Ummah.com's Golden Book Of Marriage

[Abu Muslim]

Author: Abu Muslim and Ummah Forum
Publisher: Marriage Section
Language: jibberish
ISBN: 1234ICANCOUNT

Sypnosis: In this thread, we post marriage tips, from both those of us who are married and those who are not. insha'Allah this will benefit people as they can refer to this thread while they are getting a mouthfull from their in laws, refusing to cook or being told off by their spouse. Or any such situation.

Golden Rule of marriage No. 1 : Get married. Quick.

Golden rule of marriage No. 2: Make sure you get married to the opposite sex. Homo is haram.

Golden rule of marriage No 3: Try to see the person preferably BEFORE the nikah.

Golden rule of marriage 4: marry based on deen. then character, then beauty, then wealth, then lineage. But most important is deen, all of the other 4 fade away (as per hadith) [that was a serious tip btw]

Feel free to add your own.[smiles]

(and yes, I'm a bit hyper)

[.: Anna :.]

masha allah nice, i like how u gave urself an isbn n all... sooo official looking :D

anyway.

Golden rule of marriage No. 5: Dont concern your self with doing for your spouse only what is a duty for you, and nothing beyond that, and with making sure every aspect of ur own rights are fulfilled with no comprimise.

[`asiya]

Golden rule of marriage number 6 : always ensure that you know what rights and obligations Allah ta ala has ordered you to fulfill towards your partner,and make sure you never ever neglect them. Allah ta ala knows best his creation and what keeps them content within marriage and Allah ta ala loves not the trangressors.

[Abu Muslim]

Nice masha'Allah, keep them up.

Golden rule of marriage No. 7: Go into a marriage with realistic expectations, not expecting to be on cloud 9 24/7 and thinking thats your life complete. Expect the worst, strive for the best.

[muslim_sis]

good book going so far..

Golden rule of marriage No.8: Men try to be husbands like the prophet :saws2: and women, try to be wives like our mothers [ummahatul mu'mineen]. In their marriages are the best examples.

[.: Anna :.]

Golden rule of marriage No.9: Always make sure u keep time to spend quality time with ur spouse to talk to them and share their company, do not make urself to busy for them and their needs.

[Abu Muslim]

Golden rule of marriage No 10: Do not forget rule No. 1

Golden rule of marriage No 11: See rule 10.

[seven]

golden rule no 11: stop talking about it and just do it!

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Golden rule of marriage No.12: Trust your spouse, be honest at all times, share your feelings with your spouse, help your spouse whenever they need it most, especially in terms of thier Deen and provide eacother with emotional support they may need to de-stress from the trials and hardships of this life.

[.: Anna :.]

Golden rule of marriage No.13: dont tell others about ur marital problems or ever complain about ur spouse

[muslim_sis]

golden rule no 11: stop talking about it and just do it!
if only it were that easy bruv!

[Eemaan]

Golden rule of marraige number 14: make eachother larf :D

[muslim_sis]

Golden rule of marriage No. 15: Dont forget the 3 C's : Communication, compromising(comes hand in hand with having patience) & caring.

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Golden rule of marriage No. 16: Respect your spouse, and each other's family

[Abu Muslim]

Golden rule of marriage No 17: Never go to sleep with a problem unresolved. Who knows, Allah may take your soul that night, and you would have died while being annoyed at your spouse [this applies to the parents and general rule]

Golden rule of marriage No 18: Always refer to your golden book of marriage when faced with a problem

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Golden rule of marriage No 19: always remember to SMILE at your spouse :D

[MalikOne™]

Golden rule of marriage No 20: Wax your husbands car (aka wifey #2) at least 4 times a week :)

[.: Anna :.]

Golden rule of marriage No 21: Dont make too many unreasonable sounding demands on ur spouse, eg car waxing (what is that neway?!?!)

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[Salman Al-Farsi]

Golden rule of marriage No 22: Stop being obsessed with marriage.

[MangoChutney]

Golden rule of marriage No.12: Trust your spouse, be honest at all times, share your feelings with your spouse, help your spouse whenever they need it most, especially in terms of thier Deen and provide eacother with emotional support they may need to de-stress from the trials and hardships of this life.

Excellent point. :up:

[MangoChutney]

Golden rule 23: Both spouses should help each other cook, clean, sew, stitch, iron, drive..etc.

[tahm563]

Golden rule 22: Know the appropriate time to voice your concerns, complaints and problems.:D

[ibn suleman]

Golden rule 25: help each other in attaining higher ranks in jannah :)

[Refugee]

Golden rule 26: Trust eachother. (Very Important)

[Cashew]

Golden rule of marriage No.13: dont tell others about ur marital problems or ever complain about ur spouse


This is an excellent and extremely important rule.

Except in the instances of physical or emotional abuse, discuss your marriage only with your spouse.

Gossiping about your spouse and/or marital problems is a kind of infidelity. You are, I think, stealing the intimacy and trust that belongs only to your spouse and giving it to someone else.

If you're having trouble communicating with your spouse, then that is the issue you must work on. Complaining to others that you can't talk to your spouse is certainly no way to solve the problem. Learning how to talk with your spouse is how you solve the problem.

[Guvna]

Golden Rule 27: Hubby and Wifey should chilll the hell out! :rolleyes:

[MalikOne™]

car waxing (what is that neway?!?!)


making the car all shiney and sparkly :D its like polishing but they use car wax

[.: Anna :.]

making the car all shiney and sparkly :D its like polishing but they use car waxso what u gna do wen u get married n get kids n they proper mess up the inside of ur car? :p

[MalikOne™]

so what u gna do wen u get married n get kids n they proper mess up the inside of ur car? :p

:eek: naa they cant

no 1 will be able 2 bring nething in2 da car without my permission and kids cnt eat and drink in it either :hidban: :coolbro:

or if they somehow evade security and they make mess it jsu means more work for da wife :coolbro:

[.: Anna :.]

:eek: naa they cant

no 1 will be able 2 bring nething in2 da car without my permission and kids cnt eat and drink in it either :hidban: :coolbro:

or if they somehow evade security and they make mess it jsu means more work for da wife :coolbro:long journeys n stuff (for kids half hour or 1 hour cn b long :p) they prob gt 2 bring all their provisions in wit em. mayb u shud buy an extra car for ur wife n kids 2 use i guess, n keep on for jst ur own flashy looking one

[Abu Mus'ab]

Rule 28: both Husband and wife should know their duties.

What i mean is nowadays you get men who want to wear earrings and stay at home and the women goes out and works *Roll Eyes*

[Refugee]

Rule 28: both Husband and wife should know their duties.

What i mean is nowadays you get men who want to wear earrings and stay at home and the women goes out and works *Roll Eyes*

so basically you should know your role jabroni :rolleyes:

[Abu Mus'ab]

so basically you should know your role jabroni :rolleyes:
Yeah that's what i meant,maybe i worded it wrong?

[Refugee]

Yeah that's what i meant,maybe i worded it wrong?

yeah maybe *Roll Eyes*

[MalikOne™]

long journeys n stuff (for kids half hour or 1 hour cn b long :p) they prob gt 2 bring all their provisions in wit em. mayb u shud buy an extra car for ur wife n kids 2 use i guess, n keep on for jst ur own flashy looking one

yeh good idea il pick up a £100 banger give it 2 da wifey let her drive da kids around in it...:coolbro:

[Eemaan]

Rule 29: Make eachother larf some more :D

[Al-Irhaab]

GOLDEN RULE NUMER 30: Ignore rule number 23 that was a typo :torture:

[Jum'u@h]

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[muslimah85]

Golden rule no 31: Make sure you find out how each others day has been. try not to bring work home. leave it at the office. at home make time just for each other. the world and their problems can wait. this is yor quality time.

[Na'eemah]

Golden rule no 32: Stand by each other and offer each other advice.

Just as Islam expects a man to help his wife with housework :rolleyes: and running household affairs, so the woman is also expected to help him in dealing with the outside world and to play her role in life by offering her opinions and advice, and suppoerting him in practical terms.

History tells us that muslim women engaged in jihad side by side with men, marching with them in battles, bringing water to the thirsty, tending to the wounded, setting broken bones, stemming the flow of blood, encouraging the soldiers, and sometimes joining in the actual fighting, running back and forth between the swords and spears. standing firm when some of the brave men had fled.


However, women's contribution to public life did not confine to the battlefield. Women stoof by men, side by sidem also at timesof peace, offering their valuable opinions, soothing their hearts at times of stress and supporting them during times of hardship.

(from The Ideal Muslimah by Muhammad Ali Al-Hashimi)

[junaid.ahmed]

Golder Rule no 33: Dont set too many rules

[Al-Irhaab]

GOLDEN RULE 34 Always be nice to your wife her friends and her family :D

[Eemaan]

Golden rule 35: always help him out with the housework

[36!]

GOLDEN RULE no 35: remember a 'sorry' will never hurt you, if it makes your spouse happy :D

[Medievalist]

GOLDEN RULE BY MED FOR BROTHERS:

Find a righteous lady - propose nikah to her, have two witnesses - get the job done and then introduce her to mummy and daddy.

Forget anything else cos its a headache and ANNOYING - VERY VERY ANNOYING

[Abu Mus'ab]

GOLDEN RULE BY MED FOR BROTHERS:

Find a righteous lady - propose nikah to her, have two witnesses - get the job done and then introduce her to mummy and daddy.

Forget anything else cos its a headache and ANNOYING - VERY VERY ANNOYING
The nikah will be faasid, and will have to be re perfomed.

[Al-Irhaab]

The nikah will be baatil, and will have to be re perfomed.

he means to ur family not to hers.... i think... but then again still need an imam and a wali... :torture:

[Abu Mus'ab]

he means to ur family not to hers.... i think... but then again still need an imam and a wali... :torture:
It's possible to have three people in total and have a valid nikah,do you know how this is possible? *Roll Eyes*

[Ebony]

Golden Rule #36: Just get married and spare us from listening to this drivel day in day out :buttkick:

[Al-Irhaab]

It's possible to have three people in total and have a valid nikah,do you know how this is possible? *Roll Eyes*

the imam is the wali aswell... :D

also the woman doesnt have to turn up either... she gives her dad who is the wali and the imam her permission so he sorts it out...

[Abu Mus'ab]

Shabaash beta you get 100/100, you get first place, i've got no medal to give you,do you accept chocolate?

[Eemaan]

take it somewhere else kids. your killin the thread *roll eyes*

[pearl-escent]

Golden Rule #37 Place Golden Book Of Marriage in an easily accessible place (preferably next to the lampshade, ready to aim at ur hubby's head the next time he forgets to hang his coat!! :D ) only kiddin!!

[pearl-escent]

(on a serious note keep this up, i think i'll find it very useful one day (to throw at my hubby's head!) keep the advices coming (the thicker the book the better!) only jokin i'll be a good obedient wifey :inlove: inshaA no throwing i promise :D

[Na'eemah]

Golden Rule 37: The husband and wife encourage each other to spend for the sake of Allah swt.

One of the beautiful stories narrated about women encouraging her husband to spend for the sake of Allah swt is about Umm ad-Dahdah.

"When her husband came to her and told her that he had given in charity the garden in which she and her children were living, in the hope of receiving a bunch of dates(1) in Paradise, she said, "You have got a good deal, you have got a good deal, you have got a good deal". The Prophet :saw: commented "How many bunches of dates Abu ad-Dahdah will have in Paradise! and he repeated this several times (2)."

(1) Muslim, 8/33, Kitaab al-Janaa'iz baab al-lahd wa nasab al-laban 'alal-mayyit

(2) Ahmad and Tabaraani; its narrators are rijaal as-saheeh. See also Majma az-Zawaa'id, 9/324, Kitaab al-Manaaqib, baab ma jaa' fi Abi ad-Dahdah.

[veilofmysoul]

:D this thread is hilarious :D

[pearl-escent]

Golden Rule #38 Be patient with each other. Appreciate each other, say JazakAllah often. Smile and don't forget to make du'a for each other. Support each other. Be gentle, even when correcting your partner. Notice the little things they do for you, and love what/whom they love, be half of them, and they'll be half of you :inlove: ok enough of the soppiness, yuck!:rolleyes:

[ibn suleman]

rule no 39: give and take :D

[40!]

GOLDEN RULE NO 40: don't take your anger out on your spouse! He/she is not your punch bag! so don't make him/her one! :rolleyes:

[Kal-El]

Golden Rule 41:

Problems will only make you two stronger. Tears, should be turned to laughter. And rows, should be turned to declarations of love.

Please donate the contents of your wallets to Kal-El Charity for Kal-El. Thank you, :)

[tahm563]

rule no 39: give and take :D

You should focus on giving only. If both spouses give unconditionally, 'taking' will be taken care of by itself. A wife should never think "I have done such and such for him..and he hasn't done anything for me'' and vice versa.

[tahm563]

Golden rule 42 : Never compare your spouse to others

For men, don't ever compare your wives to your friends' wives, your mother and sisters.

For ladies, please don't compare your husband to your friend's husbands, your father and brothers.

[meer]

Golden rule 42 : Never compare your spouse to others

For men, don't ever compare your wives to your friends' wives, your mother and sisters.

For ladies, please don't compare your husband to your friend's husbands, your father and brothers.

yaa 100 % I agree you.
we should not compare our brother , sister , mother, or father with others in any way. because I beleave every people have there own identity.if we compare them with other they will feel not good. Because they try to do in there lives as much as they can. if because of some reason they did get more success in there lives. So we should not offend them because they are failure.actually in this type of cases they need more support and love ferom there family specially..

[Medievalist]

An imam doesnt need to be present. The ijaab and qubuul in front of two baligh aaqil muslim males is sufficient. And the nikah will stand in our hanafi fiqh if there is kafa'at between the two.

[zaki]

Golden rule 43 : if there is an arguement or any type of misunderstandings, do forgive each other! you never know what will happen in the next second, you dont want to leave your loved one angry, especially if you never see them again :(

[MangoChutney]

Golden rule 44: Look nice for your spouse, in the way you dress and groom. No one wants to come home to a druggie. :coolbro: :coolsis:

[*ahem*]

........Golden rule 45: Do not be a Tyrant :rolleyes:

Regardless of whether or not Islam has made the husband the head of the household, Muslims are not supposed to be dictators and tyrants. We are taught to treat our wives well. The Prophet Muhammad (SAWS) was reported to have said: 'The most perfect Muslim in the matter of faith is one who has excellent behavior; and the best among you are those who behave best towards their wives" (From Mishkat al-Masabih, No. 0278(R) Transmitted by Tirmidhi).

Golden rule 46: Be Partners in the Decision Making Process. :up:

Follow the principle of 'Shura," and make decisions as a family. There will be much more harmony in the family when decisions are not imposed and everyone feels that they had some part in making them.

Golden rule 47: Never be emotionally, mentally, or physically abusive to your spouse. :nono:

The Prophet (SAWS) never mistreated his wives. He is reported to have said: 'How could they beat their women in daytime as slaves and then sleep with them in the night?"

Golden rule 48: Be Careful of Your Words :rolleyes:

Be very careful what you say when you are upset. Sometimes you will say things that you would never say when you were not angry. If you are angry, wait until you calm down before continuing the conversation.

Golden rule 49: Show Affection :there:

Show affection for your mate. Be kind, gentle, and loving.

Golden rule 50: Be Your Spouse's Friend :D

Show interest in your mate's life. Too often, we live in the same house but know nothing about each other's lives. It would be great if the husband and wife could work together for the same cause or on the same project. They could perhaps establish a husband/wife prison ministry, take care of orphans in their home, or lead an Islamic weekend class.

Golden rule 51: Show Appreciation :)

Show appreciation for what your spouse does for the family. Never make your husband feel that he is not doing good enough for the family or that you are not satisfied with his work or his efforts, unless, of course, he is truly lazy and not even trying to provide for the family. The Prophet (SAWS) was reported to have said: 'On the Day of Judgment, God will not look upon the woman who has been ungrateful to her husband." (where is this hadith found) Show your wife that you appreciate her. If she takes care of the house and the children, don't take it for granted. It is hard work, and no one likes to feel unappreciated.

Golden rule 52: Work Together in the House :torture:

The Prophet (SAWS) is known to have helped his wives in the house. And if the Prophet (SAWS) was not above doing housework, modern Muslim husbands shouldn't feel that they are.

Golden rule 53: Communication is Important

Communication, Communication, Communication! This is the big word in counseling. And it should be. Husbands and wives need to talk to each other. It is better to deal with problems early and honestly than to let them pile up until an explosion occurs.

Golden rule 54: Forget Past Problems

Don't bring up past problems once they have been solved.

Golden rule 55: Live Simply

Don't be jealous of those who seem to be living a more luxurious life than your family. The 'rizq" is from Allah (SWT). In order to develop the quality of contentment, look at those people who have less than you, not those who have more. Thank Allah (SWT) for the many blessings in your life.

Golden rule 56: Give Your Spouse Time Alone

If your mate doesn't want to be with you all the time, it doesn't mean he or she doesn't love you. People need to be alone for various reasons. Sometimes they want to read, to think about their problems, or just to relax. Don't make them feel that they are committing a sin.

Golden rule 57: Admit Your Mistakes

When you make a mistake, admit it. When your mate makes a mistake, excuse him or her easily. If possible, never go to sleep angry with each other.

Golden rule 58: Physical Relationship is Important

Be available to your mate sexually, and don't let your sexual relationship be characterized by selfishness. The Prophet (SAWS) was reported to have said: 'It is not appropriate that you fall upon your wives like a beast but you must send a message of love beforehand."

Golden rule 59: Have Meals Together

Try to eat together as a family when possible. Show the cook and the dishwasher, whether it is the husband or the wife, appreciation for his or her efforts. The Prophet (SAWS) did not complain about food that was put before him.

Golden rule 60: Be Mindful of Your discussion Topics

Never discuss with others things about your marriage that your spouse wouldn't like you to discuss, unless there is an Islamic reason to do so. Some husbands and wives, believe it or not, complain to others about their mate's physical appearance. This is a recipe for disaster. Information about your intimate relations should be kept between you and your spouse.

....extracted from : HERE

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[muslim_sis]

......Although many Muslims may right now be in failing marriages and on a fast track to divorce and its terrible consequences, there are many ways to put their marriage back on the right track if the husband and wife are sincere in their desire to reconcile. The following principles can be used by Muslims whose marriages are already in trouble or by Muslims who would like to avoid trouble in their marriage.

Examples of Negative Relationship of Husband & Wife

Many Muslim husbands and wives treat each other like adversaries rather than partners. The husband feels that he is the boss, and whatever he says goes. The wife feels that she must squeeze everything she can out of her husband. Some wives never show their husband that they are satisfied with anything he does or buys for them in order to trick him into doing and buying more. They make him feel like a failure if he does not give them the lifestyle that their friends and families enjoy. Some husbands speak very harshly to their wives, humiliate them, and even physically abuse them. Their wives have no voice or opinion in the family.

Marriage In The Eyes of Allah

It is very sad that this relationship which Allah (SWT) has established for the good has been made a source of contention, deception, trickery, tyranny, humiliation, and abuse. This is not the way marriage is supposed to be.

Allah (SWT) described marriage very differently in the Holy Quran: '. . . He created for you mates from among yourselves, that ye may dwell in tranquillity with them, and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts) . . . " (Holy Quran 30:21, Yusuf Ali Translation).

Golden rule 45: Do not be a Tyrant :rolleyes:

Regardless of whether or not Islam has made the husband the head of the household, Muslims are not supposed to be dictators and tyrants. We are taught to treat our wives well. The Prophet Muhammad (SAWS) was reported to have said: 'The most perfect Muslim in the matter of faith is one who has excellent behavior; and the best among you are those who behave best towards their wives" (From Mishkat al-Masabih, No. 0278(R) Transmitted by Tirmidhi).

Golden rule 46: Be Partners in the Decision Making Process. :up:

Follow the principle of 'Shura," and make decisions as a family. There will be much more harmony in the family when decisions are not imposed and everyone feels that they had some part in making them.

Golden rule 47: Never be emotionally, mentally, or physically abusive to your spouse. :nono:

The Prophet (SAWS) never mistreated his wives. He is reported to have said: 'How could they beat their women in daytime as slaves and then sleep with them in the night?"

Golden rule 48: Be Careful of Your Words :rolleyes:

Be very careful what you say when you are upset. Sometimes you will say things that you would never say when you were not angry. If you are angry, wait until you calm down before continuing the conversation.

Golden rule 49: Show Affection :there:

Show affection for your mate. Be kind, gentle, and loving.

Golden rule 50: Be Your Spouse's Friend :D

Show interest in your mate's life. Too often, we live in the same house but know nothing about each other's lives. It would be great if the husband and wife could work together for the same cause or on the same project. They could perhaps establish a husband/wife prison ministry, take care of orphans in their home, or lead an Islamic weekend class.

Golden rule 51: Show Appreciation :)

Show appreciation for what your spouse does for the family. Never make your husband feel that he is not doing good enough for the family or that you are not satisfied with his work or his efforts, unless, of course, he is truly lazy and not even trying to provide for the family. The Prophet (SAWS) was reported to have said: 'On the Day of Judgment, God will not look upon the woman who has been ungrateful to her husband." (where is this hadith found) Show your wife that you appreciate her. If she takes care of the house and the children, don't take it for granted. It is hard work, and no one likes to feel unappreciated.

Golden rule 52: Work Together in the House :torture:

The Prophet (SAWS) is known to have helped his wives in the house. And if the Prophet (SAWS) was not above doing housework, modern Muslim husbands shouldn't feel that they are.

Golden rule 53: Communication is Important

Communication, Communication, Communication! This is the big word in counseling. And it should be. Husbands and wives need to talk to each other. It is better to deal with problems early and honestly than to let them pile up until an explosion occurs.

Golden rule 54: Forget Past Problems

Don't bring up past problems once they have been solved.

Golden rule 55: Live Simply

Don't be jealous of those who seem to be living a more luxurious life than your family. The 'rizq" is from Allah (SWT). In order to develop the quality of contentment, look at those people who have less than you, not those who have more. Thank Allah (SWT) for the many blessings in your life.

Golden rule 56: Give Your Spouse Time Alone

If your mate doesn't want to be with you all the time, it doesn't mean he or she doesn't love you. People need to be alone for various reasons. Sometimes they want to read, to think about their problems, or just to relax. Don't make them feel that they are committing a sin.

Golden rule 57: Admit Your Mistakes

When you make a mistake, admit it. When your mate makes a mistake, excuse him or her easily. If possible, never go to sleep angry with each other.

Golden rule 58: Physical Relationship is Important

Be available to your mate sexually, and don't let your sexual relationship be characterized by selfishness. The Prophet (SAWS) was reported to have said: 'It is not appropriate that you fall upon your wives like a beast but you must send a message of love beforehand."

Golden rule 59: Have Meals Together

Try to eat together as a family when possible. Show the cook and the dishwasher, whether it is the husband or the wife, appreciation for his or her efforts. The Prophet (SAWS) did not complain about food that was put before him.

Golden rule 60: Be Mindful of Your discussion Topics

Never discuss with others things about your marriage that your spouse wouldn't like you to discuss, unless there is an Islamic reason to do so. Some husbands and wives, believe it or not, complain to others about their mate's physical appearance. This is a recipe for disaster. Information about your intimate relations should be kept between you and your spouse.

Many of us treat our spouses in ways that we would never treat others. With others, we try to be polite, kind, and patient. With our spouses, we often do not show these courtesies. Of course, we are usually with our spouses at our worst times --- when we are tired and frustrated after a hard day. After a bad day at the office, husbands usually come home angry and on edge. The wife has probably also had a hard day with the children and the housework. Wives and husbands should discuss this potential time bomb so that if they are short-tempered with each other during these times, they will understand the reasons rather than automatically thinking that their spouse no longer loves them.

Good marriages require patience, kindness, humility, sacrifice, empathy, love, understanding, forgiveness, and hard work. Following these principles should help any marriage to improve. The essence of them all can be summed up in one sentence: Always treat your spouse the way you would like to be treated. If you follow this rule, your marriage will have a much greater chance for success. If you discard this rule, failure is just around the corner.

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MashAllah i think that was a very good post !
JazakAllah!

[Buthaynah]

MashAllah i think that was a very good post !
JazakAllah!

I agree , she made some excellent points, MashAllah!

[`asiya]

golden rule number 61 always remember rules 45- 60 :up:

[Tahiyah]

The Ultimate Golden Rule

(after having children) get a really good babysitter that you trust and can depend on.

on occasion call up the babysitter and surprise your spouse with some alone time, an evening out, a walk on the beach, dinner, picnic..any kind of time just for yourselves...:inlove:

this is a very important rule and you must remember to do this until the kids are old enough to watch themselves..;)

[K@M]

Golden Rule 62: There will always be bumps in the marriage, you just gotta make sure you two work together to iron out those bumps.

:D

[muslim_sis]

Golden Rule 62: There will always be bumps in the marriage, you just gotta make sure you two work together to iron out those bumps.

:D

golden rule 63: Remember ur partner is a human being and has feelings too. Speak about ur feelings and support one another !

[cl@rity]

Golden rule 64: Let him know ur waiting for him all the time.

[Kubs]

Golden rule 65: If you must criticize, do it lovingly.

[umm_huraiyrah]

Golden rule of marriage No.13: dont tell others about ur marital problems or ever complain about ur spouse


Well I complain to Dale but in a healthy way. How's he gonna know that I'm unhappy if I don't complain? Thats part of the cummunicatioin. Like for example I complained to dale, we never go out anymore. Solution talk it out he's realizen he's slackin in one department and fixes it. I see nothing wrong with complaining. As long as your both mature enough to talk it out and fix the problem being complained about. To me 99% of the marriage is open communication. I can tell dale anything I wanted and know I can trust him to talk it out.

Habiba

[muslim_sis]

golden rule 66 : Always remind one another of allah in hardship {and at ease thank allah aswell of course} !

[Abu Mus'ab]

Well I complain to Dale but in a healthy way. How's he gonna know that I'm unhappy if I don't complain? Thats part of the cummunicatioin. Like for example I complained to dale, we never go out anymore. Solution talk it out he's realizen he's slackin in one department and fixes it. I see nothing wrong with complaining. As long as your both mature enough to talk it out and fix the problem being complained about. To me 99% of the marriage is open communication. I can tell dale anything I wanted and know I can trust him to talk it out.

Habiba
She said don't complain about him to someone else, not don't complain to him.

[Masumah]

Golden rule 67: show them u care :love:

[bint]

Loyalty,Trust..

[Abu Muslim]

Golden rule 68: Find out what they like or their favourite thing and take advantage by always providing this thing or talking about it or whatever.

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