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Yesterday we were having this discussion with a friend. She said, it’s possible to fall in love with someone you haven’t seen. I don’t particularly agree with this because the person on the other side can be easily deceiving you with their personality.
So my question is: Is it possible to fall in love with someone online? Has it happened to anyone? If it has, how have you dealt with it?
It depends how you define love. You dont really get proper love until after marriage. Is it possible to like..and perhaps get close to loving someone through the internet? Of course it is, because masha allah us Muslims dont fall for looks, we fall for peoples characters...
I HOPE..
:eek:
Masumah
20-12-06, 12:49 AM
i doubt it highly...i do not belive in love before marriage..it is more limerence than love.
Salman Al-Farsi
20-12-06, 01:04 AM
if people can fall in love with Avatars, fonts, signitures, emotions, cut/paste text... they can fall in love with anything real or not.
Umm 'Umarah
20-12-06, 01:06 AM
How can a person fall in love so easily..?? how can they fall in love with a person they barely even know? there is no such thing as falling in love over the internet.
if people can fall in love with Avatars, fonts, signitures, emotions, cut/paste text... they can fall in love with anything real or not.
I'm sure people dont respect you or your contribution to the forum, simply because of your avatar or font Salman
But then thats not really love is it..
Which is why love is very subjective...
:eek:
Yesterday we were having this discussion with a friend. She said, it’s possible to fall in love with someone you haven’t seen. I don’t particularly agree with this because the person on the other side can be easily deceiving you with their personality.
So my question is: Is it possible to fall in love with someone online? Has it happened to anyone? If it has, how have you dealt with it?
Yes. The answer, is yes
I'm sure people dont respect you or your contribution to the forum, simply because of your avatar or font Salman
What are you on about? Im in love with Salman's avatar... :inlove:
Shame about his username though...if it was something like...Hamza..I would have PMed him straight away...but alas.. :(
Masumah
20-12-06, 01:09 AM
:p
What are you on about? Im in love with Salman's avatar... :inlove:
Shame about his username though...if it was something like...Hamza..I would have PMed him straight away...but alas.. :(
You get my point, don't you? It's true what i said, no need to mock it.
Yes. The answer, is yes
Why? Because you say so?
No. The answer, is no :rolleyes:
I do, not that I agree with it. Salman had a valid point, there are people out there who do fall for that kind of stuff..perhaps not the font, but whats in your signature...what your avatar displays...
If the avatar shows a Mujahid, and the sig is a Quranic ayah talking about, kill and be killed...Im sure it will make some sisters look twice..
So they may not fall in love with that but it will start the ball rolling...
:)
Umm 'Umarah
20-12-06, 01:13 AM
here we go Kal-El... your are not going to accuse those of us that disgree with you... by saying we all have had either
" not experienced love or had a bad experience with it"
:rolleyes:
If that is his point of view...its his point of view, considering w havent even defined love, Im pretty sure he is entitled to it...
Masumah
20-12-06, 01:15 AM
its limerence ppl..not love..*sigh gives up*
Why? Because you say so?
No. The answer, is no :rolleyes:
Why? Because you say so?
Point is, everyone has their own opinion. Some people would tesify they have indeed fallen in love with someone they met and interacted through the Internet, and some will say it is impossible to have some kind of "love" for a person through the Internet.
Truth is, if we tested 10000 people who had some sort of relationship with someone of the opposite gender, through the Internet, and only just one had truly fallen in love, then yes the answer is that it is indeed possible to fall in love regardless of the odds.
If the avatar shows a Mujahid, and the sig is a Quranic ayah talking about, kill and be killed...Im sure it will make some sisters look twice..
So they may not fall in love with that but it will start the ball rolling...
:)
Whaaat? :rubeyes:
Come on, I VERY much doubt that. Thats not true at all.
Have you or I done a survey? Nope..
Are people that shallow sometimes? Yep...
As sad as it is...this stuphph happens.. :(
here we go Kal-El... your are not going to accuse those of us that disgree with you... by saying we all have had either
" not experienced love or had a bad experience with it"
:rolleyes:
I'm glad my point sunk in with you when I said that. :)
Why? Because you say so?
Point is, everyone has their own opinion. Some people would tesify they have indeed fallen in love with someone they met and interacted through the Internet, and some will say it is impossible to have some kind of "love" for a person through the Internet.
Truth is, if we tested 10000 people who had some sort of relationship with someone of the opposite gender, through the Internet, and only just one had truly fallen in love, then yes the answer is that it is indeed possible to fall in love regardless of the odds.
'Love' and all that mallarchy is the wrong word.
It is also subjective and really has no defintion. So no, I wouldnt take what that 'one person' says or their testimonies very seriously at all. However easily they fell in to it, they can quite easily fall out of it, because its nothing but someone who really needs to get off the internet, and in to the real world :rolleyes:
Have you or I done a survey? Nope..
Are people that shallow sometimes? Yep...
As sad as it is...this stuphph happens.. :(
People have fallen in love on the Internet, and married. Who are you to deem if their love is real or not, let alone deem if they are shallow or not?
here we go Kal-El... your are not going to accuse those of us that disgree with you... by saying we all have had either
" not experienced love or had a bad experience with it"
:rolleyes:
:rotfl:
Wo ho ho, hold up there sonny jim, I was referring to people who fell for avatars and signtures...
Whatever your opinions on the emotion(s) that people can experience with another on the Internet via words interacting, if they were to marry - then who is to say those emotions wouldn't get stronger? And who would say a happy married couple do not love each other?
Wo ho ho, hold up there sonny jim, I was referring to people who fell for avatars and signtures...
Yes I know, but it's also a method used to mock and make fun of the subject.
Whatever your opinions on the emotion(s) that people can experience with another on the Internet via words interacting, if they were to marry - then who is to say those emotions wouldn't get stronger? And who would say a happy married couple do not love each other?
What part of, love after marriage not simply over the internet, do you NOT understand???
:smack:
:rotfl:
The post she is referring to Nawar, was about love in general I believe and not about love over the Internet.
I then said what she quoted. So she is using it out of context, to which there is no real humour considering the subject we're on.
When can we expect the "embarrased" smiley?
What part of, love after marriage not simply over the internet, do you NOT understand???
:smack:
We were not discussing marriage in this subject. The question is, is love possible over the Internet?
I gave my honest opinion on it, and I find the mockery of my opinion to be very rude.
What do you not understand about that?
In relation to marriage, then yes, I believe love can grow in it.
Umm 'Umarah
20-12-06, 01:38 AM
The post she is referring to Nawar, was about love in general I believe and not about love over the Internet.
I then said what she quoted. So she is using it out of context, to which there is no real humour considering the subject we're on.
When can we expect the "embarrased" smiley?
yeah Kal-El, you could say i remembered it..i dont know about it "sinking in" though...it was humorous and absurd if anything....
you made a huge generalisation against people...including scholarly opinions who oppose your opinion on love...accusing us of not experiencing it or had some sort of bad experience of it.
how am I taking it out of context...? the topic in discussion is about LOVE..so i think that would entail love in general and all the other forms of "love" before marriage.
I believe that it is possible. There have been several historic romances that were carried out through letters and long distance communication and the internet is just another form of long distance communication.
yeah Kal-El, you could say i remembered it..i dont know about it "sinking in" though...it was humerous and absurd if anything....
you made a huge generalisation against people...including scholarly opinions who oppose your opinion on love...accusing us of not experiencing it or had some sort of bad experience of it.
how am I taking it out of context...? the topic in discussion is about LOVE..so i think that would entail love in general and all the other forms of "love" before marriage.
If I remember correctly, the mood of the discussion on that thread was turning to almost anti love, with some people's comments resembling those who have had bad experiences with love.
I think the saying, 'Tis better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all has value.
My comment was supportive of that saying, implying those who indiscriminately bad-mouth love have had a bad experience with it, although yes it was a general comment because i believe love is a good thing.
It is out of context, because my comment was about love in general, as an emotion.
This current discussion is about whether that emotion is possible to experience over the Internet.
You posted my comment on this discussion, implies that i am without question and factually stating that the love over the Internet some experience is always true love, and that anyone who disagrees with that has had a bad experience with love.
Which formatted that way is itself, absurd.
I'm sorry, I don't know how else I can break it down for you. Maybe ask Nawar?
I believe that it is possible. There have been several historic romances that were carried out through letters and long distance communication and the internet is just another form of long distance communication.
That's a good point
Umm 'Umarah
20-12-06, 02:03 AM
I think most of us here are looking at things from the more Islamic perspective not the Kal-El perspective.
no need to apologise and no need to break down your personal views...
I think i'll stick to the scholarly opinion...so...I'll pass thanx..;) :)
Allahu'Alam.....by looking at your statements, in effect.... you are implying that the halaal way to do things is "Anti-Love" and "bad- mouthing" love.
are you implying the Ulama al Iqram have never been in love, Anti-love and are bad mouthing love?
maybe you might want to refresh your memory with the thread...
http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?t=103910
are we talking about the right thread?? because I didnt see anything anti-love about it..
People who "fall" in love...it doesnt happen as though you are walking by and fall into a ditch. Most often the one's who "fall in love" -be it off or on the Net, are that way "inclined" - may often misinterpret things in a wrong manner, daydream about all things related to this (marriage, kids blah blah)
Anyone who gets all giddy because a member the opp sex says salaam or they find their avatar/icons "cute" or whatever other pile of horse manure comes under that category, should unplug their PC and go hibernate under their bed/stay indoors for eternity with no social contact :rolleyes:
People who "fall" in love...it doesnt happen as though you are walking by and fall into a ditch. Most often the one's who "fall in love" -be it off or on the Net, are that way "inclined" - may often misinterpret things in a wrong manner, daydream about all things related to this (marriage, kids blah blah)
Anyone who gets all giddy because a member the opp sex says salaam or they find their avatar/icons "cute" or whatever other pile of horse manure comes under that category, should unplug their PC and go hibernate under their bed/stay indoors for eternity with no social contact :rolleyes:
Here here :up: true true.
Na'eemah
20-12-06, 10:38 AM
The answer is : everyone is individual and some do fall in love over the net and some don't!
Simple.
muslima_89
20-12-06, 10:48 AM
fall in love with someones avator and sig how absurd :rolleyes: one thing i can say if they do fall for that it isn't true mutual love ...
it depends on the individual and the way he/she is, yes it is possible to fall in love with someone on the internet however with some people who base their complete choice in looks and not piety, it would be impossible :D ....differences of opinion i'd say :)
I personally think it is possible .. ppl have met eachother and got married using the net.
So what made them get married? .. Of course its possible.
I personally think it is possible .. ppl have met eachother and got married using the net.
So what made them get married? .. Of course its possible.
thats different fais,he didnt meet her in a chat room :rolleyes:
Yesterday we were having this discussion with a friend. She said, it’s possible to fall in love with someone you haven’t seen. I don’t particularly agree with this because the person on the other side can be easily deceiving you with their personality.
So my question is: Is it possible to fall in love with someone online? Has it happened to anyone? If it has, how have you dealt with it?
impossible. if we are adhering to Islamic guidelines, how will u be chatting with someone about such things as love on the net anyway? wheres the walli in all this...evreything should be done through a walli and anyman asking a woman for marriage (or a woman asking a man for that matter) it has to be done via the walli, so impossible to fall in love unless we are doing haram things like chatting alone.audu billah.
I think most of us here are looking at things from the more Islamic perspective not the Kal-El perspective.
no need to apologise and no need to break down your personal views...
I think i'll stick to the scholarly opinion...so...I'll pass thanx..;) :)
Allahu'Alam.....by looking at your statements, in effect.... you are implying that the halaal way to do things is "Anti-Love" and "bad- mouthing" love.
are you implying the Ulama al Iqram have never been in love, Anti-love and are bad mouthing love?
maybe you might want to refresh your memory with the thread...
http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?t=103910
are we talking about the right thread?? because I didnt see anything anti-love about it..
The subject was, was love or a similar strong emotion possible to experience before marriage?
I implied yes, ofcourse it is possible - but is it allowed? It depends how you define love and i still stand by my opinions on that thread. Love is now associated with so many things that are derogative of the symbolism. And these are the connotations people focused on - naturally it is not allowed because love, or something like it, could develop to something physical and thus Zina.
For people to speak about this, is fine and Islamic, but i sensed that some were completely rejecting the sincereity of the love experienced before marriage, and just dismissed it as e.g. lust or infatuation, which i disagreed with.
All im doing is emphasising the value of love in general with my attitude on both these forums. Now, the question on this subject is now "is it possible to fall in love on the Internet", i think you all know that my opinion is in the affirmative.
You are also free to whatever opinion you have, but the issue here is not of Islamic context, it is just a question of possibility. I don't need a scholar to tell me that it's possible or impossible to fall in love on this, or that, or here or there just as much as i dont need one to tell me i would get wet if i stand in the rain.
It's simple logic Kamilah, and i have made also my point of your quote and what it implied because that is, without a doubt the truth, the proof is the rather premature laughter of Nawar who got your point.
impossible. if we are adhering to Islamic guidelines, how will u be chatting with someone about such things as love on the net anyway? wheres the walli in all this...evreything should be done through a walli and anyman asking a woman for marriage (or a woman asking a man for that matter) it has to be done via the walli, so impossible to fall in love unless we are doing haram things like chatting alone.audu billah.
That is true. Islamically, it shouldnt be the case.
But generally speaking e.g. if this scenario involved two non-Muslims, then yes it is alot more possible.
But was this question asked on the context of religion or technicality?
thats different fais,he didnt meet her in a chat room :rolleyes:
So ... its still over the net :rolleyes:
And the thread says
Can someone fall in love over the internet?
Falling over the Internet would require interaction between two people, beit either by text or spoken words.
What do you people think when someone speaks of love on the Internet? You actually think people fall in love with the avatar or signature? :rubeyes:
Falling over the Internet would require interaction between two people, beit either by text or spoken words.
What do you people think when someone speaks of love on the Internet? You actually think people fall in love with the avatar or signature? :rubeyes:
Its possible. But very unlikely its true "love" ... When a person falls in love over the avatar and sig and what not.
So ... its still over the net :rolleyes:
And the thread says
Can someone fall in love over the internet?
keep home business home and all that ;) :smack:
dont you be doing the same thing :mad:
Its possible. But very unlikely its true "love" ... When a person falls in love over the avatar and sig and what not.
Why would they fall in love with an avatar, if they are actually speaking to the person behind the avatar? Wouldnt it make sense they develop emotions for the person and not the actual signature?
Why would they fall in love with an avatar, if they are actually speaking to the person behind the avatar? Wouldnt it make sense they develop emotions for the person and not the actual signature?
True .. but the person behind it can be But the other ones too .. cant they?
True .. but the person behind it can be But the other ones too .. cant they?
I'm sorry, I don't understand what you said...
I'm sorry, I don't understand what you said...
:rofl1: .. i missed a word out and added somthing else, strange :eek3: .. aint happened before.
True .. but the person behind it can be deceiving .. cant they?
Arsalan
20-12-06, 12:21 PM
Yesterday
Is gone..
we were having this discussion with a friend.
Right
She said, it’s possible to fall in love
Lol
with someone you haven’t seen.
No
I don’t particularly agree Correct
with this because the person on the other side
Farside?
can be easily deceiving
Right
you with their personality.
Okay
So my question is:
?
Is it possible
Yes
to fall in love with someone online?
Sad
Has it happened to anyone?
Diddledums
If it has, how have you dealt with it?
Pull the plug.
:rofl1: .. i missed a word out and added somthing else, strange :eek3: .. aint happened before.
Oh ok :D
Yes true there are liars on the Internet who e.g. use other people's photo's to represent themselves.
Lesson in that is, dont like anyone for their looks lol
keep home business home and all that ;) :smack:
dont you be doing the same thing :mad:
:( .. soz been there done that. :outta:
Oh ok :D
Yes true there are liars on the Internet who e.g. use other people's photo's to represent themselves.
Lesson in that is, dont like anyone for their looks lol
:rofl1: .. Yea true :up: ...
Salam, really good lecture by Sheikh Safi Khan that touches on this topic and the controversy surrounding it and how it pushes people into haram relationships that result in those involved, especially sisters being taken advantage of.
impossible.
Finally some words of sanity :up:
there are many definitions of love and there are many emotions that can be mistaken for love.
i do not believe you can truly know anyone until you live or travel with them, so if you feel you love someone... that is based on what you know of that person.
now how you get to know that person is a different issue altogether... it can be halaal or it can be haraam. neither is impossible.
Umm Amjad
20-12-06, 04:59 PM
if people can fall in love with Avatars, fonts, signitures, emotions, cut/paste text... they can fall in love with anything real or not.
Asalam o3alaikumwara7matulahiwabarakatuh
SubhanAllah and indeed it is nothing beyond that,
we have to easily lend our love to excessivness .
you know what i recommend is to make dua3
that you dont easily fall in to the traps of shaytan.
walahu ta3ala alam
Ma'salama
Is gone..
Right
Lol
No
Correct
Farside?
Right
Okay
?
Yes
Sad
Diddledums
Pull the plug.
:eek3:
farside
04-01-07, 08:03 PM
Not possible. I’m over the hill.
Kind Regards,
Farside http://bestsmileys.com/computer1/21.gif
i think people fall inlove with the person they percieve they are speaking to over the net....body language contributes greatly to how you interact with someone, ones voice the tone of it expresses your feelings...reading someones messages over the internet leaves YOU alone to interpret it in your own manner.
It is possible to begin to like someone over the internet...but again its your perception of that person really that you will fall in love with unless you take things further (in a halal way of course)
So my question is: Is it possible to fall in love with someone online? Has it happened to anyone? If it has, how have you dealt with it?
It hasn't happened to me but I'm sure it's possible as it's the sort of thing that can happen anywhere and at times can happen in bizarre circumstances. Some people on this thread have said that even if that happens, you're falling for your perception of that person when in real life he/she might be different- but that can be true of people we meet face to face as well as over the internet. The ability to deceive isn't limited to the use of the internet, but it takes more connivance and effort to deceive a person face to face.
bosnian_sis
04-01-07, 09:39 PM
it´s possible - believe me :inlove:
not possible. somehow i just dont get this whole internet love business.:zzz:
phx_muslimah
04-01-07, 11:14 PM
I think you can get to know a bit about someone over the internet, you can definitly rule out potential spouses just by asking questions, you can tell if you share similar values and view points on certain subjects; but to fall in love without actually ever meeting someone? I doubt it.
are we talking internet love as in 'shaady websites' or just plain, boy meets girl on a mutually interesting site?
MMS your airbrushed avvie is :nervous:
no one gonna fall in love with you with that one girlfrend *shakes hand at her*
anything can happen if you are desperate enough
:coolbro:
anything can happen if you are desperate enough
:coolbro:
:eek:
Phoenix CG
05-01-07, 06:32 PM
Anyone wanna derail this thread?
anything can happen if you are desperate enough
:coolbro:
:rotfl:
ghanamuslima
20-02-07, 06:15 PM
it's possible to fall inlove with the idea of da person
Medievalist
20-02-07, 09:21 PM
So my question is: Is it possible to fall in love with someone online? Has it happened to anyone? If it has, how have you dealt with it?
I haven't read every1s replies in this thread but my answer to the above question is:
Yes. it is possible.
Medievalist
20-02-07, 09:23 PM
i think people fall inlove with the person they percieve they are speaking to over the net....body language contributes greatly to how you interact with someone, ones voice the tone of it expresses your feelings...reading someones messages over the internet leaves YOU alone to interpret it in your own manner.
It is possible to begin to like someone over the internet...but again its your perception of that person really that you will fall in love with unless you take things further (in a halal way of course)
gud point. ppl fall in love with the person they percieve. if upon investigation the person they percieve is actually the persons true self then we will have to concede that ppl do fall in love over the net.
I believe people can develop some kind of feeling for the opposite gender.
this feeling takes many forms, Lust, Crush, Infatuation and in some extreme cases Obsession.
The problem is all of the above can easily be mistaken for love, hence the debate in this thread, how can one fall in love so easily? its impossible, its possible yadi yadi ya.
to understand this issue we have to put things in the right perspective.
painting things with the same brush is generalising.
I do believe that ppl can feel all of the above. and in some rare cases actually feel love 2 an extent.
i say an extent because true love can be seen thru experiences. for love is felt in the heart when expressed thru action.
Admiration is a matter of the heart, we dont control who we admire, hence why we may admire a certain skill an enemy of ours may have.
i believe it starts with admiration, this feeling can then go on to become any of the above i mentioned (lust, crush, infatuation, obsession, love) etc
Ok have i ever fallen in love on the net?
no, but i know for a fact it is possible to develop a crush and mistake it for love, for both are strong emotions.
peace & love folks.
i know a girl who, for 4 years, was madly in love with this guy she met on the net
she met him for the first time a few months ago
they're gonna get married in a few months' time - inshaAllah
so yea it's possible, it does happen
i think people fall inlove with the person they percieve they are speaking to over the net....body language contributes greatly to how you interact with someone, ones voice the tone of it expresses your feelings...reading someones messages over the internet leaves YOU alone to interpret it in your own manner.
It is possible to begin to like someone over the internet...but again its your perception of that person really that you will fall in love with unless you take things further (in a halal way of course)good post :up:
Khubaib
21-02-07, 12:31 AM
:rolleyes:
:1popcorn:
I will get more popcorn if I need it- on with the thread.
I can prove that one can fall in love over the net. I have absolutely zero exposure to muslims where I live. I came here, reverted and fell in love with an entire ummah :D (ok...maybe I was crushing a little bit before I got here but alhumdilulah it blossomed :D)
I can prove that one can fall in love over the net. I have absolutely zero exposure to muslims where I live. I came here, reverted and fell in love with an entire ummah :D (ok...maybe I was crushing a little bit before I got here but alhumdilulah it blossomed :D)
lol well whopty doo, we love u 2:up:
but keep in context uncle jee
lol well whopty doo, we love u 2:up:
but keep in context uncle jee
Hey...there was an active campaign to derail this thread...this was my feeble attempt to block such a dastardly conspiracy
ha ha and i ruined it?
am not sorry:D
ha ha and i ruined it?
am not sorry:D
Big meany http://bestsmileys.com/crying/14.gif
You can fall in love with someone over the net, it all depends on the connection you two had, for example, personalities. but you need to remember who is on the other side. I'm not saying that everyone who goes online tries to impress others, but it can happen. if you get to know them more than just online, like phone calls even meet up, then it should be ok.
Big meany http://bestsmileys.com/crying/14.gif
man where r u getting these cool icons from.
lol@big meanie.
bornschlocky
21-02-07, 07:38 AM
Well it's possible to fall in love with what you've been presented with. The flip side is whether or not the internet presentation matches reality.
Well it's possible to fall in love with what you've been presented with. The flip side is whether or not the internet presentation matches reality.
true.
u know i agree with most of what u say, i draw the line with issues regarding faith and religion.
man where r u getting these cool icons from.
lol@big meanie.
Vee have vays und means bwahaha
actually they are from http://bestsmileys.com/pageindex.htm
you can copy the image text and then paste it in any forum that allows pics
tru muslimah
21-02-07, 07:59 AM
Big meany http://bestsmileys.com/crying/14.gif
:rofl1: wow thats so kewl
(reminds me of Al-Qiyamah :rofl1: :hidban: )
Al Qiyamah
21-02-07, 08:02 AM
:rofl1: wow thats so kewl
(reminds me of Al-Qiyamah :rofl1: :hidban: )
:0: U WHAT???
:spunch:
:torture: :torture: :torture: I have to get you back but how ...hmm....lol I know :D Insha-Allah prepare for the worse
tru muslimah
21-02-07, 08:03 AM
:0: U WHAT???
:spunch:
:torture: :torture: :torture: I have to get you back but how ...hmm....lol I know :D Insha-Allah prepare for the worse
ryt ..um thanx for the warning :p
Al Qiyamah
21-02-07, 08:14 AM
ryt ..um thanx for the warning :p
your always quite welcome sis *evil grin*
tru muslimah
21-02-07, 08:17 AM
your always quite welcome sis *evil grin*
ok.. im scared :rofl1:
whatya gna do :(
scribble
21-02-07, 08:36 AM
Well according to the big book of junk and interllectual stuff, I can confidently say, yes, you can fall in love with the Internet! :up: :p :D
I dont beleive love over the internet.choosing a person for our life partner,it will take some time months or years,and to undustand that person nature and manners it definately take some time.so it very hard in my case to decide a person for love by Internet. :up:
Vee have vays und means bwahaha
actually they are from http://bestsmileys.com/pageindex.htm
you can copy the image text and then paste it in any forum that allows pics
thanks.
am feeling tired off to sleep i go
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its getting worse
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nite:wavey:
.: Anna :.
21-02-07, 09:53 AM
I dont beleive love over the internet.choosing a person for our life partner,it will take some time months or years,and to undustand that person nature and manners it definately take some time.so it very hard in my case to decide a person for love by Internet. :up:
it doesnt take months or years 2 decide whether someone is suitable for marriage?? (well normally) personally i think such a long time to "decide" is a potential for fitna, you dont need years!
as for could people fall in love on the internet... erm perhaps the wording is a bit strong, but certainly ppl could hav a good impression of someone thru their words and then they develop an interest in them for marriage or something like that. then i think its necessary 2 have an actual meet up offline because unfortunately mayb some people would not seem the same in person?
Al-ghurabah
21-02-07, 09:57 AM
fall in love over the net?
you can meet and discuss but to fal in love thats a very strong word with strong feelings atatched..
doubt you can just over the net
it doesnt take months or years 2 decide whether someone is suitable for marriage?? (well normally) personally i think such a long time to "decide" is a potential for fitna, you dont need years!
as for could people fall in love on the internet... erm perhaps the wording is a bit strong, but certainly ppl could hav a good impression of someone thru their words and then they develop an interest in them for marriage or something like that. then i think its necessary 2 have an actual meet up offline because unfortunately mayb some people would not seem the same in person?
yaa that what I want to say sis! some people would not seem the same in person. I personally believe one should try do marriage in there releative. if not possible they can go for close friends or neibours. but totally unknown person for marriage it's little bit difficult , who knows if she is good ok if not then khalas life will be in trouble,which I dont like atall.:up:
.: hayat :.
21-02-07, 11:42 AM
Yesterday we were having this discussion with a friend. She said, it’s possible to fall in love with someone you haven’t seen. I don’t particularly agree with this because the person on the other side can be easily deceiving you with their personality.
So my question is: Is it possible to fall in love with someone online? Has it happened to anyone? If it has, how have you dealt with it?
ya..bad experience but there can be also happy-ends inshaallah..
sumayyah!
23-02-07, 07:43 PM
i doubt it...i think it would simply be an illusion of love.it would be built around false images.i actually got an email on e-love by amr khaled if anyone is interested??
Lost_Princess
23-02-07, 11:27 PM
i dont think so like there has to be a physical attraction aswell u cant only like there personality it wont work out
peace out :up:
Maureen
23-02-07, 11:31 PM
Yesterday we were having this discussion with a friend. She said, it’s possible to fall in love with someone you haven’t seen. I don’t particularly agree with this because the person on the other side can be easily deceiving you with their personality.
So my question is: Is it possible to fall in love with someone online? Has it happened to anyone? If it has, how have you dealt with it?
It could be possibleto fall in love over the internet, but when you meet up with them, you might quickly fall out of love.
sumayyah!
24-02-07, 04:31 PM
It could be possibleto fall in love over the internet, but when you meet up with them, you might quickly fall out of love.
that would mean that it was not love to begin with but infatuation...
stephenoskie
24-02-07, 05:56 PM
erm i dont know
it depends on the leverl how you the person ?
whether they are telling the truth?
and how often you talk to them ?
then yo have to consider love is an intitmate feeling
so how can you get intimiate over the net
meaning like warm smiles and little things they do
you can love some one like RELI care for them
but your not IN love with them
but then you could have the obession that you wana love them
so bad that you actually convince your self you love them
when reli you dont
Love is a very tricky thing you know that
and it can play tricks and be flase at time,
dont be so quick to say i love you !
Inshallah
stephenoskie
24-02-07, 05:57 PM
that would mean that it was not love to begin with but infatuation...
yeah thats the word i was lukin for infatuation
not obession :)
Cristiana
24-02-07, 11:35 PM
No.
You can get a crush but it's not real... because it's easier to lie AND because you can selectively communicate only some aspects of your personality and come across completely different from what you really are.
What I mean is: I write here only when I'm in the mood. You don't "see me" always, in ALL my different moods, so you can't know all the nuances of my personality :zzz: ok I'll stop here...
Lambo5688
25-02-07, 01:26 AM
Im in love....
Im in love....
We are talking about a real human being here, not a car :p
Mustafa_A
25-02-07, 10:35 AM
'Love' is a very relative word..we all have our own perceptions of what it is, everryone has their own 'defination' of what love and being in love is...this in turn results in all of us having different expectations of love.
Therefore its not possible for anyone to judge another persons opinions and thoughts in this thread objectively as there is no strict defination of the word love, that is being used in this thread.
I am going to start a thread on ' What is love', should be interesting to see the different opinions expressed.
Al Qadr
25-02-07, 11:15 AM
People can (and do) pretend to be something/somebody they are not :rubeyes:
Medievalist
25-02-07, 11:59 AM
No.
You can get a crush but it's not real... because it's easier to lie AND because you can selectively communicate only some aspects of your personality and come across completely different from what you really are.
What I mean is: I write here only when I'm in the mood. You don't "see me" always, in ALL my different moods, so you can't know all the nuances of my personality :zzz: ok I'll stop here...
but thats the same with when guys and girls go out. They're not with each other 24/7 so any1 can put up an act.
Personally I know it can happen - sometimes when u meet then the person you meet is different to the one from the net, sometimes he/she is the same person only a million times better.
sis_sarah
25-02-07, 12:32 PM
i doubt it highly...i do not belive in love before marriage..it is more limerence than love.
yh i agree with u
I guess we've moved on from the "falling in love with their signature?" and font colour theory? :rolleyes:
Yesterday we were having this discussion with a friend. She said, it’s possible to fall in love with someone you haven’t seen. I don’t particularly agree with this because the person on the other side can be easily deceiving you with their personality.
So my question is: Is it possible to fall in love with someone online? Has it happened to anyone? If it has, how have you dealt with it?
I dont understand why they would be talking to the opposite sex anyway?
I just think those type of people are weak, no offence. People can make themselves seem perfect online but we all know no one is!
If you go along the lines of "how can you know a person and their character if you've never seen them? so how can you love them?"
Sure the love we all are talking about is different to that of the one we exhibit towards Prophet Muhammad (saws) but we havent seen him either. We only know of him through his example, his utterances and his behaviour.
So yes, its possible to love someone you have never seen or met.
anything can happen if you are desperate enough
:coolbro:
why si this thread still going, we already agreed on an answer :D
souljaa
25-02-07, 02:11 PM
Im in love....
So am I...F430...*Drools*
Abu Mus'ab
25-02-07, 04:04 PM
Im in love....
Gay marriages aren't allowed *Roll Eyes*
bintadam
25-02-07, 05:24 PM
lol
Strict2TheSunna
25-02-07, 08:25 PM
Falling in love over the internet?
As a muslim what kind of conversations are you having with the opposite sex. :rolleyes:
muslimah0707
26-02-07, 04:06 PM
Salaams,
I have been having very decent halal conversations with a man I am interested to marry, through the Internet. We have connected and feel very close (in love perhaps?) because of our fierce devotion to Islam and love of God, and our similarities. It is not lust at all. It is a spiritual connection. Love can be just that. And then progress into more advanced stages once you are married, inshah'Allah. Just my two cents. fi amani'Allah
$HugoBoss$
26-02-07, 07:07 PM
It does really depend on how you define love. I think it's possible that you can like someone online but love i don't think so because were all different online than in actual life. How can you read someone's body language and facial expressions???? Someone people say yes you can fall in love but thats not true love, true love is after marriage. :up:
im 17 at the mo studying A levels at clg. n my mum dropped a bomb shell on me yesterday.
she sed shes gonna get me married off b4 20.
i was so shokd.
i cant beliv it really. i really want to finsh studis at uni b4 getting marid. hw can u concentrate if u gotto look after ur partner n the inlaws? n what if my hubby doesnt let me study, o i dnt knw hw my life will pan out. im really scared. just do dua for me evry1...
im 17 at the mo studying A levels at clg. n my mum dropped a bomb shell on me yesterday.
she sed shes gonna get me married off b4 20.
i was so shokd.
i cant beliv it really. i really want to finsh studis at uni b4 getting marid. hw can u concentrate if u gotto look after ur partner n the inlaws? n what if my hubby doesnt let me study, o i dnt knw hw my life will pan out. im really scared. just do dua for me evry1...
I'm sure you will be ok. Yuck, I would never want to fall in love, love is vile.
im 17 at the mo studying A levels at clg. n my mum dropped a bomb shell on me yesterday.
she sed shes gonna get me married off b4 20.
i was so shokd.
i cant beliv it really. i really want to finsh studis at uni b4 getting marid. hw can u concentrate if u gotto look after ur partner n the inlaws? n what if my hubby doesnt let me study, o i dnt knw hw my life will pan out. im really scared. just do dua for me evry1...
Your mother can't marry you off without your consent. Simply say no or reject everyone that comes for you.
Medievalist
26-02-07, 09:03 PM
Your mother can't marry you off without your consent. Simply say no or reject everyone that comes for you.
ignore that advice.
make du'a and talk to your parents. maybe marriage aint the worst thing in the world? afterall thats what lifes abt innit? get married, have a home, have kids, be a mum. :up:
have a nice house with cute kids and smell of freshly baked bread wafting around and sounds perfect. think abt it :up:
ignore that advice.
make du'a and talk to your parents. maybe marriage aint the worst thing in the world? afterall thats what lifes abt innit? get married, have a home, have kids, be a mum. :up:
have a nice house with cute kids and smell of freshly baked bread wafting around and sounds perfect. think abt it :up:
That sounds all lovely and happy sister...but I don't think you understand what Rajmin is actually saying. She isn't 'mentally' prepared for a marriage. She 'wants' to complete her education. Not all marriages end up with 'nice houses' and 'perfect family life' and if it does...she can have all this after completing her studies, which she clearly stated she 'wants'.
It's what she 'wants' that's important, not the parents. It's vital to get parents blessings and she obviously shouldn't react to this kind of situation with anger. BUT if parents don't listen I'd go along with Kal El's advice and simply say 'no'.
Lambo5688
26-02-07, 11:54 PM
Gay marriages aren't allowed *Roll Eyes*
ugh bro ur accusing me of homosexuality? Astagfirullah.
ignore that advice.
make du'a and talk to your parents. maybe marriage aint the worst thing in the world? afterall thats what lifes abt innit? get married, have a home, have kids, be a mum. :up:
have a nice house with cute kids and smell of freshly baked bread wafting around and sounds perfect. think abt it :up:
There's no reason to ignore my advice. It's perfectly as valid as yours, but personally I think it's more informative.
ugh bro ur accusing me of homosexuality? Astagfirullah.
lol..abu musab killed it..
Lambo5688
27-02-07, 12:36 AM
lol..abu musab killed it..
:rotfl:
Abu Mus'ab
27-02-07, 09:13 AM
ignore that advice.
make du'a and talk to your parents. maybe marriage aint the worst thing in the world? afterall thats what lifes abt innit? get married, have a home, have kids, be a mum. :up:
have a nice house with cute kids and smell of freshly baked bread wafting around and sounds perfect. think abt it :up:
That sounds all lovely and happy sister
You hear that sister? *Roll Eyes*
Abu Mus'ab
27-02-07, 09:17 AM
ugh bro ur accusing me of homosexuality? Astagfirullah.
Well if it's not homosexuality and not beastiality then what is it?
*Roll Eyes*
You hear that sister? *Roll Eyes*
:0:
Don't blame me for not bothering to check someone's profile. He sounded like a 'she' so I assumed he was a 'she' :rolleyes:
Abu Mus'ab
27-02-07, 02:21 PM
You hear that sister medievalist?
You sound like woman *Roll Eyes*
alialiyan
27-02-07, 03:43 PM
dont know about falling in love over internet but when i worked with engineers...this particular ex engineer who I am due to get married to got on really well...we used to talk for an hour and didnt realise we were talking for that long and all we talked about was general stuff news and politics but was very intresting. I was then made redundant and we kept in touch via email every couple of weeks and 6 months down the line he told me he had feelings for me at which I said I am a muslim and can only marry a muslim. He then reverted to Islam and has been practising for over a year and has moved to my home town and works here and were in the process of getting my dad around to the idea. He even had his first court martial by my father on Saturday (brave man)
I never had imagined sumthing like this to happen but I am very ungreatful and real horrible to him at times...may Allah guide me
You hear that sister medievalist?
You sound like woman *Roll Eyes*
I didn't know sister Medievalist could 'hear' what I type :0:
Also, why do you keep typing 'Roll Eyes' when you could rather use the smiley ':rolleyes:' ??
:scratch:
Abu Mus'ab
27-02-07, 05:09 PM
I didn't know sister Medievalist could 'hear' what I type :0:
Also, why do you keep typing 'Roll Eyes' when you could rather use the smiley ':rolleyes:' ??
:scratch:
There's a thing called "Text To Speech" it turns text into sound *Roll Eyes*
I use it because i feel like using it, there's no particular reason.
Medievalist
27-02-07, 09:17 PM
Kubra - bro thats so sweet of you **flutters eyelids** **roll eyes**
Abu Mus'ab - Khuda ka khawf khao bhai :torture: behave yrself. :badguy:
Masumah
28-02-07, 01:22 AM
no love cant happen online, but infatuation, extreme like or limerance can happen but not love. thats soo:rolleyes:
Yesterday we were having this discussion with a friend. She said, it’s possible to fall in love with someone you haven’t seen. I don’t particularly agree with this because the person on the other side can be easily deceiving you with their personality.
So my question is: Is it possible to fall in love with someone online? Has it happened to anyone? If it has, how have you dealt with it?
Of course u can. Thats how i met my husband :D
Lambo5688
28-02-07, 02:18 AM
Well if it's not homosexuality and not beastiality then what is it?
*Roll Eyes*
What are you talking about?
All I said was Im in Love and you call me a homo?
LOL I was gonna say that im in love with the internet....but your jumping to conclusions.
:torture: :D
Abu Mus'ab
28-02-07, 10:18 AM
Kubra - bro thats so sweet of you **flutters eyelids** **roll eyes**
Abu Mus'ab - Khuda ka khawf khao bhai :torture: behave yrself. :badguy:
What? *Roll Eyes*
All i was doing is repeating what was said, and that is that you sound like a woman *Roll Eyes*
Abu Mus'ab
28-02-07, 10:20 AM
What are you talking about?
All I said was Im in Love and you call me a homo?
LOL I was gonna say that im in love with the internet....but your jumping to conclusions.
:torture: :D
Seems so, i thought you meant you were in love with lamborghini's *Roll Eyes*
And according to your own words (once upon a time, i think) lamborghinis are male *Roll Eyes*
kya bakwas hai love on/over internet ? :rolleyes:
That sounds all lovely and happy sister...but I don't think you understand what Rajmin is actually saying. She isn't 'mentally' prepared for a marriage. She 'wants' to complete her education. Not all marriages end up with 'nice houses' and 'perfect family life' and if it does...she can have all this after completing her studies, which she clearly stated she 'wants'.
It's what she 'wants' that's important, not the parents. It's vital to get parents blessings and she obviously shouldn't react to this kind of situation with anger. BUT if parents don't listen I'd go along with Kal El's advice and simply say 'no'.
Your mother can't marry you off without your consent. Simply say no or reject everyone that comes for you.
oh i know mayb marriage wouldnt be so bad, n if i go thru with marriage b4 20 then it will prob be for the only reason that i will have my parents blessing. see im quite good at doing anything for my parents. but i wud neva hav imagind them to ask me of this.
the thing is i really do want to go to uni. im predicted A's in my AS rite nw it seems a waste to me if i dnt go onto higher ed.
ooj we'll see what happens...
by the way i heard that the person u will marry is in your kismat, well is it in your kismat WHEN you will get married??
n i dnt think its possible to fall in luv over net. i think ppl might just feel as though they are but i actually think love is only real after marriage.
Lambo5688
28-02-07, 09:30 PM
Seems so, i thought you meant you were in love with lamborghini's *Roll Eyes*
And according to your own words (once upon a time, i think) lamborghinis are male *Roll Eyes*
What! no way. Lamborghinis are cars. Cars have a female tense.
Like when you see a really nice care, you say, "She's a beauty!"
Medievalist
28-02-07, 09:39 PM
What! no way. Lamborghinis are cars. Cars have a female tense.
Like when you see a really nice care, you say, "She's a beauty!"
my brother is so innocent and child-like innit. mashaALLAH:hidban: :hidban: :up:
Lambo5688
28-02-07, 09:45 PM
my brother is so innocent and child-like innit. mashaALLAH:hidban: :hidban: :up:
Really? I wanna meet your brother.:D
Medievalist
28-02-07, 09:54 PM
Really? I wanna meet your brother.:D
i was talking abt u bro :rolleyes:
Abu Mus'ab
01-03-07, 09:31 AM
What! no way. Lamborghinis are cars. Cars have a female tense.
Like when you see a really nice care, you say, "She's a beauty!"
oh then it must have been Fais that said cars are masculine *Roll Eyes*
my brother is so innocent and child-like innit. mashaALLAH
Maybe because he is a kid *Roll Eyes*
Lambo5688
03-03-07, 09:52 PM
oh then it must have been Fais that said cars are masculine *Roll Eyes*
Maybe because he is a kid *Roll Eyes*
Yup. Fais. :up:
Who's a kid? Fais....bro Fais is 18, he isn't a kid anymore.:D
Abu Mus'ab
04-03-07, 01:47 PM
Yup. Fais. :up:
Who's a kid? Fais....bro Fais is 18, he isn't a kid anymore.:D
You're both kids, don't get too big for your boots now *Roll Eyes*
souljaa
04-03-07, 02:15 PM
You're both kids, don't get too big for your boots now *Roll Eyes*
Ignore him Lamborghini Gallardo...He's just player hating 'cos he's old and he wishes he could be young but he can't anymore:p
naww u cant fall in love via net..this is my opinion..i just know u cant. :D
Abu Mus'ab
04-03-07, 03:27 PM
Ignore him Lamborghini Gallardo...He's just player hating 'cos he's old and he wishes he could be young but he can't anymore:p
I feel like i'm getting older each second, yeah i know i'm getting older each second *Roll Eyes*
Only thing i still can't do after all this time is control my temper, no matter how hard i try it always gets the better of me, don't get me wrong i like having a temper, i just want to be able to control it.
naww u cant fall in love via net..this is my opinion..i just know u cant. :D
your next post will add you to the 10,000 club *Roll Eyes*
I feel like i'm getting older each second, yeah i know i'm getting older each second *Roll Eyes*
Only thing i still can't do after all this time is control my temper, no matter how hard i try it always gets the better of me, don't get me wrong i like having a temper, i just want to be able to control it.
your next post will add you to the 10,000 club *Roll Eyes*
lol i was thinking of making a thread but its too typical..besides i cant b bthrd ..:p
souljaa
04-03-07, 04:11 PM
I feel like i'm getting older each second, yeah i know i'm getting older each second *Roll Eyes*
Only thing i still can't do after all this time is control my temper, no matter how hard i try it always gets the better of me, don't get me wrong i like having a temper, i just want to be able to control it.
your next post will add you to the 10,000 club *Roll Eyes*
Hmmm I dunno. Im sure we talked about this on MSN:scratch:...Why is it good to have a temper? The way I see it, having a bad temper only increases your anger which makes a person vulnerable.
Abu Mus'ab
04-03-07, 05:32 PM
Hmmm I dunno. Im sure we talked about this on MSN:scratch:...Why is it good to have a temper? The way I see it, having a bad temper only increases your anger which makes a person vulnerable.
When your temper hit boiling point then both your strength and defence doubles.
For instance i can pound a wall a few times before i feel the pain, when i lose my temper i can pound a metal pole quite a few times without feeling anything, only the next day after my body rests my veins on my knuckles will be bruised, which is not much of a problem anyway.
Anf if having a temper will help me achieve my goal then i'm all for it, it's a small price to pay, what would be better is to be able to control and harness that hidden strength, then you wouldn't even need a temper.
My objective is to get stronger, by any means necassary, that's why i don't want to get rid of my temper just yet.
To understand my reasons you'd need to live a day in my mind.
When your temper hit boiling point then both your strength and defence doubles.
For instance i can pound a wall a few times before i feel the pain, when i lose my temper i can pound a metal pole quite a few times without feeling anything, only the next day after my body rests my veins on my knuckles will be bruised, which is not much of a problem anyway.
Anf if having a temper will help me achieve my goal then i'm all for it, it's a small price to pay, what would be better is to be able to control and harness that hidden strength, then you wouldn't even need a temper.
My objective is to get stronger, by any means necassary, that's why i don't want to get rid of my temper just yet.
To understand my reasons you'd need to live a day in my mind.
That's not a good thing. :rubeyes:
If you have a bad temper the healthiest way to express anger is to be assertive- not aggressive - in letting others know what you feel and need. You have to make clear what you want to happen, don't hurt others or yourself, and be respectful to everyone involved.
Deep breathing calms you down. It helps bring you back to where you can think more clearly and reason! You don't have to pound a metal pole to get rid of the anger, there are other ways! If you want to get strong kickboxing is an obvious choice.
souljaa
04-03-07, 05:55 PM
When your temper hit boiling point then both your strength and defence doubles.
For instance i can pound a wall a few times before i feel the pain, when i lose my temper i can pound a metal pole quite a few times without feeling anything, only the next day after my body rests my veins on my knuckles will be bruised, which is not much of a problem anyway.
Anf if having a temper will help me achieve my goal then i'm all for it, it's a small price to pay, what would be better is to be able to control and harness that hidden strength, then you wouldn't even need a temper.
My objective is to get stronger, by any means necassary, that's why i don't want to get rid of my temper just yet.
To understand my reasons you'd need to live a day in my mind.
You need some anger management classes oldie:p...Just pulling your beard!:coolbro:
Hmmm, By any means necessary? I don't think that's the right way to go about it. There's various ways of becoming stronger...physically or mentally. Becoming stronger physically is easy but I think in this context you mean gaining strength mentally which is extremely hard if you have a temper. Do you have such a bad temper that people around you have to be careful what they say and do in fear that you might lash out or something? If that's the case, you sound like my brother:|.
Abu Mus'ab
04-03-07, 06:17 PM
Man deja vu, i've seen all this before.
If you have a bad temper the healthiest way to express anger is to be assertive- not aggressive - in letting others know what you feel and need. You have to make clear what you want to happen, don't hurt others or yourself, and be respectful to everyone involved.
i am an aggressive person, i like being an aggressive person, it makes me happy to be like that *Roll Eyes*
Deep breathing calms you down. It helps bring you back to where you can think more clearly and reason! You don't have to pound a metal pole to get rid of the anger, there are other ways! If you want to get strong kickboxing is an obvious choice.
i didn't hit it because i was angry, it was a test as to what i can hit before i feel pain.
i punched the punchbag first but it was too soft, then i punched a board and that too was soft, then i tried the wall and the same thing happened, then the pole and my experiment was complete.
Hmmm, By any means necessary? I don't think that's the right way to go about it. There's various ways of becoming stronger...physically or mentally. Becoming stronger physically is easy but I think in this context you mean gaining strength mentally which is extremely hard if you have a temper. Do you have such a bad temper that people around you have to be careful what they say and do in fear that you might lash out or something? If that's the case, you sound like my brother:|.
There's three types of training, 1: Physical training, 2: Mental Training, 3: Spiritual training, to me the first one is just as it says, the second one is to train your mind and not be a dunce, and the third is to train your soul (i.e becoming a better muslim)
Not really, i'm quite tame actually *Roll Eyes* but there are a few buttons that if pressed will land you in the hospital for a very long time indeed.
Medievalist
04-03-07, 06:22 PM
i punched the punchbag first but it was too soft, then i punched a board and that too was soft, then i tried the wall and the same thing happened, then the pole and my experiment was complete.
thats quite a gud experiment - i concur. :up:
i am an aggressive person, i like being an aggressive person, it makes me happy to be like that *Roll Eyes*.
Yeah? :rolleyes:
Expressing your angry feelings in an assertive—not aggressive—manner is the healthiest way to express anger. Being assertive doesn't mean being pushy or demanding; it means being respectful of yourself and others. :1peace:
Being angry is completely normal, but when it gets out of control and turns destructive, it can lead to problems - problems at work, University, family life, and in the overall quality of your life. It can make you feel as though you're at the mercy of an unpredictable and powerful emotion. It's important to control your anger, before it controls you!
i didn't hit it because i was angry, it was a test as to what i can hit before i feel pain.
i punched the punchbag first but it was too soft, then i punched a board and that too was soft, then i tried the wall and the same thing happened, then the pole and my experiment was complete..
Oh my! :rubeyes:
Not really, i'm quite tame actually *Roll Eyes* but there are a few buttons that if pressed will land you in the hospital for a very long time indeed.
I think the more you learn to control your anger, the easier you'll find it becomes and you will end up having more control over your entire life. It will help you feel more at ease and more calm every day.
I'd suggest you to try hitting your pillow or something....or maybe that's too soft for you! Or like I mentioned before, take up kick boxing/Thai boxing...something that requires punching :p
Abu Mus'ab
04-03-07, 07:58 PM
How did this change from a 'can someone fall in love over the internet' to a 'control abu mus'ab's temper' thread? *Roll Eyes*
Yeah? :rolleyes:
Yeah *Roll Eyes*
Being angry is completely normal, but when it gets out of control and turns destructive, it can lead to problems - problems at work, University, family life, and in the overall quality of your life. It can make you feel as though you're at the mercy of an unpredictable and powerful emotion. It's important to control your anger, before it controls you!
Anger is my freind, we get along very well actually, he never tries to overpower me, he's just there to help me along, though we have our usual differences.
I'd suggest you to try hitting your pillow
That's for women *Roll Eyes*
How did this change from a 'can someone fall in love over the internet' to a 'control abu mus'ab's temper' thread? *Roll Eyes**
I have noooo idea! :rolleyes:
Anger is my freind
:0:
we get along very well actually
:eek3:
he never tries to overpower me, he's just there to help me along
That's what you say now....wait for another 5 - 6 years when it gets difficult to control the anger.
That's for women *Roll Eyes*
:smack:
Okay, what about a Punch bag?
Abu Mus'ab
04-03-07, 08:21 PM
I have noooo idea! :rolleyes:
:0:
:eek3:
That's what you say now....wait for another 5 - 6 years when it gets difficult to control the anger.
:smack:
Okay, what about a Punch bag?
What you looking like i'm some sort of nutcase? *Roll Eyes* i'm just a psycho *Roll Eyes*
Friends don't betray each other, so i don't think i'll have trouble controlling it.
A punchbag is soft too.
What you looking like i'm some sort of nutcase? *Roll Eyes* i'm just a psycho *Roll Eyes*.
*is freaked out* :eek:
Friends don't betray each other, so i don't think i'll have trouble controlling it..
Oh dear! You are even worse than I thought! :wacko:
A punchbag is soft too.
What about a brick...no actually that's probably soft as well? :eek3:
Lambo5688
04-03-07, 09:50 PM
You're both kids, don't get too big for your boots now *Roll Eyes*
Dont hate our youth.:p
Ignore him Lamborghini Gallardo...He's just player hating 'cos he's old and he wishes he could be young but he can't anymore:p
Yeah your right.
I feel like i'm getting older each second, yeah i know i'm getting older each second *Roll Eyes*
Only thing i still can't do after all this time is control my temper, no matter how hard i try it always gets the better of me, don't get me wrong i like having a temper, i just want to be able to control it.
Yes. But dont release your anger in the wrong place ar the wrong time. Or you might get shot. Especially by my bodygaurds.:D
I'd suggest you to try hitting your pillow or something....
Yea. You might as well punch the air. :D
clausius
05-03-07, 12:01 AM
i think the male genders get attracted when people of females have multi-coloured signatures, and smilies, hugs, and say funny stuff...
im not being sarcastic it is actually true, so think harder about what you say and how you say it....
about falling in love, well u shudnt fall in love, bcos u myt not like the person face to face sort of thing,
so if u do fall in love on that level and want to propose sort of thing, make sure u dont reject them face to face, bcos if u do that wud be cold and the person may suffer frm esteem issues as a result...
Anyone here lust over the use of pink font?
Come on..just confess and we can help you. :rolleyes:
Seriously, its weird how some people think "internet love" is based on the font colour or signatures..:scratch: And even weirder when they say "it's true, all true" :scratch:
I don't know whether to laugh or pause with concern for them..
clausius
05-03-07, 12:35 AM
Anyone here lust over the use of pink font?
Come on..just confess and we can help you. :rolleyes:
Seriously, its weird how some people think "internet love" is based on the font colour or signatures..:scratch: And even weirder when they say "it's true, all true" :scratch:
I don't know whether to laugh or pause with concern for them..
i think its very rude referring someone as weird, infact i think ppl like you are weird for misunderstanding a key area in my post (line 1 and line 2) when I said ppl get attracted (NOT FALL IN LOVE) becuase of font colours and smilies ...
it is basic human psychology, the reason why ppl were bright red clothes and lipstick .....
i think the male genders get attracted when people of females have multi-coloured signatures, and smilies, hugs, and say funny stuff...
im not being sarcastic it is actually true, so think harder about what you say and how you say it....
about falling in love, well u shudnt fall in love, bcos u myt not like the person face to face sort of thing,
so if u do fall in love on that level and want to propose sort of thing, make sure u dont reject them face to face, bcos if u do that wud be cold and the person may suffer frm esteem issues as a result...
Are you being serious? I think that's quite strange. :scratch:
So someone can be attracted to a person who has a multi coloured font? Has that actually happened before or are you just 'assuming' they will? :eek3:
Internet love I believe is based on personality, two people having a conversation through msn or messageboards for a long time, two people who actually have something in common......not the colour of a persons font or the smilies they put up. :S
Um Hurayrah
05-03-07, 09:41 AM
I don't think that this should be called love. A new word should be created for that. Any how I once remember reading a story about a man who fell in love with the person he was chatting with. That person, was a man who pretended to be a girl. Now the first guy,wouldn't have possibly fallen in love with the the guy-in-guise-of- a-girl because that guy had a nice personality but because he somehow formed a mental perception in him that filled a void he that he had inside. Now when this man realised that he was conned , he fell into depression. But can he claim that he loved the other man's personality?.
i think its very rude referring someone as weird, infact i think ppl like you are weird for misunderstanding a key area in my post (line 1 and line 2) when I said ppl get attracted (NOT FALL IN LOVE) becuase of font colours and smilies ...
it is basic human psychology, the reason why ppl were bright red clothes and lipstick .....
I didn't call you weird, I called your theory weird. Wearing lipstick is a physical attraction - the colours are used on lips to emphasise their shape to make it more appealing to men.
How do you think a pink font would get a man physically attracted..to my font? Do you see the difference? If I use pink font, the only thing another person could tell is that i'd probably be female - now is that enough for some man to lust? I dont know if you are aware of this, but there are plenty of females here who don't use that font colour, and some who do - I doubt any of them have been getting marriage proposals via PM, someone correct me if im wrong.
The thing with this is that people (and you are not the first who has said something like this, or maybe you are but with a different account) just assume things and then refer to it as factual. This font colour idea is ill-thought. At first I found suggestions like this hilarious, then concerned, now I just get annoyed by it. You might aswell protest the world is flat and the moon is made of cheese.
Isn't Verdana font just soooooooo attractive? :inlove:
:rolleyes: :smack:
Hey hey...I work alone :D
Shh. You werent the first one to coin the "falling in love with colour font and avatar" phrase :p
Abu Mus'ab
05-03-07, 02:32 PM
Yes. But dont release your anger in the wrong place ar the wrong time. Or you might get shot. Especially by my bodygaurds.
I never release my 'anger'
I'm a strange type of thing, i can fight with you now or give you a death threat and then be laughing with you after 5 minutes *Roll Eyes*
I'm a strange type of thing, i can fight with you now or give you a death threat and then be laughing with you after 5 minutes *Roll Eyes*
do you always do the *Roll Eyes* thing?
Abu Mus'ab
05-03-07, 02:53 PM
do you always do the *Roll Eyes* thing?
Not always, i've cut down on it a lot lately.
I never release my 'anger'
I'm a strange type of thing, i can fight with you now or give you a death threat and then be laughing with you after 5 minutes *Roll Eyes*
are you boiling inside *Roll Eyes*
Abu Mus'ab
05-03-07, 03:21 PM
are you boiling inside *Roll Eyes*
I don't need to be angry to give people 'threats', i do it just because i want to *Roll Eyes*
I don't need to be angry to give people 'threats', i do it just because i want to *Roll Eyes*
i am sorry to have angered you as i was not aware of the contexts of discussions
Lambo5688
05-03-07, 03:45 PM
lol Abu Musab is great!
Abu Mus'ab
05-03-07, 03:57 PM
i am sorry to have angered you as i was not aware of the contexts of discussions
What're you talking about?
who said i got upset at you?
I was talking about someone else that i gave a "*ahem* threat" to *Roll Eyes*
lol Abu Musab is great!
You've cut my neck man, check the thread called 'praise'
What're you talking about?
who said i got upset at you?
I was talking about someone else that i gave a "*ahem* threat" to *Roll Eyes*
You've cut my neck man, check the thread called 'praise'
I am very much relieved on hearing this ;)
Lambo5688
05-03-07, 07:31 PM
I was talking about someone else that i gave a "*ahem* threat" to *Roll Eyes*
:(
junaidb
06-03-07, 09:52 AM
i think its rather shallow to think that u have "fallen in love" with sum1 u know just thru technology....:rubeyes:
i mean what has the world stoooped to now.....craziness if u ask me...
but i do know that its on the increase.....:torture: :torture: :torture:
Wassalaam
Abu Mus'ab
06-03-07, 10:59 AM
:(
Not you either man, what's up with y'all?
And i don't remember giving you a death threat either that you should now be worried or saddened.
Hmm.... see dis ones hard, because it just depends on certain individuals. I believe, u can actualli like someone. Theres jus something about the net which makes u certain that the person is being genuine. Some people can jus chat to each other for agesssss and agesssss on the net. Love, howeva, is a different matter....
Lambo5688
07-03-07, 06:00 PM
Not you either man, what's up with y'all?
And i don't remember giving you a death threat either that you should now be worried or saddened.
yes u did
Na'eemah
07-03-07, 06:07 PM
My friend's brother is getting married soon to a girl he 'met' online. They have known each other for about 4 years or so.
Abu Mus'ab
07-03-07, 06:27 PM
yes u did
Where? when? show me this supposed 'threat'
My threats is when i put you on the ground, put my knee in your ribs and a knife to your throat, and i certainly didn't do that to you.
yes u did
khataara hatao :)
Lambo5688
07-03-07, 09:20 PM
My threats is when i put you on the ground, put my knee in your ribs and a knife to your throat, and i certainly didn't do that to you.
Ay. Mi mamá es gonna patea su pero.
Lambo5688
07-03-07, 09:20 PM
khataara hatao :)
kem cho balasasey?
Where? when? show me this supposed 'threat'
My threats is when i put you on the ground, put my knee in your ribs and a knife to your throat, and i certainly didn't do that to you.
:eek3:
Lambo5688
07-03-07, 09:24 PM
:eek3:
See they pick on me.:(
Hehe but dont worry let bro musab act tought, its funny.
See they pick on me.:(
Hehe but dont worry let bro musab act tought, its funny.
im not getting involved :outta:
i wasnt even here:rubeyes:
Lambo5688
07-03-07, 09:26 PM
im not getting involved :outta:
i wasnt even here:rubeyes:
fine........
fine........
hell dyu blame me?
Lambo5688
07-03-07, 09:32 PM
hell dyu blame me?
Yea bro musab will get on ur case too, so u should :outta:
Yea bro musab will get on ur case too, so u should :outta:
lol he wudnt cos he aint no sissy bruv:coolbro:
Lambo5688
07-03-07, 09:34 PM
lol he wudnt cos he aint no sissy bruv:coolbro:
ok then tell him to stop picking on me.
ok then tell him to stop picking on me.
but u aint a girl :eek3:
Lambo5688
07-03-07, 09:47 PM
but u aint a girl :eek3:
I know....i just wanted the picking to be transferring from me to you. lol
im not really mad that they are pickin on me, its fun becuase they try so hard.
Abu Mus'ab
08-03-07, 09:59 AM
Ay. Mi mamá es gonna patea su pero.
I don't speak spanish *Roll Eyes*
Speak english, or urdu or arabic or miripuri even *Roll Eyes*
kem cho balasasey?
sayyara hatao :)
Al-ghurabah
08-03-07, 10:02 AM
i fell in love over the internet once..
was a horrible fall hurt so much..didnt see the internet on my way.. tripped over and fell in love..
Abu Mus'ab
08-03-07, 10:04 AM
:eek3:
that's a real scenario *Roll Eyes*
Abu Mus'ab
08-03-07, 10:07 AM
I know....i just wanted the picking to be transferring from me to you. lol
im not really mad that they are pickin on me, its fun becuase they try so hard.
Bruv we don't need to try at all *Roll Eyes*
And we weren't picking on you, just mearly joking.
Bruv we don't need to try at all *Roll Eyes*
And we weren't picking on you, just mearly joking.
I appreciate yours brotherly sentiments to another great brother Lambo .:)
My only problem is with his khatara in the signature and not with lambo :o
that's a real scenario *Roll Eyes*
okay thanx for telling me. :nervous:
You can build attachments over the internet, but thats not love. Oh and in most cases the attachments are probably very unhealthy :D
You can build attachments over the internet, but thats not love. Oh and in most cases the attachments are probably very unhealthy :D
lol verrry unhealthy :D
zesty u crack me up..hows u 2day?
lol verrry unhealthy :D
zesty u crack me up..hows u 2day?
:D well its true- you can be very fond of someone over the internet because of the way they come across, you believe theyre sincere, theyre intelligent, they know about deen etc etc but well- reality to an extent is a different dimension. You just spend alot of time talkng to them and your feelings can grow.
Love is something that people just say... how many know what it really is? To me its something that grows. Over time with your spouse with inshaAllah Allah putting His rehmaa and barakah in your marriage. Its when you go through the good and the bad with each other and you still stick by one another. Its when you dont desert the other person cos things arent perfect and instead you work at your marriage. Thesedays people just use the words "I love you" left right and centre without maybe meaning it. Its ovverated and used carelessly.
how do i crack you up silly moo :p
Alhamdullilah better (im keeping up the patient act cos it means i getmy family slaving after me! heheeh).. had a little pain earlier but all good. hows you chick?
Abu Mus'ab
08-03-07, 11:57 AM
okay thanx for telling me. :nervous:
Sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind *Roll Eyes*
Sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind *Roll Eyes*
err yeah ;;:outta:
desperate times call fer desperate measures :hidban:
desperate times call fer desperate measures :hidban:
:wacko:
verrry desperate? :eek3:
Al Qadr
08-03-07, 08:32 PM
everyones fake, esp on net :rolleyes:
People these days, falling in love with anything :rolleyes:
Maalikah
08-03-07, 08:39 PM
everyones fake, esp on net :rolleyes:
People these days, falling in love with anything :rolleyes:
I don't accept that at all. People who are fake can be spotted quite easily and most people are genuine, or try to be.
You can lust over the internet, but not fall in love. You might believe you have fallen in love, but you're just lusting. I do feel sorry for some people who think they have fallen in love.
As humans we all have the propensity and desire to worship. Some of us find the truth path, alhamdulillah and direct our worship to our Creator: Allah (swt). Others direct that need to worship to idols be they made of stone or the more contemporary kind: e.g. pop stars, actors, actresses.
With love, it's the same. We all have those feelings and sometimes they are misdirected. Sometimes we think we're in love when we're not. We're just lusting.
May Allah (swt) guide our hearts to true halal love. Once you are married, you can love and lust all you want, and our creator is so merciful that we are rewarded for this :inlove:
Ameen to that :)
and sometimes its not even lust. You can come across people on the net who guide you to Allah and the right path (well, Allah is the one who guides, but i guess these people help- they hold up the signposts lol). Its ironic that sometimes things that may not be completely halaal are precisely the things that draw you closer to Allah or guide you to His Ibadah. I dont even know if im making sense anymore...
everyones fake, esp on net :rolleyes:
People these days, falling in love with anything :rolleyes:
ya i kinda agree, i dont really understand how the falling in love over the internet works when u havnt even seen the other person, can u be attracted to their posts :wacko:, ppl dont show their true colours online i cud pretend im summin real big online n in real life im a nobody :p
most ppl r fake even in real life :p
ya i kinda agree, i dont really understand how the falling in love over the internet works when u havnt even seen the other person, can u be attracted to their posts :wacko:, ppl dont show their true colours online i cud pretend im summin real big online n in real life im a nobody :p
most ppl r fake even in real life :p
Maybe you just dont trust easily? :) which isnt necessarily a bad thing, but there are some absolutely genuine people on the net who are exactly how they are online in person too. Alhamdullilah. May Allah keep us safe regardless. Ameen.
Al Qadr
08-03-07, 08:46 PM
ya i kinda agree, i dont really understand how the falling in love over the internet works when u havnt even seen the other person, can u be attracted to their posts :wacko:, ppl dont show their true colours online i cud pretend im summin real big online n in real life im a nobody :p
most ppl r fake even in real life :p
:rotfl: exactly.
True sis :torture:
Maalikah, I spose ur right about the lust thing, most cases it prolly aint love, but the person thinks it is, but it is actually lust, cos they dont know the person, and have thier own idea of what he/she is like, so its lust. Cos they dont know the true person.
Peacenik
08-03-07, 08:47 PM
I think people do show their true side on the internet.
They seem to be much more open with their feelings than if they were face to face with someone.
The internet gives that security that no-one knows who you are (except for *cough* certain intelligence agencies)
;)
Maalikah
08-03-07, 08:52 PM
Ameen to that :)
and sometimes its not even lust. You can come across people on the net who guide you to Allah and the right path (well, Allah is the one who guides, but i guess these people help- they hold up the signposts lol). Its ironic that sometimes things that may not be completely halaal are precisely the things that draw you closer to Allah or guide you to His Ibadah. I dont even know if im making sense anymore...
Yeah of course you make sense Zesty.
But ensure your intention is pure. If someone you are fond of over the internet asks you to read Surah Kahf tomorrow because it's Friday and you know you'll be asked later whether you did - you go ahead and do it. Masha'allah for reading Surah Kahf - but what was your intention? Was it for Allah (swt) or to tell your friend later that you did?
In Islam, niyah is the key componenent of every good. If niyah is good, ibaadah = ibadah. If niyah is bad then even ibaadah can be unrewarding. It’s what in the heart that counts. I don't mean to go on and on but we all know the Hadith of Intention, and some Scholars say it represents a third of Deen.
Does that make sense? :)
You also cannot justify Haraam through your niyah. E.g. "I will talk to this ghayr mahram over the internet and whilst most of what we talk about is unislamic and personal, we remind each to pray salah therefore there is some good". No, no, no. Absolutely no.
This is not targeted at any one individual and I am not lecturing- the naseeha is to myself also, well mainly :inlove:
[I really like this love smilie!]
Mals, i understand and agree with everything you have just said :) I just admit when im blatantly in the wrong. Not in order to display or highlight my sins (thats not right either) but simply to admit to myself that im not a hypocrite and that yes i am weak and i weaknesses and flaws that i need to improve on. (Im gona quit rambling).
Maalikah
08-03-07, 08:55 PM
:rotfl: exactly.
True sis :torture:
Maalikah, I spose ur right about the lust thing, most cases it prolly aint love, but the person thinks it is, but it is actually lust, cos they dont know the person, and have thier own idea of what he/she is like, so its lust. Cos they dont know the true person.
I think you can lust for someone you know as well. There is big difference between love and lust. How do I explain it?
You can have both for a person or you could have just the one - although love lasts longer and is therefore what makes a successful marriage/relationship- if you get me?
Al Qadr
08-03-07, 09:15 PM
I think you can lust for someone you know as well. There is big difference between love and lust. How do I explain it?
You can have both for a person or you could have just the one - although love lasts longer and is therefore what makes a successful marriage/relationship- if you get me?
:rubeyes: Yea, I think so.
Yup, I gets ya :D
Peacenik
08-03-07, 09:19 PM
Come on guys - I thought we all knew the difference between love and lust.
Not that difficult is it ?
:)
I think people do show their true side on the internet.
They seem to be much more open with their feelings than if they were face to face with someone.
The internet gives that security that no-one knows who you are (except for *cough* certain intelligence agencies)
;)
lol are u telling me ure showing ure true side?:rolleyes:
Peacenik
08-03-07, 09:24 PM
What ?
You don't like ?
What ?
You don't like ?
i didnt say that...u know what i mean :smack:
Peacenik
08-03-07, 09:30 PM
Er, no - care to enlighten me ? (and just me).
:D
Er, no - care to enlighten me ? (and just me).
:D
err no..i dunno :D
Peacenik
08-03-07, 09:34 PM
Lol ! - ok, we'll leave it at that :)
Nazahah
08-03-07, 09:35 PM
of course I have, i will retell the story
i knew it was in love when i saw that avatar, it was love at first sight, the emoticons showed me a side to him no one saw, such wonderful characteristics conveyed by the bold italiced words, holding such wisdom, they taught me so much, his rep points so high, i knew he was loved and respected by all, and our signatures matched, It was love
Peacenik
08-03-07, 09:36 PM
Er, okay.... (you're scaring me...)
of course I have, i will retell the story
i knew it was in love when i saw that avatar, it was love at first sight, the emoticons showed me a side to him no one saw, such wonderful characteristics conveyed by the bold italiced words, holding such wisdom, they taught me so much, his rep points so high, i knew he was loved and respected by all, and our signatures matched, It was love
The example of avatars and sigs was a joke by some members - that's not what the thread is about.
It's whatever or not communication over the Internet e.g. just with words, is enough to create such a strong bond like love between two people.
Nazahah
08-03-07, 09:38 PM
ok *serious mode*
Nusayba bint Ka'b
08-03-07, 09:42 PM
of course I have, i will retell the story
i knew it was in love when i saw that avatar, it was love at first sight, the emoticons showed me a side to him no one saw, such wonderful characteristics conveyed by the bold italiced words, holding such wisdom, they taught me so much, his rep points so high, i knew he was loved and respected by all, and our signatures matched, It was love
That truly cracked me up.
thanks for the laugh sis.
Kal-El
08-03-07, 09:43 PM
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