View Full Version : wud u let ur child join da forum????????
Little_Sis
04-03-07, 08:32 PM
i am asking this cos some peeps have said if i was their child they wudn't let me join. why not though?:D
Little_Sis
04-03-07, 08:34 PM
no i wudnt.
why not?
Medievalist
04-03-07, 08:35 PM
cos sometimes things are inappropriate and internet is a dangerous place.
why not?
because i know what a trap it can be..its the little little experiences i wudnt want them to feel..or go thru..their innocent minds wudnt deserve it.
Little_Sis
04-03-07, 08:37 PM
cos sometimes things are inappropriate and internet is a dangerous place.
but my mom supervises me, and i know not to talk to funky peeps.
Medievalist
04-03-07, 08:38 PM
but my mom supervises me, and i know not to talk to funky peeps.
just be careful. :up:
Little_Sis
04-03-07, 08:40 PM
because i know what a trap it can be..its the little little experiences i wudnt want them to feel..or go thru..their innocent minds wudnt deserve it.
my mom wud never let me do it on my own,and she wud not put harm in my way.
Little_Sis
04-03-07, 08:41 PM
just be careful. :up:
jazak from mom and me:D
my mom wud never let me do it on my own,and she wud not put harm in my way.
okay..i understand..i think
but does ure mum look at evrything u type? or look at? or do? who u interact with? what websites u go on? why u go on them?
i wudnt want my daughter or son to go on internet..id have restricted webpages for them..and i dont want to have to monitor them either..i want that trust to be there.
Al Qadr
04-03-07, 08:43 PM
If they was using the net neway, I wld rather they are on a muslim site like ummah than some silly teenage chatroom or something.
But I wouldnt want em 2 b addicted
Medievalist
04-03-07, 08:45 PM
If they was using the net neway, I wld rather they are on a muslim site like ummah than some silly teenage chatroom or something.
But I wouldnt want em 2 b addicted
yeh but at same time still have to keep yr guard up - even on muslim sites. I cud be ne1 - some professor of Islamic history SOAS pretending to be a muslim for bad purposes. No1 here knows me - like I said before people need to be careful ESPECIALLY ladies regardless of age.
If they was using the net neway, I wld rather they are on a muslim site like ummah than some silly teenage chatroom or something.
But I wouldnt want em 2 b addicted
even islamic sites can be detrimental..maybe the content is suitable but the people are not always what they portray to be.n then one thing.leads to another which isnt good..is it?
Al Qadr
04-03-07, 08:55 PM
yeh but at same time still have to keep yr guard up - even on muslim sites. I cud be ne1 - some professor of Islamic history SOAS pretending to be a muslim for bad purposes. No1 here knows me - like I said before people need to be careful ESPECIALLY ladies regardless of age.
even islamic sites can be detrimental..maybe the content is suitable but the people are not always what they portray to be.n then one thing.leads to another which isnt good..is it?
Yup you're both right. Hmm, maybe parents should supervise, or check what sites the kids are going on then, and if something isn't quite right they can ban em :S (not that kids these days listen much)
but still, I think forums like this are much better than chatrooms or teenage sites where people can pretend to be anyone, even on forums u can, but the main aim of the forum is to learn about Islam? :scratch: but I guess parents will have to check it out first, or if not, give the kid another hobby and not make em get bored cos thats one of the main reasons people use net so much
Chained_Water
04-03-07, 09:04 PM
I would but only if I was around and could take a look over their shoulder.
And only if they were 14+
.: Anna :.
04-03-07, 09:12 PM
I would but only if I was around and could take a look over their shoulder.
And only if they were 14+
yeh same here.
Niqaabi
04-03-07, 09:20 PM
Maybe if they were older and they had their own pc :p
Hamza Momand
04-03-07, 09:34 PM
I would but only if I was around and could take a look over their shoulder.
And only if they were 14+
thats the wise step
Mr_Jailer
04-03-07, 10:04 PM
Careful what u say peeps,Little_sis' mom is watchin' :eek3:
Personally, if parents want their lil uns to join the forum, a kindergarten section should be created for them and they should only be given access to there only.
I'm not sure letting my kids on here, i mean it can be helpful (as I was a non-Muslim when I first came on here) as well it can be dangerous, especially for us reverts, if you dont know the religion too well, and someone posts something that you dont understand, you might believe it. so mixed reactions for me :)
tru muslimah
04-03-07, 10:49 PM
dunno :scratch:
tru muslimah
04-03-07, 10:54 PM
on second thoughts no
.: Anna :.
04-03-07, 10:55 PM
Careful what u say peeps,Little_sis' mom is watchin' :eek3:
Personally, if parents want their lil uns to join the forum, a kindergarten section should be created for them and they should only be given access to there only.
we dont have enough kids on the forum to justify doing this. like the girl will be in there by herself :p
Masumah
04-03-07, 10:59 PM
i agree wid cw only if der 14+ and mature, but i will supervise..i voted no because ditn know the age range of the child
Assalamu alaykum
first of all im not old enough to be commenting on this but id just like to say that i would BUT i will check wat they have been on using a program that checks wat sites they've been on and plus maybe have age restriction......but just to say i joined this forum when i was 13 and it has really helped me and still is...Jazakum allah khayr
wassalmu alaykum :)
Assalmu alaykum
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wassalamu alaykum
Al Qiyamah
05-03-07, 10:27 AM
on second thoughts no
its good you had second thoughts :p snaps :inlove:
No. With the amount of bizarre threads and questions people ask here? Dont think so.
ghanamuslima
05-03-07, 11:23 AM
okay..i understand..i think
but does ure mum look at evrything u type? or look at? or do? who u interact with? what websites u go on? why u go on them?
i wudnt want my daughter or son to go on internet..id have restricted webpages for them..and i dont want to have to monitor them either..i want that trust to be there.
In the name of ALLAH,The Most Merciful, The Beneficent
These days children need the internet for homework mine included, they r not allowed to use it for anything else. i let them join the forum because it's an islamic one (i am fully aware and so are they that people pretend to be muslims) i do trust them not to speak to the wrong people but because Little_Sis is a bit younger i do tend to supervise her when she's on the forum.
Also i would like to point out that having restricted webpages for your children at home doesn't stop them from going outside with their friends and using internet cafes to view things you don't want them to view.(i actually know some people who have had this happen to them)
In my humble opinion the best way is to educate your children and give them some leaway so they don't go and do it behind your back.
And the best education is the love and fear of ALLAH(SWT),when they love HIM and they understand that HE sees and hears everything,and when they want to please HIM because they understand what gaining ALLAH'S pleasure means i believe this is the BEST education and form of prevention there can ever be.
May ALLAH(SWT) grant us all goodly children, who will always be steadfast in their duties to HIM. AMEEN.
Wa Alaykum Salam:)
okay..its not just about people pretending to be muslims..ill be honest with you thats the least of my worries.
i will raise my children inshaAllah in such a manner that they will not do such a thing. I have always belived that a child shud have the best islamic upbringing ever as it takes effect on the actions they carry out in the future.
so yes i wud resitrict web content..if they want to use it for hmwrk..i will help them. i wont stop them from chatting to their mates..and it wont be so divided that my childrens mates cannot come and mix in my house. i will encourage them to introduce their friends and not keep em covered.
its all to do with the social circle as well...
Sometimes no matter how much you want to wrap your children up in cotton wool, they will sooner or later have to come across the very things you as a parent want to protect or shield them from.
So being overly protective can sometimes backfire and work against you.
tru muslimah
05-03-07, 11:42 AM
its good you had second thoughts :p snaps :inlove:
:p :D
ghanamuslima
05-03-07, 12:38 PM
Alhamdulillah, everyone has their points and they are all valid. every parent knows their child best, mine are in the forum because i think it's ok for them to be here,they don't pm anyone only people that i know personally. so all in all i am happy for them to join so they can learn their deen.
And ALLAH knows Best:)
Muhajir
05-03-07, 01:43 PM
I would because its better for them to spend their "net" time on this forum rather on something else on the internet
May ALLAH(SWT) grant us all goodly children, who will always be steadfast in their duties to HIM. AMEEN.
Ameen!
muslim_sis
05-03-07, 01:52 PM
ameen ghanamuslima
in reply to bint tho, dont u think that it is better to let ur kids KNOW what is out there and keep them away from it by having fear of allah and in keeping good company etc to keep them strong !? ... rather than hiding whats really out there and making them not face what the reality is like [but stay away]... when they have to face sumin on their own and they 'discover' for theirselves it may make them weaker !??
allahu alam.
I guess some things on the site could be restricted tho if parents wanted so and if mods agreed to.
and the internet is a dangerous place when u have an empty or even half empty mind ..maybe if one is insecure, allahu alam, but anyway, alhamdulilah all of lil sis's family members view the forum together sometimes , talk about it , laugh about ... learn from it aswell [i know them very well personally, and they live a door away from me..so i know!]... alhamdulilah i think its nice n sweet, its not like its an alternative where the child is keeping away from family and its making them forget their deen ! Alhamdulilah !
ameen ghanamuslima
in reply to bint tho, dont u think that it is better to let ur kids KNOW what is out there and keep them away from it by having fear of allah and in keeping good company etc to keep them strong !? ... rather than hiding whats really out there and making them not face what the reality is like [but stay away]... when they have to face sumin on their own and they 'discover' for theirselves it may make them weaker !??
allahu alam.
I guess some things on the site could be restricted tho if parents wanted so and if mods agreed to.
and the internet is a dangerous place when u have an empty or even half empty mind ..maybe if one is insecure, allahu alam, but anyway, alhamdulilah all of lil sis's family members view the forum together sometimes , talk about it , laugh about ... learn from it aswell [i know them very well personally, and they live a door away from me..so i know!]... alhamdulilah i think its nice n sweet, its not like its an alternative where the child is keeping away from family and its making them forget their deen ! Alhamdulilah !
no no u see ure getting the wrong end of the stick.
im not going to banish my children from going out..i will encourage them to go out with the right intentions. and not let them fall into any traps. and yes id like to be the perfect mother. inshaAllah.
scribble
05-03-07, 02:54 PM
Umm.. Dunno. When I get a kid, I'll tell you.
Umm.. Dunno. When I get a kid, I'll tell you.
lol cool do let u s know when u have a kid :p
muslim_sis
05-03-07, 02:58 PM
and yes id like to be the perfect mother. inshaAllah.
i get u !
i didnt question u on that ^^ inshallah u will be, ameen ! :)
i get u !
i didnt question u on that ^^ inshallah u will be, ameen ! :)
lol i knoww i just thought id make clear my intentions. ive seen kids grow up to be spoilt brats and not obeying. that really scares me. im i being too careful?
I may allow my kids to be here inshaallah but prevent them from addiction to the forum :o
scribble
05-03-07, 03:02 PM
lol cool do let u s know when u have a kid :p
:p If I'm still sticking around this place. :p Mind you, that's in a good few years, yer know. Willing to wait that long?
(*_Hamzah
05-03-07, 03:16 PM
:confused: for all those who wont allow "there children" on here, two question:
1/ Why are you on here if it's not good for your child to see?
2/ Do you have any children to begin with? :p
1) Im not a child, and never was when i first joined Ummah
2) They're under the floorboards.
muslim_sis
05-03-07, 03:21 PM
lol i knoww i just thought id make clear my intentions. ive seen kids grow up to be spoilt brats and not obeying. that really scares me. im i being too careful?
nah, i understand ! :)
(*_Hamzah
05-03-07, 03:29 PM
1) Im not a child, and never was when i first joined Ummah
2) They're under the floorboards.
:jkk: for reply.
Question 1- I mean if anyone feels strongly that the content on this fourm is not sutiable for children, what does that imply, allot of sin is happening here or somthing else- I'm confused
2) :eek: Buy them some lunch, poor kids :(
1) Im not a child, and never was when i first joined Ummah
2) They're under the floorboards.
just don't understand why you won't allow them :rubeyes:
:confused: for all those who wont allow "there children" on here, two question:
1/ Why are you on here if it's not good for your child to see?
2/ Do you have any children to begin with? :p
im on here cos im 20 yrs old soon to be 21.
no i dont have any children but read the question..'wud u let ure child join the forum?'
:jkk: for reply.
Question 1- I mean if anyone feels strongly that the content on this fourm is not sutiable for children, what does that imply, allot of sin is happening here or somthing else- I'm confused
2) :eek: Buy them some lunch, poor kids :(
It simply means that there is a lot of material on here that depending on the childs age they may not understand or become confused or upsets them.
There would be no issue if they came back to you as the parent and said "Mum/Dad, I read this thread on X forum today that was about x,y,z - what did they mean by that/what is that?" instead of sitting there and misinterpreting things.
Theres far too much stuff on here that as adults you find confusing enough,nevermind if you were a child (<14)
Especially all that hoo haa in the marriage thread :eek3: :nono:
i fink sometimes people post some very innapropriate things, i wouldnt want me kids to be exposed to that :rubeyes:
Nusayba bint Ka'b
05-03-07, 03:43 PM
no I wouldn't allow it.
scribble
05-03-07, 04:04 PM
i fink sometimes people post some very innapropriate things, i wouldnt want me kids to be exposed to that :rubeyes:
Agreed.
(*_Hamzah
05-03-07, 04:11 PM
There would be no issue if they came back to you as the parent and said "Mum/Dad, I read this thread on X forum today that was about x,y,z - what did they mean by that/what is that?" instead of sitting there and misinterpreting things.
Children will always remain inquisitive :inlove:
To compare this place to untamed televison is not comparable in my opinion, just the same if a child say "mom i saw this on TV blah blah" , yet many people don't have second thought when allowing their children free right to view what they like on TV, this place is better controlled then what's on the TV
Theres far too much stuff on here that as adults you find confusing enough,nevermind if you were a child (<14)
I agree, if a child or anyone doesnt question it, then how are we suppose to learn from the mist of confusion?
Especially all that hoo haa in the marriage thread :eek3: :nono:
Tell MMS to stay out of there, and it be fine :)
No way nd not jus coz of the innappropriate posts :|
Children will always remain inquisitive :inlove:
To compare this place to untamed televison is not comparable in my opinion, just the same if a child say "mom i saw this on TV blah blah" , yet many people don't have second thought when allowing their children free right to view what they like on TV, this place is better controlled then what's on the TV
The same applies to the TV, especially with the amount of filth that comes on during ads alone nevermind the actual programmes!
bintadam
05-03-07, 04:54 PM
i fink that its ok to let ur kidsd in da forum as long as u da parent makes an accout as well so u can check which forums u kids hv been in and wot dey hv posted. and newyz if u feel da forum is not good u shudnt be in it urselves...:p
I feel our kids may themselves not allow us here as many persons feel that the forum is not good enough to be here .
(*_Hamzah
05-03-07, 06:14 PM
i fink that its ok to let ur kidsd in da forum as long as u da parent makes an accout as well so u can check which forums u kids hv been in and wot dey hv posted. and newyz if u feel da forum is not good u shudnt be in it urselves...:p
Yes I agree, it a balance from my point, like a pen, it can be used to write poetry or slander, same with forums, Insha’Allah if you want to benefit from it then you will, just stay out of current events and you’ll be happy :p
ghanamuslima
06-03-07, 09:53 AM
Sometimes no matter how much you want to wrap your children up in cotton wool, they will sooner or later have to come across the very things you as a parent want to protect or shield them from.
So being overly protective can sometimes backfire and work against you.
AGREED, in my experience children always go and do what parents tell them not to. Education is the best form of prevention, and when i say that i mean educating them about their deen first of all but also about the world we live in. An empty mind is a great TOOL for the SHAYTAN.
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