of qiyamah... so for sure be worried about the sorrow you are feeling and look for the ease and ask allah (Swt) for the ease but remain steadfast and strong in the deen because the ease that you will bring upon urself and upon ur family on the day of qiyamah will be worth much much more than this life....

Surah Hadeed...

19. And those who believe in (the Oneness of) Allâh and His Messengers, they are the Siddiqûn (i.e. those followers of the Prophets who were first and foremost to believe in them), and the martyrs with their Lord, they shall have their reward and their light. But those who disbelieve (in the Oneness of Allâh - Islâmic Monotheism) and deny Our Ayât (proofs, evidences, verses, lessons, signs, revelations, etc.), they shall be the dwellers of the blazing Fire.
20. Know that the life of this world is only play and amusement, pomp and mutual boasting among you, and rivalry in respect of wealth and children, as the likeness of vegetation after rain, thereof the growth is pleasing to the tiller; afterwards it dries up and you see it turning yellow; then it becomes straw. But in the Hereafter (there is) a severe torment (for the disbelievers, evil-doers), and (there is) Forgiveness from Allâh and (His) Good Pleasure (for the believers, good-doers), whereas the life of this world is only a deceiving enjoyment.
21. Race one with another in hastening towards Forgiveness from your Lord (Allâh), and towards Paradise, the width whereof is as the width of heaven and earth, prepared for those who believe in Allâh and His Messengers. That is the Grace of Allâh which He bestows on whom He pleases. And Allâh is the Owner of Great Bounty.
22. No calamity befalls on the earth or in yourselves but is inscribed in the Book of Decrees (Al-Lauh Al-Mahfûz), before We bring it into existence. Verily, that is easy for Allâh.
23. In order that you may not be sad over matters that you fail to get, nor rejoice because of that which has been given to you. And Allâh likes not prideful boasters.

[Umm 'Umarah]

Our Prophet :saw: said

"The people most prone to trials with afflictions are the prophets, and then the most pious and then the next in peity and so on. A man or a woman is tried accordingly to his or her belief. If his or her believe is firm, the trial will be harder, and if his or her beliefe is weak, he is tried accordingly. A servant of Allah will go on being tried with afflictions until he walks on earth free of sins.

[Abu Muslim]

"Oh Allah! To You alone I make complaint of my helplessness, the limitation in my things and my insignificance before mankind. You are the most Merciful of the merciful. You are the Lord of the helpless and the weak, ya Rabbi! Into whose hands do you abandon me? Do you entrust me into the hands of an unsympathetic distant relative who would frown upon me, or to the enemy who has been given control over my affairs. But As long as you are not angry with me, then I do not care..."Laa tahzan..InnaAllaha ma'ana :)

Jazak'Allahu khair, indeed what we or I am going to through is nothing whatsoever compared to what our pious predecessors went through..

For the heart

In the intricate paths of life,

when difficulties and hardships confront a man,

and the darkness of difficulty and suffering becomes long,

it is patience only that acts like a light for a Muslim,

that keeps him safe from wandering here and there,

and saves him from the muddy marsh of disappointment, desperation and frustration.

- abu Hamid al-Ghazali

subhan'Allah, little extracts of wisdom like this can mean so much when read at the right time, barak'Allah hu feeki.


Insha’allah I will make dua that Allah gives you the strength to remain steadfast in patience, and rewards you abundantly for it, and draws you closer to him, and removes this feeling of helplessness, and replace It with tranquility and contentment, and insha’allah I pray that the situation at home is resolved. (ameen)

Ameen

*smi...*

[Reptile]

Ameen

*smi...*

maybe this can bring the other half of your smile, this never fails to leave me feeling happy :)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QL1LOdeqbro

[heaven2002]

when i am sad i think of all those in world who have it worse than me

[miss-islamic]

"Never give up hope in Allah's Soothing Mercy: truly no one despairs of Allah's Soothing Mercy except those who have no faith." -Surah Yusuf, Ayah 87.

*plays nasheed in mind*Oh the Beautiful Story of Yusuf,
Has so much to fill our lives,
sometihng something
the power of patience and the fire of hope,
Must burn in the heart of the wise..


That song is about my dad.:D

[Abu Muslim]

I dont want to keep bumping this but I feel the need to thank all those who have helped me so jazak'Allah everyone, much appreciated.

To Allah (swt) this world is not even worth the wing of a mosquito! SubhanAllah..

Yep subhan'Allah.

akhi....

come to the brothers forum inshallah... there is manner and strength of a man and a sorrow of a man and it is more fitting that it is discussed amongst brothers....

may allah (Swt) ease your sorrow and give you the best in this life and the akhira....and for me aswell (ameen)

but brother you should know that, despite all the suffering you see nothing is greater then the suffering on the day of qiyamah, and despite the ease that you feel in this life nothing is greater then the ease of success on the day of qiyamah... so for sure be worried about the sorrow you are feeling and look for the ease and ask allah (Swt) for the ease but remain steadfast and strong in the deen because the ease that you will bring upon urself and upon ur family on the day of qiyamah will be worth much much more than this life....

Akhi, I would have posted this in the brothers section had it not been for the fact that by the time I got a reply, I probably would have memorized the whole of bukhari with every isnad and still had time for tea.

Jazak'Allah hu khair for your kind words akhee, much appreciated. Ameen to dua and the same for everyone else.

Our Prophet :saw: said

"The people most prone to trials with afflictions are the prophets, and then the most pious and then the next in peity and so on. A man or a woman is tried accordingly to his or her belief. If his or her believe is firm, the trial will be harder, and if his or her beliefe is weak, he is tried accordingly. A servant of Allah will go on being tried with afflictions until he walks on earth free of sins.

Subhan'Allah, makes you want more and more trials..

when i am sad i think of all those in world who have it worse than me

Theres a hadith rasululah SAW said to do the same but for when you get jealous of someone but yep course, compared to most of the creation, we are all so blessed, in fact just being a Muslim is a blessing in itself.

"Never give up hope in Allah's Soothing Mercy: truly no one despairs of Allah's Soothing Mercy except those who have no faith." -Surah Yusuf, Ayah 87.

Jazak'Allah hu khairan ukhtee for the reminder. Allah swt says in Surah Ala, verse 9: Therefore remind (men), for of use is the reminder. He will heed who feareth (his Lord)

[Abu Muslim]

And finally, all this thingyness made me write a piece on it, you gotta listen with the recitation, and ponder on the meaning, I hope people benefit from it insha'Allah

http://www.theummah.com/downloads/listening/tests.mp3

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In the name of Allah, The Loving One, The Afflicter

Allah swt says in Surah Baqarah in the famous verse, verse 153 onwards: O you who believe! Seek help in patience and As-Salah. Truly, Allah is with As-Sabirin (the patient). And say not of those who are killed in the way of Allah, "They are dead.'' Nay, they are living, but you perceive (it) not. And certainly, We shall test you with something of fear, hunger, loss of wealth, lives and fruits, but give glad tidings to As-Sabirin (the patient). Who, when afflicted with calamity, say: "Truly, to Allah we belong and truly, to Him we shall return.'' They are those on whom are the Salawat (i.e., who are blessed and will be forgiven) from their Lord, and (they are those who) receive His mercy, and it is they who are the guided ones.

Rasululah SAW said: (Amazing is the believer, for whatever Allah decrees for him, it is better for him! If he is tested with a bounty, he is grateful for it and this is better for him; and if he is afflicted with a hardship, he is patient with it and this is better for him.)

Everyone is faced with tests, everyone according to how much they can handle, Allah swt says in Surah Baqarah also.So whichever test you have, it is because you can handle it. Tests we face in life are from the Grace and Mercy of Allah. The greater the test, the greater you iman. We just have to be patient through them and turn back to our Lord. I dont want want to really start writing loads on this as I’d probably never stop and great ulema have written whole series’ on it such as Ibn Taymiyyahs Relief from Distress and the amazing book “La Tahzan : Do not be Sad”

Rasululah SAW: (No Muslim is struck with an affliction and then says Istirja` [the bit about to him we return etc.] when the affliction strikes, and then says: `O Allah! Reward me for my loss and give me what is better than it,' but Allah will do just that.[Ahmed]

Also [aidan] we tend to complain to people about our problems, but we should try to follow the example of Yaqub AS when his son, Yusuf AS was stolen away and he did not complain nor grief to anyone but Allah SWT. Allah SWT is always there for us no matter what and he is the All Seeing, Allah Hearing and All knowing.

Allah SWT knows us better than we know ourselves and he SWT knows what is best for us, everything is his divine decree and we have to submit to it and everything he wills shall happen. Any calamity that was meant to befall you, you cannot avoid and any calamity that you were supposed to avoid, it can not befall you.Even though we plan, and we think we have our life planned out for ourself, Allah also plans and Allah is the best of Planners. And if we really want something, all we gotta do is make dua for it and then trust in Allah, for in Allah do the believers rely.

Allah swt says in Surah Kahf, verse 10, the dua of the youth who retreated to the cave: "Our Lord! Bestow on us mercy from Your presence and dispose of our affairs for us in the right way"

[ADZ w3]

Bump.

[Loobna]

sorry - just need to vent.

I cannot describe how utterly fed up I am with doing stuff I keep failing at. :crying: For what? Its not that I dont like what I do - I love it but I just cant seem keep on at it or get it anywhere near right - I just want to do something I can actually do even slightly well at for a change :(

Also I hate it when people go on and on and constantly argue about some small issue that not even an issue for ages and ages - it makes me depressed.

[ADZ w3]

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[Abu Lahya]

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HMM

[PiElle2]

everyone has 24 hours... no more, no less... make the best use of it... so how much time you want to spend on being sad again...? Practice makes perfect! :D

[SisterIslam]

Read these duas:

1) Allahuma laa sahla illa maa ja'altahu sahla. Wa anta taj'alul hazna idaa****a sahla

2) Allahuma inni 'abduka, ibnu abdika, ibnu amatika. Nasiyati biyadik, madin fiyaa hukmak 'adlun fiyaa qadauk. Asalulka bikuli ismin huwalak samayta bihi nafsaka aw anzaltahu fii kitabika, aw 'alamtahu ahadan min khalqika awistatharta bihi fii 'ilmil qayb 'indalak antaj'alal Qurana rabi'a qalbi, wa noora sadri wa jalaa huzni wa dahab hamma.

Be patient for Allah is with the patient.

[muslimma]

everyone has 24 hours... no more, no less... make the best use of it... so how much time you want to spend on being sad again...? Practice makes perfect! :D

nice optimism! :up:

make the most of every day inshallah who knows whether you'll still be alive tomorrow. :inlove:

[Abu Muslim]

Bump.

*scratch*

How comes you bumped this thread bruv? This was like 7 months ago when I was in Egypt, ajeeeb.

Ya know actually looking back at it, alhamdulilah Im glad I made the topic, and even though at the time I didnt feel it, it did help me. It has loads of good reminders and I guess its something anyone can look back at when feeling down, reflecting on the ayaat of Allah SWT and the ahadeeth.

So jazahumAllah khairan to all them people who posted [think I said that right, first time I've had to use that lol]

How times change..the memories..