A question

[Rameez]

Asalamualekum all, i have a question on my mind for a while now, and im sorry if its been asked before, or if ive posted it in the wrong section. Does a man require permission from his parents before he can marry? Also what if the parents say "No" then what can he do?

[Ibn-e-Muslim]

as far as i know u dont even need to inform ur parents if u going to marry leave the permission alone (Allah o Alam)
but for practical life as u b living with ur parents n dependent on them and ur wife is gona live with em or same house its better to inform em n know what they say about it, if u can take care of ur wife on ur own then it realy doesnt matter if they agree or disagree

[Bentali86]

Asalamualekum all, i have a question on my mind for a while now, and im sorry if its been asked before, or if ive posted it in the wrong section. Does a man require permission from his parents before he can marry? Also what if the parents say "No" then what can he do?


Everyone is suppose to be informed of the marriage.

He has to respect his parents -- unless they say something going totally against Islam.

If they're saying "NO" as in they don't want him to get married in general, that's going against Islam. He should try to teach them that marriage is important in Islam, and that if he doesn't get married he might be tempted into sin, which is totally abhorred in Islam.

If they're saying "NO" as in they don't want him to marry that specific girl, he should have them eloborate. Maybe they don't think the girl is suitable for him? Maybe the have family problems? Who knows, but if it's for an ignorant reason, ie. she's a red head, she has brown eyes, shes short, that her father is a bad person, than he should explain that he doesn't care about those things.

But above all, every kid should respect their parents and their wishes. After all they only want the best for their offsprings : )

[Bentali86]

and explain to them that if she doesn't turn out suitable, you have 3 chances left ;)



(joke)

[neels]

As far as I know, he doesn't need parental permission to marry the girl of his choice, but he does need to be mindful of his parents' rights and his duties towards them and fear Allah (swt) when making his decision as to who to marry. Also be mindful that it's better to inform parents and to listen as it may be the case that their reasons of disapproving of a girl may be valid (if their reasons are invalid such as racism then ignore them and try to live as independently from them as you can with your wife inshallah). On the other hand, if he intends that his wife should live with her in laws, then he does need their permission because if they disapprove, they might either stop her from entering the house, or allow her to enter but make her life so miserable that she would leave and then they would find the kind of daughter in law they want instead. This does happen.