How to be a Successful Husband

[`asiya]

How to be a Successful Husband

by Muhammad AlShareef

1. Dress up for your wife, look clean and smell good.When was the last time us men went shopping for nice pajamas? Just like the husband wants his wife to look nice for him, she also wants her husband to dress up for her too. Remember that Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - would always start with Miswak when returning home and always loved the sweetest smells.

2. Use the sweetest names for your wife. Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - had nicknames for his wives, ones that they loved. Call your wife by the most beloved names to her, and avoid using names that hurt their feelings.

3. Don't treat her like a fly. We never think about a fly in our daily lives until it 'bugs' us. Similarly, a wife will do well all day - which brings no attention from the husband - until she does something to 'bug' him. Don't treat her like this; recognize all the good that she does and focus on that.

4. If you see wrong from your wife, try being silent and do not comment! This is one of the ways Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - used when he would see something inappropriate from his wives - radi Allahu 'anhunn. It's a technique that few Muslim men have mastered.

5. Smile at your wife whenever you see her and embrace her often. Smiling is Sadaqah and your wife is not exempt from the Muslim Ummah. Imagine life with her constantly seeing you smiling. Remember also those Ahadith when Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - would kiss his wife before leaving for Salah, even if he was fasting.

6. Thank her for all that she does for you. Then thank her again! Take for example a dinner at your house. She makes the food, cleans the home, and a dozen other tasks to prepare. And sometimes the only acknowledgement she receives is that there needed to be more salt in the soup. Don't let that be; thank her!

7. Ask her to write down the last ten things you did for her that made her happy. Then go and do them again. It may be hard to recognize what gives your wife pleasure. You don't have to play a guessing game, ask her and work on repeating those times in your life.

8. Don't be little her desires. Comfort her. Sometimes the men may look down upon the requests of their wives. Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam set the example for us in an incident when Safiyyah - radi Allahu 'anha - was crying because, as she said, he had put her on a slow camel. He wiped her tears, comforted her, and brought her the camel.

9. Be humorous and Play games with your wife. Look at how Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - would race his wife Aisha - radi Allahu 'anha - in the desert. When was the last time we did something like that?

10. Always remember the words of Allah's Messenger - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam: "The best of you are those who treat their families the best. And I am the best amongst you to my family." Try to be the best!

In conclusion: Never forget to make Dua to Allah - azza wa jall - to make your marriage successful. And Allah ta'ala knows best !!

[Fais]

How to be a Successful Husband

by Muhammad AlShareef

1. Dress up for your wife, look clean and smell good.When was the last time us men went shopping for nice pajamas? Just like the husband wants his wife to look nice for him, she also wants her husband to dress up for her too. Remember that Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - would always start with Miswak when returning home and always loved the sweetest smells.

2. Use the sweetest names for your wife. Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - had nicknames for his wives, ones that they loved. Call your wife by the most beloved names to her, and avoid using names that hurt their feelings.

3. Don't treat her like a fly. We never think about a fly in our daily lives until it 'bugs' us. Similarly, a wife will do well all day - which brings no attention from the husband - until she does something to 'bug' him. Don't treat her like this; recognize all the good that she does and focus on that.

4. If you see wrong from your wife, try being silent and do not comment! This is one of the ways Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - used when he would see something inappropriate from his wives - radi Allahu 'anhunn. It's a technique that few Muslim men have mastered.

5. Smile at your wife whenever you see her and embrace her often. Smiling is Sadaqah and your wife is not exempt from the Muslim Ummah. Imagine life with her constantly seeing you smiling. Remember also those Ahadith when Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - would kiss his wife before leaving for Salah, even if he was fasting.

6. Thank her for all that she does for you. Then thank her again! Take for example a dinner at your house. She makes the food, cleans the home, and a dozen other tasks to prepare. And sometimes the only acknowledgement she receives is that there needed to be more salt in the soup. Don't let that be; thank her!

7. Ask her to write down the last ten things you did for her that made her happy. Then go and do them again. It may be hard to recognize what gives your wife pleasure. You don't have to play a guessing game, ask her and work on repeating those times in your life.

8. Don't be little her desires. Comfort her. Sometimes the men may look down upon the requests of their wives. Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam set the example for us in an incident when Safiyyah - radi Allahu 'anha - was crying because, as she said, he had put her on a slow camel. He wiped her tears, comforted her, and brought her the camel.

9. Be humorous and Play games with your wife. Look at how Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - would race his wife Aisha - radi Allahu 'anha - in the desert. When was the last time we did something like that?

10. Always remember the words of Allah's Messenger - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam: "The best of you are those who treat their families the best. And I am the best amongst you to my family." Try to be the best!

In conclusion: Never forget to make Dua to Allah - azza wa jall - to make your marriage successful. And Allah ta'ala knows best !!

Jazakallah khair. lol very good read .. made me laugh

4. If you see wrong from your wife, try being silent and do not comment! This is one of the ways Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - used when he would see something inappropriate from his wives - radi Allahu 'anhunn. It's a technique that few Muslim men have mastered.

LOL ... :up: ..

[Khubaib]

:jkk:

[Al-Irhaab]

oh no what evil advice so unrealistic :rolleyes:

note the sarcasm

[Monica03]

Good post :up:
Its about time us ladies highlighted our side of the picture :rolleyes:

[Saint Poetry]

when my wife is mine i will practice this and all i know how to make her happy. my father may not have been muslim, but he taught me how to treat a woman, especially your wife

[Kal-El]

I'm going to make my wife an Arsenal fan inshallah :up: Blissful marriage guaranteed inshallah :D

Regarding this subject however, I can also gurantee that most women if not all would be demanding or atleast expecting you go to Gym and get bigger.

So advice for brothers, if you dont wanna go through that pain, then make some kind of excuse. Medical excuses work best!

"Doctor said i cant work myself too hard dear.."

[Fais]

I'm going to make my wife an Arsenal fan inshallah :up: Blissful marriage guaranteed inshallah :D

Regarding this subject however, I can also gurantee that most women if not all would be demanding or atleast expecting you go to Gym and get bigger.

So advice for brothers, if you dont wanna go through that pain, then make some kind of excuse. Medical excuses work best!

"Doctor said i cant work myself too hard dear.."


LOL, Arsenal won yesterday ... :hidban:

And LOL at the excuse ... a non blondy would figure you out in no time and send you straight to the gym lol :torture:

[Lu'Lu]

so unrealistic :rolleyes:



Shame that

[Cristiana]

oh no what evil advice so unrealistic :rolleyes:

note the sarcasm

I don't think so!... come on brother I'm sure that even if you don't believe she exists you are going to look for the "ideal" muslim wife!

It's not about ticking all the boxes (nobody is perfect) but about trying your best with your spouse I believe.

What is there of so unrealistic exactly?

(i really enjoyed reading it!)

[Ezra]

To be a Successful husband you got to have a successful wife:rolleyes:

[Abu Muslim]

4. If you see wrong from your wife, try being silent and do not comment! This is one of the ways Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - used when he would see something inappropriate from his wives - radi Allahu 'anhunn. It's a technique that few Muslim men have mastered.

masha'Allah nice list, but only 10 points?

Anwyays, this one I didn't quite get..so does that mean when we see/or she does wrong we shouldn't correct her or advise her? I expect to be corrected by her if I do wrong, or if I do something she dislikes, I hope she tells me insha'Allah so I can abstain from it..

[`asiya]

masha'Allah nice list, but only 10 points?

Anwyays, this one I didn't quite get..so does that mean when we see/or she does wrong we shouldn't correct her or advise her? I expect to be corrected by her if I do wrong, or if I do something she dislikes, I hope she tells me insha'Allah so I can abstain from it..


4. If you see wrong from your wife, try being silent and do not comment! This is one of the ways Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - used when he would see something inappropriate from his wives - radi Allahu 'anhunn. It's a technique that few Muslim men have mastered.

Allahu alam if this is what the brother who wrote this meant, but maybe perhaps it should be written as if you see any wrong in her, rather than from her? i agree with what u say, we should support each other and help each other to correct our mistakes, if someone comes to us and says u did this wrong we should be falling over ourselves to tell them jazakAllahu kharin amin! cos masha Allah the deen is naseehah right? Allahu alam.

Allahu alam but when i read point number 4. the hadith of the prophet salallahu alleyhi wa salam came to mind which states that, The Prophet salallahu alleyhi wa salam said: “No believing man should hate a believing woman: if he dislikes one of her characteristics, he will like another.” Reported by Muslim. Allahu alam like i said only the brother could tell us what he meant im just speculating.

[Abu Muslim]

Allahu alam if this is what the brother who wrote this meant, but maybe perhaps it should be written as if you see any wrong in her, rather than from her? i agree with what u say, we should support each other and help each other to correct our mistakes, if someone comes to us and says u did this wrong we should be falling over ourselves to tell them jazakAllahu kharin amin! cos masha Allah the deen is naseehah right? Allahu alam.

Allahu alam but when i read point number 4. the hadith of the prophet salallahu alleyhi wa salam came to mind which states that, The Prophet salallahu alleyhi wa salam said: “No believing man should hate a believing woman: if he dislikes one of her characteristics, he will like another.” Reported by Muslim. Allahu alam like i said only the brother could tell us what he meant im just speculating.

Jazak'Allah hu khairan ukthi for clearing that up. If the brother meant wrong in her, as in faults she has (cos everyone has faults|) then khair, it makes sense. Subhan'Allah that same hadith came to mind too but then I thought theres a difference between a characteristic and a mistake.

If it is a characteristic, then it is in her nature and it can be looked over insha'Allah however if it is a mistake, I believe it should be corrected as not to upset either party (this works both ways). Just wanted to clear that up *smiles*

And ukthi, you're completely right, on the authority of Abu Ruaqaaya (beautiful name masha'Allah), rasululah SAW said: the deen is advice. This can be found in Sahih Muslim.

[Al-Irhaab]

I don't think so!... come on brother I'm sure that even if you don't believe she exists you are going to look for the "ideal" muslim wife!

It's not about ticking all the boxes (nobody is perfect) but about trying your best with your spouse I believe.

What is there of so unrealistic exactly?

(i really enjoyed reading it!)

ah sis did u not read the fine print... i was being sarcastic... we not like the sisters complaining about everything everytime someone gives us advice :torture:

[Reema]

ah sis did u not read the fine print... i was being sarcastic... we not like the sisters complaining about everything everytime someone gives us advice :torture:

We dont complain, dont know where you got that idea from:rolleyes: :rolleyes: :rolleyes: ;)

[`asiya]

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[Nasibah]

Good post :up:
Its about time us ladies highlighted our side of the picture :rolleyes:

:masha: thats exactly what I was thinking. Its not often we see brothers being told to dress up for their wife or wives.

Excellent advice.

[~Warda~]

:jkk: for posting sis :)

[Arsalan]

Do we have to have muscles and not fat too?

[`asiya]

Do we have to have muscles and not fat too?

:S wrong thread maybe akhi

[`asiya]

bump :up:

[lowering wings]

Finally advice for the husbands, and not the wives!!

[`asiya]

Finally advice for the husbands, and not the wives!!

alhamdulillah :up: we have a few more here too


how to make your wife happy

http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?t=109481

Causes of Marital Discord That Can Be Traced Back to the Husband Himself or His Friends

http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?t=91573


ten ways to increase happiness in marriage

http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?t=109477

[MrOnline]

How to be a Successful Husband

by Muhammad AlShareef

1. Dress up for your wife, look clean and smell good.When was the last time us men went shopping for nice pajamas? Just like the husband wants his wife to look nice for him, she also wants her husband to dress up for her too. Remember that Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - would always start with Miswak when returning home and always loved the sweetest smells.

2. Use the sweetest names for your wife. Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - had nicknames for his wives, ones that they loved. Call your wife by the most beloved names to her, and avoid using names that hurt their feelings.

3. Don't treat her like a fly. We never think about a fly in our daily lives until it 'bugs' us. Similarly, a wife will do well all day - which brings no attention from the husband - until she does something to 'bug' him. Don't treat her like this; recognize all the good that she does and focus on that.

4. If you see wrong from your wife, try being silent and do not comment! This is one of the ways Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - used when he would see something inappropriate from his wives - radi Allahu 'anhunn. It's a technique that few Muslim men have mastered.

5. Smile at your wife whenever you see her and embrace her often. Smiling is Sadaqah and your wife is not exempt from the Muslim Ummah. Imagine life with her constantly seeing you smiling. Remember also those Ahadith when Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - would kiss his wife before leaving for Salah, even if he was fasting.

6. Thank her for all that she does for you. Then thank her again! Take for example a dinner at your house. She makes the food, cleans the home, and a dozen other tasks to prepare. And sometimes the only acknowledgement she receives is that there needed to be more salt in the soup. Don't let that be; thank her!

7. Ask her to write down the last ten things you did for her that made her happy. Then go and do them again. It may be hard to recognize what gives your wife pleasure. You don't have to play a guessing game, ask her and work on repeating those times in your life.

8. Don't be little her desires. Comfort her. Sometimes the men may look down upon the requests of their wives. Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam set the example for us in an incident when Safiyyah - radi Allahu 'anha - was crying because, as she said, he had put her on a slow camel. He wiped her tears, comforted her, and brought her the camel.

9. Be humorous and Play games with your wife. Look at how Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - would race his wife Aisha - radi Allahu 'anha - in the desert. When was the last time we did something like that?

10. Always remember the words of Allah's Messenger - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam: "The best of you are those who treat their families the best. And I am the best amongst you to my family." Try to be the best!

In conclusion: Never forget to make Dua to Allah - azza wa jall - to make your marriage successful. And Allah ta'ala knows best !!

You mean this is all i need to do to satisfy both my wife and Allah? :confused:

Subhanallah! May Allah give us (men) all the strength to satisfy our women and may Allah make it easy for our women to appreciate the efforts of their husbands. Ameen!

[MrOnline]

I'd find it very interesting if you could link us to a thread/webpage titled "How to be a successful wifey". Would that be possible?

[lowering wings]

alhamdulillah :up: we have a few more here too


how to make your wife happy

http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?t=109481

Causes of Marital Discord That Can Be Traced Back to the Husband Himself or His Friends

http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?t=91573


ten ways to increase happiness in marriage

http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?t=109477


Thats good, because there needs to be more advice given to the
husbands. :up:

[Arsalan]

As an expert in this field i would be willing to give consultations to beginners at £75 and hour.

[.: Anna :.]

I'd find it very interesting if you could link us to a thread/webpage titled "How to be a successful wifey". Would that be possible?
if u search marriage forum here, there are similar threads on that topic :up:

[Islamiyyah]

Notice how very short this list is compared to the one with how to be a successful wife? Just goes to show us women dont expect much from men, just love and attention really.:(