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bint
31-01-07, 10:09 PM
Question

Hello Imam, I have a habit of talking too much. Its bad, I hurt people's feelings and also say bad stuff about other people like ghibat. I really need a dua or Surah to read. How can I prevent this bad habit because of this talkative habit people are not friends with me and say stuff about me. Please tell me some dua or surah to prevent this from happening . I make niyat not to repeat and it still happens thank you.

Answer

In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful

Allah subhânahu wa ta'âla says, “O you who believe, Fear Allah and say that which is straight.”
Taqwa and fear for Allah is a force to control ones tongue. A person who does not has fear for Allah subhânahu wa ta'âla is lose with his tongue.
Rasulullah sallallahu `alayhi wassalam said that many inmates of Jahannam (fire of hell) will be due to abusing their tongues.
Gheebat (backbiting), lies etc are sins of the tongue and expressly prohibited in the Quran.They are sins that incur the anger and wrath of Allah subhânahu wa ta'âla. How can an honest and dedicated believer indulge in such sins knowing that he is engaged in the anger of Allah subhânahu wa ta'âla.
An intelligent person’s mind is before his tongue. He thinks and ponders before he speaks. It is a sign of stupidity to talk before thinking and pondering. The harms of the tongue are so many to mention.
It is upon you to control your tongue. You should exercise restraint. Talk when there is need. If you have to talk, don’t engage in any sinful talk. Apart from making an effort to control your tongue, make this dua’.

<I>Allahumma Saddid Qalbiee Wa Saddid Lisaani

Eemaan
31-01-07, 10:52 PM
i thought this thread was goin to be a cathartic moan about how bug yer gob is :p and was poised to type and agree in haste until i read it. so instead i'll say

:jkk: top lass ar kid :D

S@Z
31-01-07, 10:54 PM
jazakAllah khair for putting that up, Ukht :up:

Narrated 'Abdullah bin 'Amr: The Prophet :saw: said, "A Muslim is the one who avoids harming Muslims with his tongue and hands. And a Muhajir (emigrant) is the one who gives up (abandons) all what Allah has forbidden." Sahih Bukhari (Book: 2, Hadith: 9)

and

Narrated Abu Huraira: The Prophet :saw: said, "There are two expressions which are very easy for the tongue to say, but they are very heavy in the balance and are very dear to The Beneficent (Allah), and they are, 'Subhan Allah Al-'Azim and 'Subhan Allah wa bihamdihi.'" Sahih Bukhari (Book: 75, Hadith: 415)