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NoLongerLost
07-12-06, 05:18 PM
thought id start a thread abt the none islamic traditions at weddings cuz i was reading 1 of them litl fisabilillah books abt it and then also happened 2 see it on the hassan and habibah show on islam channel which was a coincidence!

anyhoo most ppl on this forum r either bangladeshi or pakistani so we hav a similar stuff happening at our weddings.

ppl theez days just wanna follow the latest bollywood/hollywood/celebrity "fashion" without lukin up the roots e.g. where the tradition comes from. some come from christianity, hinduism and also paganism astaghfirullah! why are people in this day and age so eager to copy the disbelievers when Allah swt has blessed us with the best way of life 2 lead?

Allah swt says: "Verily, this is my way, leading straight: follow it. Follow not other paths: they will scatter you about from His great path. Thus He commands you, that you may be righteous." (Al-An'am:153)

Ive noticed in some weddings i went to that even tho they may be segregated, some of the bros always seem 2 go in2 the sisters section just bcuz their sister is there or their relative is gettin married or sumthing. some sisters c weddings as an occasion 2 propa doll up and 4get about the hijab and the concept of modesty. k thats aight if its only women but nowadays bros will c u (even if its nt in the actual hall).

sum ppl waste sooooooooooooo much money on weddings and also sumtimes fall into debt or riba (interest) cuz they take out loans. what is the need 4 a limosine? (howeva u spell it)

Allah swt says: "But squander not your wealth in the manner of a spendthrift, verily spendthrifts are brothers of the shaitaan, and the shaytaan is ungrateful to his Lord." (Al-isra:26-27)

"....And waste not by excess: for Allah does not love wasters." (Al-An'am: 141)

sum of yous may think well if they hav the money and can afford it why not? i say if they hav the money y not giv loads 2 charity and keep things simple?



chek this out:

http://ummahfilms.blogspot.com/2006/06/videoblog-3-25000-muslim-weddings.html

.: Anna :.
07-12-06, 05:23 PM
yup i agree... to keep it simple and not waste money on everything and not remove the hijab without segregating it properly etc is much better. if we stay away from the haraam in regards to the wedding, then we can expect more barakah 2 b put into the occasion surely!
and still u can have an enjoyable wedding and a nice occasion for the couple n the guests aswell.
i think mayb there is getting more a trend now towards abandoning the "cultural" things n trying to do it properly, masha allah.
i hav never actually bin 2 a bollywoodified culture wedding! the ones i hav been was all done masha allah without going over ne boundaries :)

NoLongerLost
07-12-06, 05:31 PM
wouldnt it be great to have the wedding ceremony in a masjid between zuhr and asr and the married couple get the reward of all the people praying!!! i read that somewhere...

.: Anna :.
07-12-06, 05:40 PM
wouldnt it be great to have the wedding ceremony in a masjid between zuhr and asr and the married couple get the reward of all the people praying!!! i read that somewhere...was it from the 25k wedding video... he sed magrib n isha lol

NoLongerLost
07-12-06, 05:45 PM
hahaa lol i dunno i saw it a long time ago! and anyway, maghrib and isha are late! all weddings ive been to are between zuhr and asr!

`asiya
07-12-06, 05:57 PM
is it a muslim wedding or are they hindu deitys in a hindu temple? can anyone spot the difference?

NoLongerLost
07-12-06, 06:00 PM
wow so similar! maybe because of the similar culture...shows how culturally influenced these weddings are!

`asiya
07-12-06, 06:04 PM
wow so similar! maybe because of the similar culture...shows how culturally influenced these weddings are!

or it shows how the muslims have lived amongst the mushrikeen and adopted their ways for far too long, this mushrik dress and the thrones at weddings etc have been practised by the mushrikeen for more than 5000 years in India so indeed the muslims have adopted the culture of the mushrikeen which is where all the problems stem from in the first place

.: Anna :.
07-12-06, 06:04 PM
hahaa lol i dunno i saw it a long time ago! and anyway, maghrib and isha are late! all weddings ive been to are between zuhr and asr!
most ppl round here do it later not midday!

NoLongerLost
07-12-06, 06:06 PM
whereabouts r u from then?! ive neva been to a wedding that late!

.: Anna :.
07-12-06, 06:20 PM
london.
altho now i think of it, also hav been to weddings in the day time so i guess its half n half?
i had 3 parts 2 ours... all like afternoon to evening

Al Qadr
07-12-06, 06:22 PM
I think evenin weddins r better tho :D

Oh, in pakistani weddings they do that silly thing where the groom or the bride drink some milk from a decorated glass ^o) and tie some tinsel or something around thier wrists. Whats that about :torture:

`asiya
07-12-06, 06:27 PM
I think evenin weddins r better tho :D

Oh, in pakistani weddings they do that silly thing where the groom or the bride drink some milk from a decorated glass ^o) and tie some tinsel or something around thier wrists. Whats that about :torture:

la! ajeeb this is also from hindu wedding ceremony please dont tell me they sprinkle some rice in circles and make garlands of flowers too :rubeyes:

Al Qadr
07-12-06, 06:31 PM
la! ajeeb this is also from hindu wedding ceremony please dont tell me they sprinkle some rice in circles and make garlands of flowers too :rubeyes:

:eek: actually, I seen lots of weddings where they put flower necklace garland things around the grooms neck. They (sis in law family) did that 2 my Brother :eek:... Oh, the rice bit, I remember at cousins wedding someone saying that they have to put a small amount or rice in the ladies shawl n then she chucks it over her shoulder? or maybe i read it.

Eeeeew, I aint invitng none of my relatives if I ever get married :torture: :torture: :torture:

neels
07-12-06, 08:09 PM
If some1 tried a stunt like that at my wedding I'd chuck handfuls of rice at the guests to tick them off :p

We should come up with strategies on how to sabotage these cultural practses for our weddings:D

NoLongerLost
08-12-06, 10:14 AM
lol when my sis got married the hubbys family made her wash her feet in water with rose petals in before getting into the house, they also exchange them flower necklaces u find in hawaii...

neels
08-12-06, 05:09 PM
Yeah flower garlands were exchanged between my bro and bhabi on their wedding as well. Bloody superstitious rubbish!

I also promised my brother in law that I would not steal his shoes on his wedding day or demand money- but that didn't stop all the auntyjees from doing it:rolleyes: Eventually my sister had to tell them to go away lol.

TEH
08-12-06, 06:13 PM
is it a muslim wedding or are they hindu deitys in a hindu temple? can anyone spot the difference?

Erm, I get your point, but for the first and third pictures...how can you tell... :I

`asiya
08-12-06, 06:23 PM
having studied and spent more than 7 years with the asian mushrikeen before coming to Islam, ( which is longer than i have been muslim) im actually horrified by what is going on in muslim asian culture, i see how polluted some of the muslims have become by the mushriks ways and customs,these weddings, with that style of dress,the flower garlands,the thrones, the rice,and so on are just like a typical temple mushrik ( hindu) wedding all thats missiing is the fire lit in the centre on a few raised bricks, a guru, and a ghee sacrifice, :( audu billah may Allah ta ala protect us all amin.