How should an Islamic wedding party be?

[Enigma Dreamer]

Assalaamu aleykum.
Just wanted to share with you this.
With regard to having a wedding party in the Islamic manner, you have to keep away from the things which are forbidden in sharee’ah but which many people do not pay attention to during celebrations, such as the following:

With regard to the woman: going to a male, non-mahram hairdresser to have her hair done; or adorning herself in ways that are haraam, such as thinning the eyebrows by plucking them, or wearing tattoos, or wearing hair extensions, or other kinds of haraam things, because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) cursed the one who plucks eyebrows and the one who has that done, the one who adds hair extensions and the one who asks to have that done; imitating the kuffaar in their dress, because usually the wedding dress shows many of the woman's charms and her body, in such a way that the dress is very revealing - we seek refuge with Allaah – and also a great deal of money is wasted on the dress.

Among the haraam actions that have to do with the man are: shaving his beard for the wedding night, which is done on the grounds that this makes him look more handsome, but this is something which is haraam according to sharee’ah; letting one's clothes hang below the ankle (isbaal).

There follows a list of haraam things which both men and women should avoid in the wedding party:

1- Mixing of men with women, and things that are involved in that, such as greeting and shaking hands with one another, and men and women dancing together, because all of that is haraam and is a very serious matter.

2- Taking pictures, whether men do that amongst themselves or women do that amongst themselves.

3- Drinking alcohol or eating pork.

4- Letting the husband come in to where the women are in order to take his wife.

5- Women wearing revealing, tight or short clothes amongst themselves, because this is haraam – so how about wearing such things in front of men?

6- People should avoid spending extravagantly or going to extremes in showing off in wedding parties, because that may wipe out the blessing.

7- The husband and wife exchanging rings and thus imitating the kuffaar, thinking that this will increase the husband’s love for his wife and vice versa.

Finally, both partners should know that the more the teachings of Islam are followed in the wedding party, the more blessed their marriage will be, the more love and harmony there will be between them, and the less problems they will encounter in their married life. For if the married life is based from the outset on haraam things which go against the commands of Allaah, how can they expect the marriage to be successful after that? There have been many marriages in which there were things that went against the commands of Allaah, and they did not last. Fear Allaah with regard to this party and keep it free of things that are forbidden in Islam. May Allaah bless you both. We ask Allaah to give you and your husband strength. May Allaah bless our Prophet Muhammad.

And Allaah knows best.
Source: http://islamqa.com/index.php?ref=11446&ln=eng&txt=isbaal

[Guvna]

loootss of halal laffing!!! gotta have kosher fun.. and zabiha meats!! :coolbro:

[Al-Irhaab]

loootss of halal laffing!!! gotta have kosher fun.. and zabiha meats!! :coolbro:

man for my mates wedding... he got daytona 4 linked up... a boxing machine and time crisis... man we had some fun :D

[Guvna]

man for my mates wedding... he got daytona 4 linked up... a boxing machine and time crisis... man we had some fun :D

loool!! ours was alll balle balle :hidban: !

:coolbro:

[Hafsah]

man for my mates wedding... he got daytona 4 linked up... a boxing machine and time crisis... man we had some fun :D

wow...his wife must have had so much fun :rolleyes:

did they have barbie dolls in the sisters bit?

[leela]

Ours are hilarious. They're always 'segregated' but men end up filtering into the female section. Then it becomes mixed.

[Enigma Dreamer]

Ours are hilarious. They're always 'segregated' but men end up filtering into the female section. Then it becomes mixed.
You should not allow such free mixing, ukhti.

[Al-Irhaab]

wow...his wife must have had so much fun :rolleyes:

did they have barbie dolls in the sisters bit?

dont know cus i didnt go into the womens section cus it was segregated... dont know why kind of weddings u guys are into :rolleyes:

[leela]

You should not allow such free mixing, ukhti.

It can't be helped. They trickle in one way or another.

[Enigma Dreamer]

It can't be helped. They trickle in one way or another.
You should try ur best.

[Al-Irhaab]

It can't be helped. They trickle in one way or another.

if a guy trickled into the sisters section at one of our weddings... he wouldnt be tricklin no more :rolleyes:

[Fais]

man for my mates wedding... he got daytona 4 linked up... a boxing machine and time crisis... man we had some fun :D

untouchable in daytona :coolbro: ... Time crisis 2 or 3?

[Enigma Dreamer]

if a guy trickled into the sisters section at one of our weddings... he wouldnt be tricklin no more :rolleyes:
Brother Irhaab, tell sister Leela how u do it so that she will know what to do next time the men start 'trickling in' :)

[leela]

Brother Irhaab, tell sister Leela how u do it so that she will know what to do next time the men start 'trickling in' :)

It's difficult to stop the less religiously inclined from doing what they want to do. If someone doesn't like it, they leave.

[aurorascopic]

theres only one properly segregated wedding ive been to and thats been my brothers, alhamdulillah his wedding was brilliant. If you make it clear to your family how important it is to you to have it strictly segregated everyone would respect your view. With my brothers case, his wifes in niqaab and everyone respected this.

[Al-Irhaab]

Brother Irhaab, tell sister Leela how u do it so that she will know what to do next time the men start 'trickling in' :)

first thing is to make sure the two halls are seperate ie.. not one hall with a divider down the middle... second is to make sure that the enterances are two fold.. ie one enterance to get into the building and then another to get into the actual hall... that way there can be oh i didnt know excuses :rolleyes: third if someone does do it... u break his legs... simple no excuses beat him down and after that no one will ever do it... fourth clearly labeled signs... fifth both sides have their own facilities ... so toilets, washrooms, prayer rooms etc .... 6th make sure its written on any cards u give out... 7th... try not to invite jahil people... 8th... kick up a massie fuss if anyone argues about it... 9th.. break peoples legs again if they do do it :D

[Enigma Dreamer]

first thing is to make sure the two halls are seperate ie.. not one hall with a divider down the middle... second is to make sure that the enterances are two fold.. ie one enterance to get into the building and then another to get into the actual hall... that way there can be oh i didnt know excuses :rolleyes: third if someone does do it... u break his legs... simple no excuses beat him down and after that no one will ever do it... fourth clearly labeled signs... fifth both sides have their own facilities ... so toilets, washrooms, prayer rooms etc .... 6th make sure its written on any cards u give out... 7th... try not to invite jahil people... 8th... kick up a massie fuss if anyone argues about it... 9th.. break peoples legs again if they do do it :D
MashaAllah. This is so great :). I am sure it will work :D

[Enigma Dreamer]

It's difficult to stop the less religiously inclined from doing what they want to do. If someone doesn't like it, they leave.
From brother Irhaab ...
first thing is to make sure the two halls are seperate ie.. not one hall with a divider down the middle... second is to make sure that the enterances are two fold.. ie one enterance to get into the building and then another to get into the actual hall... that way there can be oh i didnt know excuses :rolleyes: third if someone does do it... u break his legs... simple no excuses beat him down and after that no one will ever do it... fourth clearly labeled signs... fifth both sides have their own facilities ... so toilets, washrooms, prayer rooms etc .... 6th make sure its written on any cards u give out... 7th... try not to invite jahil people... 8th... kick up a massie fuss if anyone argues about it... 9th.. break peoples legs again if they do do it :D

[Emelianenko]

This is how we done it in past:

Go Thursday night to Markaz, Get Nikah done, everyone go home..let hubby and wife be together :D

Waleema: bros go to mosque, sisters go to a hall :D Khalas.

[aurorascopic]

This is how we done it in past:

Go Thursday night to Markaz, Get Nikah done, everyone go home..let hubby and wife be together :D

Waleema: bros go to mosque, sisters go to a hall :D Khalas.

thing is, if you're asian, you HAVE to feed people on the day of the nikah. if you dont its rude. especially for all those relatives who have travelled from far to come to the nikkah- you have to feed them.

[Eemaan]

first thing is to make sure the two halls are seperate ie.. not one hall with a divider down the middle... second is to make sure that the enterances are two fold.. ie one enterance to get into the building and then another to get into the actual hall... that way there can be oh i didnt know excuses :rolleyes: third if someone does do it... u break his legs... simple no excuses beat him down and after that no one will ever do it... fourth clearly labeled signs... fifth both sides have their own facilities ... so toilets, washrooms, prayer rooms etc .... 6th make sure its written on any cards u give out... 7th... try not to invite jahil people... 8th... kick up a massie fuss if anyone argues about it... 9th.. break peoples legs again if they do do it :D

you should be a shaadi organiser. id hire you bro :D

[ur_yusra]

Theres only one ideal way to keep a segregated wedding - segregated.

If the wedding is in Newcastle, Invite the girls to a do there.. and send the boys to the north pole.

[Nawar]

Theres only one ideal way to keep a segregated wedding - segregated.

If the wedding is in Newcastle, Invite the girls to a do there.. and send the boys to the north pole.


:rotfl:

[ur_yusra]

:rotfl:

LOOOOL.. I take it you remember the 'segregated' wedding experience :p:p:p

[Nawar]

LOOOOL.. I take it you remember the 'segregated' wedding experience :p:p:p


lol. I remember the grown men 'looking for their mums' aye :rolleyes:

[ur_yusra]

lol. I remember the grown men 'looking for their mums' aye

Lucky the tables had 'table cloths' eh.. :rolleyes:

[Nawar]

Lucky the tables had 'table cloths' eh.. :rolleyes:

From behind which, one can effectively toss spoons and forks at them. I agree :p

[umme ahmed]

first thing is to make sure the two halls are seperate ie.. not one hall with a divider down the middle... second is to make sure that the enterances are two fold.. ie one enterance to get into the building and then another to get into the actual hall... that way there can be oh i didnt know excuses :rolleyes: third if someone does do it... u break his legs... simple no excuses beat him down and after that no one will ever do it... fourth clearly labeled signs... fifth both sides have their own facilities ... so toilets, washrooms, prayer rooms etc .... 6th make sure its written on any cards u give out... 7th... try not to invite jahil people... 8th... kick up a massie fuss if anyone argues about it... 9th.. break peoples legs again if they do do it :D

wow, that's fool proof! :rubeyes:

i've been to 5 weddings in my entire life and none were properly segregated even tho' they were supposed to be...i don't bother going anymore.

[Enigma Dreamer]

wow, that's fool proof! :rubeyes:

i've been to 5 weddings in my entire life and none were properly segregated even tho' they were supposed to be...i don't bother going anymore.
Ukhti, u have being to five but no to brother Irhaab's. So, I suggest u should attend his or one where he is the main actor.

[Enigma Dreamer]

you should be a shaadi organiser. id hire you bro :D
Me first. Then, u will hire him :):D

[RashidD]

if a guy trickled into the sisters section at one of our weddings... he wouldnt be tricklin no more :rolleyes:

Get a guy with a paintball gun somewhere to shoot the ones trying any hanky panky and hit 'em on the flesh - nothing like a purple shiner to remind them in future :up:

Oh and put a disclaimer on the wedding card you know - Management will act as they see fit (including combatant activities) if they find any "fitna-fied" activity underway or prior to.**



**Not legal advise - don't act upon it ;) All rights reserved :D

[ibn suleman]

follow the 5 S's :D

Start on time
Simple
Segregated
Salah (on time)
....urmm..... Shaadi...hmmm i'm sure there was a fifth :scratch:

[Al-Irhaab]

wow, that's fool proof! :rubeyes:

i've been to 5 weddings in my entire life and none were properly segregated even tho' they were supposed to be...i don't bother going anymore.

thats how we do our weddings mashallah.... weve had a few and they all been the same now lots of fun nice food no mixing.... :D

but plus we know not to invite idiots who gonna be too dumb to try to break the rules and then we have to break them :torture:

ill tell u what was nice though mashallah... leading maghrib salah at my friends wedding :D

[Eemaan]

wow, that's fool proof! :rubeyes:

i've been to 5 weddings in my entire life and none were properly segregated even tho' they were supposed to be...i don't bother going anymore.

*cough* er hmm?

[Mujaheedah]

All I know is that they should feed the hungry guests and then start their sentimental speeches :D It's torture to sit through a wedding hearing poetry and life stories from all the relatives while the food just keeps calling you...

[Kal-El]

It should be as simple as possible.

The Nabi (saw) didn't even have e.g. meat for the meal they ate during the Walimah ;)

Personally, I'm rather shy so i wouldnt mind putting Ummah Caramel bars in the guests' pockets and off they go :D

In they come. Greet. Shove food into their pockets. Masalama. Close door behind them.

I intend to do this in less than 30seconds :) lol joke