Next Door Neighbour Confusion

[ur_yusra]

I would appreciate some advice regarding my next door neighbours.

Alhumdulillah they are a very nice Pakistaani family who we have good relations with.

But the problem though it might seem bizarre is really becoming a dilemma. They send us alot of food on a regular basis. Now we can't always consume all of it and sometimes unfortunately some of it has to be thrown away.. which is very bad!!

So what do we do? Do we tell them, if so how without hurting their feelings :S

[Selamat]

Uh...refuse the food?

I don't think that would be especially hard.

[imama]

I would appreciate some advice regarding my next door neighbours.

Alhumdulillah they are a very nice Pakistaani family who we have good relations with.

But the problem though it might seem bizarre is really becoming a dilemma. They send us alot of food on a regular basis. Now we can't always consume all of it and sometimes unfortunately some of it has to be thrown away.. which is very bad!!

So what do we do? Do we tell them, if so how without hurting their feelings :S

AsslamOAlaikum

ermm explain it to them that u love their food its absolutely yummy lol .. but the thing is most of the tym u can't hav all of it nd it gets wasted nd u feel bad.. so if possible send it in smaller amount?? or plase do not send it that often if possible....... sumin like that hope its helpful inshaAllah :)

[seven]

send the food to someone else... that's what we do :D

[bint]

nah seven send the food to seven:D

[Tax-Man]

Dude your so lucky, Simple just spend quality time with the wifey instead of her slaving away in the kitchen and eat their food lol.

[bint]

Dude your so lucky, Simple just spend quality time with the wifey instead of her slaving away in the kitchen and eat their food lol.


err the thread starter ur-yusra is a SHEEE!!:D

[Tax-Man]

err the thread starter ur-yusra is a SHEEE!!:D
lol, my bad.

[MMS]

just tell them thats its too much n send only a little bit :up:

[Ummati Al Islam]

They may take offence if you refuse the food, which is not the Sunnah of Rasulullah (saw) - the Sunnah is to accept.

If their family is the same size as yours, send them a smiliar amount back and they may realise.

[Nawar]

They may take offence if you refuse the food, which is not the Sunnah of Rasulullah (saw) - the Sunnah is to accept.




Thats what I was thinking.

Hmm. Dilemma :S

Eat it all yusra :D :p

[Nawar]

Dude your so lucky, Simple just spend quality time with the wifey instead of her slaving away in the kitchen and eat their food lol.


Havent you got some tax to be taxing, tax man :rolleyes:

[seven]

just tell them thats its too much n send only a little bit :up:they're pakistanis... they're idea of a little bit of food could feed a guji family for a week :D

[TEH]

Just tell them not to load on the food...

Or...you could whatever you will have...and you put the rest in a plate, and pass it to the next neighbour...AND WE CAN ALL PLAY A GAME...

:eek:

[Salman Al-Farsi]

give them back less than they give.. eventually thier portions will reduce in size.

[Medievalist]

send it to me. ;)

But seriously if you do broach the subject with them you have to be very careful with your words cos in our paki culture the wrong choice of words will be a grave insult - tread carefully.

[Al-Irhaab]

send it to me. ;)

But seriously if you do broach the subject with them you have to be very careful with your words cos in our paki culture the wrong choice of words will be a grave insult - tread carefully.

nah bro i dont believe it works like that with pakis, i believe pakis are more straight up if they nice anyway.... u just tell them man its too much and then they say no then u say ok but just take this much back so u do a compromise.... :D

[Medievalist]

nah bro i dont believe it works like that with pakis, i believe pakis are more straight up if they nice anyway.... u just tell them man its too much and then they say no then u say ok but just take this much back so u do a compromise.... :D

with men yeh - but normally its the women who swap dishes. They'll make a big deal out of it - might be sweet to the face but would be offended that we sent them food out of neighbourly relations and this is the return we get?

[.: Anna :.]

I dont think you should refuse it or ask for less, it seems rude and they will be hurt. Just eat what you can, and send the rest to other people or else cant u put some in the freezer n then u can keep it for future insha allah

[Nawar]

Yeah, thats probably the best and most poilte thing to do inshallah.

But seriously, I mean, like how much do they send :S

A days worth of dinner for your whole family???

Or more???

[ur_yusra]

Thats what I was thinking.

Hmm. Dilemma :S

Eat it all yusra :D :p

You know what my appetites like lol..

Just tell them not to load on the food...

Or...you could whatever you will have...and you put the rest in a plate, and pass it to the next neighbour...AND WE CAN ALL PLAY A GAME...

:eek:

Yeh but theres noone to pass onto really.. live in a semi detached house and the people nearby arent interested.

Yeah, thats probably the best and most poilte thing to do inshallah.

But seriously, I mean, like how much do they send :S

A days worth of dinner for your whole family???

Or more???

Enough.. lol..

[.: Anna :.]

have u tried 2 giv it 2 ne others, even non muslim ppl... we give 2 our neighbours who are french n some other european ppl n they love it.
or else cn u call ur friend 2 come n pick up some food n take 2 their house
or as i sed, freeze it

[MG]

sis like some memebrs said, give it out to the rest of your neighbours, u cant go wrong, i mean u cant exactly run out of neighbours to give it to can u? cos not jus the ones on our left and right count as neighbours do they?


i personally wouldt say anything to the neighbours giving u the food, cos no matter how u put it, it will be abit offensive...

[imran1976]

with men yeh - but normally its the women who swap dishes. They'll make a big deal out of it - might be sweet to the face but would be offended that we sent them food out of neighbourly relations and this is the return we get?

yup thats true :D

[Cashew]

they're pakistanis... they're idea of a little bit of food could feed a guji family for a week :D

:rofl1:

Pakistanis are such wonderful people. And their food is equally wonderful.

There's a Pakistani family I've visited a few times in New York and when they invite me to dinner the quantitity of food is amazing.

[Tahiyah]

next time when you take food from them just kindly say, you give us so much and we can never finish it all...don't be so generous, you really do to much..:)

[(*_Hamzah]

What a situation to be in :inlove:


Would love to have neighbours like this....



Sorry, Alhamdulilah I already have

[Freshie]

Maybe Freshie like to move in ur_yusra street :D

[Te'oma]

Hmmm I would suggest you just pass along the excess to someone else that could use it. That way you aren't diminishing their generosity and the food is doing maximum good. Imagine the dawa of handing some homeless person a meal when they haven't eaten in days