Are the wives in a polygamous relationship treated equally?

[Maureen]

I am wearing my "seeking for knowledge" cap now, and not my "critical one" about polygamy.
Following on from a question that Muslim girl asked about 2nd wives being taken without the permission of the first wife, I would like to ask what happens in Islam if the male does not treat his wives equally?
I read somewhere in a beginners book on Islam, that the wives have to be cared for equally. If a man has four wives, this seems unlikely that he would not have preferences. How then would the wife who is feeling less cared for deal with this, and can the male get away with this favouritism indefinitely?

[Nusayba bint Ka'b]

He has to be equal wealthwise (financially) economically, He has to be equal with his Time, His care. But he can never be equal with his emotions and love.

[Sufiwarrior]

As-Salamu Alaykum,

Bi idhn Allah, it must be remembered that while marriage with up to and not exceeding 4 wives is permitted. There are historical circumstances and reasons for why this took place. However, in the present day - it must be considered with a signifigant amount of forethought. Allah (Azza wa Jalla) did not place two hearts in one man. Equality in all aspects will be hard to come by. This does not mean that balance of some sort is not possible, more than likely though, not very practical. Permissibility of anything within the scope of the Shari'ah or Fiqh is based on an investigation or circumstances and conditions.

[meer]

I am wearing my "seeking for knowledge" cap now, and not my "critical one" about polygamy.
Following on from a question that Muslim girl asked about 2nd wives being taken without the permission of the first wife, I would like to ask what happens in Islam if the male does not treat his wives equally?
I read somewhere in a beginners book on Islam, that the wives have to be cared for equally. If a man has four wives, this seems unlikely that he would not have preferences. How then would the wife who is feeling less cared for deal with this, and can the male get away with this favouritism indefinitely?

I like to do only one wife. & I think it's quite enough for me. Because if 4 women means four time more tension ohhhhhhhhhhhh!
I can't handle this. I Like to go for one & one Wife. but she should be as I like ... sooooooooooooooo
ONE WIFE IS ENOUGH YA AKHHHHHHHHHHHHEEE!:D
If some body ready give me money also for doing 4 marriage I will not do. it's just like making suicide .....:D

[Sufiwarrior]

As-Salamu Alaykum,

Well said ! That was the gist of what I was attempting to point out in the previous post. It must be remembered that a man marries a woman according to hadith mutawwatir, for one of three reasons her beauty, her wealth or her Din. Rasulallah (Saaws) tells us to marry her for her Din, that is best. It is well known that a wife completes her husband' s Iman, and he completes her Religion.

and Allah (Azza wa Jalla) knows best.

[`asiya]

He has to be equal wealthwise (financially) economically, He has to be equal with his Time, His care. But he can never be equal with his emotions and love.

sah ukhti, barakallahufeeki amin, and i always think you would never know who is the most loved because hed be treating them all so well, you wouldnt be able to tell if you were the favorite or not so masha Allah :D not worth wrecking my head over, as long as hes treating me well and we get along then masha Allah I dont really care.

[Maureen]

sah ukhti, barakallahufeeki amin, and i always think you would never know who is the most loved because hed be treating them all so well, you wouldnt be able to tell if you were the favorite or not so masha Allah :D not worth wrecking my head over, as long as hes treating me well and we get along then masha Allah I dont really care.
Itseems that females are disadvantaged in a polgamous situation.
How can a female build up intimacy when he is flitting around with 3 others?
Why then does a female get into this situation in the first place?

[bint]

Itseems that females are disadvantaged in a polgamous situation.
How can a female build up intimacy when he is flitting around with 3 others?
Why then does a female get into this situation in the first place?


they have a rota..they work by that.